I am so excited for the readers of Misadventures in Atlanta because this will be a week of guest bloggers! Don’t worry men, you will be well represented in the coming days, but ladies first.
Today’s featured guest blogger, Maryann Reid is an accomplished author who has written novels that many of you have read. You may also know her from the Marry Your Baby Daddy event that she produces each year.
She recently wrote about being a submissive woman to a young lady who was seeking advice. It really got my attention the way she broke things down. Thankfully, she agreed to have an excerpt featured here today. I would love to know what you think, so please weigh in with your comments!
Being a submissive woman is not about being in a weakened state, but being in a completely empowered state with full understanding of your feminine power. It’s about learning the most efficient ways to communicate issues for the benefit of yourself and others. This is not for every woman or every man.
Surprisingly, many men see this as a demand or are intimidated when a woman tells them she wants to be submissive. You can’t make a man accept your submission. If you want to work on your current man, you’ll have to give him time to develop his natural instincts. Women define men on an intimate and emotional level. Once a man knows what your expectations are, he can plan accordingly.
Very few men know how to appreciate a submissive woman without being mean and condescending. A man should feel worthy of your submission. Whether it’s the sidepiece you’re seeing now or not, choose a good man who values this behavior and doesn’t take it for granted. Dominant types are usually Alpha-males, masculine men who are very aware of a woman’s discreet power.
The best teacher is usually a partner who is naturally dominant in an instinctual way, not performed or forced. Many women believe that being submissive provides them a sense of safety. It is also a behavior many women choose to adopt. Even in life, when we accept things as they are or stop fighting against it, everything falls into place. It’s when we “give up” that we win. It’s not about being right or wrong anymore. There’s more power in silence, than there is in words.