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Keep It Real

I received an email from a reader who has a little dilemma. She says that she has not been “authentic” with her man when it comes to the bedroom stuff. She pretends to be inexperienced and lately she has been pulling a “Meg Ryan” and faking it. (I don’t think Meg Ryan will ever live down that diner scene!).

Since the relationship is pretty serious now, she wants to be more honest with her man. She is concerned about his reaction to the truth: there are times when she has her own tricks that she wants to try. There are also times when she is too tired and doesn’t have the energy.

So how do you keep it real with your mate in the bedroom? Do you prefer full disclosure, tell me every thing approach? Do you want things to be said in the moment or while you two are at brunch?

Guys, do you want your women to be real in the bedroom or are you perfectly fine with the fake out? Ladies, do you find it hard to keep it real with your man when it comes to things like this?

Happy Friday  & Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers!!

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Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 8th, 2009
2:14 pm

AmRed – on Bojangles, I only get the supremes with honey mustard sauce and fries. I don’t like Popeyes as much and they always seem to give me fresh chicken and fries. I just hated it when Coke lost that account – it doesn’t take the same without a Coke.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 8th, 2009
2:15 pm

Lioness – I thought he proposed to her on her birthday or something like that. Where’d you get that info?

anonymousella

May 8th, 2009
2:18 pm

she should just end it now … lol. it just can’t end well. she either looks like a liar, or a freak. and if she was pretending, it’s probably because he’s the type to fear freaks.

honey, just date someone without those hangups.

the only thing i reveal or want to know is whether my partner is free of incurable STDs. you do not need to know where i learned how to do that with my tongue. just be happy i am doing it to / with you … repeatedly.

and why does it matter as long as we are good to and for each other?

MELO

May 8th, 2009
2:18 pm

Tazzee, can u plz mark my term paper, i send it to u :lol:

LIONESS-Currently STARVING!

May 8th, 2009
2:19 pm

Taz-http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20277668,00.html

MELO

May 8th, 2009
2:26 pm

For me, it talking too much.. ie: Do you like it, how do you wnat it etc.
If u dont like it tell him.Nikka gotta hush and let his skills do the talking.
On Jennifer,thats an esteem issue if she did.But i dont blame her.Her spirits are low after that family wiping tragedy.She needed some cool head to let her know that thats not the right course of action to take.
After she settles down a bit,she may come round on it and rethink it.
All we can do is wish her the best!!!
(those who went to her show,how is her weight situation??)

JtJ

May 8th, 2009
2:29 pm

@ Ceemeli….I got Ed Hardy for women and Donna Karen Cashmere. Those will be great for those warm summer days when you are weraing next to nothing.

Dan

May 8th, 2009
2:29 pm

Y’all have a good one.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the mother’s

LIONESS-Currently STARVING!

May 8th, 2009
2:32 pm

I poseted the like Taz but the blog monster ate it

LIONESS-Currently STARVING!

May 8th, 2009
2:33 pm

**link** It is on ppl.com

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
2:33 pm

I basically got bored in Charlotte – not as many cultural events, concerts, nice restaurants, etc. I’m not sure you’d like the Raleigh/Durham area and I know you wouldn’t like Greensboro.

Thanks Tazzee. Good info. One thing to note about me, I’m a loner and I’m also my favorite person, so it’s really hard for me to get bored. Cuz I’m always with my favorite person – me.

I’m a big city girl, but I’ve also lived in small towns in Colorado and New England and did just fine. There was less to do, but I’m adaptable.

Even still those places are better once you have a family.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 8th, 2009
2:34 pm

melo – it’s been confirmed that Jennifer Hudson is pregnant. At her concert, I thought she picked the wrong outfit, but I guess that was a true baby bump.

Lioness – I’ll just google it.

Cemeeli

May 8th, 2009
2:35 pm

@ Leggs – Please don’t take my favorite as well as the Weight Watchers Sorbet (Wild Berry) pops.

@ JtJ – Next to nothing? Oh,….it’s like that, hunh? Okay. I also got a new car battery, but that doesn’t seem like a “real” gift. somehow.

lurker

May 8th, 2009
2:37 pm

walking was the hardest thing to do today…first, didn’t want to and second, was after lunch. usually i can briskly do it but before lunch. all i’m good for now is going home…just might do that

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 8th, 2009
2:37 pm

Essentially returning the favor, PEOPLE reports Hudson had a ring designed for Otunga, who originally proposed to Hudson on her birthday last September, to present on his birthday as a token of affection.

That’s what I found, so the original proposal was from him and she did it again as a romantic birthday gesture.

M'

May 8th, 2009
2:37 pm

@ Cee

Did you getmy email…I wanted to touch bases with you about events and such.

@Sassy
I sent you a message too…I have some questions I would like to ask you about some CDC related stuffs and such.

lurker

May 8th, 2009
2:39 pm

just randomly thinking/typing out loud

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 8th, 2009
2:40 pm

AmRed – I’m the same way, but after a while I got tired of going to the movies and out to eat AND I wasn’t into traveling as much as I am now. I had plenty of friends in Charlotte so that wasn’t it. The good thing is, you’re not too far from the beach or the Mountains. But I’ve always said I would definitely move back if I was raising a family.

LIONESS-Currently STARVING!

May 8th, 2009
2:42 pm

Nice gesture.. I guess..

kimmie

May 8th, 2009
2:43 pm

Sister Cee – I told you about my recent trip to the aquarium with my god-daughter. I bought her this cute little stuffed animal from the gift shop there – actually it was a little orange Deepo fish inside a turquois blue “purse”. She loved it, but has lost the fish inside. We looked everywhere but could not find it. She went back to Cali on yesterday. I told her I would get her another one. Do you think I’ll have any trouble getting in to purchase her another one without buying an admission ticket?

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
2:44 pm

Yeah, Tazzee, one requirement I’m thinking about sticking too is living in a hub city. I love how I can take my trips and be back in a day. Charlotte does have a hub in US Air, but US Air sucks!

My family is all in Houston (do you miss it?) and there may actually be a chance for me to move there if I want. But I’ve never wanted to live there. I hate the weather, especially the humidity. But they do have a hub in Continental and so they beat out a lot of other cities.

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
2:46 pm

PG – Did you say yesterday that you tried El Pollo Loco?

Cemeeli

May 8th, 2009
2:46 pm

That’s Swils Stix Leggs. The best flavor, HURRICANE. I better eat one before the whole box is gone!

M’ Last week and this week has been crazy with emails. I have yours in my personal folder. I will check.

Sorry.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 8th, 2009
2:50 pm

AmRed – I don’t miss Houston one bit. But it was great for traveling, especially when Continental was a skymiles partner. Hurricane Ike did it for me though. And you’re right, I hate Us Air, but I do like the rocking chairs at the Charlotte airport.

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
2:53 pm

I do like the rocking chairs at the Charlotte airport.

Those are cool and they have a Jamba Juice (the smoothie shop I am OBSESSED with) there.

Yeah, I’m so hurt Continental is leaving the SkyTeam. They’re not out til October tho, which is cool cuz I’m flying them to Houston and Cancun in the fall. :lol:

Yeah, the Hurricanes suck and each one seems worse then the last. My hair always looks crazy due to the humidity (that’s why I tell folk ATL humidity is not bad AT ALL) and the bugs are the size of a Ford Focus!

I told my family if I ever make Texas home, come find me in Dallas. :lol:

LOL @ you not missing H-town at all. I know you are enjoying ATL!

Cemeeli

May 8th, 2009
2:56 pm

“Deepo fish inside a turquois blue “purse.

Kimmie

My neice is 5 and she loves that lil oragne deepo. Did you goddaughter get to take a picture with the live Deepo? He usually walks around..

Shhh…when i first volunteered, I volunteered as Deepo (as a dare). Boy was that costume HOT! And the kids about knocked me over – I quit.

“Deepo” is a character that promotes The Home Depot’s big guy Bernie Marcus. (Deepo is a gift from Ga. Aquarium to Bernie for donating all that money). As of late they have added the Whale Shark character for the kids too (which the Shark has a cooler costume) He hasn’t been as big a hit as Deepo.

Cemeeli

May 8th, 2009
3:02 pm

This didn’t post….

Kimmie – If you had my info I would get it for you. They are having an event for the volunteers this w/e.

Just go back to the GiftShop (which is the same play you excited) Only way out is through the gift shop. Tell the girls what you will buying a souvenir and you’d be fine. They will allow you to get it.

LIONESS-Currently STARVING!

May 8th, 2009
3:05 pm

Cee- Are you a volunteer? My friend is :)

you're my AIR . . . i don't want to be your FRIEND anymore

May 8th, 2009
3:07 pm

**If you are touching my only with the tip of your tongue and not your lips, you are NOT doing it right and you are lame**

amen!

you're my AIR . . . i don't want to be your FRIEND anymore

May 8th, 2009
3:14 pm

@LEGGS and others who are shakin’ their heads . . . update on MG

when i met this guy two weeks ago he did not share with me that he was married. yes i’ve been working with him for a long while now (since august), but never knew and didn’t care to ask. if my co-workers knew that i was interested in him even a lil bit, they would have told me to stay away . . . far away.

three days after getting to know him better, he makes this special announcement. by then my feelings are involved and i feel screwed again! i nicely gave him the run down on how i do thangs (no commitment/no sex, friends at work is cool, flirting has to stop, etc.)

because he has my cell number and because i won’t change it, he freely texts me daily. i’m giving him attention that he prolly hasn’t had in a long time. sad. he is going thru a divorce (that’s what his mouth say. men will say anything to get the booty) and they have been separated for a couple of years now (i’m guessing). but i’m a smart chick. i know there’s another side to this story . . . HERS! for all i know, she’s sitting somewhere wanting to and praying on reconciling with tank. i refuse to get in the way of that.

i will continue to respect his wife whoever she may be. i’ve been in her shoes and know how painful this process is.

it sounds like to me that he just needs an ear to borrow every now and then. a beautiful one. giggle. the last thing that man needs is someone like me to add to the turmoil he is currently in. i sit at his desk and he tells me things that i shouldn’t know. i always kid with him by saying **where’s the couch?** lol. when the sessions are over, it’s so sweet how he thanks me for just listening.

because i have to see him daily and because i don’t want any uncomfortable vibes going on when i step into the building and we both don’t have any plans on quitting our jobs, i will continue to interact with him ON A FRIEND LEVEL. the only thing though is that it seems to me that i’m putting him first. i’m not thinking about my needs or feelings. i’m such a caring person and i usually find out the hard way that most of the time it doesn’t work in my favor.

that’s why i accepted an invite to one of RW’s shows this weekend. my heart needs to get back on track. there was a minor setback, no biggee.

now the poem he sent me was a shock. i wasn’t expecting it. i took it as a gift. i like gifts.

****disclaimer – BEAUTIFUL will not be taking any questions at this time from FOOTS, RAQI, and LEGGS. security has been put in place for AMAZON . . . blog vest is securely fastened. sorry for the inconvience.

LOL.

KP, your .02 pls?

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 8th, 2009
3:15 pm

ARED…girl yeah…they want you to watch this and you have to fake interest. Wait…OMG…men & children really are alike! WOW! :lol: :shock:

LEGGS…you know I am the Poster-child for Anti-Traditional…But I can not see me asking a guy to marry me. If I see a cutie out in the street I’ll make the first move…no problem. But marriage….I don’t know man…I don’t knock it. But not for me. But I think TAZZEE explained David proposed first to her.

Leggs

May 8th, 2009
3:17 pm

kimmie

May 8th, 2009
3:17 pm

Sister Cee – Yes, she did get to hug & take a picture with the live Deepo! Okay, thanks, I will go to the exit & do that! She really loves it!

LIONESS-Crickets

May 8th, 2009
3:19 pm

you're my AIR . . . i don't want to be your FRIEND anymore

May 8th, 2009
3:19 pm

**Jennifer Hudson proposed to her dude.. What do yall think of that?**

i see nothing wrong with it.

Cemeeli

May 8th, 2009
3:21 pm

Lioness Yes, i’m a volunteer.

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
3:23 pm

Angie – Everyone has ignored you and your random posts all day. You clearly need a friend and some attention. You just keep posting anything to get it. Sad.

You clearly like the drama in your life, and now you’ve got it. No one wants to help folks who don’t help themselves. :arrow:

MELO

May 8th, 2009
3:25 pm

3.14 long post sounds like a woman falling knee deep in it.Two deceiving python’s eyes have u spot on,on the radar.U be lunch or dinner very soon and all i see is u picking up those panties from the floor,butt nekked,ur nana dripping with some new new dna, and saying,im doing this only once!
But i dont blame u,sexxual indescretions are off da meter some times!

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
3:27 pm

But she’s a “smart girl” melo.

Dumbest statement made all day. :lol:

you're my AIR . . . i don't want to be your FRIEND anymore

May 8th, 2009
3:27 pm

just something i wanted to make clear. i feel better now.

and why is it that everytime i post you NUT? smh.

you're my AIR . . . i don't want to be your FRIEND anymore

May 8th, 2009
3:29 pm

@MELO
it won’t happen. i’m sticking with plan A.

LIONESS-Crickets

May 8th, 2009
3:30 pm

Changing my WTH to WTF

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
3:30 pm

I have said jack to you all day, weirdo. Do you have some type of mental illness?

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
3:36 pm

I “haven’t” said jack…

JtJ

May 8th, 2009
3:36 pm

LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ARED & MELO!! Some people ask for it, I swear!!

MELO

May 8th, 2009
3:38 pm

I am luving this run on the Dow Jones.I havnt lost money, Yet!,since i got back in.
Nice

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
3:39 pm

Some people ask for it, I swear!!

That much is clear. I mean did that nut think we’d all go, “wow Angie, what a great plan! Thank so much for the update because we were waiting…”

She likes being crazy.

Leggs

May 8th, 2009
3:39 pm

For those who said Jennifer proposed to her boyfriend :arrow: “Five months after boyfriend David Otunga proposed to Jennifer Hudson on her 27th birthday, she returned the gesture with a surprise of her own: a proposal on Otunga’s birthday.”

lurker

May 8th, 2009
3:40 pm

Beautifulthree days after getting to know him better, he makes this special announcement. by then my feelings are involved and i feel screwed again!

Angie, all anyone can say is what’s already been said. All of us are human and prone to falling prey if we dabble with it long enough. The reason most women (and men for that matter), shut this kind of stuff down because if you play with fire you’ll get burned. There a verse in Proverbs that asks, “can a man take fire in his bosom and not get burned?” 1) You ain’t as strong as nature…that can be an overlwhelming beast if unleashed 2)you don’t seem like the most rational chick (no harm or disrespect intended). You have your boys to raise and think about and believe you me, kids are not dumb stupid or ignorant. Matter of fact, a bunch of them have most adults licked. If you want to do it, go ahead, it’s on you. If not, step away…completely. No such thing as playing around or keeping a platonic friendship when it’s already been established dude is in it for the hunt. One last thing, there are ALWAYS two sides to every story….the truth is somewhere in between. Quit hearing his side.

LIONESS-Crickets

May 8th, 2009
3:40 pm

My issue with Jhud is, isn’t that dude sweet?