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City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
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City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
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The Name Game

You take the ring, you take the name. This is the one sentence response I got when I asked an ex-boyfriend how he felt about me not changing my name if we married. I am a Daddy’s girl and he has no sons, so I used to believe that I owed it to Pops to keep the name. The Ex was not warming up to that idea, at all!

I received an email from a reader said that she has noticed the name game among her married friends lately: “Either their names have pretty much stayed the same or the hypenation has been in full-effect!”  She said that it was “surprising to her because so many ladies grew up doodling (and still sneak-a-doodle) the last name of our beloved crush after our first, just to see how it looks.”

She wrote, “I somehow doubt men give this much thought in their formative years, if at all.  Maybe it’s the mindset of the dreaded “Independent Woman” or those who have just gotten so used to solely identifying themselves by maiden name, they can’t go all in with totally disconnecting from it.  How did the married women who chose to keep or hyphenate their maiden names broach the topic?

How did the married men whose mates favored this option react?  Do single, marriage minded men perceive women who would want to do so in a negative way? Do single, marriage minded women perceive guys as insecure if they express discomfort with the idea?

For those married folks who went the traditional route, what influenced your decision?  And for those who are dating with kids, would you feel obligated to change your children’s last names to your husband’s if you should marry?”

Thanks to the reader for asking these great questions! What do you guys think? Are we still playing the name game in 2009?

460 comments Add your comment

Poppa Grande

May 7th, 2009
4:59 pm

Tatas

I do. They drunk the flask and found the main stash too.

MELO

May 7th, 2009
4:59 pm

Melo – You peeped that too?

yeah CEE,hard core abc kinda have a soft spot for that woman.
Good nite folks!
Hope to see the tough newbies back in and early tmrow :lol:

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 7th, 2009
4:59 pm

One last thought for your fish fry. I was in Barcelona last year and had forgotten, but releaened, just how good sangria tastes. You might consider making pitchers of that to go with the food.

lurker

May 7th, 2009
4:59 pm

the married guy sent me poetry! can i insert **awwwww** here? lol.

Did she REALLY say that? SHM

Leggs

May 7th, 2009
5:00 pm

you will leave “crying from laughing so much.”

I gotcha Lioness!!!!

Leggs

May 7th, 2009
5:01 pm

YEP YEP!!!

Goodnight everyone!

Smile, smile, smile!!!!

Wise Diva

May 7th, 2009
5:02 pm

@Jamoca LOL @ your partial comment removal request :)

Jamoca

May 7th, 2009
5:02 pm

LOl @ ForReal!…and W8, I see Tatastencents dun’ put a spell on you! hahahaaa….

Yeah, Tatas…chick that dude’ll be back for more rounds I bet!

See you all tomorrow…maybe *wink*

lurker

May 7th, 2009
5:03 pm

The Lord watch over babies and fools. Just plain ole ignant? Uh uh

Wise Diva

May 7th, 2009
5:03 pm

Thanks for the interesting/random/on & off topic discussions today. I appreciate everyone’s participation