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City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
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City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
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Keep It Real

I received an email from a reader who has a little dilemma. She says that she has not been “authentic” with her man when it comes to the bedroom stuff. She pretends to be inexperienced and lately she has been pulling a “Meg Ryan” and faking it. (I don’t think Meg Ryan will ever live down that diner scene!).

Since the relationship is pretty serious now, she wants to be more honest with her man. She is concerned about his reaction to the truth: there are times when she has her own tricks that she wants to try. There are also times when she is too tired and doesn’t have the energy.

So how do you keep it real with your mate in the bedroom? Do you prefer full disclosure, tell me every thing approach? Do you want things to be said in the moment or while you two are at brunch?

Guys, do you want your women to be real in the bedroom or are you perfectly fine with the fake out? Ladies, do you find it hard to keep it real with your man when it comes to things like this?

Happy Friday  & Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers!!

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Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 8th, 2009
12:38 pm

Cemeeli I’m ignoring your HMD shout-out, the possession of ovaries does not a mother make…. with that said

Happy Mother’s Day to all the Mom’s out there!

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
12:40 pm

It is supposed to be nice Saturday.

Yeah, we’ll probably get outdoors, so I might have my evening free. Though I’m prone to go all night. :lol:

Easter weekend hurt cuz I stayed out til 4 and then hit up 7:15 am service, then brunch, then cocktails….:lol:

Leggs

May 8th, 2009
12:43 pm

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO ALL THE MOMMIES!

@JtJ, you have hindered yourself going forward by looking at that tape. Bummer!

Everyone probably gets moody and cranky when they’re in need of some loving.

Cemeeli

May 8th, 2009
12:44 pm

Tazzee – What-ev-err, ovary carrier! You are a walking babybag until you get “one pumped in you”. Can i say that?

I guess i can. hehehe

LIONESS- About to Cook

May 8th, 2009
12:44 pm

Question: Have you ladies ever asked a dude to take a shower before doing the do?

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
12:45 pm

You have ovaries. That includes you too!

Cee – Me and my ovaries have an understanding. :lol:

Both of my sisters have been married less than a year. One has a kid already and the other just found out she is expecting.

I’m spending Mother’s Day under the covers avoiding all Mother’s. :lol:

But thank you.

Happy Mothers Day to you (and all the other Moms in blogland!)

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
12:47 pm

Tazzee – You going to check out Tony G and the newbie Falcons tomorrow?

Leggs

May 8th, 2009
12:50 pm

@Tazzee, you’re definitely right about that! Having ovaries only states that you have the potential to becoming a mother….you need sperm to move things along in the hopes of becoming a MOMMY!….Yeah, I’m being silly cuz I’m horny!!!! Enuf, w/oral, sperm, honey pots, talent, experience, fingers! :lol:

JtJ

May 8th, 2009
12:52 pm

Leggs…..I feel scarred!!! Like I said, it was on the same one with us on it! I felt cheated on…..I know it was before me……but that is MINE and I did not want to see her enjoyin it!! He got all up close,too!!! Frea*y B*stard!!! But I still love him…..lol

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
12:54 pm

Like I said, it was on the same one with us on it!

Aww…JtJ, don’t be mad. He was “going green” by recycling :lol:

Cemeeli

May 8th, 2009
12:54 pm

you scurred? don’t be scurred…it’s okay.

Once the head and shoulders pass your birth canal, it’s all ’slip and slide’ from there. Afterwards, POP! you have the n’eee, n’eee, n’eee :cry: for-like-EVER!!

The easy part ^^^ is conditional after slapping the crap outta your husband for doing that to you.

Congrats Auntie ARed!

Cemeeli

May 8th, 2009
12:56 pm

“Question: Have you ladies ever asked a dude to take a shower before doing the do?

Yes. Lioness WTH? You like for me to get crunk don’t you?

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 8th, 2009
12:57 pm

@Sexy Cool…I would add that a man should remember that he has, in addition to the tongue, two hands, ten fingers, and any thing else he can use AT THE SAME TIME in every “zone” he can find. A woman’s body should be played like a musical instrument…with all of your movable parts strumming the strings.

LIONESS- About to Cook

May 8th, 2009
12:58 pm

Cee- LMAO!! Did you still smash after? The waiting period GOTS to be a biyatch! My ex lied to wear Ax deodarant and I SWEAR that that shyte didn’t work.. I never told him though.. I just kept it moving.. Then he told me one day that he doesn’t use lotion.. I had the WTF look ALL over my face..

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
1:01 pm

Congrats Auntie ARed!

Thanks so much Cee. I love being Auntie Red. So much cooler than “Mommy Red” right now.

My nephew is really the most adorable child I’ve ever seen.

Cemeeli

May 8th, 2009
1:03 pm

@ Lioness- I ain’t gon’ lie. I like boo’s pheromone scent. But if we both have been out and about and i’m showered, fresh as a lily, and he’s not?

Auh, What is it that ya’ll say? Houston we have a problem!

Cemeeli

May 8th, 2009
1:09 pm

@ Lioness – I don’t aint smashing right now.

Hold a sista up in prayer.

LIONESS- About to Cook

May 8th, 2009
1:14 pm

Randy- I like that!

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 8th, 2009
1:21 pm

AmRed – I’m going out of town this weekend, but if I wasn’t I would definitely be at minicamp. truth be told, had I known we were having minicamp this weekend, I would not have planned to go out of town…

Cemeeli – I see you remember that ‘pumped in you’ reference, LOL. I told my doctor this week that I hope all my eggs dry up and fall out before someone gets the notion to want to pump one up in me :lol:

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 8th, 2009
1:25 pm

Aww…JtJ, don’t be mad. He was “going green” by recycling :lol:

-W8

May 8th, 2009
1:27 pm

Staying fresh is a must. Summer time is two showers a day weather. I don’t want my woman funky so why should I be? But on the flip side if the mood hits…we will “funk” right through it.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 8th, 2009
1:28 pm

WANTED…dead or alive….Staceye’s libido! Preferrably alive! :lol:

I guess if or when my libido is found….this topic may have some relevance to me! :lol: Not knocking the topic…it just doesn’t pertain to me….so…Que crickets! :lol:

As for Mother’s day….Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers. God bless you because I can’t do it. I may end up in a looney bin trying to do it. Babies I can deal with…but one you get be a year….I am done. The cuteness is gone and now you get on my nerves! :lol: People are always trying to put me with a kid because of how good I am with them. They need to realize I know in my mind this ISH ain’t permanent. I can leave when I wanna! I used to work my church’s nursery just to cure any creepry crazy maternal thoughts I may have had. By the end of the service I was b*tchsmacked back to reality!

Cemeeli

May 8th, 2009
1:29 pm

Randy- I like that!

@ Lioness – Gal, sit yourself down over here on this soft leather sofa in the Horny Section, with me.

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 8th, 2009
1:31 pm

Happy mothers day to all you mommies. Forehead kiss to you all.

JtJ

May 8th, 2009
1:44 pm

Aigghhhttt ARed…… you showed out!!! I am going to recycle some stuff, too.

MELO

May 8th, 2009
1:45 pm

Now I will stop a kissing session and ask him to go brush his teeth and tongue…….
Did you still smash after? The waiting period GOTS to be a biyatch!

Talk of Mood killer.
If hes ur regular,chop him even when hes cming outa the garden smetimes. Hes urs so no boundaries allowed.Early in the morning,like 2 am,the breath is as funk as hell but hw can u tell a man or woman to go brush their teeth when thats the funkiest time to burn azz and get dizzle??
For a newbiee, i can understand coyness and those pretensiounss(english??,zulu??,sp,wtfck???)

Leggs

May 8th, 2009
1:46 pm

Can I join you Cemeeli??

JtJ

May 8th, 2009
1:46 pm

@ Staceye…..I never had one with my ex-husband either. I use to be like “libido” what’s that? Now after him, it was on and poppin’!!

You just got to find that one that can take you there!!!

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
1:47 pm

Tazzee – Safe travels to NC. I’ve still never been for any extended period of time!

LIONESS- About to Cook

May 8th, 2009
1:48 pm

Yes Leggs you may join us :)

JtJ- keep your tail away from the recycling bin!

LIONESS- About to Cook

May 8th, 2009
1:50 pm

I LOVE a man that is in tune with a womans body!

Cemeeli

May 8th, 2009
1:50 pm

Leggs I have your favorite Philly ice-pops. Seriously! I did get them lastnight.

We can chill!

MELO

May 8th, 2009
1:53 pm

WANTED…dead or alive….Staceye’s libido

Staceye libido??..oh thats 6 ft under baby but rescuscitable with right dizzle.
my doctor this week that I hope all my eggs dry up and fall out

the edible yams are always plentiful where there are no pots to cook them in….some wise zulu words coined by them zulu elders.
How so apt in that case!!!!!

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 8th, 2009
1:54 pm

Melo – I’m sorry, I’ve never elevated to the point where I can do morning breath… When we go out, he orders all his food without onions because I wouldn’t kiss him after eating some onions one time. I just can’t imagine kissing someone with morning breath. Nor can I imagine someone’s tongue that’s been shut up in his mouth all night long kissing on my body. That kinda grosses me out.

AmRed – Thanks! I used to live in NC but I only go back to visit for a few days at a time. Can’t wait to get some Bojangles though. Exit 32 in SC is my usual stop ;-)

LIONESS- About to Cook

May 8th, 2009
1:55 pm

Question: What is a turn off during sex other than calling you somebody else’s name? For me, it talking too much.. ie: Do you like it, how do you wnat it etc.. Sex takes concentration.. LOL!

M'

May 8th, 2009
1:56 pm

Hey peeps…whats up…I am widcha from the ATL

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
1:56 pm

Babies I can deal with…but one you get be a year….I am done. The cuteness is gone and now you get on my nerves! People are always trying to put me with a kid because of how good I am with them. They need to realize I know in my mind this ISH ain’t permanent. I can leave when I wanna!

Staceye – I feel you on this. I hope my maternal instincts kick in when the time comes. I enjoy spending babysitting the kids, but after an hour or so I want mommy to come home so I can check Facebook and watch TV. :lol:

MELO

May 8th, 2009
1:57 pm

can i ask u sme side bar Tazz

JtJ

May 8th, 2009
1:58 pm

@ Lioness…I won’t do any damage….cross my heart!

Like Eddie Murphy said in “Raw” He was giving it to her and well!! I was like “Oh My!!!!!! ( said while I was crimping up toes and rubbing my chest with hand)

I am going to let it go after Saturday night……no harm, no foul……

@ TRUTH …..you know that forehead kiss is dangerous!!

LIONESS

May 8th, 2009
1:58 pm

Taz- Is the Bojangles in SC better than the ones down here? Curious, never had Bojangles..

LIONESS-Currently STARVING!

May 8th, 2009
2:00 pm

Ared- Only an hour? Goodness! WTH they gonna get done in an hour?

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 8th, 2009
2:01 pm

Lioness, there is no Bojangles near me here – plus I don’t want to find them here for fear I’ll go more often than I need to. But when I went to FL the other weekend, the Bojangles there was just as good as the ones I remember from NC/SC.

Melo – send me an email.

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
2:01 pm

Tazzee – I’ve always been curious about NC. About 6 weeks after I moved to ATL, I got a job offer in Greensboro. I didn’t take it cuz I just moved to ATL and wanted to give it a chance. From what I hear, places like Charlotte are good cities, but haven’t gotten the big city problems Atlanta has. I don’t think I’m moving soon, but I’d be curious to see what NC is all about. I guess I should at least visit first. :lol:

I have a friend that just got a great job at Duke, so I will hopefully get to visit him and his family there soon. Maybe during basketball season!

I’ve tried Bojangle’s once. Here in ATL off Indian Trail. I didn’t get the appeal. :lol: But I feel the same about Chick-fil-A too. :lol:

abc

May 8th, 2009
2:01 pm

If your partner is inexperienced or suffers misapprehensions about how you want oral or anything else done, why not just tell them what you want? As far as that goes, why would you assume that you’re operating at optimal efficiency if they won’t tell you that you aren’t? One of the biggest turn-ons for me is my girl asking me, ‘what do you want’. Baby. Grrrr.

AmazonRed™

May 8th, 2009
2:02 pm

Lioness – I mean, of course I can last longer than an hour, but I still want to do other things. :lol: My nephew is too young to do anything but just sit there and smile. Cute, but boring. :lol:

Cemeeli

May 8th, 2009
2:05 pm

??? I promise Lioness is not tryna start nuthin.

Tazzee Safe travels sis. Speaking of scents. I got one for Mom’s Day. “Ed Hardy” for Women.

Boy, that stuff is a surprising burst of ‘sweet and citrus’. I probably will only be wearing it on those days I have on particular clothes.

Cemeeli

May 8th, 2009
2:08 pm

@ Tazzee – The closest BoJangles near you would be Fulton Industrial, and it’s still burned.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 8th, 2009
2:10 pm

AmRed – they don’t have the big city problems, nor do they have the big city appeal. I basically got bored in Charlotte – not as many cultural events, concerts, nice restaurants, etc. I’m not sure you’d like the Raleigh/Durham area and I know you wouldn’t like Greensboro. From what I hear, Charlotte has ‘grown up’ a little since I left so I’ll have to check that out one visit. Maybe when I go up for the Falcons/Panthers game.

melo – what happened to you?

LIONESS-Currently STARVING!

May 8th, 2009
2:10 pm

Jennifer Hudson proposed to her dude.. What do yall think of that?

Leggs

May 8th, 2009
2:12 pm

@Cemeeli, those are my favorite and I ate my last one yesterday. :cry: