Yesterday, author Maryann Reid provided an interesting perspective about the submissive role that some women could take in relationships. Today, I wanted to wrap that discussion up with another interesting concept she discussed in an article, “How to Control Your Relationship through Silence”. I fully admit that the control freak in me was drawn to “control your relationship” part. However, after reading further, I realized that was not the point.
She wrote that she was referring to “women who live in ’silence’ with confidence and a quiet ambition” as it pertains to the submissive role:
You cannot force a man to accept your submission. He has to be a man secure enough to carry the relationship and would most likely be more experienced than you in this area, whereas, he would not abuse it or overplay his hand. Too many men think they can handle this. Who can’t handle a quiet, submissive woman? Any man who asks that is NOT the man to be with in this kind of relationship.
The silence I’m speaking of is not vocal silence. It’s a silence based on trust. It’s a silence of the mind, where you are emotionally still from controlling every aspect of the relationship.
Her silence contributes to a sense of security and safety in the relationship for both. This is not a 50/50 relationship, but two whole parts 100/100. Their bond is like no other relationship because she is completely owned by him and dominated by him. Her silence sustains the domination until she stops being silent.
I know some of you have no desire whatsoever in the submissive/dominance concept in relationships. I just think it’s a worthwhile discussion in our modern times because it relates to the traditions that many of us have abandoned. Do you think there is a way to make some of these traditions work in today’s society?
Ladies, have you ever found that silence (not the same as the cold shoulder) is a great way to handle relationship problems? Is it about picking your battles so that when you do speak on an issue, your man actually pays attention because you haven’t nagged and argued about every other little thing?
Guys, you have always said that you are simple creatures, is this part of the same thing? In your experience, do you respond to the “path of least resistance” in a relationship? Are you intrigued by women who use silence as an actual form of communication and submission?
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