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That’s not my name

Today’s post is courtesy of “Brian”, a 29 year old man from Smyrna. Brian wanted to offer his perspective  after a recent experience he had with a young lady he was seeing:

I have been going out with someone for a couple of months. A couple of weeks ago, when we were in the heat of the moment, she said someone else’s name. I think it was her ex-boyfriend or something. I didn’t say anything about it at the time but it is making me question if they are still seeing each other. Even if they are not in contact, he is obviously in her thoughts. It was probably an honest mistake but it has never happened to me before.

Wow, Brian, that’s quite the conundrum! I can’t say that has happened to me before. I don’t think it has, anyway. Ladies, have you ever made this mistake? Did you own up to it or ignore it? Do you think Brian should bring it up even though it didn’t just happen? What would you do if you were with a guy and he called you another name by mistake?

Guys, how would you handle it? Have you ever used the wrong name with someone you were seeing? What happened? Did the lady completely flip out about it?

Do you think it means anything when someone you are seeing brings up the name of their last significant other/partner? How many mentions are too many? Are you more understanding if the person was with their ex for a long time?

Happy Thursday

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mytw♥cents

May 14th, 2009
10:02 am

RAQI Yeah, I’ve been going back n forth btwn Wait and Weight. Now give Lil E a special treat today…

W8/LIONESS In real life- it damn sure wouldn’t! And I think most would’ve wanted to ‘punish’ her for the slip up, and not stop till she’s repeated his name out loud X amount of times like in grade school. But he may need to be a different kinda cat to have that mentality. But initial post was devil’s advocate, who else is gonna have a lil sympathy for the girl?

BEAUTIFUL As I said yesterday, men are tender. They’re also territorial and it doesn’t matter if they have a rotation, you aren’t allowed to do the same(in theory.) Even if they say it’s okay -usually said so they can dabble- lots of em have something to say about the women who spread her charms about.

-W8 (Devil's Advocate today)

May 14th, 2009
10:06 am

lol@ the feast or famine never knew women had those…I guess I am so picky that i never really had a famine and back in the day when it was time to feast..the buffet was always open….” I remember nights I didn’t remember nights”..lol

AmazonRed™

May 14th, 2009
10:06 am

It’s nice to see I was missed yesterday. Well, I probably wasn’t missed, but at least y’all noticed my loud mouth wasn’t there. :lol:

Tazzee, I was in town, just at a conference for the last couple of days.

Poppa/Sassy/Tazzee – Yeah that’s the way it goes. I’ve always enjoyed a steady dating life, but at least with one person you can weed em out a bit better because that’s who you are focusing on. I always make missteps when too many folks are wanting my attention. Then you pick the wrong one, then that goes south and the others don’t want anything to do with ya. :lol:

Even last night, I ran into this guy I had a chance meeting with like a year ago. I’m like what’s the odds of him coming out of the woodworks NOW?

To bring it back on topic, I just hope I can keep names straight. :lol:

Sybil

May 14th, 2009
10:07 am

Beautiful – your 917a – “i personally don’t like to be called sunshine, babe, baby, lil mama, beautiful, lady, woman, etc. i like when a man says my name Angie. it seems more personable.”

What looks like crazy on an ordinary day.

I’m sorry. I couldn’t resist. LOL

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

May 14th, 2009
10:09 am

Good Morning folks!

Happy Birthday to QC!

On Topic: I have been on a date and on the phone and called out someone else name! It happens to a lot of people when we just meet someone and state dating them! This could be because we have just ended our previous relationship or we still remain friends with our former partner! No big deal!

So many people are making a big deal out of name slippage it does not mean you are thinking about your ex! Subconscious thoughts come out of nowhere all the time!

I would not even be upset if a woman called out her ex name while doing the nasty! She probably is use to his name and not my so that means I must be hitting that spot! Sooner or later she will call only my name!

Hello My2cents! :wink:

mytw♥cents

May 14th, 2009
10:09 am

Oh yeah, ENGLISH GIRL that was the other reason I put the devil’s advocate cap on today. There was a mention of time frame, but not of them declaring exclusivity or a deep and abiding love….

Beautiful

May 14th, 2009
10:11 am

have a good morning bloggers! going to breakfast with a co-worker. we’ve been planning this for weeks. :o )

SexyCool

May 14th, 2009
10:11 am

Who’s puddy is this? She screamed out, “Jamie’s!”

LMAO

Poppa Grande

May 14th, 2009
10:12 am

As far as the topic goes, Brian is the problem. The “incident” obviously bothers him enough to contact Wise Diva about it. If he hasn’t, he should bring it up with the female. She can’t read his minds as to what is bothering him. Otherwise, he is letting it fester in him and it will eventually taint everything that she does.

-W8 (Devil's Advocate today)

May 14th, 2009
10:12 am

@my2- If she calls me another guys name of course i have to still “finish the drill” cant leave her unsatisfied, but she would definitely would not get a call back unless she made me say her name..then we might be able to work through it.

As far as being territorial thats not always the case..sometimes it is what it is and there is a real understanding…but those days are over with

mytw♥cents

May 14th, 2009
10:13 am

Hey COUGAR! Who can resist your optimism and exclamation points!?! Not me lololol

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

May 14th, 2009
10:16 am

@PG Mr W8 had the ladies in a tizzee! :smile: Especially lioness she requested a picture!

Hello Ms. Sassy how you doin this morning? :wink:

Everyone knows when you get the goodies early in the dating game anything can happen especially calling someone else name out during the heat of the moment!

Atltwen

May 14th, 2009
10:16 am

mytw♥cents – What in the world is “VELONESE?”

lurker

May 14th, 2009
10:17 am

Never called someone else’s name and never had someone else’s name called out to me. Usually in the throws, that thing is coming down so that I can’t speak….yet along yell. Moaning? Oh yeah.

I too have called a couple of men (sweetnesses)”girrrrl” while talking. They NEVER seem to mind nor get offended. I’m so embarrassed when that happens that I just keep on talking…like nothing.

-W8 (Devil's Advocate today)

May 14th, 2009
10:17 am

LOL at the excuses..

SexyCool

May 14th, 2009
10:18 am

Birthday Greetings, QC.

May the road rise to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face.
May the rains fall soft upon your fields.
May God hold you in the palm of His hand.

lurker

May 14th, 2009
10:18 am

I can muster up a response if said partner wants to get all chatty but I prefer to ride it out all nice and easy. Sorry, veering off a bit…

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 14th, 2009
10:19 am

See…this is whay I do not call names. I would say baby…but never a name during sex!

RANDY..don’t feel bad…my Mami calls me all her sister’s name…just as her mami calls me her name. When I was a child and called myself being a smart azz and not responding even though I knew they were talking to me….I would end up taking a flying chancleta to the dome! :lol:

HAPPY B-DAY QC!

Tazzee if a guy called out my gov’t name…I’d have flashbacks to childhood when my mami took the time to say my long azz name….I knew I was in trouble. So I may run for cover! :lol:

MY2CENTS…I was thinking the same thing. Maybe the EX put it on her something terrible and Brian “fell short”. So she had a flashback of the EX!

-W8 (Devil's Advocate today)

May 14th, 2009
10:21 am

Yeah she and Sybil requested a picture..I even got one back from Lioness(mmm mmmm mmmm nice) not that that is anyone’s business though, but in a tizzy they are not..lol

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 14th, 2009
10:22 am

SexyCool – I won’t be online on my birthday, but I’m putting in my request for a special ditty from you. You can ‘give’ it to me on the 28th. don’t make it ‘too’ special, I want that one for my 40th next year ;-)

AmazonRed™

May 14th, 2009
10:22 am

W8 – Did you provide a real picture or just a gag picture. I am the auditor of all tall guys on this here blog. For quality control purposes… you understand. :lol:

mytw♥cents

May 14th, 2009
10:23 am

ATLWEN Oh he’s a poster whose colorful, impassioned, phrases are a bit suspect to my eye. But I need glasses, so carry-on…

LIONESS- Going To Get My hair Done

May 14th, 2009
10:24 am

Cougar- Good Morning to you too! How did W8 have me in a tizzle? I asked him for a pic, now we are lovers?

Sassy Me....Mmm, mmm, good :-)

May 14th, 2009
10:24 am

MorningCougar I’m good…really good. Prrrrrrr ;)

What jewels of wisdom are you going to drop on us today? :)

East Point's Own

May 14th, 2009
10:25 am

close as I have come is during an arguement I once called a chick my ex’s name prolly cause my ex used to want to argue about every little thing… LoL BUt before/during/after the horizontal tango… never…

SexyCool

May 14th, 2009
10:26 am

I can understand how it may have been a bit of an ego blow to the young man. If it were to be addressed, he should have done so at the time it happened. The window of opportunity has been closed on that one. At this point, I say just let it lie it where it fell.

If I were to venture into deeper waters, I would guess that there are some other issues. The biggest of them being trust.

Three Words Daily – Live ya’ life!!

abc

May 14th, 2009
10:27 am

It’s happened to me a few times, and I’ve done it myself a few times. It doesn’t mean that I’m still seeing the ex, or that they are, or even that I’m thinking of them. It just pops out, kind of like a habit. If anything, it’s an indication that they’ve replaced the one whose name you spoke by mistake.

When it happens either to me or by me, the horrified look motivates me to poke fun at the situation, lighten the mood, and get over it, because chances are it doesn’t really mean anything.

Leggs

May 14th, 2009
10:28 am

Good morning everyone!

Yes, yes, yes, I’ve made the mistake twice (all in the same night). For some reason I can’t even explain, I blurted out another person’s name in the “moment.” He plucked me in the forehead saying “that’s not my name.” I apologized, but immediately said the other person’s name again. The evening was over after that. I can picture the entire evening to this day! It was good (up to that point) :lol:

Now, let me read what you guys have said!

Poppa Grande

May 14th, 2009
10:29 am

Hunter

Mr W8 had the ladies in a tizzee!

You are right. I didn’t even mention that even Staceye had a thought of coming out of hibernation.

It is all good tho’. No hate on my end. I am celebrating my 10th anniversary this week.

Mo (aka Moeisha- looking for a new haircut)

May 14th, 2009
10:30 am

Morning All!! Im with Tazzee, call my name…whole name (if you get the priviledge of knowing my middle name)! Something about hearing “ooooh Mo” or the like is just so great. I havent called out anyone else name or had it done to me but I can imagine that it would totally kill the moment!

W8 – Workin that Kappa charm eh?? LOL!

And whomever mentioned the ‘feast or famine’ thing was right, it has to be some cruel joke from the universe!!

-W8 (Devil's Advocate today)

May 14th, 2009
10:31 am

@AmazonRed I sent a real one..lol I didnt know you were quality control..lol

LIONESS- Going To Get My hair Done

May 14th, 2009
10:31 am

Leegs- Really? **clutching my pearls w/ my mouth wide open**

AmazonRed™

May 14th, 2009
10:32 am

AmazonRed I sent a real one..lol I didnt know you were quality control..lol

Hmmm…W8 and it seems like the ladies liked it huh? Let me schedule an orientation session with you then. :lol:

Tmac

May 14th, 2009
10:33 am

I used to think its just my mom….

She has to run down all siblings names to get to the person she is trying to talk to

AmazonRed™

May 14th, 2009
10:37 am

PG – 10 years! Congrats! What are you and my sister doing for your anniversary?

Leggs – I died at that story. Even down to the thump on the forehead. LMAO!!!

kimmie

May 14th, 2009
10:38 am

Good morning gang.

Heeeyyy W8/Pecan Man(said while batting eyelashes)! What kind of suit are you wearing today? Yeah, I know I’m boood up AND still married to Truth, but I’m not blind!LOL!!

On topic- Has never happened to me. I have been in a situation where a guy was very much still into his ex. He had that look that Randy described earlier. It was a sinking feeling for me and I had to let him go. In Brian’s case it could be slip up, could mean she’s still caught up with ex, etc. He needs to do what feels right for Brian.

Like Amred and others, I have made the mistake of calling a guy “girl” when I get chatty and comfortable, but that’s from talking a lot to friends! It was very uncomfortable when I did it the first time though.

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

May 14th, 2009
10:39 am

Relax Ms. Lioness and W8 this is the blog world no need to explain yourselves I am just trying to start the fire! :wink: I need to have a little fun doing the course of the day! :smile:

Sassy Me....Mmm, mmm, good :-)

May 14th, 2009
10:40 am

Hold up W8 if you give some to one you’ve gottat give some to ALL….I just wanna see how fine you “iah”. I just wanna see that’s all…..I’m still waitin’ on Cougar to come for me AND give me that massage from yesterday….. :)

-W8 (Devil's Advocate today)

May 14th, 2009
10:41 am

@Leggs..why did you do it twice..back to back..lol
@PG Congrats on your 10th thats a great thing…I hope to get there one day.
@Mo- hearing my first and middle name pronounced correctly gets me going as well.
lol being a Kappa only enhanced who I was groomed to be since birth…You are a Kappa as long as you pay your dues..but you are a NUPE for Life

Atltwen

May 14th, 2009
10:42 am

mytw♥cents – You don’t need to have your “spy glasses” on to determine if I’m embellishing the truth.

Nobody probably notices, but I don’t comment much; I can’t relate to much of topics, they’re just way too much for me. However, I still follow throughout the day when I’m not busy because it can be intriguing read, at times.

Most of the “spice” in my life to this point has already been posted on this blog for public consumption – not much. So when I do post, you can take it to the bank to it happened.

SexyCool

May 14th, 2009
10:42 am

Taz – for you…no problem.

With pen in my hand
And no master plan
I am sitting here
Thinking of a rhyme.
Reminiscing about times
gone past and days that don’t last
and reliving memories
of a life lived too fast.

I’ve really slowed down.
No longer all over town.
I stay paper chasing.
Make sure life is not wasting.
And I keep my head to the sky.

Looking for life’s best.
Wanting low stress.
Standing the test.
Taking no mess.
Just living happiness day by day.

Heading the lessons I’ve learned.
Taking fewer wrong turns.
And wondering how life will turn out.
Because have no doubt,
No matter the route.
This journey one day will end.

If I can look back
On my closing act
Knowing I’ve lived my life to its limits.
With my promises kept
And no tears to be wept,
Then I knew I was in it to win it.

I’ll be sure and get you something on the 28th. I’m setting a reminder now. :-D

AmazonRed™

May 14th, 2009
10:43 am

Heeeyyy W8/Pecan Man(said while batting eyelashes)! What kind of suit are you wearing today? Yeah, I know I’m boood up AND still married to Truth, but I’m not blind!LOL!!

:lol: :lol: :lol: What in the world did I miss yesterday???

Poppa Grande

May 14th, 2009
10:45 am

AR

What are you and my sister doing for your anniversary?

I originally planned a day trip to NYC for a shopping spree. However, we spent most of that money back in January during Inauguration week for Balls and such. (She did plenty of shopping for that)

We had dinner at Oceanaire and went to Loca Luna last weekend for some latin dancing.

We are going on a cruise in August to the eastern Caribbean before the fall semester starts.

Palm

May 14th, 2009
10:45 am

Need more info about Brian and the woman. If it was the 1st time they got busy then she subconscious called out the other guys name. I would like it but I would be able to get over it. Also, it has been a few weeks since that occurred what has transpired since then? Have they had gotten busy since then and what happened?

LIONESS- Going To Get My hair Done

May 14th, 2009
10:46 am

Ared- You didn’t miss much.. W8 was posting a couple of facts about himself and I became curious and asked for a pic of him and got one and liked what I saw.. That all :)

Cemeeli

May 14th, 2009
10:47 am

Morning!

Tazzee Auh, the full name sis? For some reason “Mr. Me” reminds me of a not-so-gubment name? What chu’ think?

What if you call your SO by one of the kid’s name?

Maybe, jus maybe,…pet names have there time and place.

Raqi...37 Days to ML

May 14th, 2009
10:48 am

I will so far as to say calling someone else’s name would understandable if the person was in a longterm relationship with the prior. If you just spent the last 2 years with the same person that name is embedded in your psyche. Now only being 2 short months with the new one, you are bound at some time or the other to mistake the name. Especially if it happens during the first time you two are getting intimate…too soon. And I put the too soon on purpose.

Cemeeli

May 14th, 2009
10:48 am

Happy Birthday QueenC!!

Professor

May 14th, 2009
10:49 am

Ok ya’ll please do not torture me too much (I know what I said yesterday)…

Maybe Brian should have asked her the QUESTION on the first date, “So, why are you single?” That may have saved him…ha

Raqi...37 Days to ML

May 14th, 2009
10:49 am

Palm I agree.