Nothing Left to Say
Today’s entry is courtesy of one of our wonderful, fabulous readers. I hope she doesn’t mind that I took her topic idea almost in it’s entirety! Check out what “Foots” had to say:
The things that made me love you are the things pushing me away now. – Nothing Left to Say (Mint Condition)
I believe that many desirable and undesirable qualities are flip sides of the same coin. In their song, they speak of wonderful attentiveness becoming crazy possessiveness. In my past, I dated a guy who I admired that he was such a good friend and concerned family member and that he kept in touch with his friends/family often. But part of the reason we broke up was that we never had any time together because he was ALWAYS on the phone taking on other people’s problems.
Here are some others that I have read or seen before:
- A friend of mine dated a woman and was impressed by her warmth and caring as a mother. He broke it off because she spent all her time with her kids.
- A dude dates a woman because she is so well put together and keeps her appearance up, but eventually he breaks it off because she spends too much time getting all dolled up.
- A woman is impressed by how far up the corporate ladder her new man has gotten at his young age, but she finds out that it’s because he puts in so much time at the office and never has any time for her.
- A person loves their new mate’s commitment to their faith, but gets frustrated and leaves because they won’t give up the lovin’.
- Most men love soft, feminine women, but dislike the fact that she shows all of theses emotions. But what else would they expect from a soft, feminine woman?
- Some women prefer the strong, silent type…until they realize that the man never actually talks to them or expresses his feelings.
- Some men love women who are organized with their life and finances, but they hate that I’m a “planner” type. I’m trying to figure out how they think I could be so organized without my planner instinct.
So, now, not only do we have to deal with good and bad totally separate qualities that a mate may have (i.e. person may be responsible/dependable, but not terribly romantic), we also have to accept that qualities we love tend to always come with a flip side of the very thing that irritates us the most.
I can really relate to this, on both “sides of the coin”. What drew me to a guy, was the very reason we ended up hitting the skids: confidence. Oh, confidence is cute in the beginning, but after a while it can be a bit too much.
What do you guys think? Have you experienced this in your relationships?
Is this an example of “careful what you wish for?” or are we a little clueless about relationships are about?
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342 comments Add your comment
Raqi...32 Days to ML
May 18th, 2009
2:29 pm
looking stern
Cemeeli that is her look.
Deacon Demi
May 18th, 2009
2:29 pm
Raqi..you maybe right…Imma see if I can find some swim suit photos of Jada online…If I see a rib, Demi will be p!ss!!!
Poppa Grande
May 18th, 2009
2:33 pm
SexyCool
Not taking anything from Jada or her talent, am I the only one that sees this show as a bootleg attempt to copy Shonda and Grey’s?
C’mon SexyCool, of course.
There are very few original ideas in two areas. (1) Automaking and (2) Entertainment
For Example: Friends is just the Caucasian version of Livin’ Single. (A group of men living near A group of girls. One of the girls marry one of the guys, yada, yada, yada)
Foots
May 18th, 2009
2:34 pm
YAY!! My topic made the cut! But yeah, it would be on a day when our network wouldn’t let me access the blog until now…
kimmie
May 18th, 2009
2:35 pm
SCool – Thank you for your 2:28! I have pointed out to Melo a few times where a man has practically said the same thing & it’s okay, but let it be one of us ladies and he feels the need to scold!
I’m down for my sisters and all that they do, but that does not mean I can’t offer constructive criticism, just like I would about anyone else.
Cemeeli
May 18th, 2009
2:35 pm
Raqi – hmmm maybe someone should give her pink hair-barrettes back.
Raqi...32 Days to ML
May 18th, 2009
2:36 pm
Friends is hilarious.
DJ Sniper
May 18th, 2009
2:37 pm
I’m kinda interested in Hawthorne myself. I think I’ll give it a shot, especially since all my other shows(Fringe, Supernatural, Terminator) have all ended. I do still have Rescue Me to keep me entertained during the week.
Poppa Grande
May 18th, 2009
2:37 pm
Jada has always been tiny even when she was on A Different World.
Cemeeli
May 18th, 2009
2:38 pm
emphatically invite you to go to H#ll.
Melo – See, there is a place for Toto!
Leee folk alone.
Sassy Me....Mmm, mmm, good :-)
May 18th, 2009
2:40 pm
There’s a lot of dawgs out there ready to bite and run back to the pound when their deed is done. Recognize upfront and keep it moving. If a sexuaul relationship is not what you want don’t sweat it. You will go crazy.
Leggs It’s not sexual b/c I’ve had kept one on the side for the wood before…what I don’t like is the b/s some try to push and the smoke they blow up my azz thinking I’ll be impressed with the mediocre frivolities that they seem so focused on. My name is not Lisa Lunchmeat and I don’t like when I get approached with some obviously suspect game. I don’t like having my time wasted and in turn I don’t waste anyone else’s…..
Melo
May 18th, 2009
2:44 pm
Enter your comments here
i'm swiss
May 18th, 2009
2:47 pm
Howdy, folks. I’m way late & don’t have time to catch up, however…
I promised to post this a while back & I’ve finally got my home server back online after the move to Swiss Miss’s place, so here’s a link to my bootleg recording of Prince live @ Phillips Arena from a few years back:
http://karaokebus.tzo.com/files/Concert%20Bootlegs/Prince/
You’ll be prompted to login — just use:
Username: superfreak
Password: jenny8675309
Actually, if you navigate around the parent directories, there’s a crap-load of other stuff up there as well. Not sure how much of it will be of interest to anyone (I am a white boy, remember), but knock yourselves out…
Hope everyone’s having a great day…
Sassy Me....Mmm, mmm, good :-)
May 18th, 2009
2:48 pm
Did Sassy just call someone an Oompa Loompah?
I did Ared ….it was like a reflex or something
Melo
May 18th, 2009
2:48 pm
Enter your comments here
Leee folk alone
Cee, i will!
SexxyL really went nyucular there(As George Bish wld say,for nuclear)
I-85
May 18th, 2009
2:48 pm
At first I liked my gf when she drank and was outgoing but now I am about to leave her cos she kinda alcoholic. But sex is gr8 when she is drunk. Deep down I know I can’t live with her with the way things are. Please help I am torn
Demi
May 18th, 2009
2:49 pm
Terminator…I really enjoyed that show…for now…Smallville is okay, for now.
For those who can view youtube on cell phones…check out Joshua and katee hip hop routine to “no air”…they ended the song beautifully.
Poppa Grande
May 18th, 2009
2:49 pm
As far as Hawthorne goes, It made me think to Diahann Carroll’s show Julia in that they are both nurses.
Demi
May 18th, 2009
2:50 pm
I thought I was crazy…I-85, stop picking up woman from “Pink Pony”.
SexyCool
May 18th, 2009
2:51 pm
LOL, Melo – you know how I feel about all that ‘you female’ generalization stuff that YOU MEN tend to do. LOL!!!
It can get me steamed!!! Obviously…
Poppa Grande
May 18th, 2009
2:52 pm
Smallville still comes on?
I used to watch it but after a while it seemed to be too much Dawson’s Creek-like and less Superman.
I lost interest.
Raqi...32 Days to ML
May 18th, 2009
2:55 pm
LOL Poppa I hate all of those hyper teenage shows. 90210, Dawson Creek, Smallville, Gossip Girls, and all of the rest of them. Anything that has teenagers acting way older than the ought.
LIONESS- Busy Bumblebee today
May 18th, 2009
2:55 pm
85- You might be the one that has the drinking problem typing that BS
I-85
May 18th, 2009
2:55 pm
@ Demi – I am not crazy but thats the real truth. It’s just hard to make some1 your wife who’s way too outgoing than me. I go out but she is off the chain. Every Friday and Sat and sometimes midweek she is out.
Kym-24- 2 hours -tonight? I'm there
May 18th, 2009
2:56 pm
Are we talking tv now? Go get’em Jack Bauer!!! July is coming..and so comes Saving Grace, Leverage, ohh yeah and my boy is back in June..BURN NOTICE!!
Now back to your regularly schedule blog already in progress.
Willie Dynamite
May 18th, 2009
2:58 pm
I-85
Not taking a shot at ya but was she like that when you met her???
-W8©
May 18th, 2009
2:58 pm
Football season please get here soon
@Demi- Homey is not doing it right..lol
Sassy Me....Mmm, mmm, good :-)
May 18th, 2009
2:59 pm
I-85, stop picking up woman from “Pink Pony”.
I’ve never been but would I seem weird if I said I wanna go?
At first I liked my gf when she drank and was outgoing but now I am about to leave her cos she kinda alcoholic. But sex is gr8 when she is drunk. Deep down I know I can’t live with her with the way things are. Please help I am torn
On the real Demi if your gf means alot to you thenI would at first calmly, share with her how you feel and suggest some changes that you BOTH agree on. Don’t attack or seem argumentative as that will cause her to retreat. If things don’t change then you may have to make some other decisions,some of which she may not like. You have to be responsible for YOUR own happiness.
I-85
May 18th, 2009
3:00 pm
@Dynamite – Yes I knew she was like that but I thought we were jus kicking it. But I wudn’t want some1 like that for a wife. It’s double standards on my part but I am being honest to myself.
Cemeeli
May 18th, 2009
3:00 pm
I liked my gf when she drank and was outgoing but now I am about to leave her cos she kinda alcoholic
I-85 see you kinda got the idea. But auh, did she try to microwave a cat or something when you realized she was a lush?
Raqi...32 Days to ML
May 18th, 2009
3:01 pm
LOL 85 what are you saying, party girls aren’t so fun after the party? Or when they “Party all the time”?
Hell who told Eddie Murphy he could sing? They lied big time. LOL
Poppa Grande
May 18th, 2009
3:01 pm
Kym
I’m with you on Burn Notice.
You can have Jack Bauer, Leverage, The Closer (that is a horrible Atlanta accent), Raising the Bar, & CSI – Stockbridge, etc.
LIONESS- Busy Bumblebee today
May 18th, 2009
3:02 pm
Demi IS 85? WOW!
Roller3
May 18th, 2009
3:03 pm
Deacon Demi (2:25 pm)
didn’t even need the Holy ghost excuse cuz he would beat anybody over the head with the bible any time, being so much better than the rest of the sinners and all, then come home a raise hell. Really.
-W8©
May 18th, 2009
3:03 pm
@Lioness- Be nice
@Kym- I love “24″
@Kimmie- GO Dawgs!!
@Pg- wassup man
@I-85- Is this something new or was she like that when you met her? At any point sit her down talk to her and hey sometimes things dont work out…but it is “mating season” in Atlanta when it starts to get warm out people get antsy and relationships end for some
LIONESS- It is Freezing in my Office!
May 18th, 2009
3:03 pm
24 comes on @ 8pm tonight?
Raqi...32 Days to ML
May 18th, 2009
3:05 pm
Jack Bauer??? When does that guy ever sleep???
Willie Dynamite
May 18th, 2009
3:05 pm
85-have you had this talk with her?
Mo (aka Moeisha- in such a Funk)
May 18th, 2009
3:05 pm
Cemeeli – girl I cant lug around the high chair but I keeps a booster seat so we are good!!
Demi – dont folks know that in the job of Cut Buddy-ist there is no room for advancement?! You cant be promoted from CB to main squeeze…folk trying to mess thangs up…
Ok so whats the topic again?? And why cant I shake this funk of a mood Im in???
-W8©
May 18th, 2009
3:06 pm
@I-85:”Yes I knew she was like that but I thought we were jus kicking it. But I wudn’t want some1 like that for a wife. It’s double standards on my part but I am being honest to myself.”
Sounds like you caught feelings bro and she is just handling business as usual..
Poppa Grande
May 18th, 2009
3:07 pm
Further proof that entertainment has lost originality….There was a Knight Rider show last year, A-Team movie is in the works and is set to be released in 2010. Miami Vice was a movie nearly 20 years after the show was on TV. (The movie “Sparkle” was on BET yesterday. Philip Michael Thomas is one old dude. Irene Cara ain’t no spring Chicken)
The movie “Fame” comes out later this year. (Debbie Allen is head of the school. But there who will replace Leroy?)
It goes on and on.
Staceye AKA Black Mamba
May 18th, 2009
3:08 pm
SWISS…”Username: superfreak Password: jenny8675309″
You are a hot mess! A Rick James song for your User and an 80’s throwback for the password?
Leggs
May 18th, 2009
3:08 pm
Smallville’s a good show!
@I-85, your case is right on this topic. You liked it at first, but now you don’t. Have you guys discussed her drinking? Are you making snide remarks to her about it (which won’t work) or are you buying her liquor/wine/coolers??
LIONESS- It is Freezing in my Office!
May 18th, 2009
3:08 pm
We all know you can’t tell anyone that consumes WAY TOO MUCH alcohol that they are an alcoholic.. Waste of time..
-W8©
May 18th, 2009
3:09 pm
@Lioness- it comes on tonight the Finale I think..times to not call W8, during weekends with my daughter, If the Bulldawgs or Falcons are playing or if 24 is on..lmao
@Raqi- Nope the whole season takes place in one 24 hour day
@Mo- Make it plain for him please..lol
I-85
May 18th, 2009
3:10 pm
Raqi – It goes with today’s topic, at first it was nice and dendi but now to get serious, ohhh NO.
W-8 – I know what she is gonna say ” You met me like this and you knew this is what I am like.” She already has her defense ready. The problem is I like her BUT Minus the alcohol/outgoing
Lioness – Yep I know I went too far now and it’s all my fault thus why I am trying to correct that.
LIONESS- It is Freezing in my Office!
May 18th, 2009
3:10 pm
Leggs- LOL!!!
Poppa Grande
May 18th, 2009
3:10 pm
W8
@Pg- wassup man
Nuthin’ but the price of gas. But I’m sure that you already knew that. I live downtown and only fill up about once every two weeks. I just really noticed it this morning when I got gas.
-W8©
May 18th, 2009
3:11 pm
@Staceye I thought I was the only one who caught the 867530 niiinnnnnnneeeeeeeeee
AmazonRed™ - Lakers rocked L.A. - LITERALLY!
May 18th, 2009
3:12 pm
Regarding Hawthorne
One of my friends is in programming for Turner. He really wants folks to support the show. The network execs are nervous…they have never greenlit a show with a black female as the lead. If the show flops they won’t be very receptive to creating such shows in the future.
They’ve seen the success of House of Payne and Meet the Browns on TBS, which let them know that such shows can work. However, TNT is thinking this may be a one and done if no one supports.