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Path of least resistance

Yesterday, author Maryann Reid provided an interesting perspective about the submissive role that some women could take in relationships. Today, I wanted to wrap that discussion up with another interesting concept she discussed in an article, “How to Control Your Relationship through Silence”. I fully admit that the control freak in me was drawn to “control your relationship” part. However, after reading further, I realized that was not the point.

She wrote that she was referring to “women who live in ’silence’ with confidence and a quiet ambition” as it pertains to the submissive role:

You cannot force a man to accept your submission.  He has to be a man secure enough to carry the relationship and would most likely be more experienced than you in this area, whereas, he would not abuse it or overplay his hand.  Too many men think they can handle this.  Who can’t handle a quiet, submissive woman? Any man who asks that is NOT the man to be with in this kind of relationship.

The silence I’m speaking of is not vocal silence.  It’s a silence based on trust.  It’s a silence of the mind, where you are emotionally still from controlling every aspect of the relationship.

Her silence contributes to a sense of security and safety in the relationship for both.  This is not a 50/50 relationship, but two whole parts 100/100.  Their bond is like no other relationship because she is completely owned by him and dominated by him.  Her silence sustains the domination until she stops being silent.

I know some of you have no desire whatsoever in the submissive/dominance concept in relationships. I just think it’s a worthwhile discussion in our modern times because it relates to the traditions that many of us have abandoned. Do you think there is a way to make some of these traditions work in today’s society?

Ladies, have you ever found that silence (not the same as the cold shoulder) is a great way to handle relationship problems? Is it about picking your battles so that when you do speak on an issue, your man actually pays attention because you haven’t nagged and argued about every other little thing?

Guys, you have always said that you are simple creatures, is this part of the same thing? In your experience, do you respond to the “path of least resistance” in a relationship? Are you intrigued by women who use silence as an actual form of communication and submission?

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274 comments Add your comment

LIONESS

May 12th, 2009
4:24 pm

Melo- They don’t believe in male circumcision in your country but believe in female circumcision.. Right?

Cemeeli

May 12th, 2009
4:24 pm

Alvin – Who’s to say (but God) that the “season” you had with lil Demi was an assignment to return to you whole.

He will never forget you, trust that. He will look you up and share some heartfelt things with you in due season.

Think – “Assignment”.

Melo

May 12th, 2009
4:25 pm

Ur relationship is transitioning,and i aint seem that man to put my seal..u wrong for that.
I may have to host a mixer then for that house,but wait a minute,maybe that man shld do it then.Whatchu think CEE???

kimmie

May 12th, 2009
4:32 pm

Melo – I love going toe to toe with you! You’re funny!LOL!!

Cemeeli

May 12th, 2009
4:35 pm

Melo – I will be throwing the “mixers” alright.

Party of 2.

DJ Sniper

May 12th, 2009
4:36 pm

Tazzee, I’m with you on the outdoor stadium thing. Although I would love to go to an outdoor game at some point, I absolutely abhor cold weather with a passion. The few times I’ve been to a Falcons game when the weather was less than pleasant, I was very grateful for having a domed stadium. Screw that sitting in freezing temperature nonsens. lol

Poppa, that’s cool you were able to get yourself financially set by playing pro football. From the way you talk, it sounds like you were able to walk away with your health pretty much intact. I’m sure you would much rather deal with a popping ankle as opposed to the ailments that some former players have to live with.

Demi, let me see if I read you right: You were with a woman who already had a child, you became a father figure, and when she remarried, she told you that she didn’t want you in his life anymore. Is that correct? speaks volumes about how trifling she is.

Demi

May 12th, 2009
4:38 pm

Melo…wow…( you see kids, porn is a helluva drug, LOL )

Cemeeli…yeah, all I know li’Demi saved me from myself. I was wild in these days. My number was almost up.

kimmie

May 12th, 2009
4:40 pm

This discussion gets me to thinking about a short guy I dated years ago while in grad school. The one that was insecure about my “future” earning potential. Someone mentioned earlier today about some sick men from other countries that like prepubescent girls. Well this particular guy used to also complain about my womanly curves and I wondered why. I figured it out when I saw a picture of his ex-girlfriend that he was still hung up on. She had no butt or chest, built like a skinny 10 yr old boy almost, not like any other AA woman I’d seen and she was about 27 at the time. I told him he wasn’t used to a real woman! It made him mad, but we were broken up by then!LOL!!

Melo

May 12th, 2009
4:42 pm

They don’t believe in male circumcision in your country but believe in female circumcision.. Right?

Cuttie,female circumcision is done in muslim countries like parts of Kenya,Tanzania,sudan etc etc not south africa.None that i know of.
I luv my labias on ladies,too too much,i wld go to war for any lady to keep theres :grin:

Melo

May 12th, 2009
4:44 pm

@DJ Sniper u luv falcons and football.So does Tazzee.U say u married?? sorry dude, u missse don a good girl.
In case u divorce, i may need to pre-qualify u:
Do u have long nails….?? :grin:

Professor

May 12th, 2009
4:46 pm

Demi, my heart goes out to you. One thing is for sure, he will remember you and the memories, and one day he will make his own decisions and I am sure he will decide on hanging out wit you again.

PG- As a native of Atlanta (yes born and raised) I thought I was the only one remembering FCS with the Chief and Dale Murphy. Oh I used to love going to see the football games too. I am sitting here smiling on my childhood as I go back down memory lane. Whew! Those were the good old days for me, no problems or worries. Just chilling with my Daddy.

Cee- you got me wanting to try this Almond butter I am going to Whole Foods and Trader Joe’s on Saturday to pick up a few things…I usually go to down to the one in Midtown and the Whole Foods on Ponce.

Cemeeli

May 12th, 2009
4:46 pm

kimmie – Girl, imma do you like my sweet does me.

Gal, go si’dine somewhere! Pedophile-wanna-be, caint get with the curvaceous sister could he. He did not know what to do with all that.

Demi

May 12th, 2009
4:48 pm

DJ Sniper…hey hey heeeeey, don’t remind me, LOL. I honest think her husband had more to do with it. It’ll put it this way, his son was dang near calling me daddy. Kid just go were the love is. the dude doesn’t seem like the emotionally avilable type…( Most women love the hell outta those cats, I am glad SOME don’t )

Cemeeli

May 12th, 2009
4:49 pm

Jamoca Auh. Okay, imma leee you ‘lone.

Curvacious…curvaceoussness..ssss…cafiltha-…

Melo

May 12th, 2009
4:49 pm

guy used to also complain about my womanly curves and I wondered why

Kimmie,u have said a lot many times about ur loot,u must pack a real big engine,like the old vw car,remember those.U mind if i see that trunk?? :lol:

Demi

May 12th, 2009
4:50 pm

Professor…thanks

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 12th, 2009
4:51 pm

Do u have long nails….?? :lol: melo, I’m flattered that you pay attention to my posts…but you forgot to ask about the teeth too ;-)

LIONESS

May 12th, 2009
4:51 pm

Melo- LMAO!! I just cut my nails silly.. So, since you are from South Africa, do they circumcize their boy children?

LIONESS

May 12th, 2009
4:52 pm

Kimmie- He was GROSS and I am GLAD you told him that!

Cemeeli

May 12th, 2009
4:53 pm

Professor – I’m a native as well.

Holla if ya hear me! :lol: 3

The one on Ponce has horrible parking. When i worked for Affairs to Remember i would frequent that location. But now i just OTP.

_______________________________

I was just delivered a belated Mother’s Day gift. Do i need to speak to one of the blog folk?

How sweet!

kimmie

May 12th, 2009
4:53 pm

Melo – I’m not big, but not skinny either.

Cee – That’s what you get when you mess with a shorty! Don’t ever want to go there again!

Have a great evening!

Cemeeli

May 12th, 2009
4:54 pm

Lioness – Maybe an aspiring pedophile?

Melo

May 12th, 2009
4:56 pm

Some do, i did same to my boy,but here at piedmont.
Believe it or not, i wasnt circum at birth but was bitten by a bee at the spot, whilst heading cattle with other boys.And that did the trick 4 me,as far as circumcission goes.

Tazzee, i was going there slowly.
Didnt wanna shock the brother and make him run.
U know when teeth are jacked up, a person knows and feels it. :grin:

LIONESS

May 12th, 2009
4:58 pm

Cee-I believe so.. SAD :(