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City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
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That’s not my name

Today’s post is courtesy of “Brian”, a 29 year old man from Smyrna. Brian wanted to offer his perspective  after a recent experience he had with a young lady he was seeing:

I have been going out with someone for a couple of months. A couple of weeks ago, when we were in the heat of the moment, she said someone else’s name. I think it was her ex-boyfriend or something. I didn’t say anything about it at the time but it is making me question if they are still seeing each other. Even if they are not in contact, he is obviously in her thoughts. It was probably an honest mistake but it has never happened to me before.

Wow, Brian, that’s quite the conundrum! I can’t say that has happened to me before. I don’t think it has, anyway. Ladies, have you ever made this mistake? Did you own up to it or ignore it? Do you think Brian should bring it up even though it didn’t just happen? What would you do if you were with a guy and he called you another name by mistake?

Guys, how would you handle it? Have you ever used the wrong name with someone you were seeing? What happened? Did the lady completely flip out about it?

Do you think it means anything when someone you are seeing brings up the name of their last significant other/partner? How many mentions are too many? Are you more understanding if the person was with their ex for a long time?

Happy Thursday

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Poppa Grande

May 14th, 2009
3:44 pm

Barbado

I have never been to Barbados. My wife’s great grandpa is from there. I always tell to set up a family reunion down there.

On the other note, I know quite a few people that went and had bad experiences for some reason. A couple of them got robbed down there by their taxi drivers (which happens alot in Mexico City too) and a couple others had weather related issue.

Professor

May 14th, 2009
3:44 pm

I joined FB about a month ago and I reconnected with some old friends from HS, which was great. However I feel bad about hitting that ignore button on others. For some reason I am over the FB and rarely check in. I see a lot of people leaving messages all day long chronicling their daily moves…I guess I don’t have time for that…

@Melo- I agree with the statement about meeting new friends/acquaintances now. I have found most of them trying to use me or they are pretentious and come to find out they do not have a pot to piss in. Usually I work a lot so the little time that I do have I do not want to be doing “favors” for so called “friends.”

Raqi

May 14th, 2009
3:45 pm

to check this fool out

Jamoca one Saturday I was hanging out at my friends Deni’s place and she got the notion to look on the Georgia Dept of Correction site to see if any of her old boyfriends were on there. We started plugging in names of people from high to see who had been and is still in prison.

mytw♥cents

May 14th, 2009
3:45 pm

LIONESS You may be slightly more delicate than even I. Didn’t have an issue with bugs, but pls bring your fly shades cuz that sun will beam on ya. It’s an Outdoor Amphitheater and unless you opt for lawn you’d be in the concrete slab seating. LOL Wait this description isn’t gonna lure you over there, is it?

CEE And I think that flava is called…Jungle Juice! Cuz you’re on some hot jungle-ness (that’s for Zulu) with that look. Lawd, please FEDEX us the anecdote!

Okay, why are they playing Akinyele on XM?!?!

Poppa Grande

May 14th, 2009
3:47 pm

Cee

He went to UGA. I know many folks that went to Orange Crush that weren’t Tigers. It is kinda like knowing people that went to Freaknik that weren’t in school at all.

AmazonRed™

May 14th, 2009
3:47 pm

I see a lot of people leaving messages all day long chronicling their daily moves…I guess I don’t have time for that…

Too busy on here blogging? :lol:

It takes but a second to say “AmazonRed is wasting time on the innanet” :lol:

I usually update my status a couple times a day. I do have friends who do it every hour it seems.

kimmie

May 14th, 2009
3:47 pm

I don’t do Facebook, My Space, etc either. Just have no desire.

Sister Cee – I just wrote a post about a funny CLASS memory I had at UGA, but it got eaten! But yes, most memories from college center around parties & such! I guess those are the most fun memories. Party school reputation aside, UGA is no joke academically, as I’m sure W8 can attest. Some memories are indeed better to be left in the past!LOL!!

Jamoca

May 14th, 2009
3:47 pm

Melo – I do remember reading about a few scandals, but his comment Re: Aids/Rape were truly ignorant. He does look kinda sleezy, as if he’s made some underhanded moves tho. But the people overall, looked pretty happy…may be he’s vindicated himself to some of your fellow brethren perhaps?

Tatas – yeah chica, I’ve been a full fledge vegan for quite sometime now!…though there has been a plethora of meats danglin’ above…even white meat!…something’s goin’ on here. Lol

-W8 (toga!!)

May 14th, 2009
3:48 pm

@Ce- Nope Im a dawg, but I had plenty of friends there during that time frame. Most of them were from Valdosta, Georgia

@Ared, my mom is on facebook, I dont know what to think about that..lol

@PG I remember coming home and Coach Goff was in my living room, I almost lost it. USC is a good school, much respect to the SEC unless it’s football season..lol

Leggs

May 14th, 2009
3:50 pm

I was told I needed to join Facebook. Don’t know why I joined cuz I rarely get on line once home. When I do, I have to pry it out of lil leggs’ hands! I’ve posted one pic and haven’t been back.

Too funny, Lioness! Let know how that works out. Also, let me know how many try to enter your net! Leave it alone, Melo!!!!

mytw♥cents

May 14th, 2009
3:51 pm

LIONESS Take it and they’ll promptly relieve you of it. Please don’t be the one up front causing the commotion that makes me miss the first few minutes of the show!

Poppa Grande

May 14th, 2009
3:51 pm

You just have to be careful when traveling.

We complain about this country, but when you visit another place you realize how good we really have it compared to most people in the world.

In some cases, they think we have money that we don’t need.

The sad side of the cruises is seeing the children that panhandle at the ports or willing to dance or something for some change.

LIONESS- Getting My hair Done

May 14th, 2009
3:51 pm

PG- I LOVE Barbados! Martinique(sp?) is a beautiful island as well :)

My Two- Concrete slab? Lawn? WOW! Bugs GALORE :(

Who really gives a d*mn what people are up to? That facebook stuff is Whateverish..

Melo

May 14th, 2009
3:51 pm

Yes Raqi……one cpple is in England tho.
When we visit,we sit on the kitchen table till wee hrs of mrning and our stories are all from 27 sme yrs back….just reminisce about all the pple and sme dead..its fun.
Actually, im currently rehabing a knee injury I incurred sme 35 yrs back whilst at soccer.Its older than most folks in this camp!
Those girls at the gym(GA tech area) are messing with my thighs and leggs very dangerously,i pity them. :grin:

Is Cafe Dupri still in bizzness???(maybe Poppa knows this)

kimmie

May 14th, 2009
3:51 pm

Cee- Just had 2 posts get eaten about a funny CLASS memory! But yeah, most of the funny stories from college center around the parties!

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 14th, 2009
3:53 pm

I don’t get how ANYONE has time to be on Facebook, Twitter, Myspace or any other stalker type website..

Multi-tasking and moderation, Lioness – plus you can choose who gets to see your updates via ignore and block.

Twitter and Facebook have helped me endure many-a-line, traffic jam, waiting period.

Cemeeli

May 14th, 2009
3:54 pm

Tazzee You are a great friend to stay connected with. Facebook is my friends and family’s thing to do. I just don’t.

I was captian of the Dance Team and some of my folks from school were some hard core party-ers so i just keep my distance (from some). I was never out hanging with that paticular crowd. Facebook-ing would be easy b/c my name is unique and i was called by it my entire highschool life. So a search would be easy.

LIONESS- Getting My hair Done

May 14th, 2009
3:55 pm

Taz- I am aware of that BUT all the info & pics etc are still being put on the web and therefore anyone could get a hold of it..

Cemeeli

May 14th, 2009
3:56 pm

W8 – BOO, booo, booo boo….BULLDOG?!? Don’t come in my den of Tigers eva again.

just kiddin’

Cee now giving kimmie a quick sisterly hug. Martial arts is a trained sport, and i ain’t the one!

Leggs

May 14th, 2009
3:56 pm

@mytwo, I was just about to tell her about the concrete section. Tks. Still laughing at visualizing the net in that section!

@Professor, I’m with you on the Facebook thingy (I always tell my daughter not to call anything “thingy”)~ Oh well!

Poppa Grande

May 14th, 2009
3:58 pm

Melo

Is Cafe Dupri still in bizzness???

In his typcial JD fashion, he closed it…

http://sandrarose.com/2008/08/18/jds-cafe-dupri-closes-leaving-staff-without-paychecks/

MissQC aka BIRTHDAY QUEEN

May 14th, 2009
3:58 pm

THANKS FOR ALL MY “BIRTHDAY SHOUT-OUTS” HAVE A GREAT EVENING ALL AND DO ENJOY YOUR WEEKEND :)

http://www.blackthen.com

Raqi

May 14th, 2009
3:59 pm

Tazzee have you been to any of the Bridgetown beaches?

Poppa I imagine that would get to me seeing kids begging like that. The one voyage that does end in Bridgetown is more in line with the dates that we want. We are still looking at other cruise lines though hoping to find something we like and can get good feed back on within the dates we prefer to travel.

Cemeeli

May 14th, 2009
4:00 pm

“I know many folks that went to Orange Crush that weren’t Tigers. It is kinda like knowing people that went to Freaknik that weren’t in school at all.”

PoppaG I’m protective of the Tiger’s DEN, son!<—there you go Staceye. :lol:

Orange Crush was Freaknik on a beach. But trust, the cops were always on there marks.

We had ppl from Jamaica to Cenada in ole geechee Savannah during my time there.

Raqi

May 14th, 2009
4:01 pm

LOL Melo 35 years??? How old are you?

Leggs

May 14th, 2009
4:01 pm

@Melo, was that a typo? You sit “on” the kitchen table or “at” the kitchen table. Not sure if this is a custom of yours????

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 14th, 2009
4:02 pm

Lioness – I get it, it’s not your cup of tea….

There is nothing I post on facebook that I wouldn’t care if my elders, boss or anyone else saw. So with the exception of someone taking my picture and cropping onto some nude body – it’s all good for me. Shoot your DL picture is maintained on a computer with all your info.

Leggs – I don’t too much get on the computer when at home either. Most of my facebook/twitter activity is from my phone.

Leggs

May 14th, 2009
4:04 pm

Facebook/twitter from a phone…wow! Since my cell phone is so old, I’m lucky to still be able to make and receive calls!

Melo

May 14th, 2009
4:05 pm

at Leggs….goodness,cut a zulu sme slack mamankazana(sister)..Arent u glad at least this zulu is saying smething,the rest u do ur own tranx.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 14th, 2009
4:05 pm

Cemeeli – see, that’s one of the benefits of having a very common name, most folks find me through mutual friends’ pages. Yeah, everyone would find you on there.

Raqi,
Nope – Barbados is on my list. Imma start going places by myself because my travel partner prioritizes house renovations over traveling. I will break the bank to travel.

mytw♥cents

May 14th, 2009
4:06 pm

RAQI The sand is really pretty & soft if I recall. I think that was Bridgetown we stopped in. The Malibu Rum plant was connected to the beach we went to.

Jamoca

May 14th, 2009
4:06 pm

W8 – LOL…Naw, man….do you think I’d be on here right now. Hmmmph, some folks (some estranged fam included) would not hesitate to call “dem boys” on me for a few pennies!…too many folks are hard up these days to pass up on the oppty to get a little change to be the “resident informant” LOL

Tatas – chick don’t say. a. thing. Lololol…I may have to move in a hurry, since Mr. Officer keeps propositioning me. If only he knew, I’oun trust his behind either! What in the heyal do I look like – the neighborhood watch???!!! Lol

Raqi – You know what? My cousin’s always finding childhood friends/acquaintances on there as well! I’m like: How do you keep finding these things out???…there was also one of this guy that I used to go to school with (elementary)…and he’s serving time in prison because his little siser found his gun and mistakenly shot herself in the face!…I remember that cute little girl he’d pick up after the bell rang….he was so protective of her, but he also had some issues as we

Leggs

May 14th, 2009
4:08 pm

I just wanted to make sure. I ask because I sit on all my kitchen counters when talking.

Melo

May 14th, 2009
4:08 pm

Raqi,Im am as old as abc is either black or white or :???:
Hw old do i look to u….???

LIONESS- Unhappy under the dryer

May 14th, 2009
4:08 pm

Leggs- LOL @ Melo sitting on the kitchen table as a custom.. Sitting indian style..HILARIOUS!

Raqi

May 14th, 2009
4:08 pm

Leggs are you not used to Melo way a speaking yet? Anyone reading here for the first time will assume everything Melo types is a typo. LOL I guess it’s his own personal blog style.

DJ Sniper

May 14th, 2009
4:09 pm

Neither of my parents do Myspace or Facebook, but my mother-in-law and my wife’s grandfather are on both sites. Gotta make sure I don’t accidently accept friend requests from them. LOL!!!

To whoever talked about their friend looking for old flames on the GA Dept of Corrections website: I’m from Arkansas and one day I went on the ADC website looking to see if there was anybody I grew up with on there. It was like a class reunion up in that joint. lol and smh at the same time.

Jamoca

May 14th, 2009
4:09 pm

meant as well…

LIONESS- Unhappy under the dryer

May 14th, 2009
4:10 pm

WOW @ people looking for old flames on prison websites..

Raqi

May 14th, 2009
4:11 pm

Thanks for info TwoLincolns.

Jamoca I only found like two people that I know on there, but she did find one guy that she liked in high school. In was in for man slaughter.

Raqi

May 14th, 2009
4:12 pm

Melo you must be between 52 and 55.

Professor

May 14th, 2009
4:13 pm

@Ared you got me…LOL I am too busy in here blogging. The funny thing is I have been in here reading for months…but I just started leaving comments.

For some reason anytime I get stressed or need a break at work I “dip” in the conversation.

I really need to get off this blog and make my Memorial Day plans…

-W8 (toga!!)

May 14th, 2009
4:13 pm

at home..change into cargo shorts..blogging on the ajc…contemplating what I am going to cook for dinner..(oops i thought I was changing my status on facebook)

Cemeeli

May 14th, 2009
4:14 pm

you’re on some hot jungle-ness with that look. Lawd, please FEDEX us the anecdote!

This did not go unnoticed! I’ma chill for now.

sign

~ The Jungle Chic

NOT mytw♥tatas

May 14th, 2009
4:14 pm

JAMOCA Weee do weedo weeeeeeee do weeeeeeeeee Like a cop car.

Speaking of Wayne, I’m uncomfortable with his mention of Miley Cyrus in the new song.

Be careful out there y’all.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 14th, 2009
4:15 pm

ARED…My mami is on Facebook…amd she friended me. Come to think of it..so is my dad. He’s my friend too! Wow…hell is having a snow day! :lol:

CEMEELI…you got jokes! :lol:

Raqi

May 14th, 2009
4:15 pm

make my Memorial Day plans

Professor my plans are to do nothing. And if I choose to do something it will be a someone else’s house.

AmazonRed™

May 14th, 2009
4:15 pm

The funny thing is I have been in here reading for months…but I just started leaving comments.

Professor, that’s how I got into it too. I lurked for quite awhile. That’s why I’m aware that there are so many more people reading and paying attention to what we say then the ones who post.

So when the lurkers go off, I know they’ve usually been around for a while. :lol:

Leggs

May 14th, 2009
4:16 pm

@Raqi, you know what, you’re absolutely right. But the side of me that didn’t want to assume/know it was a typo got the best of me and made me ask. Also, he’s no where near 52 and 55? That was funny.

Melo

May 14th, 2009
4:16 pm

Melo you must be between 52 and 55

u off by about a shilling.
(if u wanna..neva mind)