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That’s not my name

Today’s post is courtesy of “Brian”, a 29 year old man from Smyrna. Brian wanted to offer his perspective  after a recent experience he had with a young lady he was seeing:

I have been going out with someone for a couple of months. A couple of weeks ago, when we were in the heat of the moment, she said someone else’s name. I think it was her ex-boyfriend or something. I didn’t say anything about it at the time but it is making me question if they are still seeing each other. Even if they are not in contact, he is obviously in her thoughts. It was probably an honest mistake but it has never happened to me before.

Wow, Brian, that’s quite the conundrum! I can’t say that has happened to me before. I don’t think it has, anyway. Ladies, have you ever made this mistake? Did you own up to it or ignore it? Do you think Brian should bring it up even though it didn’t just happen? What would you do if you were with a guy and he called you another name by mistake?

Guys, how would you handle it? Have you ever used the wrong name with someone you were seeing? What happened? Did the lady completely flip out about it?

Do you think it means anything when someone you are seeing brings up the name of their last significant other/partner? How many mentions are too many? Are you more understanding if the person was with their ex for a long time?

Happy Thursday

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AmazonRed™

May 14th, 2009
12:10 pm

AR probably mentioned me because I am 6′8″ and my wife is 5′2″.

Yes, you defected from the family. :lol:

I just mentioned you cuz you couldn’t really say tall women are better than short women when a short woman won your heart!

Poppa Grande

May 14th, 2009
12:11 pm

Raqi

Seriously, we do talk about it. Usually we talk it during the week between Christmas and New Years as we review our goals that we set in January and what we did to achieve them as well as what we want for the upcoming year.

As I’ve posted many times, when she gets on that “I want a baby, kick” , all it takes is one afternoon of babysitting our nieces (1 – 6 years old and 19 months old twins) and the baby desires seem to leave. It seems that we babysit most during that week.

My brother in law knows that he has babysitters that week. He usually plans to take his wife away from the kids. She is a stay at home mom and needs a break from Big Bird, Burt, and Ernie and needs to enjoy grown folk conversation.

Mo (aka Moeisha- looking for a new haircut)

May 14th, 2009
12:13 pm

SexyCool – I went to the last Old School Saturday and I swear it had to be a convention for men in that camp!! Now Im 5′0 so I like tall men (naturally…..me and another 5 footah would look like 2 5th graders). I said before only one of us can have feet swingin and I prefer it be me! But my sister and I couldnt believe all the short dudes in there!!

Mo (aka Moeisha- looking for a new haircut)

May 14th, 2009
12:18 pm

SexyCool – meant convention for SHORT men

-W8 (Devil's Advocate today)

May 14th, 2009
12:19 pm

A tall women in heels or a short one that is just jazzy..works everytime

SlimOne

May 14th, 2009
12:20 pm

I purposely have whispered out to myself another dudes name to help me ‘cross that threshold’ before because thoughts of him just did it for me. That way everybody is happy. :twisted:

Leggs

May 14th, 2009
12:23 pm

The cafeteria here is having a food tasting for all the new items on it’s catering menu and lil ole me was invited. The food was so delicious from lobster to shrimp to rosotto (sp?, salmon, beef tenderloin, veggies, desserts (which I left alone), etc. I can put my lunch money back in my pocket.

@W8, if he had plucked me in the forehead w/anything but his finger I would have posted that to make the story even funnier. But, it was only his finger.

PoppaG, Happy Anniversary!

Cemeeli

May 14th, 2009
12:27 pm

Happy New baby…i meant, Anniversary PoppaG!

Poppa Grande

May 14th, 2009
12:27 pm

Thanks to all for the anniversary acknowledgments.

Cemeeli

May 14th, 2009
12:29 pm

@ The person that is here and able to even speak, after THINKING that they would punch his parent and didn’t come up of the floor not remembering what had happen.

:? Are you serious? I’m wondering why they allowed you to live?

Poppa Grande

May 14th, 2009
12:31 pm

Cee

Happy New baby…i meant, Anniversary PoppaG!

Ha, ha very….better go’sidine before Lil Cee’ starts asking for a sibling and yo’ Mister sides with him.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 14th, 2009
12:31 pm

W8…you go to NY…what you doing in my neck of the woods? I’m a Manhattan Chick….our as we natives say…Uptown. I was originally from 65th and Fifth…but now my family is further up.

Cemeeli

May 14th, 2009
12:35 pm

Poppas

Slim – You so darn :evil: ! Lol…your emotional coping mecahnisms. Cee’s rejecting!

Poppa Grande

May 14th, 2009
12:36 pm

Cee

Seriously, thanx for the sentiment.

You know that I’m kidding, right?

I never wish a baby on someone that doesn’t want one. There are too many unwanted kids in this world already.

On other news, I have no idea why Raqi came to my mind when I heard the Roots’ song “The Seed” this weekend…lol

Melo

May 14th, 2009
12:37 pm

just might try to make it to Chastain to see Jay-Z

U better off playing the CDs in ur car.Whats the fun in seeing grown men holding their croatches(sp),jumping up and down on the stage and rapping to pre-taped music?

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 14th, 2009
12:38 pm

Good afternoon everyone.

On topic: Thats weak. Any chick calling me anything but daddy or papi gets demoted to the bench. Wow, that really happens.

Kuwaiti Chronicles: Got my passport back today. I am an official resident of Kuwait.

Off topic but of great concern: Ared, as long as you wear my name you will never ask for some other cats pic. You know how I get in my fits of jealousy.

Raqi...37 Days to ML

May 14th, 2009
12:38 pm

LOL Poppa Yeah when the little birth control used to visit us more often Mason was the same way. But then the little BC moved up north permanently and we had a memory lapse and bam.

mytw♥cents

May 14th, 2009
12:39 pm

PG She wasn’t fooling ya with the practice runs, huh? See, knowing your tolerance of that and perhaps missing my former 6′8 (heavy sigh cuz it was a nice climb)- I’m gonna need for you to reconsider your stance on bigamy. She can have the clothes if I can have the accessoriessssssss

MO I was lookin’ for the show earlier on their site but couldn’t find it. Do you know how much for a table?

W8 Do you do events? Or are you just on everyone’s guest list? You mentioned some creative functions yesterday.

Cemeeli

May 14th, 2009
12:39 pm

PoppaG Ya’ll probably would have a starting line up for the team. A house full o kids, err’where! :)

-W8 (Monkey Beater!!)

May 14th, 2009
12:40 pm

@Staceye – I used to have a place on the Upper East side. 211 East 51st street. But work has me over in Western New York. We got who we were looking for so I should be back home in Atlanta by Monday and all of it’s wonderful weather..lol

mytw♥cents

May 14th, 2009
12:44 pm

MELO For some reason your sound effects amuse me though the far too graphic stuff does not. I think it’s cuz you seem like you’d be overwhelmed with pleasure at the first hint of a bare breast, it might send you over the deep end!

Cemeeli

May 14th, 2009
12:44 pm

Staceye – Even your posts read like a Yankee. :)

“you go to NY…what you doing in my neck of the woods? I’m a Manhattan Chick….our as we natives say…Uptown. I was originally from 65th and Fifth…

That ^^^ read like you would end it with, “Yeah’ son”! at the end.

-W8 (Monkey Beater!!)

May 14th, 2009
12:45 pm

@my2- Both but I usually dont go to “guest list” events, I would not my stuff events because I really don’t like being around random people so everyone you see at one of my functions is actually known or has a purpose for being there.

Cemeeli

May 14th, 2009
12:46 pm

Where as Cee woulda said – “Shawty, what cho’ name is?”

but not for real….:)

Mo (aka Moeisha- looking for a new haircut)

May 14th, 2009
12:46 pm

my.02 – You went to Chastain’s website? I got an email from ticketmaster. Also, Im crashing ya table cause I want to see Jay Z. Wouldnt mind seeing Anita Baker but I will be out of town when she comes

-W8 (Monkey Beater!!)

May 14th, 2009
12:47 pm

**Edit**@my2- Both but I usually dont go to “guest list” events, I would not call my stuff events because I really don’t like being around random people so everyone you see at one of my functions is actually known or has a purpose for being there.

Poppa Grande

May 14th, 2009
12:48 pm

Tatas

PG She wasn’t fooling ya with the practice runs, huh?

Let me answer that one in Spanish……No Way Jose!

As CEO, I do look at every statement and look at every copy of every canceled check…(thanks to da innanet, I can do that anywhere).

I’m gonna need for you to reconsider your stance on bigamy.

Sorry, it’s not personal though. I have even stated to my wife that I have no intentions to EVER, EVER, EVER, EVER, eva, eva, eva, eva, ….eva (said like Smokey from Friday “Janet Jackson”) get married again. Even if, through death, she parts first.

I gotta stand by my words…

M'

May 14th, 2009
12:49 pm

@ Sassy

I knows dat youse gots a gubment job…answer yo’ phone…lol

Mean while…backs in de jungle…y’all nuts…lol

Poppa Grande

May 14th, 2009
12:55 pm

Tata

Actually, she doesn’t really go that crazy on the sprees. She pretty domestic, too. So, she has gone to Hancock Fabrics in Buckhead, gotten fabric and made gowns.

Personally, I think its the NY” I gotta be different” in her. Chances are that if she makes it herself, there aren’t any dresses like hers.

She still buys the accessories, but being tiny, she gets a lot on clearance. There must not be many females that wear a size 5 shoe. Because that is where she really scores big.

Melo

May 14th, 2009
12:56 pm

think it’s cuz you seem like you’d be overwhelmed with pleasure at the first hint of a bare breast

my2, i do like a bare breastess but some bare buttocks when a lady is giving me her back,maybe in the process of taking off that panty and she has one leg up,uuugh,uuugh my2!!!,there right there will do it,all the time.
Thing is, iam just a slave in these matters.Any where u say i shld lick coz that tickles u the most….im there :grin: :twisted: Its a real riot when melo junior gets outta control.
Ever witnessed Truth’s dogs when ther’e incensed and the intruder is smewhere behind the fence and theyre trying to tear him/her off and Truth is restraining them???
Melo junior is same.Im like,wait son,the lady needs to heat some more and get slick a ‘lil.Hiz like NO foo!!!, i wanna go in dere… :lol:

Professor

May 14th, 2009
12:56 pm

@ Melo- Personally I like live music and with that said I go to all concerts from Bon Jovi to Lil Wayne…from Prince to Wynton Marsalis so I have no problem going to see Hova at Chastain.

@ Mo- I always catch Anita Baker and I just love those old love songs I guess I get caught in the “Rapture.” Earth, Wind and Fire is always good too.

Sassy Me....Mmm, mmm, good :-)

May 14th, 2009
12:57 pm

M Imma hit you back in a minute….they’s got me workin like a Hebrew slave and they not even much feedin’ me either :(

-W8 (Monkey Beater!!)

May 14th, 2009
12:59 pm

@Melo—lol…lol

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 14th, 2009
12:59 pm

W8….was that off of Park or Lex? What are…FEDS? :lol: So, wait… you’ve got cuffs and stuff? :wink: :lol:

CEMEELI…YANKEE all da way baby!

Raqi...37 Days to ML

May 14th, 2009
12:59 pm

Speaking of dumb or odd statement uttered while doing the deed…

Last night I was watching Jerry Seinfield and George was getting it on with his secretary. She put it on him so well he blurted out that she was getting a raise. Afterwards he not only regretted saying but he could not believe he said it. She got the raise and it was more than what George made.

Got me thinking of some stuff I have heard and said myself.

Anyone ever said something they later regretted. And no I will not accept the “I love you” because all you men folk are guilty of that lie.

Kym-waiting for the new season of Leverage

May 14th, 2009
12:59 pm

So where is the topic now? I kind of figured this one might die a fast death.

Mo (aka Moeisha- looking for a new haircut)

May 14th, 2009
1:01 pm

Professor – Im a lover of live music too! And I love Anita B! I have no problem with Hova at Chastain, just his opening act! LOL

mytw♥cents

May 14th, 2009
1:05 pm

MO Ahhh maybe I should open the inbox Ticketmaster goes to. Brilliant suggestion! And I’m good-people friendly so most are welcomed at my table…long as ya put in :)

STACE You mentioned chancletas earlier. Now we’re talkin Jay-Z. Do you remember the picture of him on the front page of the Post with his on??? Comedy…

W8 I see, I may have to steal a few ideas. But yeah, I’d prefer the intimate chill with cherished friends anytime. I’m so unimpressed with the other cuz folks don’t just relax and have fun.

kimmie

May 14th, 2009
1:07 pm

W8 – Good job with the Hugo Boss! I bet you look smashing! Do you wear cologne too? Nothing like a man that can dress AND smells good! My boo wears some nice cologne. It lingers a little after I hug him long after he’s gone. Uhmm nice!

I’m going to introduce my boo to Ozwald Boateng. I know he would look good wearing him.

Mo (aka Moeisha- looking for a new haircut)

May 14th, 2009
1:11 pm

my.02 – oh I pays my way!! LOL! I enjoy good music, good people…makes for a great time. Hence why I also love a good cookout! :smile:

SexyCool

May 14th, 2009
1:11 pm

Jennifer Holliday is going to be at Sambuca’s on May 31st.

I have to say that while I am not a fan of their menu, Sambuca’s has some pretty decent live performances.

Kym-waiting for the new season of Leverage

May 14th, 2009
1:17 pm

Who in the sam hill came up with the term Booed-Up what does that mean?

-W8 (Monkey Beater!!)

May 14th, 2009
1:19 pm

@my2- yeah the intimate chill is where it is,i tired of the big gatherings awhile ago.although i do step out every now and then..we can discuss some things:att_rr@yahoo.com
@kimmie- I like to wear cologne from the Creed line “green irish tweed” is my favorite. yeah get your man on Ozwald Boateng, my friend put me in contact with a guy from DC who comes down twice a year..for $2,500 he will make you 4 custom suits your name embroidered on the inside and 8 custom fit shirts with your initials on the cuff also

AmazonRed™

May 14th, 2009
1:20 pm

Ared, as long as you wear my name you will never ask for some other cats pic. You know how I get in my fits of jealousy.

Truth – I’m sorry papi. I’m ready for my punishment. :twisted:

Melo

May 14th, 2009
1:20 pm

Personally I like live music

me to,not live cheating. I like to listen to the riff of a guitar and keyboard.I am not infatuated by some pple’s names to extebd of watching them pretend to be musicians.
I wld rather go wqtch beyonce live,eeven tho i dont buy but listen to her music.Her show wld be much more entertaining and real than her boo.
U like lil Wayne to the extend of attedning her show??
I was in the train the other day after wrk and this guy,maybe 22/24 thereabout was sitting and hz head and hands ryhming to some music he was listening too.Boy was really having fun.My guess is he was listening to some rapper who spots grieells,is heavily tatooed and proly has a cpple of baby mamas.It just got me thinking as i watched the young man do his thing,jiving and swinging and doing his own rap imitation(albeit well behaved tho):does his mama or daddy or uncle have as much sway on him as this Juve,plies,Tpain,weezie or whoevr he listening to???

Poppa Grande

May 14th, 2009
1:20 pm

Mo

Shawn Carter (since people want to whip gubment names out all willy nilly) gives a pretty good concert. I’ve been to a couple of his concert. Hard Knock Life tour and the forgettable “Best of Both Worlds” tour with Robert “If they old enough to p, they old enough for me” Kelly.

Melo
I would agree with your assessment about crotch grabbing if she was seeing Lil Wayne or something.
Shawn Carter limits his crotch grabbing to only in key moments.

mytw♥cents

May 14th, 2009
1:21 pm

KIMMIE You will not be gettin ya self riled up at the desk! LOL It’s always nice when you conjure up a few thoughts to get through the day, tho. I’ll always love a trace of Issey Miyake in the air.

PG Oh yeah, those vows are kinda restrictive. I will relent until you mention the 20th anni trip round the world or sumthin.

mytw♥cents

May 14th, 2009
1:22 pm

Oh and KIMMIE Nana Boateng is NICE too akuaadoma.com

Poppa Grande

May 14th, 2009
1:24 pm

Melo

me to,not live cheating.

Now, on this, we agree. It is one of the reason that I am such a big fan of the Roots. They are a band! They can switch up things and present one of their songs in a way that doesn’t sound the same as their CD. Just like Jill Scott does.

Blow Me

May 14th, 2009
1:26 pm

Me and my co workers were sitting here talking about this concert. I think its going to be hot…Ciara will be ok. I don’t like her new cd..it really does suck.

But I wonder why Beyonce and Jayz did not do a tour together?? Maybe a conflict of interest..I mean that will surely get a arugment started.

But that would have been a HUGE concert!!