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The Question

Today’s guest blogger is a buddy of mine, “The Fly Guy“. When he isn’t jet setting to Los Angeles or New York interviewing celebrities, the man actually finds the time to date! Check out what happened on one of his recent dating misadventures:

I couldn’t have planned our first date any better. The ambiance was nice, the food was outstanding, and our conversation seemed to strike a perfect flirty/innocent balance. In other words, we were really enjoying each other’s company … that is until she asked me “the question.”

“So Mr. Fly Guy, why are you single?”

As the words left her lips, my body began to cringe—almost in the same way that one would cringe if they heard fingernails scrapping across a chalkboard, or Paula Abdul singing the acappella version of “Opposites Attract.”

Now some may wonder why I would be so up in arms about such an innocent question. After all, she was probably just asking as a way to express interest, right? Maybe.

At face value, I have no problem with her inquiry. But it’s the underlying question that needs to be addressed. What she really wanted to ask was, “So what’s wrong with you? There aren’t many good men out here, so you must be crazy, married, or a combination of both.” And I guess she had every right to ask whatever she wanted, but let’s be serious for a moment. What did she really expect me to say?

“I’m single because I was locked up for two years after beating up my girlfriend for giving me four incurable STDs and bad credit.”

I wonder if that was the answer she was searching for?

In all honesty, I just haven’t met the woman who has moved my heart to the point of wanting to give my all long term. Short of that, I’m not interested in wasting anyone’s time with discussions of settling down if my heart isn’t genuinely there. I’m not an escaped felon, nor am I a guy who secretly runs the Color Me Badd Fan Club (that might actually be less forgivable than a criminal record.) I’m just a guy who’s comfortable in my own skin, and who’s perfectly fine with being single until the right woman comes along.

So to the women of my future; the next time we’re out on a date, and you feel the burning desire to ask me “so why are you single,” just know that there are far better ways to get to know more about me than trying to uncover what brought me to this moment in time with you. Just know that I’m here, and I’m focused on us enjoying our time together. Why can’t you do the same?

I think we’ve all been there before, Fly Guy!  It’s interesting how a single man who seems to have it together is questioned on why he isn’t in a relationship. Ladies, do you ask this question when you meet men?

I get asked this annoying question by co-workers. What is it that they want to hear, exactly? Has anyone ever asked you “the question” on a date? How do you handle the question about your single status?

Have you ever been hanging out somewhere or on a date and was asked really outrageous or random questions? What did you do?

HAPPY WEDNESDAY!

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ImAPeach404

May 13th, 2009
8:23 am

Morning all

FLY GUY I hope you answered her question by saying just what you posted here. I don’t think that question insinuates “Whats wrong with you?” I think she wants to know WHY? ARE? YOU? SINGLE? I think it’s innocent enough. I’ve asked that question – ONLY after it being asked of me – but I do so because I want to know if you’re single by choice? Did you and your girl just break up last week and now you’re on the rebound? You’re enjoying being single and all that Atlanta has to offer? I mean… why ARE you single?

When I’m asked this question, my answer is usually “Because I live in Atlanta”

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
8:27 am

Good Morning All,

Yes I have asked the question, If you ask me first then I am going to ask you back. Fly Guy please stop whinning because some woman ask you a question you most likely were trying to creatively figure out how to ask yourself. Foolishness! Yes the question is annoying and there are creative ways to answer but why bother?

Kym why are you single? Answer: Why you wanna know? That way you cut out all the bs and get to the meat.

Pardon the Interruption.. but don’t you think there should be alot of questions asked on a date? I mean if you want to cut through the representive why not just ask what you wanna know and if you don’t like the answers you can move on. Talk before the date. Talk on the date. That way you can decide if you wanna talk after the date.

I am a single parent and I have been asked by men:
So how is your relationship with your son’s father?
So where is your son’s father?
So do you and your son’s father get along?

The intent for asking is to see if my son’s father and I are still kicking it or if he is going to come out of the woodwork like a crazed ax murder in the bushes. The answer to all three questions is ..He is deceased. but if I am feeling smartazz I might say to him..He is dead but we talk often. Moronic questions deserve moronic answers.

DasVenus

May 13th, 2009
8:39 am

wassup beautiful ppl!

FlyGuy, my standard is to let’em know upfront that no one has had the kahunas to swallow my mess for very long and then i rattle off my flaws in short order….. all with a smile. :)

PSA – chrisette michele’s epiphany is so-so…. there are some slamming songs but then there are others that either neyo had too say, or not enough.

**theTruth** you still harassing the ninjas?? (i know you are… i guess my question is ‘how badly’)

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 13th, 2009
8:41 am

Personally, I think all questions are fair game. Sometimes it is not the answer that is really being sought, but how one handles difficult questions, i.e., evasive, straight forward, nervous, comfortable… I think a lot of questions are addressing the “transparency” of an individual. I am pretty much totally candid and transparent, and have few if any secrets. Most of the time the lady I am with senses that I am comfortable in my skin and then she relaxes and is hopefully transparent too.

I guess what I am saying is that sometimes there might be a genuine “twenty questions” climate, but often it is just making conversation and trying to demonstrate interest. I would rather have someone ask me questions too, instead of spending the entire evening trying to “sell themselves” or worse, me doing the same. Don’t try to overanalyze things.

LIONESS

May 13th, 2009
8:49 am

Good Morning All :)
I totally agree with what fly guy said–> just know that there are far better ways to get to know more about me than trying to uncover what brought me to this moment in time with you. Just know that I’m here, and I’m focused on us enjoying our time together. Why can’t you do the same?..
The first date with someone is to have fun.. I can’t stand when an individual ask me stupid questions. Better yet, I can’t stand to be questioned as if I am being interrogated! Ask all the questions during the convo BEFORE the date.. Why on the date?

mytw♥cents

May 13th, 2009
8:50 am

Men- They’re so TENDER! And as often evidenced here on Lollipop Lane, they’re tender about the same BS they try to subject us to… Perhaps we’re not supposed put 2 and 2 together, though? Some days and times, y’all want the sugarcoat, the other days and times y’all want us to get to the point so you can finish watching the same highlights you’ve been watching on ESPN for the last 3 hours.

Lucky Bast@rds… If women could control a.)their horniness b.)nurturing instincts or both, y’all would be in some big trouble!

Random questions? WD I’ll ask one (Have you and Fly Guy ever tried to date? I always think you’d be a good match.) And here’s my all time least favorite…

Fool: Why don’t you have any kids, .02?
.02: I haven’t been tryna have kids, Fool.
Fool: You said you’re 33 – you must not want any kids, .02…
.02: I’d love to have kids. Would love a husband/committed relationship first, tho, Fool.
Fool: Hmmph. So you just don’t like kids, .02?
.02: So you’re really just that much of a fool, Fool?

Raqi...38 Days to ML

May 13th, 2009
8:51 am

IMO although I know it gets annoying overtime, it is a perfectly good question. However I love the answer about not finding the one yet. That is a good answer.

And then some people are just not interested in being married or coupled up. So if that’s that case one should say so. Having that questioned asked to you is a good way to find out what the asker is looking for in being there in the first place without you having to ask.

But it could also be true that something is wrong. Or not right. Or not appealing. Or not sticking.

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
8:54 am

LOL@ Twocent.. Foolishness!!

ImAPeach404

May 13th, 2009
8:54 am

LOL @ KYM!!!! He’s dead but we talk often, lol.

I guess what I am saying is that sometimes there might be a genuine “twenty questions” climate, but often it is just making conversation and trying to demonstrate interest.

RANDYT – I discovered last night that the difference between my perception of “making conversation” and “asking too many d@mn questions” is my level of interest in that person…

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 13th, 2009
8:57 am

ImAPeach404 … LOL Good Point.

I think that another thing to think about is that often the questions reveal as much about the person asking the question as the one being asked.

DasVenus

May 13th, 2009
9:15 am

i agree RandyT…. the questions are because they want to know how you deal with ‘questions’. i am a pretty upfront chick, so how i answer (no matter what i say) reveals that. which is what they really want to know anyway. and in the case of .02’s fool… there are some men that are just trynna make conversation and running down the same questions they ask all the chicks… they arent personal, the obvious is too much for them. they have a playbook and looking to bide their time to the bed. they get the scruffed up version of why i am not in a relationship…. they playin games, i can play too.

Raqi...38 Days to ML

May 13th, 2009
9:18 am

So TwoLincolns what is it about kids you don’t like?

LOL Just kidding.

I-85

May 13th, 2009
9:18 am

It only makes sense that after a certain age you should be married and or at least have been in a serious relationship. If you are in mid to late 30s and you are single then we got to know why. All things been normal I trust and believe u will be with someone. So go ahead and answer the question. You might be setting unrealistic standards.

Wise Diva

May 13th, 2009
9:26 am

Good Morning!

LOL @ ImaPeach, I’m going to use that one, “because I live in Atlanta” ha, classic!

Mytwocents, really? me and Fly Guy? I don’t know, we are too much alike. It’s funny how we argue and clown each other because we have the exact same sarcasm/wit/smart mouth

Sassy Me....Oochey walley,walley...oochey bang,bang:-)

May 13th, 2009
9:26 am

Enter your comments here

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
9:28 am

Off the Wall Questions-For Amusement and Fun

Is one of your toes longer than the other?

How often do you spank the monkey(masturbate)?

So did your last girlfriend have a problem with your unibrow?

Boy that’s alot of makeup? Are you practicing to be a clown?

Do you really think pork is the other white meat?

Do fart when you sneeze?

Are you lactose intolerant?

Professor

May 13th, 2009
9:29 am

Happy Hump Day Everyone!

Fly Guy, I have found myself a bit annoyed with this question a time or two. I guess I always thought that it was the “professor” and “business executive” in me that was the problem, so I always thought it was just I being annoyed.

For some reason that question changes the natural flow of the conversation and I feel like I am on a job interview or a “horse and pony show.” On a first date I like for things to stay light and natural, if the conversation turns heavy naturally that is fine, but I do not want to disclose the problems of my past (the reason I am single) on the first date with that question. Heck, I will probably never discuss those issues because I never look in the rear-view mirror and talk about my old relationships. So if I respond to the question truthfully and say that my ex was a liar and a cheat than I will be considered “angry.” Or if I stated that my ex was unable to achieve any financial or career goals, which made dating or having dinner impossible due to finances I am, consider the “over achieving career oriented bloodsucking bytch.” How about if I disclosed the one with Peter Pan syndrome and he never grew up, which made having a relationship with a 35 year old man with a 12 year old mind impossible…you get my drift I will be consider a “trying to be perfect no fun having want-to-be shrink.”

DasVenus- I love all of the ballads chrisette michele’s epiphany…I think #12 is my favorite.

NY2GA, Inc.

May 13th, 2009
9:30 am

Why are you still single?

I’m tripping off this post because guys ask women this question QUITE often. Even on this blog, as soon as woman exhibits some type of standard or moral base, some dudes ask the burning question “Are you single?” or “Do you have a man?”

Well, guess what fellas, some of us ladies are tired of answering that sh?t too. In most cases our answer will be the same as yours in that we haven’t found the one (just yet). So, I think what I’m going to do is print a copy of Flyguy’s response. The next time a dude asks me that question again, I’m going to give him the piece of paper and say my response is what HE said.

Good day.

Sassy Me....Oochey walley,walley...oochey bang,bang :-)

May 13th, 2009
9:33 am

Morning blog fam

I think we’ve all been there before, Fly Guy! It’s interesting how a single man who seems to have it together is questioned on why he isn’t in a relationship. Ladies, do you ask this question when you meet men?

First off no I don’t ask men that question b/c I get asked the very same enough to the point of irritation….and besides if a man/woman wanted to divulge that info then they would do so on their own volition.

abc

May 13th, 2009
9:39 am

I suppose you could have said, “Just lucky, I guess”.

Or you could have referred her to your own blog about the topic, to quote: When I run into beautiful, successful people who just happen to be single, it always fascinates me (hey, I study love for a living.) So I often find myself wondering, “Why in the world are they single?” As I delve deeper into the psychology behind it all, the answers I get range from, “Well I’m way too focused right now,” all the way to “I can’t trust anyone with my money.”

http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2007/04/why-i%E2%80%99m-single/

That certainly seems at odds what you’re saying about the topic today, Fly. I presume you jet-set around interviewing people for your blog. Another love blogging marketing tie-in, WD? Are these auditions for them, or something?

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 13th, 2009
9:39 am

Morning All!

I get the question often – and my response has been ‘because no one has ever asked me to marry them’ :lol: Yes, I’m tired of answering the question. If I express that I’ve never met a man that I wanted to marry – then they make comments about my standards being too high. So I put it back on the male gender with my response.

MyTwo – I hate the roundabout with the kids question. I get that quite frequently and some folks just can’t seem to understand the concept of “I’m not, nor have I ever been married so I don’t have any kids”

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
9:42 am

LMAO@ abc PI..Call him out!!! Busted Fly Guy Busted big time.

Shows over folks nothing to see here.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 13th, 2009
9:44 am

abc Dang man! Give Wise Diva a break, she’s trying to keep us entertained while holding down the blog for three weeks in a row. It makes perfect sense to give the guest bloggers a chance to ‘market’ their own spots.

Never seen a person be interviewed about a book that wasn’t allowed to give the title of their book, or someone talk about their area of expertise without the opportunity to give out their personal website.

said while I’m also wondering if these are auditions… ;-)

ImAPeach404

May 13th, 2009
9:47 am

… blog poll…

How many people get asked this question during the INITIAL conversation? I know I do. I don’t think this question has ever been asked on a first date… this question is normally asked before numbers are even exchanged. Well… that’s my experience anyway.

WISE – Yea, use that. It usually makes them laugh… but not that it’s so hilarious, but because they already know what you’re getting at!
PROFESSOR – if you are asked this, try to turn it into a positive response instead of negative. Don’t even mention the men, just note how you’re looking for X, Y, Z and you haven’t met anyone with those qualities. And say it with a smile :)

Rell - hollerin @ benchs

May 13th, 2009
9:49 am

not to rehash old ish but i found this quote interesting

woman are perfectly well aware that the more they seem to obey. The more they rule- Jules Michelet

on topic – the why are u single question is idle nervous chatter..when anyone ask that it screams of low self esteem like they cant believe they are with someon so wonderful….

ImAPeach404

May 13th, 2009
9:51 am

Dang ABC – that blog was posted in 2007.
You were really on a mission with that post, eh?

abc

May 13th, 2009
9:51 am

Fly’s own blog says the opposite of what he says here; Ms Reid’s enterprise endorses having an alpha personality, referring to herself as ‘Alphanista’, but tells chicks here to be submissive. I’m left shaking my head a bit at the contradictions. Why say one thing on their own blogs, and something entirely different here?

Maybe the auditionees are paying for the space. Who knows. Seems odd, though.

Sassy Me....Oochey walley,walley...oochey bang,bang :-)

May 13th, 2009
9:52 am

I hate the roundabout with the kids question. I get that quite frequently and some folks just can’t seem to understand the concept of “I’m not, nor have I ever been married so I don’t have any kids”

Taz I get that alot too and I HATE it. It usually goes in this order 1. How old are you?…which is IMMEDIATELY followed by 2. How many kids you got?…..then I get the
3. You got a man?….girl what you doin’ single? I let them know that I don’t have any kids b/c I’m not married and refuse to be a “baby mama”. I really wish people would understand that there is no written rule that says by a certain age you SHOULD either be in a serious relationship or married with some chirren runnin’ round b/c it just aint so….just aint.

DasVenus

May 13th, 2009
9:53 am

Professor – - yea chrisette kept it real in the ballads. i love the lyrics to im ok. great way to round out the entire cd. i agree with what the chicago tribune had to say on it: “Epiphany is a quiet pleasure that unfolds upon repeated listening”.

Tmac

May 13th, 2009
9:54 am

You are good looking, you got every freakin thing in life going really good, you are every gals dream but you are 29 and single, you are real nice to be around but why are you single????

/* my reaction is like a deer infront of headlight */ ahhhm…aaa ..what? I dunno…but aaa……..

abc

May 13th, 2009
9:54 am

re: on a mission: not really. That article is linked on his front page.

Kimberly

May 13th, 2009
9:57 am

Sounds like she triggered something you’d rather not face about yourself. You made many assumptions about what she really must have wanted to ask. Did you ask her for clarification or did you sit there projecting assumptions and judgements? What if you had replied with the clear and honest answer given in the post and simply continued enjoying the innocent flirty vibe? Relax. You won’t recognize the woman you want to be with if she’s buried under all your projections.

Eileen

May 13th, 2009
9:59 am

Why I’m single?… Hell, I was married for twenty hundred years…You sure you got that much time off the rip? Like someone here said… no rear-viewing.

Lessons of my past make me who you meet today like it or not… your choice. To be honest I’m a private person, so I respect privacy and feel like if we’re talking/communicating everything we need to know about each other whether it’s past experience, present reality or future hopes will come out in due time. .

Sassy Me....Oochey walley,walley...oochey bang,bang :-)

May 13th, 2009
9:59 am

I don’t think this question has ever been asked on a first date… this question is normally asked before numbers are even exchanged. Well… that’s my experience anyway.

Peach I do agree with Rell that it’s prolly idle,nervous chatter but shyt lets chat about something else please. That just happened to me on Monday: once as I was leaving work and again about an hour later at Walmart. Maybe there should be some type of refresher course given or somethin’ cause this is ’bout as old as Methuselah.

Professor

May 13th, 2009
10:01 am

ImAPeach404 I was just venting on the post, but I really do keep my response positive. Needless to say I am sick and tired of the question. However, with your consent I would love to use your line…”because I live in Atlanta.”

Since I don’t have kids I always get the kids questions to…you don’t like kids…what are you waiting on…blah blah blah.

Sassy Me....Oochey walley,walley...oochey bang,bang :-)

May 13th, 2009
10:02 am

my reaction is like a deer infront of headlight */ ahhhm…aaa ..what? I dunno…but aaa……..

Tmac LMMAO :) :)

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
10:04 am

Somewhere along the way…THIS question erroneously got the reputation of being a cute question to ask. Whenever I am asked that question, I realize as the attempt to further the conversation………………

Hold up….wait…I was about to go into this whole dissertation about The Question. When really, it ain’t that deep.

If your single, expect the question. Come up with a standard answer for the question. Keep it moving………..unless…..the question makes you uncomfortable because it requires an honesty about yourself that you may not be ready to face. (I jest. I joke. I kid. Kinda)

Three Words Daily – Eat more vegetables.

Raqi...38 Days to ML

May 13th, 2009
10:04 am

LOL abc. Let me ask you, would you be willing to present a topic, including an entire entry written by you, to help WiseDiva keep this thing going?

I have to give her much luv and respect in her efforts because she has hung there thru now 4 co-moderators and she is still holding on. There is only so much she herself can present and only so many ways she can flip the topics.

WiseDiva why don’t you do a week or two of topics personally written by our fellow bloggers? One week for the women and one week for the men. I imagine all you have to do is post them after they have been forwarded to you. Just a thought.

ImAPeach404

May 13th, 2009
10:07 am

SASSY – you know, this question really doesn’t bother me other than the fact that it’s pretty much a kiss of death. Sometimes – if i’m feeling snarky – I’ll say “Well, I’m really not sure but maybe after we date for a while YOU can tell ME”. I like to see what they say…

Melo

May 13th, 2009
10:09 am

There are no bad questions if u meeting a potential long term.Better ask now and get the “lie” and figure out if shes/hes psycho than find out when u are knee deep.
I dont know u,u dont know me and we all adults,way into our 30/40s etc, so whats ur history like other than sexxaul.The way u labor to anser a simple question about why u single tells a whole lot about u.The guy or chick may not want to go further after that.
Thats all.
That qstion is a good ice breaker and a good way to get valuable info about the chick/guy.If he/shes uncomfortable,coy etc about answering the qstion,that means there are issues i mustnt know, i presume.
Last date!!
What fool is gonna meet a fly 30/40sme chick/guy,handsome,pretty etc and think that they fell from heaven on that same day,making them so so,so daaaaaamn, one in a million lucky??? :grin:

ImAPeach404

May 13th, 2009
10:10 am

PROFESSOR – I see. Ok, just trying to offer a little friendly blog advice :) And yes, you and all the blog ladies can use that one. To be honest, It’s probably 80% of the reason…

I have a kid. 14. And I’m done. I’m fairly young but I do not want any more kids. I always get the screw face when this comes up so I feel you ladies pain… but in a different way.

Raqi...38 Days to ML

May 13th, 2009
10:12 am

If you meet someone that is marriage minded they could be asking to see if you are still single because you do not want to get married. Would you rather they ask why are you still single or Do ever want/plan to get married?

Why are you still single seems to be a better way to try to find out.

Are person that is looking to get married or coupled up is more than likely not wanting to waste time with someone who is does not. Ask the question then you can move on.

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

May 13th, 2009
10:15 am

Good Morning Blog peeps!

This is usually a question that comes up early in the date game because once you are past 30 that seems to be one the typical questions for the thirty and over group! As people who are dating get older we have a tendency to ask a of why questions because you are now consider to be different then the norms of what is going on in our society!

Tazzee: I am getting together my marriage proposal for you! But first I am going to cut my fingernails! :lol:

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
10:20 am

Morning gang

I love and agree with a lot of everyone’s responses. Yes, men ask this all the time and automatically conclude that if you are a certain age you should be wifed & kidded up, and not necessarily in that order. If not, something HAS to be wrong with you! I’m like Sassy, it has always been my intention to do it RIGHT and get the ring first before kids, but I’ve been asked why I don’t have any so many times, more than why I’m not married. I remember first being asked at the ripe age of 22, fresh out of college and riding a Marta bus to my job I had just started because I could not yet afford a car, much less a baby! I also remember when I was about 29/30 going over to one of my best friends house for a bbq. Her sister in law was there and interrogating folks. She asked me if I had a family. I’m like duh, of course I have a family! Then I realized what she was really asking and said no, not yet. She went off with “WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR, YOU GOTTA GET RID OF THAT CUTE SHAPE ONE DAY!”. I was shocked and totally caught off guard, my mouth was wide open! My friends husband came to my rescue and told her to mind her own business and that I would get husband/kids when I was ready to. I could not believe that chick though!

I just think its a better way to get the question answered than asking it. You can find out thru getting to know the person well if they just got out of a relationship, if they are serious or just out to have fun, etc.

It just occurred to me that my SO is probably the only guy that has not asked me why not married/babied questions! Maybe thats why we get along so well – we both see intelligently eye 2 eye!

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
10:23 am

Um, yeah. so. My first post just fell off into oblivion. Or maybe, it will turn up in an hour or so.

At any rate, I’ll just re-post the three words.

Three Words Daily – Eat more vegetables.

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
10:33 am

@Kimmie – I think it’s a tragedy that so many women seem to accept motherhood as the loss of a “cute shape”. Pregnancy should come with a Snap Back Body kit.

It seems as if some of my classmates that had babies in high school had no problem getting their bodies back at that time. Not so much with those later babies that they had.

The truth of the matter is that if you don’t care of yourself, watch what you eat and get some form of physical activity regularly BEFORE you have a baby, it’s probably really not going to happen AFTER you have a baby. It results in lumpy mommy bodies walking around in mommy jeans.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 13th, 2009
10:34 am

Rethinking this, I realize that I ask a similar question before I even meet most women I date. As I have said before, Internet dating has worked well for me (it is not an exclusive, but most of my dating originates there). I use the emailing to try to get to know someone before I invest time and money in an actual date. What I almost always ask after a few emails is, “what was the path that brought you to here and now in Atlanta”, and then I say “anything you are comfortable sharing at this point”. I am sort of asking okay “why are you single/divorced” but not directly.

I do not date for the sake of dating, and to some degree every date is an “interview” in one way or another. As I gather information and as I give information to the other, we hopefully can begin to determine whether there is any reason to proceed further.

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
10:36 am

Oh…and so off topic – this summer’s sun dresses are hiding a multitude of sins.

Melo

May 13th, 2009
10:37 am

but I do not want to disclose the problems of my past (the reason I am single) on the first date with that question. Heck, I will probably never discuss those issues because I never look in the rear-view mirror and talk about my old relationships

nervousness,coyness and angst to answer the simple qstion is actually revealing more about ur personality,history,openness or non etc than is there a problem with the qstion.It gives the qstioner options,whether to pursue u further or demote u on the depth chart.
And some folks do lie for the simple reasons that they arent proud of their past.Thats not the qstioner’s problem.
Cut her/him some slack!!!
If I want a smash and grab chic,a sexx buddy etc there are no DEEPER qstions to ask.For what,:grin: other than making sure she got no STD.

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
10:37 am

SCool – Yeah, I think thats a cop-out. My mom had 3 and was still able to wear a size 8/10 up until her death at 57. The best friend I referred to in my post had 5 and she is smaller than she was before the first one!

Mo (aka Moeisha- looking for a new haircut)

May 13th, 2009
10:37 am

Morning All!

I remember meeting a dude when I was 25/26 that told me I was selfish because I didnt have any kids. Now mind you he had 2 kids, 2 baby mamas…..but I was the selfish one! And I was tired of hearing that I had perfect “baby-making hips”…who the h3ll came up with that anyway. I agree with whomever said that marriage & kids is not part of everyones dream.

-W8 (the not so new guy)

May 13th, 2009
10:39 am

I get asked that question often and My dumbass always took it as a compliment…I didn’t know I was wrong. I was married for 9 years and have been divorced for 7 now at the age of 36 I dont have time for casual dating nor casual sex.(funny when you develop a conscious). I just don’t have time to waste on someone who is not “wife material”. Not that I start off the rip with a million questions for the woman but I’m always watching observing looking for certain qualities, but of course friends first..Now I have my eye on someone and we had the conversation, because we are getting along really well, I was like “Hey, I like where this is going as friends, but I am not trying to get stuck in the friend zone”..things are working out great..been casual friends for about 2 years now and I guess things are just lining up for the both of us now..(I’m rambling..lol..thinking of her just makes me happy..I’m out)

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 13th, 2009
10:43 am

Hey Mo…your post reminds me again that some men want to “father” kids (as an expression of their virility I guess), but have no desire to be a “father” which is different from a “sperm donor”. Sad, because my children are, have been, and will always be the number one priority in my life. I grew up without a father (mine died when I was 7, but he was wonderful until then), and I decided many years ago that I will be dayumed if my children would grow up without a real father.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 13th, 2009
10:48 am

@Mo…I guess what I am trying to say is “fathering” kids does not make one a “father”. No way, no how.

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
10:48 am

Melo – There is a classy way to get answers to anything you want to know. Interrogating someone and making them feel uncomfortable, like they are hooked up to a polygraph is not the way to go. I have nothing to hide, but I’ve been questioned so intrusively by some people that I was made to feel very uncomfortable. I’m a pretty upfront person and I’ll let you know basic facts about me early and on a need to know basis. In every “relationship” I’ve been in that was about something, the conversation flowwed freely and there was no interrogation. Anything pertinent that needed answering was addressed. I found that those who interrogate the most had more to hide themselves than me. And I was never wrong in those instances. The need to question someone to death usually reveals ones own insecurities.

Chill and let it flow naturally. If a person is “posing” or hiding something, it will always be revealed.

DasVenus

May 13th, 2009
10:49 am

i dont think all rear-viewing is a bad thing. there are some things that i learned about myself, things that needed to be addressed before another longterm would be good move. when hit with that question i see it as an opportunity to let the other person know just how well i know myself and that i love myself through and through…. the good, the bad and the ugly. his choice to join the fanclub.

Poppa Grande

May 13th, 2009
10:50 am

Good Morning…

I’ve never asked the question because I felt that I usually wouldn’t get the truth in the first place. No female is gonna say that “I’m single because I am a clingy ultra possessive psycho chick.” or “I’m single because I’m so caught up in finding a guy that doesn’t cheat on me”.

Lookin’ back, I never asked the question because I didn’t care. As long as she didn’t have a ring on it, she was fair game and it was up to her to nip it in the bud if she had a man. If she is being receptive to my overtures then something must be missing.

As LL Cool J said in “Hey Lover”, “if the love is real, then it can handle competition”.

I was young and full of confidence back in those days. I still have the confidence.

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
10:54 am

Other Random Questions for Funny and Amusement

So how much money can you make on Lemonade Tycoon?

Do you put your toenail clippings in a napkin or just let them randomly fly all over?

Toliet seat. Up or Down?

Fries or Tots? (great now I am going to want food from the Vortex all day)

Mo (aka Moeisha- looking for a new haircut)

May 13th, 2009
10:56 am

RandyT – now mind you I was 25/26 and he was younger than me by at least 2 years! But you are right, just because you ‘fathered’ kids it doesnt make you a father.

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
10:59 am

One of my good friends met a guy, major in the Army at 35 and has 2 kids. They met on match.com I think, and things seemed to be going great. She said she asked him the “why r u single” question and his answer was like Fly Guy’s – just had not found the right one yet. Considered marrying his babys mama especially after they had 2 kids, but things just didn’t work out.

This was not enough of an explanation for my friend. She said she still just could not understand why he was single! I finally told her she was looking for trouble! If he has issues, getting to know him will reveal those issues. I also pointed out to her that she is 36 and been divorced for 7 years. Why is SHE still single? She just looked crazy.

Melo

May 13th, 2009
11:00 am

Interrogating,introsive,non classy(classy),question someone to death etc

Kimmie u are projecting ur own dimensions/experiences to the original blog discussion.Nobody is talking about the interrogation u talking about there.
We are at a 2sme dinner,u and myself and enjoying our food.
Melo: Kimmie,dating has been kinda hard for me u know with this job and the demands for the past 3 years,hws ur experience,why are u still single Kimmie?

Kimme: Now Melo, so u think im single coz of what,ha, u tell me(Kimmie pulling off her wigg)
Melo: No Kimmie,clam down, i dont mean to scare u off, im just saying..(melo holding his mouth and shaking his head!!! :)

U are cringing there Kimmie, coz its u who is looking inward and apparently,u dont like ur trail.If open about it,ur freer.
There is no interrogation here unless ofcourse u explaining ur prior experiences.
But the blog topic is clear.U get asked the qstion,u do the same coz u all want to know.

Melo

May 13th, 2009
11:01 am

Raqi...38 Days to ML

May 13th, 2009
11:02 am

SexyCool I was looking at sundresses in Macy’s last night. Trying to find some for the late summer months.

Also off topic: I was reading the entry over in ChaPan yesterday and they were talking about folks you don’t want to see in the buff. Last night while in Walmart I saw the Benjamin Button dvd with Brad P on it and immediately thought if there is a love scene in there with him I do not want to see that movie. That guy is so unsexy. Just imagining him in that sense is just…ewww.

Poppa Grande

May 13th, 2009
11:05 am

Kym

Here is another question to add to your list:

Paper or plastic?

Who knows? It may tell you if he’s a treehugger or not.

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

May 13th, 2009
11:05 am

It would seem that so many people struggle to have a good conversation with-out immediately asking some dump questions! Like why don’t you have kids yet and you are only 25yrs old! WTH is that! :evil:

I guess not having two parents in the home is really killing the AA community so much so that men are asking single women why they do not have kids yet! This lack of intelligence about what constitute a family in our community is downright depressing!

Sassy,Sassy,Sassy! :wink:

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 13th, 2009
11:05 am

Yeah, I know, Mo…I went to the University of Tennessee, and really liked Travis Henry when he played football there, but what is wrong with this picture (from Wikipedia)

“Family
Travis has been married once, at age 18; the marriage was later annulled. He is currently engaged. Henry has fathered at least eleven children among ten women.

Henry has had on-going problems making his child support payments to the mothers of his 9 children. He was arrested in Polk County, Florida in March 2009 and charged with failing to pay $16,600 in child support[12]. His lawyer estimates that he is obligated to pay at least $170,000 per year in child support payments.[10] According to ESPN’s “Outside the Lines,” Henry is currently in jail for failure to pay child support”.

He may be a football player, but a father…I don’t think so anyway.

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
11:06 am

Melo – It ain’t that deep, but when I read your 10:37 it felt like interrogation – “You BETTER answer these questions I’m asking, being COY means you’re HIDING SOMETHING!”LOL!!

Your little skit is cute, but I would just laugh at you & tell you to kiss my junk trunk!LOL!! Ya see, at this age and even younger, I have that confidence. No sweat!LOL!!

Everyone projects their own dimensions/experiences on the blog, I thought.

East Point's Own

May 13th, 2009
11:07 am

Asking : “Are you single” is always a valid question because we all know that people date whether they are single or not… and yes some folks will lie, but if you don’t ask then you can’t get upset really when you find out that they are married/involved.

But certain question as many people said are just off a standard list and completely impersonal, such as “why are you single” or “why did your last relationship end?” anybody worth their salt already has a preprogrammed answer to those questions so you are not really getting to see how they react to questions. As Fly Guy said nobody is going to give an answer that makes them seem unappealing so why even ask questions where the person answering is always going to try to make themselves look good. If you are enjoying this person’s company and you date again eventually it will all come to the surface. If you don’t see the person again then why clutter your brain with their silly responses?

I am not a question asker while dating… I would rather learn through natural conversations and observations while we spend time together. Question and answer sessions to me are just annoying.

DasVenus

May 13th, 2009
11:07 am

wassup, Melo?! see you still holding things down. came online cause M’K had hollered for me… ive been remiss in calling her back. i have a down day here at work so i thought i hang around and see if she came through.

whats new with you?? whats new here on the blog??

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
11:08 am

Cougar – Your 11:05 – that is SO what I have issues with, when folks ask me about kids before they even inquire if I’m married! Backwards – putting the cart before the horse!

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
11:09 am

170,000 ..could be worse he could be paying what Willie Gary pays. What is it like 200k plus a year for the twins with his mistress?

LIONESS

May 13th, 2009
11:10 am

EPO- I am not a question asker while dating… I would rather learn through natural conversations and observations while we spend time together. Question and answer sessions to me are just annoying.

I agree 1000%

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
11:10 am

I am not a question asker while dating… I would rather learn through natural conversations and observations while we spend time together. Question and answer sessions to me are just annoying.

EPO – I agree, I am the same way.

Raqi...38 Days to ML

May 13th, 2009
11:10 am

Who knows? It may tell you if he’s a treehugger or not

Poppa you are actually right. There is a lot that you can tell about a person just knowing certain things about them. And it could be things that some do not pay much attention to, but it could tell a life time of storys about them.

DasVenus

May 13th, 2009
11:12 am

OK… Professor… heres my rear-viewing: ‘you just say what you like, as long as we say goodbye…. blame it on me, say its my fault, say imma a liar a cheater that i broke your heart, i really don’t care, say what you want… just as long as we say goodbye’. real answer to the question as to why i am not in a relationship: cause i havent met anyone whose worth having me in their life. seriously.

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
11:14 am

@PoppaG that is a good one.

What are you doing to reduce your carbon footprint?

Melo

May 13th, 2009
11:14 am

being COY means you’re HIDING SOMETHING!”LOL!!

U are a manager at ur job.When an employee tells u they are waaay late coz of blah,blah,blah dont u,as the manager have ur own opinion of what may have happenned even after they have left,based on ur knwoledge of the employee,mannersim when they spoke to u,history etc??
Same thing here.
A simple qstion like “why u still single” will make some cringe,others just waffle their way attempting to answer and yet others seem offended by it…..
Its up to ur date to evaluate…..that was my point,no interrogation but i still have an opinion.

LIONESS- Desperation is a BIYATCH!

May 13th, 2009
11:14 am

Dating is not hard at all and I not sure why people put so much thought into.. Asking a million unnecessary questions like they are about to marry each other.. It is a date.. Goodness

anonymousella

May 13th, 2009
11:14 am

@raqi Would you rather they ask why are you still single or Do ever want/plan to get married?

i’d rather he asked “Do ever want/plan to get married?” if that’s what you’re looking for. even “are you single by choice or circumstance?” is a better way to ask the question than “why are you still single?”

plus “why are you single?” is a bit of a silly question when asked by someone who is also single. the answer is always some variation on “because things didn’t work out that way,” isn’t it?

i mean, if you are still single and child-free at 33 and don’t think something is wrong with you, then how can you imply that something is wrong with me? how about we acknowledge that we’re both crazy and move on to another topic?

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
11:19 am

that was my point,no interrogation but i still have an opinion.

Melo – And I was not denying you your right to an opinion, just expressing how I felt reading your post, and like I said before, IT AIN”T THAT DEEP! LOL!! All good, Melo!

Mo (aka Moeisha- looking for a new haircut)

May 13th, 2009
11:20 am

RandyT – Travis Henry is just beyond stoopid! C’mon man, 11 children, 10 baby mamas?!?! Seriously….and you want someone to have sympathy for you?!?! He is one of the people I say government should have forced to have a vasectomy….sorry ya’ll but when folk do ig’nant stuff repeatedly……

Kimmie/Cougar – i co-sign your posts!!

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
11:21 am

Not a question asker? Huh? I don’t see anything wrong with questions like what is your favorite restaurant/football team/ice cream flavor/porn star/day to monkey spank? Have you ever been to New York/California/the islands/on a cruise/to jail? How do I know these things if I don’t ask?

I don’t have to interview you like a Barbara Walters special, but I am going to ask some questions.

I like to call it conversation.

Professor

May 13th, 2009
11:21 am

@W8- I really like your approach as it relates to this question. Your approach is very genuine and needless to say it does not “fit” into that same tired question.

@ Melo- I have never been nervous or coy about this question just annoyed. Maybe I am annoyed because of the repetitiveness of the question. It seems like it is a standard question that lacks thought and is used over and over again. Personally I feel that there are other genuine more creative ways to get to know a person, besides using this old standard.

@ Kimmie- I concur. It is a date, not an interrogation, interview of polygraph test. Just let things flow naturally, and if you need to know more be genuine and creative in the questioning, but please remember it is a date.

IMO I think this comes down to your personality type and I tend to like for things to flow naturally. If we get to that point and things need to be addressed I like the way W8 put things…I can roll with that.

anonymousella

May 13th, 2009
11:24 am

@raqi only the first paragraph of my comment was specifically targeted to you, btw. sorry that wasn’t entirely clear.

Professor

May 13th, 2009
11:27 am

DasVenus…great lyrics…I just love that song and your response to the question is great.

Overall, when I state this I am talking about a first date setting. When I am asked this question, most guys assume that I am married to my career and start guessing and prejudging me, as if they did not hear my reply. I guess that is why I like for the conversation to flow because I feel they are truly getting me as a person. We are all complex and there is no square box to put me in, so let the first date flow and go from there.

Melo

May 13th, 2009
11:28 am

I like to call it conversation

Good point!! Its being spun here like the qstioner has a check list that they are ticking off from. :lol:

People!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It seems like it is a standard question that lacks thought and is used over and over again.
u damn right,that makes it easy.If they asked the same SAT qstions yr in and out,im sure kids wld luv it.Its an easy and innoicent qstion, but it unearth ’stuff’,sme comfortable to u,other no so comfy to the ear.
But i wld rather know today u are a lier based on my reading of ur eyes than know that,5 more dates later or worse!

Sassy Me....Oochey walley,walley...oochey bang,bang :-)

May 13th, 2009
11:30 am

Sassy,Sassy,Sassy! ;)

Hey Cougar Hunter Ggggrrrrrr(growling while typing)….you comin’ to get me ;)

Poppa Grande

May 13th, 2009
11:32 am

Raqi

I know that I am not a total treehugger, but I am not a litterer either.

The one commercial that I really stayed with me from childhood was one where this Native American man looked around and saw trash and a tear formed in his eye. I never wanted to may him cry..lol

Seriously though, I get what you are saying, and those question let things flow more naturally.

LIONESS- Desperation is a BIYATCH!

May 13th, 2009
11:32 am

Sassy- I LOVE that song..

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 13th, 2009
11:34 am

@Poppa Grande …that commercial did exactly the same for me. LOL.

Beautiful

May 13th, 2009
11:36 am

hey VENUS! sup ev1. JAZZY where you at chica?

i’m learning that questions are good. depending though on how personal they are. general questions like what SEXYCOOL said is ok. but i’d rather sit in the cut and let the person tell me on there own certain things. for example, i wouldn’t of known that married guy was married unless i asked. just my .02.

OBAMA had BET in the whitehouse last night. i bet some folks didn’t dig that at all! oh well . . .

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
11:37 am

But i wld rather know today u are a lier based on my reading of ur eyes than know that,5 more dates later or worse!

Melo – If someone is a good lier, your eye reading won’t work. Many folks can lie easy with a straight face. That’s why some questions just don’t work well. Suppose you mistook simple annoyance, like Professor said, for lying? If someone really has something to hide and is even halfway good at it, you are most likely not going to find out on a first date. I say relax, have fun and good conversation and let the wash reveal things. Just my opinion, mind you!LOL!!

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
11:37 am

Poppa G – ah, the Beautiful Land commercial. I always loved that commercial because the indian looked like he could be my grandmother’s brother.

I, too, do not litter. I recycle cardboard, newspapers/magazines and plastics at home. And I have those re-usable grocery store bags that I carry to Kroger with me faithfully.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 13th, 2009
11:37 am

PoppaG – that commercial got me too.

Last night, while at dinner, we had the ‘top 5 movies’ discussion. IMO, questions like that spark healthy conversation and be quite amusing. I still get talked about because I have never seen Friday in its entirety…

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
11:38 am

Now whether or not you are married can and will be asked, straight up front and you BETTER answer!

Melo

May 13th, 2009
11:39 am

All good Dasv,ill holla at u on side.

Poppa Grande

May 13th, 2009
11:39 am

RandyT

That commercial stuck with me for some reason..lol

And the Saturday morning Kid’s PSA regarding being a “yuckmouth” stuck with me too.

My wife is amazed at how crazy I am about keeping my mouth healthy. I’ve even told her that PSA kept me on the straight and narrow in oral health.

Sassy Me....Oochey walley,walley...oochey bang,bang :-)

May 13th, 2009
11:40 am

Sassy- I LOVE that song..

LIONESS me,too…it makes me wanna dance all naughty on one of those “scripper poles”.

Melo

May 13th, 2009
11:45 am

Many folks can lie easy with a straight face.

I am one of the lier right here who can do that!!!… but i wanna have the benefit of the doubt.The qstion is open ended and it is going to prompt discussion.We are talking of a person at 35 being asked why they single.That,in all honest cld prompt an answer spanning 10 yrs depending on the openness of the person.Thats a start.Other things u learn later if u mutually plan to go on other dates.Thats the whole idea.
But I do understand too the feelings of smebody who has been cut buddying for 10 yrs not to want to reveal that sordid history!! :lol:

LIONESS- Desperation is a BIYATCH!

May 13th, 2009
11:45 am

Sassy- LMAO!! Uh oh! Don’t hurt noBODY :)

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
11:56 am

@Melo – dude, I’ma need you to stop bragging about being a good liar. lol

Mo (aka Moeisha- looking for a new haircut)

May 13th, 2009
11:57 am

PoppaG – I loved that Yuckmouth PSA too!! some of those, along with School House Rock really stuck with me. I had to sing the Conjunction song in 9th grade for a test!

LIONESS- Desperation is a BIYATCH!

May 13th, 2009
11:58 am

If a person is a questioner, then the person being questioned is going to tell them what they assume the questioner wants to hear..

-W8 (the not so new guy)

May 13th, 2009
11:59 am

@Professor-Yeah trial and error has gotten me to the point I am at now. I’m still tripping because I am thinking of women’s intentions when I have been asked that in the past.

Melo

May 13th, 2009
12:01 pm

SexxyCl :lol: yeah, u know, im just talking about lying to my boss about my kid being sick when infact, i was at the interview for another job :lol:

Raqi...38 Days to ML

May 13th, 2009
12:02 pm

Tazzee I can remember if I asked you this once before but have you sailed with Silversea before?

Eileen

May 13th, 2009
12:03 pm

EPO – Agree… natural flow!! However, since I’m 46 yrs old and not one to waste time on something that won’t go anywhere… are you married, single (not living w/someone) or otherwise encumbered are questions asked rather quickly (if I’m even slightly interested). I don’t want to help you ease out of anything…

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
12:04 pm

Melo – Suppose you asked that question on a date and the lady looked you in the eye, revealing nothing and just said “It just hasn’t happened yet”, and left it at that. When you tried to pry further, you still got a vague answer. She reveals nothing in her eyes or mannerisms and keeps the conversation and the date light-hearted.

Maybe I am over-analyzing you Melo, but I am basing my responses to you today on your mindset you reveal on this blog. You think very traditional and you seem to be of the mindset that if a woman is not wifed & babyed by a certain age something is wrong. If she says she’s not interested in going the tradiional route or says she is happy with her life as is, you think she is just telling herself this to make herself feel better and justify her situation. You’ve actually said these things on the blog before, so I’m not projecting.

Thus I think your need to get that “why are you single” question answered and read her body language is an implication that you already assume something is wrong with her or that she has something to hide. And that’s what made me read your earlier post as an interrogation.

But hey, friendly banter and debate, not that serious!

Sister Marysue

May 13th, 2009
12:06 pm

All liars shall have their part in the lake of fire! Ahhhh glory!

Sassy Me....Oochey walley,walley...oochey bang,bang :-)

May 13th, 2009
12:11 pm

I think I’m just about over being your girlfriend…..I’m leaving…I’m leaving….

Mo (aka Moeisha- looking for a new haircut)

May 13th, 2009
12:13 pm

I am listening to that Chrisette Michelle too ya’ll….I like it

Poppa Grande

May 13th, 2009
12:15 pm

Mo

We just gave our niece the DVD set of Schoolhouse Rock collection for her 5th birthday.

I think that her parents enjoyed it more than she did..lol

Poppa Grande

May 13th, 2009
12:16 pm

I’ve had Chrisette’s CD for a week, but haven’t listened to it yet. I only got it when I did because it was 2.99 for the whole thing last week.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 13th, 2009
12:17 pm

Raqi no, never sailed with Silversea before. I haven’t even heard of them. Are you planning another cruise?

I like the Chrisette Michelle too – especially since I got it for $2.99

Mo (aka Moeisha- looking for a new haircut)

May 13th, 2009
12:20 pm

PoppaG – I was thinking about getting School House Rock on DVD for Lil Mo! Where did you get it?

abc

May 13th, 2009
12:21 pm

Not to beat the dead horse, but almost half of all AA women will never marry because they’ll not encounter a suitable candidate. Women could easily answer the question with that.

People stay single because that’s what they want. If marriage was what they wanted, that’s what they’d get. Here’s the thing: everyone gets what they deserve.

Everyone. Gets. What. They. Deserve.

SlimOne

May 13th, 2009
12:21 pm

Hello all. I have not attempted to read everyone’s post but I’ve been asked the question often. If they aren’t asking why no one has scooped me up yet, they are asking HOW MANY kids I have as opposed to IF I have any kids. Or if they ask about my last relationship they want to know what was wrong with me as to why he didn’t propose to me. I hate that one the most.

If yall aren’t still on topic, just disregard the above

Oh yeah, are my eyes playing tricks on me….I could’ve sworn I saw RELL up in this bytch. I thought he exiled himself.

LIONESS- Desperation is a BIYATCH!

May 13th, 2009
12:22 pm

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
12:22 pm

Who is Chrisette Michelle and will I like her? If it is anything like Beyonce then I will not. If it is mellow jazzy vocals yes. I can’t do that to the left crap. You go to the left Beyonce…way over there left.

SlimOne

May 13th, 2009
12:24 pm

abc

So women who aren’t married means that they don’t deserve to be married???

Melo

May 13th, 2009
12:26 pm

You think very traditional and you seem to be of the mindset that if a woman is not wifed & babyed by a certain age something is wrong

yes and no!! A woman that wants marriage and starts thinking about it early enough gets married(all things being equal)
But others want to get married later but get on with other things first. For example, career and school etc.I get that too.
And then there are others who wanted marriage but got it all wrong coz they didnt do it right….another story..
The stories are too numerous to chronicle and i am mindful of all that….
Ull be surprised at the nice, and beautiful chics i see and guess what:they are all wifed up!
So if i see one thats running solo and she 40,her story maybe in one of the categories i listed above,maybe not.And if she is clear and st8 forward in her head about what she wants NOW! and henceforth,she has no reason to be coy,just say it str8.
Either I am the one for her or iam not,no reason to lie to me inorder to keep me.
A woman can tell me anything she wants to tell me,truthfully or untruthfully.But iam free to make up my own mind after that!!
If u have a reason to be coy whilst on a date with long term potential,maybe its for good reason to U but not good enough for him to make a decision about U.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 13th, 2009
12:27 pm

Kym – mello jazzy vocals. Her voice reminds me of Leela James a little.

Speaking of – I need to get tickets to see Leela, I like her style.

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
12:27 pm

There alphabet man goes with the statistics again!

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
12:27 pm

Speaking of music.. does anyone know where I can download..a legal copy of Prince’s emancipation album..the three disks? i-Tunes does not have it.

Raqi...38 Days to ML

May 13th, 2009
12:29 pm

Yes Tazzee we are thinking about going in either December or February. The marido thinks we could maybe get a better deal if we make a reservation now. That could be true. However my friend Doc and her husband took a trip a few years back and the cruise line was foreclosed on in the middle of their trip. I can’t remember which line it was with. We really don’t want to put that kind of money out there and this economy gets worse and we lose it.

I saw the Silversea name on the amex site and my boss says he and his wife had a nice time sailing with them once. I checked out their site and it seems to be a nice line of ships.

Where is abc? He would probably know.

Leggs

May 13th, 2009
12:34 pm

Good afternoon everyone!

@DasV = Hello!

“Why am I single,” = cuz i don’t want to get married! Nothing wrong w/asking a person “the” question. I agree with all who said it’s not the question in it’s totality but more about how one responds!

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
12:35 pm

Melo – Cool, I see your point. I think the point me & other blog ladies are making, and even Fly Guy, is that after you’ve been asked the question a dozen times, it’s irritating. So whether I’m coy, evasive, cute or straight up with my answer, you get what you get when you ask such a question. You’re husbanded-up so you probably never have had to endure it or sit in that other seat and have to answer it for the 1000th time, so you don’t know. Life does not always work out how we all plan it, shoot 99% of the time it doesn’t. It does not make you feel any better when you have people constantly implying that something is wrong with you(if that’s the way you take it).

Just a different perspective.

Wise Diva

May 13th, 2009
12:37 pm

WOW, abc, how long did it take to go through his archives, LOL!! That’s hilarious. I am not sure what your cynicism is about in regards to guest bloggers, though. At any rate, I was told I could close the blog on my off weeks, if it was too much. I didn’t want to do that though! So, there is nothing to read between the lines, I am not auditioning anyone, it’s not even up to me who writes for the blog. :)

East Point's Own

May 13th, 2009
12:38 pm

SexyCool “Not a question asker? Huh? I don’t see anything wrong with questions like what is your favorite restaurant/football team/ice cream flavor/porn star/day to monkey spank? Have you ever been to New York/California/the islands/on a cruise/to jail? How do I know these things if I don’t ask? ”

I don’t care about any of that stuff until it comes up in a conversation. If we walk past an ice cream shop and we decide to get a scoop then I will find out what you like, even if you don’t order your favorite, I know what you like that day, eventually I will know your favorite, if we last that long. When the Falcons play and I am talking sh** about the other teams I am sure I wil find out what team you like if any…

Poppa Grande

May 13th, 2009
12:39 pm

Mo

Mrs. PG picked it up at Fry’s, I think. It was either there or Best Buy.

Leggs

May 13th, 2009
12:40 pm

@Kym, Chrisette Michelle has a unique voice. Her first album “If I Had It My way?” was on fire. This one, is okay. It didn’t get under my skin like her first one did.

-W8 (the not so new guy)

May 13th, 2009
12:42 pm

Poppa Grande

May 13th, 2009
12:43 pm

Tazzee

Ms. James gives a good show. You’d probably like it.

East Point's Own

May 13th, 2009
12:45 pm

Melo… (I think) Well many folks do seem to have a checklist of questions its like they rattle off 5 questions in a row and they have to be standard for that person since they come one after another its not conversation its interrogation. And if you date 5 people 3 of them will have the exact same questions practically word for word.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 13th, 2009
12:45 pm

Raqi – they foreclosed on the line in the middle of the cruise??? How did that affect their trip? That’s messed up. This will be my second year in a row not going on a cruise after a 5 year or so stint. You can probably get some sort of Amex protection if you book it now.

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
12:46 pm

@Kimmie – no husband here…at least not anymore.

@EPO – Dude, the way you read is making it sound deeper than it has to be. What about questions like…What’s your name? How are you? Are you single/available? Can I call you sometime? Would you like to go to dinner? How do those things just COME UP in conversation without questions?

Oh, wait, I know. Tell me your name. I can see that you are doing fine. You look single. I will be calling you because you’re going to give me your number. I’m taking you to Chow Baby’s Saturday night because I know you want to go out with me.

Wise Diva

May 13th, 2009
12:46 pm

Raqi, that is a good idea to have more regular readers guest blog.

Melo

May 13th, 2009
12:48 pm

Kimmie, u 40,if a guy stepped up to u and u talk and he gets it that u 40 and he likes u and u plan a date,trust me,its already in hiz mind that u proly divorced.
HE will confirm or want to confrim that as u sit down to munch ur treats. :lol:
Now its on u to lie to him and get away with it or tell him the truth and let the pieces fall where-ever they may.
If it irritates u to answer it,he may see that to but wonder why…
U blog women here talk all the time of not wanting drama etc,i thoght u wld be the 1st to want all those cards on deck!

East Point's Own

May 13th, 2009
12:48 pm

The one that killed me was when being “in the closet” was the issue du jour… literally every woman I met for a good 6 months asked some stupid question about “are you in the closet?” I want to know what person who is “in the closet” would say yes to that? I mean common sense says they will deny it.

And the other killer is when I say I am single and the chick keeps telling me that I am not… I mean last time I checked I was single, so I don’t need to debate you about that… If you think I am too good to be single then I guess you are just saying that I am too god for you…???

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 13th, 2009
12:50 pm

abc….I normally never agree with you…but when you said, “People stay single because that’s what they want. If marriage was what they wanted, that’s what they’d get,” I had to agree 100%…at least from my experience. People don’t understand that I am perfectly happy being single. When I say that people say that I just say that but deep down it’s not true. I’m like…WTH…so now you know me bloody well you can tell what I feel in my gut? Only God & I know that so p*ss off! :lol: I also get tired of hearing…”you just haven’t met that right man”! Bullshyt…did it ever occur to you that such does not exist? Or hell..maybe just I do not want him to exist. Hello…earth to dumb azz…I know it’s much for a small mind to comprehend…but not everyone is longing to be in a relationship. I respect it for those who really want it and makes all the sacrifices and does all the work to keep it together. But I am just not one. And I would like the same respect of my viewpoint and feelings. But of course I will never get it because “society” says since I am a woman…I am longing to be married, knocked up and an obedient zombie for some control freak man! Oh well…as I always say….”Middle finga’ to the nay sayers…I march to the beat of my own d*mn drum”! Now listen to my 808’s! :lol:

Melo

May 13th, 2009
12:50 pm

since they come one after another its not conversation its interrogation.

EPO and hw is it that they want to know all about u but not u about them???
U must not be taking them for a serious date then??

LIONESS- Desperation is a BIYATCH!

May 13th, 2009
12:50 pm

EPO- Once again, I agree 1 million %

Poppa Grande

May 13th, 2009
12:52 pm

Raqi

Carnival has a sale going on right now.

We are taking an Eastern Caribbean cruise in August. It goes to St. John, St Lucia, etc.

LIONESS- Wondering..

May 13th, 2009
12:53 pm

Melo- What is a serious date?

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

May 13th, 2009
12:53 pm

@Sassy
Hey Cougar Hunter Ggggrrrrrr(growling while typing)….you comin’ to get me!

Yeeesss I am coming to get ya Ms. Sassy! :wink:

Chrisette Michelle is nice! :smile:

@PG That was a great commercial about polluting! Adter seeing that commercial I always throw trash in a garbage can nor would I let anyone around throw trash out on the ground!

@PG have you recover from seeing your Hawks get demolished?

abc

May 13th, 2009
12:54 pm

Try reading your own blog, WD, or perhaps that of those you endorse — I already stated, and it’s evidenced on Fly’s site, that the story is on his front page. I looked at his site for all of 2 minutes. It didn’t take much longer than that for my jive alarm to go off.

Slim, in general, people have the car, live in the house, have a social scene, a relationship status, etc., that they deserve. There are exceptions to everything, but in general, it is a truism.

Raqi, I’ve never sailed Silversea. They’re a niche luxury market. I’m more of a discounted RCCL kind of guy. Never NCL or Carnival!

Raqi...38 Days to ML

May 13th, 2009
12:54 pm

I don’t care about any of that stuff until it comes up in a conversation

EastPoint is that not what conversation is? If you are not talking about your likes/dislikes, interest and whatnot, exactly what is the conversation?

East Point's Own

May 13th, 2009
12:55 pm

SexyCool All those questions come before the first date… LoL. But for real though asking all the monkey *** questions about what’s your favorite this and that,blah, blah, blah, is a waste of time on me, because I will not remember jack you say…I learn best by experience not by listening.
By talking about things other then the two people on the date, you learn so much more and its usually more real information since you can’t really have prepared answers about random topics.

I have not said anybody was wrong by asking questions, just saying that it does not work for me… there have been plenty of dates where I sit through the interrogation and answer all the questions and not ask a single question in return, and then they ask why am I not asking questions and I respond as I have here, I will learn what I need to know as we spend time together.

Raqi...38 Days to ML

May 13th, 2009
12:57 pm

Tazzee every one had to take a plane home from the port that the ship got directed to. Yeah that was messed and I think she said they were only 3 days into the trip. And I think she said they did not get reimbursed for the cruise but they did get the money back for their plane tickets.

Melo

May 13th, 2009
12:59 pm

Melo- What is a serious date?

More often than not,Guys will go on dates with chics just coz they wanna smash!! Girlz,on the other hand will see a nice dude,go on a date thinking,hes a potential catch.
But again,guys will upgrade a chick even when the original intention may have been diffrnt.
Just my experience.
The seriousness is in each party’s head.

Poppa Grande

May 13th, 2009
12:59 pm

Cougar

have you recover from seeing your Hawks get demolished?

I am actually a Spurs fan, first and foremost. I am more upset with Manu than the Hawks.

However, I do root for the hometeam as well.

I recovered just fine. I was irritated with some of their decisions.

If they weren’t a helter skelter team in the first place, I’d say that they were demolished. Cleveland didn’t do anything that the ‘08 Celtic or ‘09 Heat didn’t do. The Hawks either win big or they lose big. There is no in between.

As I said before, they progressed.

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
12:59 pm

$6.47 for a cup of vegetable soup & a fried chicken breast! It will be a very long time before I eat in that cafeteria again!

I recall a date I went on several years ago. A good friend introduced me to this Air Force guy. Like the date Fly Guy described, all was going very well – we were having a nice dinner, listening to great jazz and good conversation. I don’t know how we got on the subject because I did not bring it up or ask, but Mr. Air Force said that he never wanted to get married. I said, “Oh really”, and he was emphatic about it. I did not ask why, just went on talking about something else, but it stuck in my mind. I kept things light-hearted. I would talk to him from time to time and go out occasionally but kept things as best I could at arms length. It frustrated him and finally he asked why I seemed to be holding back. I reminded him of what he said about marriage. I told him I respected his decision, but marriage was something I definitely wanted and I was not trying to change his mind so best to keep it light. He tried to twist it around and said some crazy stuff about not talking to a woman about marriage until he was ready to buy a ring! I told him how could he and any woman ever even get to that point if you close the gate upfront! I told him I never try to change a person and take them for their word. He pleaded with me that he was serious and I reluctantly agreed to date him on a more serious level. But things were never right and his behavior would reveal at times that he really felt as he said on that first date. From that moment on that first date on, a cloud seemed to be over us over the course of that year. Why didn’t I stick to my original course of action with him? Why didn’t he just keep his mouth shut and get to know me and decide if he wanted to proceed further?

The world will never know!LOL!!

LIONESS- Wondering..

May 13th, 2009
1:04 pm

Kimmie- We must work in the same building..

Wise Diva

May 13th, 2009
1:05 pm

abc, well yea, I can endorse him and his writing because I thought his site/writing was relevant and entertaining, dating from the male perspective. I considered it along the same lines of what I write here, but from the male perspective. He has guest blogged for us before. I get the point you were making, though.

Melo

May 13th, 2009
1:05 pm

A good friend introduced me to this Air Force guy

U must work for Invesco!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Poppa Grande

May 13th, 2009
1:05 pm

abc

I’ve never had any problems with Carnival. I just choose wisely. Don’t go during Spring Break or Senior Trip time. I think that they now have a rule that anyone under 21 has to be accompanied by an adult.

Royal Carribbean was cool, too.

I had a friend that booked with one of the niche lines and the line went under and there was a major fight getting that money back. Dateline NBC was even called in, but I don’t think that they ever did the story.

Sybil

May 13th, 2009
1:08 pm

Along this same note, I cannot STAND this…..

Dude: So, tell me about yourself.

Me: What do you want to know?

Dude: What do you want to tell me?

LAME AS ALL GET OUT.

These days, if I get that, it goes like this:

Dude: So tell me about yourself.

Me: (Crickets accompanied by gas fas, then a laugh) Get outta here with that. Is that your best conversation starter?

Raqi...38 Days to ML

May 13th, 2009
1:09 pm

Yeah abc Silversea and Regent are both more prissy than the others.

Poppa no Carnival. This is going to be our after-birth trip so we want to go with something that is more of the adult scene. I was told Carnival is the fun ship. I think Tazzee confirmed that for me last time.

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
1:11 pm

Lioness – We probably do.

Melo – Not Invesco. I work for a major telecommunications company though. A classmate of mine works for Invesco though, wonder if she still works for them?

LIONESS- Wondering While Chewing Gum

May 13th, 2009
1:12 pm

Sybil- I TOTALLY feel you! I would respond the same way if I was asked “Why are you single?’” Stupid irrelevant question..

Poppa Grande

May 13th, 2009
1:13 pm

Raqi

No problem. Royal Carribean had ice rinks, and things on it. It was cool, too. I have a really good friend that is Chef on RCCL and his brother is a musician on one of Carnival (performs in one of their so-called Vegas Style shows).

Word on the street is that they are considering a consolidation into one big cruise line. They are really suffering because people who don’t have houses or jobs don’t go on vacations.

Raqi...38 Days to ML

May 13th, 2009
1:14 pm

WiseDiva I think it not only be fun but will participant see just how difficult it can be to write an entire entry that generate responding comments.

East Point's Own

May 13th, 2009
1:15 pm

Melo It’s not that I don’t want to know about them… its just that I don’t learn that way, I have to see and experience it, hearing it does nothing for me, and also people will say anything… I want you to show me. I do want to know about them, but I do not expect to learn all about them while eating this creme brulee or drinking this cognac. It takes time… over time you will learn all these things.

Raqi I care more about what a woman thinks about the world, future expectations, experiences than I do about what she likes/dislikes ( at least for the first few dates) Ultimately the superficial questions don’t matter, if you like vanilla, and the color red, and hate shrimp are not going to be deal breakers… but if you can’t hold an intelligent conversation, or you feel like racism is dead, or you don’t understand how to manage money, those will be deal breakers. And the dealbreakers are not necessarily things that I would ask you directly, but conversation about general world issues/ current events will bring that out. I don’t want to talk about myself, nor her you talk about yourself while on a date… If we get to the point where we can just chill and spend time together which is not a technically a “date” then I think we have earned the right to ask whatever.

Actually I like that… you should have to earn the right to ask superficial questions…

But this is all just my approach… I am not knocking anybody else but that’s how I B.

Poppa Grande

May 13th, 2009
1:16 pm

My experience on Carnival has been with more elderly folks and that Bingo stuff.

But then again, I have never taken a trip shorter than 8 days. Retired folks have time to travel like that.

For Real

May 13th, 2009
1:24 pm

On topic: Every person that’s dating has a question they are tired of hearing and for every question you are tired of hearing you have asked a tiring question. So I say slap the ish out of someone on the first date and see what response you get. If they ask whyyyyyyyy tell them you were trying something new. I mean really is Why are you single? any different than why you where weave?, why can’t you tuck your shirt in? why are you wearing one contact?, why didn’t you brush your tongue? why are wearing a size 6 shoe when you are a 12? why haven’t you done anything about the gap in your teeth? why does it take me 8 dates to get some but everybody else does it in 3? why are your hands ashy? why are you lips white? why not just buss that bump? why in the hell would kiss someone with luther lips? why would a 40 year old man wear a jersey on a first date? why do i get the feeling this is not the first time you left your wallet? why you order so much food, you trying to feed your kids on the sly? why are you out with me when you know you don’t like me? why is your throat so big? why not just go bald? why can’t you see that everyone doesn’t have pretty feet? why is this clown sitting at my table? why are you still wearing those shoes and your feet is bleeding?

abc said JIVE!!! – Oh and you don’t deserve a thing. You only get what you earn.

Sybil

May 13th, 2009
1:24 pm

BTW – I’m back to ONE L today. lol.

DasVenus

May 13th, 2009
1:26 pm

hello, LEGGS?? how are you and baby-gurl doing?? chrisettes latest had to grow on me i will admit…. im really just hanging out waiting on laura izibor’s new album scheduled for release in june. i love everything ive heard from her!

Mo (aka Moeisha- looking for a new haircut)

May 13th, 2009
1:29 pm

For Real – why is your neck so big?!?!? HILARIOUS!!! OMG my stomach is hurting at that one!!

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 13th, 2009
1:29 pm

PoppaG – I had to learn about the senior trip time on the cruises. Unfortunately my birthday falls around senior trip time, so no more birthday cruises for me.

Raqi – yeah, Carnival is the fun ship – they have a better karaoke selection ;-)

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
1:32 pm

For Real – You are crazy!LOL!! I am about to choke over here!

I thought about you this morning. They played Prince’s Sign of the Times jam this morning. I love that song, the lyrics and the instrumentals. I was thinking it might be cool for Prince to do a remake of that song. You know how he references AIDS & the Challenger explosion, etc.? He could remake it referencing more recent historical events.

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
1:32 pm

I just wanna say that I think it’s awfully interesting that the IT Nazis here at work have managed to block d@mn near every one of my goof off sites except ESPN.com.

Melo

May 13th, 2009
1:33 pm

its just that I don’t learn that way, I have to see and experience it

translation:if every nice chick u were attracted to accpeted ur date,u wld go on dates with them,even if they had 5 kids and/but u dnt date baby mamas but u dont know that they do,do u????(coz u didnt ask qstions) HA :)

Melo

May 13th, 2009
1:37 pm

EPO, if she got 5 kids,u dont even ask that qstion ‘why are u still single” Its Not appropriate.

U ask ” why are u so much in production” :grin:

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
1:38 pm

Melo – If she had 5 kids, I don’t see how she could hide that for long!LOL!!

Leggs

May 13th, 2009
1:40 pm

She’s doing great…first summer track meet officially starts this Saturday and Sunday. Another dreadful “the” question is “how come you don’t have a car?” Answers can range from DUI, don’t know how to drive (lol), sharing w/baby mama, it’s her week, or too many points on my license and it’s been suspended, etc. I jest, I swear, I jest! Kinda sorta!

abc

May 13th, 2009
1:41 pm

Carnival is the Party ’til you Puke Ship, not my scene. Carnival owns Princess, Holland America, Costa Cruises, Cunard Line and The Yachts of Seabourn; of those, I only avoid Carnival itself. Holland America is nice, very older crowd, average passenger age somewhere around 55-60, I would guess — that’s just a guess. Celebrity looks okay, never been on one, though. Princess is great, so is RCCL, for Carribean cruises. I recommend porting out of San Juan for Eastern and Southern Carribean itineraries. The flight isn’t that long, and costs not much more than flights to Miami. Discounted balcony rooms and small suites go for under $1500 each for a 7 day cruise. Book far enough in advance, it could be under $1000 each, plus excursions, air fare, tips, whatever you’ll spend… it’s a nice 7 day vacation for 2 for under $5K.

Norwegian Cruise Lines deserves to be boycotted because they lie about classic liners they own, saying they’ll allow them to be converted into hotel/casinos like the old Queen Mary at Long Beach, then selling them to scrap merchants in India. The SS France was broken apart for scrap; the SS United States will eventually meet the same fate. Boycott NCL and any line owned by Star/Orient cruise lines.

East Point's Own

May 13th, 2009
1:53 pm

THis chick just told me that she will ” be single until she’s married” I asked her what man would marry a woman who says that? I mean how do you get to popping the question knowing your girl is doing what she do until you walk down the aisle… that’s a load of crap.. sadly she is about the 3rd woman I have heard say this, and I was told that TD Jakes was the first to spout off about this phenomena… (single til married) either he has lost his bald headed mind, or they misunderstood what his intent was, and they just heard the part that sounded good to them… anybody know the deal on how this term started???

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 13th, 2009
1:55 pm

Afternoon folks.

On topic: Sorry buy i just dont see a problem with the question. Am I missing something here?

ABC, man you are bringing it today. Funny ish. Who writes your material?

I’m with you on the you get what you deserve. Folks doing everything single and wondering why they cant get married. Act as if.

Das baby, whats up sugar plumb. Those ninja’s are off limits. I dont need that kind of heat. I hear now that some are men cross dressing. This place is a riot.

Kuwait chronicals: An american employee of ITT got caught with alcohol and they want to hang him.

Another ITT employee beat up a Kuwaiti and he has to either pay $50,000 or go to jail. No, he cant just fly out, his passport is flagged.

Staceye, you are a riot LMAO

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
1:56 pm

EPO – I don’t know for sure, but maybe it means they won’t do the do until married. I am not familiar with a lot of TD Jakes work, but telling them to do what they want until married does not sound like him.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 13th, 2009
1:57 pm

hanging for alcohol?!?!? That’s messed up.

$50k for fighting and winning?!?!?! WOW!!!

The Truth how are you sweetie?

Melo

May 13th, 2009
2:00 pm

Kimmie,proly not but i wld rather not give her a chance on one date.

These shld be the ones EPO screens out automatically and dumps,if he only asked simple qstions.

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
2:04 pm

Thanks for the info W8 I will look up the site later. Are talking about cruises now? Was suppose to go this Turkey Day but looks like I will be heading to the Smokies of either Turkey Day or Chirstmas. Anyone know of any good cabins in the Smokies? I wonder if our travel agent can find me something or…I know of a discount site for public servants. Wonder if they have something in mountains?

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 13th, 2009
2:07 pm

TRUTH…you had better hold your tongue and don’t even think of alcohol while you are there man.

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
2:07 pm

Well damn Truth. Hanging for the alcohol how did he get it if it is a dry country. I mean I am sure you can find it but still..why go through the trouble of death for a buzz. No comment on the cross-dressing. Oh by the by I am getting my Kindle the first week of June.
***NEW GADGET!!!**

Paul McCartney

May 13th, 2009
2:08 pm

only my love does it good to me (to meeee)
Oooowooo my love (woooo)
oooowoooo my love
only my love does it good to me (to meeee)
oooooowooo my love (wooooo)
ooooowoo my love, only my love does it good (break) tooooo me
wooah wooah wooah wooah oooah ooooah
Paul McCartney

Raqi...38 Days to ML

May 13th, 2009
2:09 pm

Tazzee, abc & Poppa Doc says it was Premier Cruise Line that left them stranded.

Poppa Grande

May 13th, 2009
2:10 pm

Kym

Was suppose to go this Turkey Day but looks like I will be heading to the Smokies of either Turkey Day or Chirstmas. Anyone know of any good cabins in the Smokies?

Call someone and get a safe spot for sure. There has been an abnormal amount of black bear attacks in the Appalachian Trail so far this year. There was a story about it on the news last night. They have even closed parts of it (The Appalachian Trail) here to overnight camping in GA. They will only let you

There seems to be a higher population of black bears right now than normal (they have even been spotted as far south as Cumberland Mall and I 285)and they are attracted to the food in the tents and cabins. Not as many hibernated this winter either.

Do you camping but be safe.

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 13th, 2009
2:14 pm

Hey Tazzy, I’m cool. Just getting settled in here. Its all cool but crime doesnt pay here, in alot of different ways.

I see you stay on the entertainment/sports/music thing. Thats cool. I like that. Its nice to be able to get some culture. Secret between you and I. I’ve always wanted to catch an opera. I’m going to do it when I get back. May even pick up a tux for the occasion. Glad nobody could read that because that kind of info could damage my tough guy image.

Btw, yesterday i picked up a Deoin Sanders throwback jersey, Emmitt Smith and the New York Yankees. This place is stocked with that kind of stuff. LOL

ABC, find some more stats to post. That ish has me hollering.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 13th, 2009
2:16 pm

Truth – Ooh! Can you get me a Deion throwback? That is, if it doesn’t cost too much. I want to catch an opera too – haven’t been to one since I’ve been grown, went as a kid. Let me know when you want to go, I like getting dressed up.

Beautiful

May 13th, 2009
2:16 pm

a date lying to you is just an indication that he doesn’t care for you, he has other plans, and he doesn’t care to take the relationship far. jmo.

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
2:20 pm

Truth – Um huh, there you go. When I wanted to take in some culture, you told me you were too hard & street to do stuff like that and that it would make you look SOFT! Now you taking other women to the opera & even renting a 007 tux for the evening! Dang you dog me!

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
2:21 pm

We are camping at High Falls in June. The winter will be cabin camping. And we are always cautious we camp in a group. Bobcats, Raccoons, Bears. We are visitors to their home and since we visit them we have to give the right of way.

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 13th, 2009
2:22 pm

Kym, honest I saw a cat in line to get on post today with the new one. I had never saw it before. He said he cant download out of america so he hooks it up to his computer and transfer them. Says books cost about 1-10 bucks. Congrats on the pick up. I was going to get you one but since you already found one I’ll let you do your thang.

Staceye, the fellas that came in my group are getting their passports back as we speak so I’ll have mine prolly this week. If so by the end of the month I’m hitting Dubai and I’m going to drink coke and crown til i urinate on myself, then I’ll ask for doubles.

On marriage, if you want to be married why dont you start acting like a wife/husband should act? Feel free to discuss amongst yourself.

Poppa Grande

May 13th, 2009
2:22 pm

Raqi

I never used them. I don’t much about them.

abc

I heard bad things about Norwegian, too. I never used them either.

But, I just thought it was my friends just bad mouthing the competition.

My favorite cruise probably was a Mediterranean cruise. The Alaskan one was nice, too. (I guess that I have had one less than 8 b/c it was the shortest one).

Tazzee

I learn the hard way, myself.

Football season ends in February (December for Cincy). So, the first part of the year was when I took most cruises. March/April is Spring Break time (I didn’t have money for any of that when I was in college…San Padre Island for Spring Break must be nice.)

We picked August for this trip because school should be in for most colleges. Hopefully, no hurricanes. August is a big time for hurricanes.

I just didn’t want to go anywhere near Mexico this time. They can keep that R2D2 flu. I don’t need it.

Tmac

May 13th, 2009
2:24 pm

Staceye AKA Black Mamba—–Just out of cureousity….if your reason for being single is not because cant find somebody for many sorta of reasons that many of us here are singles and as you said you just WANT TO BE SINGLE and no itnerest in being relationship and perefectley FINE with being single, WHY ARE YOU HERE IN A VERY TOPIC OF LIFE THAT YOU DESPISE, NOT INTERESTED, AND NO PLANS IN BEING…..

I mean when I do go to ESPN.com I tend to go to either NBA and/or FOOTBALL tab and never seen what the HOOKEY (not sure if i even spell it right) page looks like…..get the drift….

Somethimes the society has a point and no matter how outlaw you want to be and try defying what society has to say, its what it is.

LIONESS- Wondering While Chewing Gum

May 13th, 2009
2:27 pm

Tmac- Going hard huh? Interesting..

Poppa Grande

May 13th, 2009
2:27 pm

Kym

And we are always cautious we camp in a group. Bobcats, Raccoons, Bears.

Bobcats! I had a bad experience with one of those things as kid playing in the woods as a child.

I can vouch that those things don’t play. That adrenaline induced run started my athletic career.

LIONESS- Wondering While Chewing Gum

May 13th, 2009
2:28 pm

PG- LMAO @ -> That adrenaline induced run started my athletic career.

Tmac

May 13th, 2009
2:30 pm

Like Melo says,

if you are woman, 35+, no baby, not divorced, not a widow, full functioning health,
1. you dying for a companionship
2. you are in denial in public and do it forcfully
3. the older you get, the worest it gets you being defensive

Staceye, sorry, no matter how defensive you become, you cant change facts of life…AGAIN, ITS WHAT IT IS.

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
2:30 pm

@Truth

WAIT WAIT WAIT NOW HOLD ON!! Lets not be hasty. Now if you were going to get me one by all means don’t let me stop your generous nature. I mean 359.00 saved is well 359.00 saved. I would also like the little leather cover too.

East Point's Own

May 13th, 2009
2:32 pm

Melo there are a gazillion questions to ask someone how do you know which to ask to screen a person out? I mean I would never think to ask a chick ” so do you believe that you are single til you are married?” But it came out in a conversation all by itself. When you ask a question a person can answer how they want to… when a person speaks freely 9 times out of 10 they are telling you how they feel/think unless they are a conpulsive liar and they can’t help but to lie all the time… LoL

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 13th, 2009
2:33 pm

Tazz, done. There so cheap here its ridiculous. I wont tell you the price though because I want you to think I spent alot. (The Truth now standing in his big baller pose)

Send me a mailing addie and your size.

Kimmie poo poo. i wanted to take you my love puppet but didnt think you’d like it. you know you can get a little HOOD. I’ll rent a video and watch one with you. Smooches my little lolli pop.

Btw, its cheaper to buy a tux than rent one. Jos A Banks has a nice one and you can get the whole set for little of nothing. Something else I want to do is go ballroom dancing but I have to learn how first. Wouldnt want to go out there moonwalking. I could wear the tux there too. I just bought a dinner jacket about 8 months before I left. First chick i cook for when i get back im throwing it on.

Sassy Me....Oochey walley,walley...oochey bang,bang :-)

May 13th, 2009
2:33 pm

Tmac- Going hard huh? Interesting..

LIONESS aint he girl? :) The baby tryin’ leave him alone ’cause I know Staceye ’bout to rip him a nice, new one.

Cougar if you comin’ for me please be gentle….nah never mind I need to be seen….I’ve been a naughty girl daddy ;)

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
2:34 pm

People have to practice leave no trace camping. They act like they are on a picnic sometimes when really you can’t leave food and stuff lying around. They have poles for you to hoist your trash on and trash cans with steel lids to keep the critters out.

LIONESS- Wondering While Chewing Gum

May 13th, 2009
2:36 pm

EPO- We may be in a class by ourselves..

-W8 (the not so new guy)

May 13th, 2009
2:36 pm

East Point's Own

May 13th, 2009
2:37 pm

hmmmm According to a USA newspaper website Iceland, Sweded, Norway, France, Denmark, and the UK all have a higher rate of births to single mothers than the US (40%)… hmmmm….

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
2:37 pm

@TMAC – Kick rocks with that 230p post. Everybody’s facts ain’t the same.

Poppa Grande

May 13th, 2009
2:37 pm

Kym

One foolish chick saw bears cubs and made an attempt to pet them…..(you know what happened next)…lol

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
2:38 pm

EPO- We may be in a class by ourselves..

Lioness – I’m in that class with you. It’s all really not hard to understand either!LOL!!

East Point's Own

May 13th, 2009
2:39 pm

LIONESS Maybe so… hey I am a LION… LOL I went to Westlake High & mascot = Lions

LIONESS- Wondering While Chewing Gum

May 13th, 2009
2:42 pm

Kimmie- ;)

EPO- Oh ok.. I am a Leo :)

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 13th, 2009
2:42 pm

I have got to get something off my chest. Monday the blog was about whether a gal should reveal her past to her new serious SO. Ever since then something has been running thru my head that I know I am going to regret mentioning. It was this:

“She ain’t got no cherry,
but that ain’t no sin
she’s still go the box
that the cherry came in!”

From (drumroll please) Doug Clark and the Hot Nuts

That has been running thru my head ever since Monday. LOL Sorry!!!

Sassy Me....Oochey walley,walley...oochey bang,bang :-)

May 13th, 2009
2:43 pm

if you are woman, 35+, no baby, not divorced, not a widow, full functioning health,
1. you dying for a companionship
2. you are in denial in public and do it forcfully
3. the older you get, the worest it gets you being defensive

Tmac pump the brakes ’cause you’re speeding in a lane I don’t think you really want to be in bruh. What makes you think that women who fit that criteria you just listed are dying for companioship? Are YOU still still single at almost 30?…..WHY? As it was stated earlier it’s all about choices and the mindset…if you wanna get married and have that mindset then push on BUT if you don’t and that’s what you choose then do you. There are some women desperate to get married but we’re not all like that. Get it. You new to this blog but don’t get your azz busted. Better yet, I think you need to suit up an dput on your blog vest and duck ’cause it’s comin’ :twisted:

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 13th, 2009
2:44 pm

got not go typo

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 13th, 2009
2:44 pm

Kym, for some reason your posts are coming in garbled. Dam kuwaiti internet. 2 towelhaeds splicing wires together. If you can read this enjoy your kundle and send me a smoke signal when you get it.

Tmac, why cant she just enjoy being single? it is possible. Not everyone is made for relationships and some folks just want to spend time alone. Btw, take shelter because a storms a comin. LOL

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
2:49 pm

Truth – Why you igging me again! I said I wanted to go to the opera witchu!LOL!!

By the way, we’re testing for orange senior this Saturday. Things been going slow, but still going!

Melo

May 13th, 2009
2:49 pm

I would never think to ask a chick ” so do you believe that you are single til you are married?”

I neva asked those qstions when dating…that wld by implication mean the chick was a keeper.I was the blood hound basically,alwayz went in for blood untill i saw smething serious about the girl then i wld upgrade her status.
I got married by accident :lol: The girl found ME!! My people said,”keep her”.
I concured. :grin:

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 13th, 2009
2:50 pm

TRUTH…my God have you not seen what happens to you when you get drunk in a foreign country? Check out my Facebook and see my very on PSA at to why NOT to do that! :lol: I have never been drunk in my life except that one time in Mexico. So screw band camp…I have to say, “and this one time…in Mexico… :lol:

TMAC…cause it’s fun to hear everybody’s thoughts! :lol:

Blow Me

May 13th, 2009
2:51 pm

I got the Chrisette Michelle cd…but I am not FULLY involved just yet. I love her single though. Ciara cd plain out sucks!

Tmac

May 13th, 2009
2:52 pm

aight cyber bullies,

I said what I said and I am standing by it….

Sassy Me….Oochey—–first you need to READ before YOU react. I said 35++ and you try to use my age which is far from 35++ as example to discredit what I have to say. NOT RIGHT.

AGAIN I STAND BY MY COMMENT, IF YOU QUALIFY ON WHAT I SAID, YOU CAN READ IT HERE ON THIS BLOG(TAKING BREAK FROM CUPIC.COM OR EHARMONEY), THAT IS WHO YOU ARE……admit it. No amount of word can give you a shield in who you are…

Sassy Me....Oochey walley,walley...oochey bang,bang :-)

May 13th, 2009
2:54 pm

Tmac, why cant she just enjoy being single? it is possible. Not everyone is made for relationships and some folks just want to spend time alone. Btw, take shelter because a storms a comin.

Yeah fool…..what Truthsaid……you know you just phucked up right?

LIONESS- Wondering While Chewing Gum

May 13th, 2009
2:55 pm

Is this the SAME Tmac that never dated a black girl? If so, WOW! You have grown up REALLY quickly. Must have invested in an upgraded version of the blog vest..

Tmac

May 13th, 2009
2:56 pm

Staceye,

dont you have a hobby, like politics, sport, travel, miniature, I dunno..something. ’cause there is a blog for any topic of interest on like these days and I see no ‘FUN’ in hearding peoples thought of something I AM NOT INTERESTED….

abc

May 13th, 2009
2:59 pm

Raqi, Premier had been on the way out for a long time. Their business was largely based on being the ‘Official Cruise Line of Disney World’ but when Disney built their own ships, that left the Big Red Boats out, and they were doomed — it was just a matter of time. Their ships were pretty old, one of them was a classic liner that wound up getting scrapped in India, a darn shame, it was the old Eugenio C/Edinburgh Castle/Big Red Boat II. Scrapping the classics is terribly saddening to me, I love the big beautiful boats so. Check the links:

http://www.ssmaritime.com/brb-eugeniocosta2.jpg
http://www.ssmaritime.com/brb-edcastle3.jpg
http://www.ssmaritime.com/brb1sml.jpg
http://www.ssmaritime.com/brb-alang-kaushal-trivedi.jpg

I worked on a Big Red Boat, S/S Atlantic, in the Carribean. Premier sold it about a year before their bankruptcy, and it’s still in service, on the Genoa – Durban South Africa run. It got attacked by the Somalian pirates a few weeks ago, it’s now named MSC Melody. Interesting to see it in the news, the old girl is still afloat.

Melo

May 13th, 2009
2:59 pm

Yeah,TMAC,i defend ur right to say what u wanna say as long as u defend ur logic!

In this joint, u can either be a lurker on some topics,like some here do,jelly up and be politically correct or dish it up raw,upset some folks but insist on that alone and have ur own identity.
I support the latter.

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
3:01 pm

For the record, TMAC, your 230p did not anger or offend me. I just found it to be an example of LIMITED THINKING – since you seem to rather fond of typing in ALL CAPS.

I certainly respect your right to your opinion – however limited and uninformed it may be. After all, opinions are quite like @ssholes. Everyone either has one or is one.

Leggs

May 13th, 2009
3:03 pm

@Tmac, this is what you said “Like Melo says,

if you are woman, 35+, no baby, not divorced, not a widow, full functioning health”! Someone’s always trying to backpedal on this street!

-W8 (the not so new guy)

May 13th, 2009
3:03 pm

I like the 35+ plus woman crowd, with a child but thats not mandatory. She knows what she wants who she is and is determined..plus I know plenty of women 35+ who had kids and look all of 28..my advice to you guys, Do not sleep on the 35+ women..

Sassy Me....Oochey wally,wally...oochey bang,bang :-)

May 13th, 2009
3:03 pm

Tmac are for phuckin’ real dude? Nucca don’t come for me dude ‘caue you won’t like it. Imma let you use your get outta jail free card on this one. I’m not trying to use your age for anything…how stupid is that? Did I lie?…you are almost 30 and as single as the day is long so that’s why I asked YOU the same question….does that make you desperate or abnormal ’cause you’re not booed up or married with children….HELLZ NAW AND IT’S THE SAME WITH WOMEN YOU FOOL! That was my point. That blanket azz bullshyt you posted does not cover all women. AND IF YOU GONNA TRY TO GO OFF ON THIS BLOG LEARN HOW TO SPELL!!! GREEN AZZ PHUCK BOY…..WOOSAH.

-W8 (the not so new guy)

May 13th, 2009
3:05 pm

Well that’s just not attractive Sassy..lol

LIONESS- Wondering If Everyone Is Reading the Same Comments

May 13th, 2009
3:06 pm

LIONESS- Wondering while eating an Apple..

May 13th, 2009
3:08 pm

Green Azz Phuck Boy.. WOW!! That is a FIRST! LMAO!

Melo

May 13th, 2009
3:08 pm

TMAC..???.u there buddy?? I dont see the light on,u sleeping?

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
3:09 pm

Truth – I knew that about renting vs buying tux thing, I was trying to be funny! And you betta be puttin on dat dinna jacket fo ME!LOL!!

Seriously, if you got a nice body, a fitted, European cut tux like the one Daniel Craig wears in the latest Bond movies is the way to go. Hot!!!

Sybil

May 13th, 2009
3:10 pm

You ever been in line at Wendy’s and the chick in front of you just starts going off on the cashier?

CRAZY CHICK: NO YOU DID NOT JUST GIVE ME THREE PACKS OF KETCHUP? BYYYTCH I TOLD YOU I WANTED FOUR!!!

You are standing there looking like whatdah#ll?

That’s me. Right now.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 13th, 2009
3:10 pm

The Truth Man, if you get me the Neon Deion throwback I will propose to you.

with full knowledge that you will say no ;-)

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
3:12 pm

@Truth of Arabia.. oh you heard me just fine..put play dumb if you want too. Talking about you hard. You blubbered like a baby watching Steel Magnolias(twice). But that’s alright you can buy me another present. I need four steeler jerseys Two Troy P. and two Hines Ward.

Leggs

May 13th, 2009
3:13 pm

If you don’t have a prenup stating that Tazzee and he says yes, you’re stuck w/him.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 13th, 2009
3:14 pm

Leggs – proposal with prenup in hand, that’s a good one :lol:

LIONESS- Wondering while eating an Apple..

May 13th, 2009
3:15 pm

Sybil- You in da hood?

-W8 (the not so new guy)

May 13th, 2009
3:15 pm

@kimmie the European cuts are nice check this guy out..I love his styles ozwald boateng

Tmac

May 13th, 2009
3:15 pm

Melo- I am here laughing at these angry women hahaha….

Sassy Me….Oochey—I still stand by my comment…
SexyCool….you are angry, stop lying :) and me is 219 lb not 230 lb… get it….

-W8 (the not so new guy)

May 13th, 2009
3:18 pm

Sybil-lol its the worst when that happens..or just when a Lady just goes off the handle with a filthy mouth

Sassy Me....Oochey wally,wally...oochey bang,bang :-)

May 13th, 2009
3:19 pm

My bad W8 My “inner Ike” is now back where he needs to be….all is good. Y’all have a good afternoon and I’ll read you tomorrow…..Code 10…man down…holla!!

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
3:20 pm

So, you weigh 219 pounds and you’re 5′6″. How is that supposed to impress anybody? lol

Raqi...38 Days to ML

May 13th, 2009
3:20 pm

Catchy tunes from the old days

Voulez vous coucher avec moi ce soir

Big Mac, Filet of Fish, Quarter Pounder, French Fries Icy Coke, Thick Shakes, Sundaes and Apple Pies!

I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never, never let you forget you’re a man?

Coke adds life and everybody wants a little life

My bologna has a first name its o-s-c-a-r
Mmy bologna has a secong name its ma-y-e-r
I love to eat it every day and if you ask me why i’ll
saaaaaay ’cause oscar mayer has a way with b-o-l-o-g-n-a

Sassy Me....Oochey wally,wally...oochey bang,bang :-)

May 13th, 2009
3:20 pm

Stand on it Tmac…or else you’ll fall for anything. Noticed you spelled the words right,too….good boy :)

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
3:21 pm

He has single handedly recreated and brought new meaning to the mens wear collections as evidenced by suits worn by Will smith, Jamie Fox, Samuel L. Jackson and Tom Cruise.

W8 – Ozwald Boateng – Yes siree!! HOT!!!

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 13th, 2009
3:27 pm

Kym, I didnt blubber over Steel magnolias. I got a paper cut opening an envelope and it got the best of me. Sure it happened around the time that the movie was on but thats just a coincidence.

Tazz, be careful I may say yes to you then your stuck with me. How do you feel about dogs? LMAO

Kimmie, athletic body? Does my 44 inch waist and 60 in chest turn you on. If so your gonna be screaming when you see me in my girdle with thee built in tummy control. HHHHHHooootttttt.

Tmac

May 13th, 2009
3:28 pm

Sexy cool…wrong again, I am 5′3″

-W8 (the not so new guy)

May 13th, 2009
3:28 pm

@Sassy..you still my alright with me.in a dark alley and it jumps of…lol
@Kimmie I have a collected quite a few of his suits..I love them!!! I’m in a suit all of the time..hell i only own 3 pairs of jeans..lmao

Tmac

May 13th, 2009
3:29 pm

Sassy Me….Oochey—you were boiling few seconds ago but thanks for your nice comments :)

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
3:30 pm

Unemployment at a record high
People coming, people going, people born to die
Don’t ask me, because I don’t know why
But it’s like that, and that’s the way it is

People in the world tryin to make ends meet
You try to ride car, train, bus, or feet
I said you got to work hard, you want to compete
It’s like that, and that’s the way it is Huh

Mo (aka Moeisha- looking for a new haircut)

May 13th, 2009
3:30 pm

Truth – I’ll take a Deion Sanders Braves Jersey please….. :0)

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
3:31 pm

Tazz – That prenup won’t do you a bit of good. Truth always finds a loophole. I ought to know, I’m stuck with his polygomist behind!

Yeah, Truth, you turn me on, oooh baby baby, uhh okay.

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
3:31 pm

So…you are as wide as you are tall? SEXXXXXXYYYYYYYY………. (said like DWade in the TMobile commercial)

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
3:33 pm

BTW….I hereby elect Sassy Me as the new President of the blog chapter of CAMFQ. (Cut A M-Fker Quick)

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
3:34 pm

wait hold up…Is there an OOmpah Loompah in here? 5′6!!? really.

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
3:34 pm

W8 – Dang, so you know how to dress!! Dog, if I wasn’t boood up AND married to Truth, I’d have at ya! Nothing like a real man that can really DRESS!!

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
3:36 pm

5′3″ – no wonder.

LIONESS- Wondering while eating an Apple..

May 13th, 2009
3:38 pm

Tmac- You are a Chunk Bunk.. How cayute :)

Raqi...38 Days to ML

May 13th, 2009
3:39 pm

So…you are as wide as you are tall? SEXXXXXXYYYYYYYY

ROTFLMBO

LIONESS- Wondering while eating an Apple..

May 13th, 2009
3:39 pm

W8- How old are you?

-W8 (the not so new guy)

May 13th, 2009
3:41 pm

@Kimmie -(Starts to sing..”boyfriieennnddd number twwwooOOOOOOOOOO”) Yeah I love to dress.(sweet nupe sweet nupe) I was up in New York a week ago and went to this Bonfire all clean in linen and a blazer etc…I guess i didnt get the memo about Timberlands are a fashion must at all times..lol..cuz i got the what are you wearing look..to funny

Foots

May 13th, 2009
3:42 pm

Y’all are cutting the fool in here! I can’t even catch up with the reading from earlier in the day cause I’m crying from what happened after 2… :lol:

-W8 (the not so new guy)

May 13th, 2009
3:43 pm

@Lioness….Scorpio and my name is “W8″ I will be 36 this year…6′4 230lbs of twisted steel and pecan tan sex appeal…be gentle…please…lol..

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
3:45 pm

w8….call me….LOL….

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 13th, 2009
3:45 pm

Kimmie, if you’re good I’ll throw on your favorite after shave, High Karate. That turns you into an animal.

Please nobody talk to my Tazzy AZZy about pre nups. Our love is pure and untouched by the legal system and we’d like it to stay that way. We’ll go in on faith and a prayer and I’ll come out with her home and atlanta hawks tickets. Did I just say that out loud?

Ok, gotta go to bed. ITs 1044 and i got to get up at 3am.

Mo, hit me with the info. You too Kym, but not the kindle stuff because that gets junbled in the overseas journey. Damdest thing ive ever seen.

Night folks.

Tmac

May 13th, 2009
3:45 pm

LIONESS- Wondering while eating an Apple—-thanks …lots of people think I am….

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
3:46 pm

5′3 He is 5′3..poor thang..he is still using booster seats.

Mo (aka Moeisha- looking for a new haircut)

May 13th, 2009
3:47 pm

HEY HEY HEY!! I am THE resident Oompah-loompah in here!! Who is trying to invade???? Im gon be Sassy’s 2nd in command of the CAMFQ in a sec…. :mad:

Thanks for the heads up Kym

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
3:48 pm

For all you Lie to Me fans. They were renewed for a SECOND SEASON!!!!! YEAH!!!!!

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
3:48 pm

W8 – Should have known you were a nupe – you pretty boys!LOL!!

DasVenus

May 13th, 2009
3:49 pm

wassup PAPI?? LOL@’a paper-cut this morning got the best of me’… what part got you.. when sybil lost it at the grave site and shifts from crying to yelling to angry stamp-yo-foot bawlin?? you aint lost your sense of humor over in the sand. thats good to know. i was gonna go to the corner store, pop one and pour a lil out for ya… but i see you have plans to hit dubai. dont lose that swag of yours… drink 15 day ole coffee if you have to and just pretend its alcohol … you know the occasional drink keeps one loose….. LOL

@LEGGS… LOL@ the ‘why dont you have car’ question… i thought we stop asking that in our twenties… dont tell me that question stays on the books.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 13th, 2009
3:49 pm

Kym – I have that song on my workout playlist. Was listening to it last week and thinking about how it applies to today.

mytw♥cents

May 13th, 2009
3:51 pm

SYBIL Not Wendy’s… but last week I’m waiting for my Garlic Parmesan wings to be ready,gettin ready to do the happy dance. All is calm…UNTIL the chick in front of me explodes after seeing the man pull out a slab of ‘chicken’ (steak um style) for her Chicken Philly. She goes off, hollerin at the dude that’s not how it looks in the picture and she shoulda been told it was a chicken breast cutlet, chopped down to make the Philly. She was like that’s dishonest wahwnk wanwk waw wank wah wahhh. I glance up and I am still in Cumberland Mall, not at Benihana’s. I looked around for the cameras and at the other 100 ppl who were thinkin WTF and why it had to be one of us!

The worst part of it for her was I don’t even think my Mexican brethren understood most of what she aaid cuz his response was a blank stare and offer of ketchup packets…

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 13th, 2009
3:51 pm

The Truth – I don’t have any Hawks tickets and it would truly be ’til death do us part’ before you get my Falcons tix.

LIONESS-- Almost KILLED a Coworker!

May 13th, 2009
3:52 pm

W8- I hear that! Scorpios are something else.. Sexy, you can have him :) Enjoy all 6 foot 4 inches of that lightskin goodness ;)

-W8 (the not so new guy)

May 13th, 2009
3:53 pm

@SexyCool How you doing..lol

-W8 (the not so new guy)

May 13th, 2009
3:55 pm

@Kimmie,LIoness and Sexy..yall are not going to be passing me around..I will not be treated like street booty by you ladies…lol..and I am not light skinned I am pecan tanned..hahaha

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

May 13th, 2009
3:56 pm

Wow!
The world is now upside down! :smile:

We have a Black President!

Mr. Truth (aka Mr. Hard) wants to go to the opera and learn how to do ballroom dancing! It must be the sandstorms!

T-mac is taking on the Mamba because he does not believe she wants to be alone, but instead of Staceye responding Ms. Sassy uses the blog to stump T-mac a new one!

Sassy I am comming with my massage table tonight to relax you!

T-Mac be like Kobe it time to go on the offense!

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 13th, 2009
3:57 pm

TMAC…” I see no ‘FUN’ in hearding peoples thought of something I AM NOT INTERESTED” That’s right…YOU don’t. But I do. Again….different strokes for diferent folks! And yes..I have lots of hobbies. But whilst I am at work…blogging here is fun and helps my day go by faster! Now is all this hostility because I refused to go out with you? :lol: Are your widdle feelings hurt???

SEXYCOOL…”I hereby elect Sassy Me as the new President of the blog chapter of CAMFQ. (Cut A M-Fker Quick)” :lol: Girl I am ROTFLMBAO!

KYM….”poor thang..he is still using booster seats”! Again…ROTFLMBAO :lol: Girl you’re mean! Are you saying his feet dangle when he sits on the toilet to drop the kids off by the pool?

mytw♥cents

May 13th, 2009
3:58 pm

SEXYCOOL I was wondering where it was when I watched The Mentalist last night. And oh yeah, who won the Race? I’m still irked with Jen for peeing two weeks ago, I haven’t check the DVR.

It’s very attractive for grown men to have a grown man’s wardrobe. Mm hmmm

HI COUGAR! I’m sure you’re out here charming the ladies…

Foots

May 13th, 2009
3:59 pm

On topic: I get asked that question a lot. It goes with the territory of being single, decent looking, fairly successful and 32. Because it’s par for the course, it’s never really bothered me. I take it as them being surprised that I’m still on the market with the positive qualities I have, instead of me being offended that they’d ask something so personal and intrusive. My standard answer is that I just haven’t met The One for me yet. It is the truth and still encompasses ALL of other truths that may be out there about me and the guys I’ve dated. The more they get to know about me, the better fleshed out my original response will become.

I can’t remember when the last time I asked a guy that question. I usually assume that he’s single because he wants to be. Other dudes just start the rambling that they can’t find what they are looking for in a woman, so they tell the story without me having to ask.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 13th, 2009
4:00 pm

Wait a minute…a 6′4 sexy man might make a sista come out of hibernation! :wink: :lol:

Kym-It's Like That And That's The Way It Is!

May 13th, 2009
4:01 pm

Tazzee- It is prophetic(sp) The lyrics speak and tell no lies..

You can see a lot in this lifespan
Like a bum eating out of a garbage can
You noticed one time he was your man
It’s like that (what?) and that’s the way it is

You should have gone to school,
you could’ve learned a trade
But you laid in the bed where the bums have laid
Now all the time you’re crying that you’re underpaid
It’s like that (what?) and that’s the way it is Huh!

One thing I know is that life is short
So listen up homeboy, give this a thought
The next time someone’s teaching why don’t you get taught?
It’s like that (what?) and that’s the way it is

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
4:01 pm

Alright then, Mr. Pecan Man Inna Suit, I guess you told us!LOL!! Sorry, we are just excited to have some “eye candy” up in here!!LOL!!

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
4:03 pm

I don’t share. I play with my blocks in my sandbox by myself. LOL

Leggs

May 13th, 2009
4:04 pm

@DasV, no, the question is still being asked. I posted that because a good friend (female) never learned how to drive and she is now seeing a guy she met on Marta who also doesn’t have a car…WTF. They go to clubs together (not often but they go) on the bus. GTFOH, she’s 45 and he’s 46. He told her about the points on his license and he’s in between jobs. Yes, yes, yes as been stated here, there’s someone for everyone and even if you’re not desperate and willing to settle, your actions state otherwise!

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

May 13th, 2009
4:05 pm

Look at the ladies running from the light skinned brotha! They are back in I think!

Mrs. Raqi you have been quite! How you feelin over there? I am going to miss your comments when you take maternity leave! :smile:

You really represent what it is to have a mindset to succeed in a marriage! I really like that keep up the good work! :wink:

Lord Velonese

May 13th, 2009
4:11 pm

Question asked to Fly boy: “So what’s wrong with you? There aren’t many good men out here, so you must be crazy, married, or a combination of both.”

I was going to say, he’s probably SMART. Being a guy of the same stature, when I’m asked that question I ask, what do I have retard wrote on my forehead. Of course I’m not as nice as Fly Guy seems, I’m an ass and proud of it because Men who are successful, that can do what we want, when we want need to protect ourselves. Guys like us have bull’s-eyes on us for greedy B’s. I can’t stand when family and friends try to set me up with someone, because I know for fact they have told things about me I don’t want women know, or atleast till very late in the relationship. I can’t stand someone who is attracted to me for the wrong reasons yuck!

Hey fly dude, if you do fly allot like me, you should meet me at the Excalibur this weekend in Vegas, and I’ll show you how rob drunken people blind at the poker tables.

Tmac

May 13th, 2009
4:12 pm

Staceye, who likes to be turned down :)

Whats funny is your line of defense for everything you do is ”cause that is what Stacey believes’ while at the same time beating up people for questioning or doubting what you believe. Can it be because that is what people believe ????

LIONESS-- Almost KILLED a Coworker!

May 13th, 2009
4:13 pm

I don’t this Tmac is the REAL Tmac..

-W8 (Mr Pecan Man Inna Suit)

May 13th, 2009
4:14 pm

@Kimmie Thanks for the new name..lol..you ladies in here are on point also!!
@Sexy..I’m glad you dont share your toys..lol
@Staceye..It is getting warmer out
@my2cents..our 10 cents..lol

You all keep a smile on my face in here.

Foots

May 13th, 2009
4:15 pm

And abc, it was kinda funny the way you called out Fly Guy for being peeved about the SAME EXACT question that he wants to ask beautiful, successful women as evidenced by his blog.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 13th, 2009
4:16 pm

TMAC…people can believe what they like…just allow me to believe what I’d like without the bloody questions and the fake azz Dr. Phil diagnosis!

Raqi...38 Days to ML

May 13th, 2009
4:16 pm

Cougar I am doing fine. Thanks for asking.

I have just been online trying to find a crib. PoshTots has some nice ones but I want to actually see what we are getting before we buy it. And I have been trying to find the best deal on cruises sailing in December.

Tmac

May 13th, 2009
4:17 pm

I dont know anyone who finds any logic on spending so much time on relationship blog despite the fact that one has no interest in a relationship and living happily ever after being single. Yea, its just you Stacey, and yea, I am mad you turn me down but its makes no sense.

-W8 (Mr Pecan Man Inna Suit)

May 13th, 2009
4:17 pm

DasVenus

May 13th, 2009
4:17 pm

@LEGGS… thats crazy. but nuff said wit that desperation speaks even when you dont.

LIONESS-- Almost KILLED a Coworker!

May 13th, 2009
4:19 pm

W8- LOL @ the link!

Cougar- ???

Tmac

May 13th, 2009
4:23 pm

I am out…….

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
4:23 pm

When I think of “pecan tan”, I always think of the actual color of the nut, not the shell.

Melo

May 13th, 2009
4:24 pm

I just met a lady at the bank.She was talking to her female wrkmate and another male wrkmate stepped in.They strted talking and smwhere in there, i heard her say,she been with same dude for 20 yrs.
So on stepping out, i inquired,’is that for real,20 yrs??’She says yeah! I said,’so u dont wanna get married by him?’She said “yeah”.”And he hasnt asked u for marriage in 20″,she said “no”.Shook my head. “But i do wanna get married”,she opined.
I said ‘good luck’ and she said, on parting:
“But its all good tho”

-W8 (Mr Pecan Man Inna Suit)

May 13th, 2009
4:29 pm

@Lioness..i have to make it plain.

@Sexy..well imagine the nuts on top of a pecan pie

LIONESS-- Almost KILLED a Coworker!

May 13th, 2009
4:31 pm

Melo- SHE IS A LAME AZZ CHICK!

W8- I want to see what you look like..

Sybil

May 13th, 2009
4:35 pm

Let the games begin.

Beautiful

May 13th, 2009
4:36 pm

**On marriage, if you want to be married why dont you start acting like a wife/husband should act?**

i do for the most part.

-W8 (Mr Pecan Man Inna Suit)

May 13th, 2009
4:37 pm

@lioness-Labor day weekend I am hosting a party in Vegas at the Palms that Sunday night you can come out and have a ball. Or I am sure I will be doing something in Atlanta sooner or later…I’m thinking of doing a midnight bbq soon

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
4:39 pm

W8 – Do you live in Atlanta?

LIONESS-- Almost KILLED a Coworker!

May 13th, 2009
4:41 pm

W8-I want to see a pic of you.

Beautiful

May 13th, 2009
4:42 pm

**Wait a minute…a 6′4 sexy man might make a sista come out of hibernation**

lol. bingo!

Cemeeli

May 13th, 2009
4:42 pm

I’m jus’ peekin…waiting on 5.

Lioness – Hook that up, sis!

Makin’ me proud.

LIONESS--

May 13th, 2009
4:43 pm

W8- I won’t be in Vegas until the 25th.

LIONESS--

May 13th, 2009
4:43 pm

Cee- I have been wondering where you have been

Demi

May 13th, 2009
4:44 pm

( I’m thinking of doing a midnight bbq soon )

Ummmm…Are one of those swinger folks, huh?

I can tell you about them midnight bbq parties..LOL

kimmie

May 13th, 2009
4:44 pm

Melo – Hate to quote Steve Harvey, but he has not married her in 20 yrs because she hasn’t required it. Gotta have Standards & Requirements!

Foots- Great answer to “the question”. That’s usually my pat answer to folks that inquire, like older people at church, family. Problem is, they usually follow it with “well if you have not found anyone, you are probably being too picky”! Then anything that crawls out from under a rock & acts like he’s interested they want me to get with. When I balk, they say “see, being too picky”! I just laugh now!LOL!!

Melo

May 13th, 2009
4:45 pm

Do uall think Luda’s mum listens to his music??????

-W8 (Mr Pecan Man Inna Suit)

May 13th, 2009
4:45 pm

@Kimmie yes I live in Atlanta and I am originally from Georgia.
@Lioness now how am I going to get you a picture of me? Besides you better show me one of you..same time..same time..I don’t know you…lol

LIONESS-

May 13th, 2009
4:47 pm

Cemeeli

May 13th, 2009
4:47 pm

was that mytwo? Posted about the sis at WEndy’s or HotWings or something.

That was funny as heck! I do not need to read another post from today ’cause i’m still rollin’ on the “hunh?” look. You took me there! I could imagine the look on your face when that chick went left, and started acting up about that sandwhich!

I’m so done! wow.

-W8 (Mr Pecan Man Inna Suit)

May 13th, 2009
4:48 pm

@Demi..hell no I am not into swinging..I’m selfish..but I like the midnight bbqs on a weeknight..good food good friends good times in a non sexual/swinging type of way..lol

LIONESS-Curious

May 13th, 2009
4:48 pm

Cemeeli

May 13th, 2009
4:48 pm

@ Lioness – On the grind all day.

all i had today was these last 10 minutes. NO lunch, either!

LIONESS-Curious

May 13th, 2009
4:49 pm

Cee- Now you know how I feel when you get in your comedic mode ;)

LIONESS-Curious

May 13th, 2009
4:50 pm

W8- Please make sure you are fully clothed in the pic :)

Melo

May 13th, 2009
4:51 pm

Melo- Why

coz i write like he raps,good thing for me,my mum wont read my typos!! :grin:

Demi

May 13th, 2009
4:51 pm

( my advice to you guys, Do not sleep on the 35+ women… )

Guys, Don’t believe this hype.

W8 and C.H….I don’t need too much compo now…

( Guys, women below 35 are good for you…above 35, bad!! )

( Lioness is now beating Demi to the white meat with her Afro’s CakeCutter )

-W8 (Mr Pecan Man Inna Suit)

May 13th, 2009
4:51 pm

@Lioness Labor day as in September 7, 2009 the party is September 6

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
4:51 pm

Put me on the Evite for that BBQ. I LOVE grilled beef hot dogs!

LIONESS-Curious

May 13th, 2009
4:53 pm

W8- I always get those two mixed up.. LOL!

Demi- I am NOT even close to 35 yet

Sexy- LOL! You love those hot dogs

Cemeeli

May 13th, 2009
4:54 pm

@ Lioness –

That Wendy’s story was foolish. I could only imagine being in that food court looking cwazi, right on, with mytwocents.

wwweeeeoooo, Oh cain’t breath…i cain’t breath….

-W8 (Mr Pecan Man Inna Suit)

May 13th, 2009
4:54 pm

@Demi why is above 35 bad?

LIONESS-Curious

May 13th, 2009
4:54 pm

Demi- LOLOLOL! You ARE a fool!

LIONESS-Curious

May 13th, 2009
4:55 pm

Cee- That was Sybil with that story :)

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

May 13th, 2009
4:56 pm

@My2cents…. W8 has all the ladies salivating but sense you are so versatile and can handle more then conversation at a time! :smile: How you doing mami?

T-mac keep up the offense you are going to have to wear the Mamba down!
Make sure you use the mongoose technics!

Melo

May 13th, 2009
4:56 pm

W8/DEMI inviting girls to a midnite bbq is same thing as inviting girlz to a pantiless shower party.The desired destination is the same.

reminds of of definition of dancing:vertical expression of a horizontal desire!

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
4:56 pm

@Lioness – told y’all it tops my fave food list.

-W8 (Mr Pecan Man Inna Suit)

May 13th, 2009
4:56 pm

@lioness “sent”

Melo

May 13th, 2009
4:56 pm

Cemeeli

May 13th, 2009
4:57 pm

Demi you silly.

Are you 30 yet? Lord, bless him.

Demi

May 13th, 2009
4:57 pm

W8…you are sleeping on my lesbian sistas, LOL. I knew what you meant…midnite bbq (the clean version) seem to be the thing to do in vegas…but, what happen in Vegas…HA HA.

LIONESS-Curious

May 13th, 2009
4:57 pm

Cougar- LOL @ salivating.. If you weren’t married, I would ask you to send me a pic too..

LIONESS-Curious

May 13th, 2009
4:58 pm

Melo- I am glad your momma doesn’t read anything you type either cause you are.. WOW!

SexyCool

May 13th, 2009
4:58 pm

@Cougar – Once W8 mentioned a BBQ, it became all about the hot dogs! LOL.

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

May 13th, 2009
4:58 pm

@Demi them COUGARS are the best! You have to try 40 yrs and old!
My.My.MY, seasoned, ripe and already know how to please!

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 13th, 2009
4:58 pm

W-8…show me yours and I’ll show you mines! :lol:

Foots

May 13th, 2009
4:59 pm

Since when did W8 become the new male blog stud? :lol:

lurker

May 13th, 2009
4:59 pm

Lioness gon wit cho bad self. you gonna post the pic?

Demi

May 13th, 2009
5:00 pm

Cemeeli…I just turn thirty last month…Imma hang with them cougar cuties until I hit forty ( unless one marry me ), after that…18 – 24 year olds only…you gotta have mid-life crisis, LOL

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

May 13th, 2009
5:00 pm

Sexycool so you like le beef hotdogs, I am firing up the grill this weekend! :smile:

Cemeeli

May 13th, 2009
5:02 pm

Demi okay. YOus a baby…awww…

….pecan, hotdogs, bbqs.

I’m hungry! bye!

Demi

May 13th, 2009
5:03 pm

Cougar Hunter…I ve been preaching the “Cougar Gospel” for 3 years in the camp, LOL…I will admit, this one cougar has my attention, so I am laying low.

Demi

May 13th, 2009
5:04 pm

SexyCool…you know dayum well you are bringing Coach along, LOL

-W8 (Mr Pecan Man Inna Suit)

May 13th, 2009
5:04 pm

@Demi..been there done that..a few years ago..lol
@Staceye..I’m shy..lol
@Foots..I’m just chillin..making myself at home..lol

Foots

May 13th, 2009
5:05 pm

kimmie After 20 years, even if she “required” him to ask her to marry him, he wouldn’t. My feeling is that he hasn’t asked her because he don’t want to. She probably stopped asking him about marriage 12 years ago cause she kept getting the same answer. NO!! LOL

My co-workers think that my long-term relationships are rare because I’m too picky. It pays to be picky sometimes, but if they forget why I had to let a few of them go after about two months of dating/screening, I remind them about the Bajan dude who was turning into a stalker, the African-born dude who wanted his baby mama to live with us if we got married, the dude who said he was divorced and wasn’t quite there yet, the dude who referred to a woman as “his baby-mama” when really, she was his wife, etc. They shut up about my pickiness pretty quickly after that. :lol:

Leggs

May 13th, 2009
5:06 pm

I’ll beat you down myself, Demi!!!!!!

Demi

May 13th, 2009
5:06 pm

( reminds of of definition of dancing:vertical expression of a horizontal desire)

Dayum Melo…you know how to take it >>>>> “LEFT”

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAA!!!

Foots

May 13th, 2009
5:07 pm

In other words, I’m not just dumping a dude cause his feet stank. :grin:

Demi

May 13th, 2009
5:08 pm

Leggs…I must protect my territory at all cost….I don’t bullsit, LOL

Sybil

May 13th, 2009
5:08 pm

Aw h#ll, curiosity has gotten the best of me.

@-W8 – send me the pic too

januejohnson@yahoo.com

Leggs

May 13th, 2009
5:09 pm

Not everyone on here is salivating over W8. I know a few WLBs that haven’t posted a thing!

-W8 (Mr Pecan Man Inna Suit)

May 13th, 2009
5:09 pm

@Foots..yeah YOU need to be picky..thats some rough stuff you have been through

-W8 (Mr Pecan Man Inna Suit)

May 13th, 2009
5:10 pm

In all humbleness I’m not here to be salivated over..sesriously..just some good convos happening..

Leggs

May 13th, 2009
5:11 pm

I know, just harping on the word used earlier…you good peeps!

Leggs

May 13th, 2009
5:12 pm

Good night everyone! Enjoy those in your immediately circle!

Demi

May 13th, 2009
5:12 pm

W8…I am selfish…women above age 35 are all mines!!!!

( Demi is now being fitted for a new white jacket, with lots and lots of buttons…)