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City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP
City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP

Which side are you on?

After I interviewed Abiola of the dating reality show, Tough Love, I made sure to watch the finale of the show to see how the dating boot camp would end. I think my favorite part of the show is when Steve Ward surprised the women with the “Cute or Crazy” game.

The audience was filled with men and Steve read off the list of quirky habits/facts about the women on the show. The guys then informed the ladies how they ranked: was it cute or crazy behavior! I’ve said it before, but women don’t always know how men perceive them and their behaviors. It was shocking to the women how something seemingly so innocent made the men think ca-ra-zy chick alert!

We all have those quirky things that makes us unique. Should we worry about concealing them though? What happens when we have some type of behavior that we think is cute and quirky- but in reality, it makes potential dates cringe, laugh, or seek out therapy for us!

If you are feeling brave, share your odd or quirky habits or quirkyness. Then the readers can respond with cute or crazy and let each other know if this should be revealed to dates sooner or later, much much later.

I think I have a few, ok more than a few but I will start with three:

I avoid men with odd shaped heads. I suppose it’s related to children and our potential to have egg-shaped heads. Who wants to give birth to a bowling ball headed kid?! (Cute or Crazy?)

I don’t trust men who refuse to eat anything exotic. Ok, let’s avoid the double entendre! If you hang out with me, you will get bored ordering bread and water while I sample cuisines of other countries. Live a little! (Cute or Crazy?)

If you don’t embrace technology or utilize it in any way, shape, or form, I consider you a caveman and secretly make fun of you with my friends. (Cute or Crazy?)

I can do this all day! I will add more, but why not weigh in with yours? Please be gentle with the commenters, we can all have opinions, but no need to rake each other over the coals!

HAPPY WEDNESDAY!

421 comments Add your comment

Foots

May 6th, 2009
10:35 am

Lioness My cat does the same thing, so I try to make it up before I let him in my room in the morning. I did get into the habit of making my bed up and making sure the house is clean before I leave every morning (except for my bathroom). When I was trying to sell my old house, I had to do that, and after two months of it, it became a habit to have my house in Open House condition.

What gardening tips do you need? I’m not that bad, but my mom and dad are pros.

My list continued:

I dance in the mirror because I like to watch myself move.

When I’m not watching something specific on TV, the TV stays off because I love complete quiet the majority of the time at home. No radio, no nothing. Sometimes, I don’t want to hear another person’s voice AT ALL.

Grace

May 6th, 2009
10:35 am

I can’t do a sleep over unless I bring my fan even in the dead of winter. I had to end up spending the night at my beau’s house, well he didn’t have a fan and I didn’t have a spare one in my trunk, I told him we needed to go to walmart to buy a fan, he was pissed b/c it was so late and he was sleepy, but he went along with me anyway. He kept saying that he could turn the air down to 60 degrees, I told him it could be minus 30 degrees I would still need a fan. The whole way driving to wally world he kept looking at me and shaking his head. I was determined to get my fan. :D

LIONESS- Need To Start Doing My Billy Blanks Today!

May 6th, 2009
10:39 am

I don’t mess with dudes who have served in any type of military service!

Lurker- I too don’t eat very many peoples food cause I need to know how it was prepared. My ex made me dinner and I cringed at eating it but I had to :( People sneeze over food and believe that the heat kills the bacteria :(

Leggs

May 6th, 2009
10:39 am

@Lioness, I know, it’s weird. Only my ex and my daugther know. Well, Blogsville now know!

@JtJ, my gf laughs at me all the time with the “wet bread”. Can’t do wet bread. And, I have never understood how ppl can mix their grits and eggs together.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2009
10:41 am

My level of morality and integrity is increasing. Little white lies used to not bother. These days, they nibble on the edges of my consciousness.

Raqi

May 6th, 2009
10:42 am

Obviously showering every day is a weird habit to some. I was sitting in the conference waiting for one of the folks to bring me a copied file. As he was handing me the file he said, or rather he asked me first if he could make a statement, but he said “you look fresh every morning. Like a morning breeze type fresh, even when you are not so nice”. (A backhand compliment? LOL) I told him it could be because I shower every morning. He said “every morning?” Yep every morning. He asked, “never at night?” Every night, but I have to have my morning shower. It wakes me up. Refreshes me. LOL

I guess it works.

Grace

May 6th, 2009
10:43 am

people who hide in their own house when someone knocks on their door/ring their door bell…they hurry and turn everything off and stand their quietly and then tip toe to the window peeking out waiting for the person to leave…..that is the craziest thing LOL

Raqi

May 6th, 2009
10:43 am

Lurker one of my exes would not eat Chinese food from anywhere. Would not step foot in one.

lurker

May 6th, 2009
10:44 am

Lioness I may fix a dish for a departmental luncheon and I’m thinking that other people will have to eat so the entire time, I’m washing my hands. I’m just thinking that I want to be careful handling something someone else is going to eat. Even like that cooking for folks I know.

lurker

May 6th, 2009
10:46 am

Raqi Just can’t be too careful with asian cuisine…lol

Raqi

May 6th, 2009
10:46 am

Stuff like making the bed every morning, having a clean house and all of that is not something I consider a quirk or even odd. For me it’s a given. It is how I was raised and there is nothing abnormal about that.

LIONESS- Need To Start Doing My Billy Blanks Today!

May 6th, 2009
10:46 am

Raqi- Funny you mentioned that. I have NEVER heard of the shower @ night and go in the morning ish til I moved down here. I used to look at my ex sideways when he did that.. I need a shower in the moring too..

WET BREAD.. LAWD.. I can’t even begin to explain the disgust that runs through my head when it comes to thinking about that consistency..

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 6th, 2009
10:48 am

LURKER..girl I make my bed as soon as I awaken each day. I can not leave my bed unmade….

GRACE..are you going through the change? My mami freezes my poor dad because of her hot flashes.

LEGGS…I hate wet bread. I do not see how people eat gravy on biscuits. And why is the gravy white…looking like baby puke? EWWWW!
Never saw that back home….

RAQI…that is gross…dude thought you were weird because you bathe everyday? Wow! :shock:

SexyCool

May 6th, 2009
10:49 am

Somehow, we went from personal quirks to pet peeves.

LIONESS- Need To Start Doing My Billy Blanks Today!

May 6th, 2009
10:50 am

lurker- Even when I am fixing a meal for myself, I wash ALL the ingredients I am using.. THat is a must!! I would wash ground meat if I could! I know A LOT of people who don’t wash meat with vinegar :( This chick I used to work with used to wash chicken with palmolive..

i KISSED you before i MET you

May 6th, 2009
10:52 am

where’s the fellas? lol.

Raqi

May 6th, 2009
10:54 am

LOL Staceye I think his thing was that I shower in the morning. Every morning. A lot of people bathe at night and let that do. But I have to have my morning showers. It gets me going. And like the young said it makes me fresh and I guess I look it. LOL

The only time I did not shower was when I had the flu. I was too sick to even lift my head from the pillow. Other than that, every morning shower.

SexyCool I was thinking the same thing. LOL

Raqi

May 6th, 2009
10:54 am

And most of the pet peeves are not really that strange or odd.

Kym--has declared today old school Wednesday

May 6th, 2009
10:54 am

I have a thing about butts. I watch the butt on men and women. All butts are not created equal and I am convince that a person with no butt is missing a genetic marker.

Foots

May 6th, 2009
10:55 am

Raqi It wouldn’t be weird if I wasn’t so obsessive with it. Even if I’m late, everything has to be in its place. I check every room in the house before I go to bed or leave in the morning, like something has changed. And I’m the only one who lives there.

I’m also obsessive about my finances and being paid up on my bills. I will go so far as to estimate power/water/gas usage and prepay what I THINK they will bill me. I check all of my accounts every day (I use MINT.com, so it’s easier) just to see if something is different.

I dream about tornadoes when something is bothering me in daily life.

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2009
10:56 am

You guys are off and running. I still can’t think of anything. I need to ask my exes, I’m sure they have a laundry list. :lol:

Raqi

May 6th, 2009
10:57 am

For me something that qualifies as 110% quirky is something that you would probably only give an answer of “just because” if asked why you do it.

Grace

May 6th, 2009
10:58 am

Staceye Lawdy no!! It’s one of my crazy habits. I can’t even tell you what it does for me, but I can not sleep without a fan blowing directly on me every nite. My daughter is the same way and she’s 10. Just like I have to take a bath then a shower before I go to bed.

LIONESS- Need To Start Doing My Billy Blanks Today!

May 6th, 2009
10:59 am

Kym- You are a RIOT! I don’t know how men, white or black, think a woman with NO AZZ is attractive..

Thirdwheelofconfusion

May 6th, 2009
10:59 am

Hi Y’all!

Here is my list of quirk’s…..

- I can’t stand anyone who smells like pure butt…. I will try an stay quiet for as long as possible but I am known to call people out
- I can’t stand people who think they are better than other people… even though I have been called a snob….
- I have to sleep with the TV on and I program it before I go to sleep on shows I want to watch and when the TV should go off… Yes, I am sleep during this but I must know the TV is on with something I would like to watch just in case I wake up
- I can’t stand long hair on guys… if your hair is longer than mine then we have a problem
- I use to have a problem dating men who were uncut… my S.O. has broken me of the habit but I still find it weird….
- I can’t stand to see people shove food in their mouth. I eat very slowly and I expect people to wait on me to finish my food
- I can’t stand a dirty toilet…..I have a problem with my current S.O. about this…. I will hold my water until I get home or use the shower before I use a dirty toilet…
- When I am nervous I tend to scratch the top of my nose or grab my ear… don’t call me out on it either…
- I can’t stand body hair so Nair is like my best friend….
- I hate when people tell me I have big boobs or try and touch them…. I already know this thank you…
- I love to buy magazines flip through them and then toss them to the side….
- I have to talk to myself sometimes in the car because I have no one else to talk to…
- I have to have a pedicure because after I saw Boomerang I was never the same after that….

LIONESS- Need To Start Doing My Billy Blanks Today!

May 6th, 2009
11:00 am

Grace- That is a MUST! If i take a bath, I MUST take a shower right after.. Nothing is clean about sitting in dirty bath water..

Kym--has declared today old school Wednesday

May 6th, 2009
11:01 am

Grace I have been in love with two men with the same quirk. Both had to have the damn fan on to sleep.

My son eats his veggies or starch first then his meat. They can’t really touch.

I have to eat my fries first then my burger or other meat.

The smell of fresh cut grass makes me sexually excited.

Raqi

May 6th, 2009
11:01 am

Like if someone asked me why when just sitting and thinking I trace my lips with my finger or my sunglasses. It’s just because. And most times I don’t realize I am doing it.

My baby brother, my husband and one of my best friends always ask, “what are thinking about?”. They have become familiar with that little habit of mine.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2009
11:02 am

I think the fact that Down’s Syndrome people have the same face is beautiful.

i KISSED you before i MET you

May 6th, 2009
11:03 am

**If i take a bath, I MUST take a shower right after..**

same here!

Leggs

May 6th, 2009
11:03 am

@Staceye/Lioness/JtJ, so glad to have you guys chime in on the wet bread issue. If I see it or some gets in mouth like a blimpie sandwich that I didn’t eat fast enuf, I will shake and shudder!

@Foots, your dreaming of tornadoes makes perfectly good sense to me!

Also, don’t like anything mushy or too thick…leave it alone Melo! :lol:

Don’t like fruit in my food, especially cooked fruit!

SlimOne

May 6th, 2009
11:04 am

Yall are cracking me up! Whoever said they hate sitting in a salon seat after someone just got up is just like me! I don’t know what it is, but I just imagine the chair smelling like hot azz and I don’t want that smell on my hiney.

I told yall before I can’t stand for cabinents and drawers in the kitchen to be open. You go in there, then close it back when you’re done. How hard can it be.

As far as food, I do mix my eggs, grits AND bacon up together. MMMmm now thats some good eatin’.

My toilet tissue has to come over the top of the roll. I can’t stand it the other way around.

I have to sleep with the closet door closed. Something about waking up in the middle of the night with a dark black crack in the door making you wonder what lurks beyond.

I have to sleep with a pillow between my knees.
I never chew a whole piece of gum, I always tear it in halves.

I can’t stand a dude with chewed up nails or either long nails….just plain creepy.

I only shave my legs from the knee down.
I can’t stand to have a chipped or rough-edged nail. Out comes the finger nail file.
I can’t stand seeing anybody spit. I must look away.
I can’t sleep with my mouth open, even if i’m sick and my nose is stopped up. I will stay up walking around, doing jumping jacks or anything to get my nose to open up before i can go back to sleep.

i KISSED you before i MET you

May 6th, 2009
11:04 am

y’all have a good one! **i don’t like these new early hours. ugh!**

Raqi

May 6th, 2009
11:06 am

think a woman with NO AZZ is attractive

Lioness just like not all men like women with long hair. Not all me like women that are a size 6. Not all men like women that are shorter than them.

Some men find fuller breast more attractive. Some men prefer the legs. Some the complexion. Some the smile.

It’s a personal preference that is justifiable. It’s what the person likes that makes the other personal attractive.

Like I prefer men with facial hair but I know a few women who will not date a guy with any hair on the face. I am not going to say “how can a woman find a man without facial hair attractive?” She does because it’s what she likes.

SlimOne

May 6th, 2009
11:07 am

I have a female friend of mine who has to shuffle cards in her hands while she watches tv. Now that is weird!

MELO

May 6th, 2009
11:10 am

I have to talk to myself sometimes in the car because I have no one else to talk to…

ohhhhhhh,give me a hugg sugar..ugh,ugh,ugh on ur BIG boobs. :lol:

Raqi

May 6th, 2009
11:11 am

SexyCool I love what you just said because it is not a sympathy statement for their condition, but it is a freakin’ beautiful statement.

Mo (aka Moeisha- looking for a new haircut)

May 6th, 2009
11:15 am

Kym – I have a similar sexual excitedness like yours with fresh cut grass triggered by burning leaves. Something about that smell I love!

Slimeone – I do the pillow b/w the knees thing too

Also: I cannot sleep on my back

Though I own plenty of pairs of pajamas I cant sleep in them, my
legs feel like they are suffocating

I hate the smell of sour hair…please wash your hair!! EEEWW

When taking a road trip I do not like to stop and when I do,
everything is done then. Also I dont mind if everyone riding
with me falls asleep, I enjoy my music better that way
anyway! :0)

Foots

May 6th, 2009
11:17 am

Slim You named a couple of mine that I forgot. I can’t walk by an open cabinet or drawer without closing it. And I HATE sleeping with the closet door open.

Another one, no matter how big the bed is or where I’m sleeping (home, vacation, family’s house, boyfriend’s apt), I HAVE to sleep on the left side of it. Even when I had a twin bed growing up, I slept on the left corner of it. I have to arrange the nightstand/clock to reflect that.

I can’t swallow nasty cough syrup or liquid medicine. All of my doctors know that this freaks me out and they personally apologize when they can’t give me something in tablet form.

I like staring out the window when it rains.

Here is a “just because” one for you Raqi: :LOL:

I comment out loud on random stuff that I’m walking past. It took my boyfriend a year to understand that if I’m walking past a red chair, I will automatically say “Oh, it’s a red chair” and I don’t need him to say anything about my comment.

Grace

May 6th, 2009
11:18 am

I have to talk to myself sometimes in the car because I have no one else to talk to…ggggiiiirrrlll :D

MELO

May 6th, 2009
11:20 am

Kym/Mo,can i plz cget that contract to cut ur grass??
I may decide not to charge u since u are blog mates and i wont bring no assistants.Just me and my tools :grin:

SlimOne

May 6th, 2009
11:22 am

Foots “Oh, it’s a red chair”

That sounds like a mild case of tourrets syndrome. Out of the blue yell, “I can make a booger talk!” :lol:

Leggs

May 6th, 2009
11:23 am

I cannot sleep w/the tv on.

When thinking, I hold my chin.

When I happy w/my food, I rock while eating.

Use to think gray clothing was for old people, but I like it now :lol:

I fear the jalapeno pepper!!!

LIONESS- Need To Start Doing My Billy Blanks Today!

May 6th, 2009
11:23 am

Raqi- That is understood BUT they don’t fill out their panties.. Just baggy drawls or the string from the thong is not hidden AT ALL.. Facial hair comment was interesting but hair can be grown and cut off, azz can’t be acquired naturally if a person has none AT ALL.. I get what you are trying to say :)

Slim- I am the same with toilet tissue.. I cringe when it is the other way.

3rd wheel- i too have to fall asleep with the tv on but I put the sleep timer on.

SlimOne

May 6th, 2009
11:24 am

I look at my cootie coot often. You might come in the bathroom without knocking and see me with a hand held mirror checking out my Catfish. lol Don’t be alarmed. lol

Grace

May 6th, 2009
11:26 am

When I happy w/my food, I rock while eating – too funny & cute Leggs

LIONESS- Need To Start Doing My Billy Blanks Today!

May 6th, 2009
11:26 am

I can’t sleep in a car while on a road trip.. Not trusting of other people driving me anywhere.. very few people I trust t drive me around..

SlimOne

May 6th, 2009
11:28 am

I don’t like falling asleep with the tv on, unless I’m taking a nap on the couch. Even then, the volume must be all the way down. I like it dark and quiet when I sleep. A guy I dated had to have the tv on and would use his Sleep timer faithfully, even if he was already falling asleep. That used to drive me crazy..but even worse, if we were int he kitchen and were about to go upstairs, he’d even put the kitchen tv on Sleep timer knowing no one was going to be down there. Didn’t it just make sense to turn it off right then and there? aaarrrgggghhhh!

SexyCool

May 6th, 2009
11:29 am

When I’ve waited too long to go to the bathroom, I say to myself, “I gotta pee.” as I am sitting down on the toilet. Yes, I say it out loud. LOL.

Leggs

May 6th, 2009
11:29 am

@SexyCool, my niece has Downs. That was a warmhearted statement you made. Thanks.

@SlimOne, I definitely can relate to :arrow: “I can’t stand for cabinents and drawers in the kitchen to be open. You go in there, then close it back when you’re done, and :arrow: :My toilet tissue has to come over the top of the roll. I can’t stand it the other way around.” I’ve changed many of my friends toilet paper when using the facility.

I always take my shoes off while driving.