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It’s Not A Guy Thing

I know men are often blamed for being the ones that hate confrontation, but it’s not a guy thing. Plenty of women detest having long drawn out discussions about “where is this going” or “what are you thinking/feeling”. I know this because I lean toward the, so called guy side in these situations. In a relationship, I don’t like the uncomfortable confrontations that will surely come with a new relationship.

I’m the type that just likes to say what’s bothering me and move on – quickly. I don’t want to dwell on it or dissect it. I’m also the type that cuts her losses really quick when I notice things going south with a new guy. There was a guy who insisted on calling me repeatedly after we decided we weren’t going to work. He would engage me in these heated discussions and it was draining. Why can’t I ever date the men who avoid confrontations like I do?

Guys, have you ever dated a woman who was like you in the sense that she hated confrontations? Do you think that was a good thing or a bad one? How did that play out when you really needed to get something off your chest?

Ladies, do you think men avoid confrontation because the way women react when things get intense? Have you found a way to handle the confrontations with a little bit of finesse that won’t make the man cringe or run for the hills?

What do you do when you lose interest in someone new and there is not really a “break up” needed, but the person confronts you about where they stand?

Happy Cinco de Mayo everyone! Where will you be celebrating?

296 comments Add your comment

MELO

May 5th, 2009
4:19 pm

Leggs,after a nite out at the club one time in South Africa, i had sexx on the staircase of this abandoned building,just next to a thoroughfare/bus stop.There were pple mingling,waiting for the morning buses!
We didnt even have to take the panties off,i just slid my thang thru the side….rabbit,rabbit,rabbit(picture my backside) and it was a wrap!
U do it where its convenient,where-ever that maybe!
Those are moments to savor.

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 5th, 2009
4:20 pm

Leggs, remember when you didnt have enough loot to afford a low budget roach infested room for your rendezvous? I guess I was the only one hunching chicks legs anywhere I could. smh

Foots

May 5th, 2009
4:20 pm

Amazon WOW!! I didn’t even think to do that! Thanks!!

Tyrannosaurus Hex.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 5th, 2009
4:22 pm

tagged on an air conditioning unit…wish there was a smh emoticon, :lol:

AmazonRed™

May 5th, 2009
4:22 pm

Two weeks later he caught me again. Same girl, same place. I was a real knuckle head.

See… that chick was just fast. Two weeks later I would STILL be grounded and my room under surveillance.

MELO

May 5th, 2009
4:23 pm

Du,my boy did it on his parents bed too,they were found out by the parent(i think the dad walked in on them).He married the girl but she had lost all respect with the parents.They had one girl,then divorced few yrs later.
Neva mess with the in-laws!

Foots

May 5th, 2009
4:25 pm

LIONESS- Very Sleepy

May 5th, 2009
4:26 pm

I can’t believe they still make people who don’t believe in god.. SMDH!

DuShawn

May 5th, 2009
4:26 pm

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The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 5th, 2009
4:28 pm

When i was in germany i did it in this kids playhouse in a park in the snow. One time we just stopped in a school ground and layed right there on the concrete, her on the bottom of course, and went at it. If a chicks willing to degrade herself I’m willing to do my part to help. LOL

MELO

May 5th, 2009
4:28 pm

I left work at 8.00 pm last nite,went home and Queen was slumbering on the sofa.
I quickly changed,she handed me my dinner plate and headed upstairs to sleep.
Her dinner was downright horrible,Brutus my dog wld have given that cat food a few licks and dumped it :grin: So did I.
She woke up earlier than me this morning,as usual, to go to work and i neva had a chance to tell her face to face how horrible that cooking was.
Shld i raise that issue tonite???

AmazonRed™

May 5th, 2009
4:29 pm

I guess I was the only one hunching chicks legs anywhere I could. smh

LOL. Score one (no pun intended :lol: ) for the stuck up chicks too good for that type of thing.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 5th, 2009
4:29 pm

well….it looks like I will be leaving work early today.

Have a great evening all!

AmazonRed™

May 5th, 2009
4:30 pm

i neva had a chance to tell her face to face how horrible that cooking was.
Shld i raise that issue tonite???

Only if you want to her to tell you when your lovin is horrible. :lol:

My point: Folks are allowed to have an off nite from time to time. :lol:

DuShawn

May 5th, 2009
4:31 pm

That same little girl grew up and married one of my potnahs. I was in the wedding. Ironically, she and I were born on the same day, of the same year, in the same hospital. I think about her everytime I celebrate my birthday.

AmazonRed™

May 5th, 2009
4:32 pm

She woke up earlier than me this morning,as usual, to go to work

melo – It looks like she tried to kill you last nite and was mad that you were still alive by morning. :lol:

If dinner tastes funny again tonight…run! :lol:

Leggs

May 5th, 2009
4:33 pm

FOOTS IS THE WINNER. I will save my last popsicle joke stick for tomorrow.

I remembered keeping my legs closed for a long time. Even had a guy tell me I may catch fire…all bones rubbing together.

Foots

May 5th, 2009
4:35 pm

MELO Amazon might be right. Tonight, insist on eating off of the children’s plates. Directly off of their plates once they get their food.

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 5th, 2009
4:35 pm

Ared, lmao at Queen trying to kill Melo. Dude. let it ride but if it happens again put foot to azz.

Bye Tazz. She doesnt know it but I’m getting that when I get back.

Kym--is like Whoa!

May 5th, 2009
4:35 pm

Truth I am not surprised at the sex. Heck who am I? I was a teenager when I did the do the first time. Granted I was not going to be outside in the public in the cold, or in the daylight. I was sneaky, but not stupid. Maybe that’s my problem with kids today..they are just stupid.

Jamoca

May 5th, 2009
4:36 pm

LOL @ Foots!…right, a hex….cute.

LOL @ Du’s “Memoirs of a Knucklehead”…your stories, your stories…lol

Now just to add my lil’ bit on the AC Hit n’ Run scenario…no, I can’t say that I’m surprised. As a matter of fact, even after her testimony of appreciating being chastised and scolded…does NOT mean that she won’t try it again, and again and again…be it a hotel balcony, the hood of an SUV (btw, I know of two people who did that, and a child was conceived) or the on top of the grill at your nearest Waffle House.

People learn at their own pace.

lurker

May 5th, 2009
4:37 pm

Y’all kill me with this “I cant believe she was fugging” shyt….as much as I hate to….imma have to cosign.

It takes a good many years to teach a young person about life, what to do, what to expect, what to accept, what to avoid. Sorry but it irkes me to no end to pass judgement on kids when that support system is missing. The vast majority of kids are not getting therefore you shouldn’t judge or be surprised or be astonished. Educate the heck out of them but if there’s not a balance there still won’t matter. If I can recall, it took a great deal of “being there” for me from my parents and even with that, I didn’t avoid some mistakes. I didn’t induldge until close to my mid twenties. There were sooo many times I wanted to throw caution to the went and get with it but playing in the back of my mind were the things my parents taught. So when I had to make a hard stand in deciding to override and do what feels good (not necessarily physical), I would be walking in eyes wide open and a given if I made the wrong choice there would be self inflicted consequence. The end result of much resisted, day in and day out lessons would nudge me to do the right thing. Kids need all the help they can get so if you’re there and see this kind of behavior, do what you can to help, not get disgusted or feel pity. Help ‘em out. It just kills me that we look back and feel soooo far removed from what these kids are going through or experiencing.

Don Pablo

May 5th, 2009
4:37 pm

Where is that dirty south sister?

Bill the Dill Thrill! Man grow some spin. Yous a straight up simp!

AmazonRed™

May 5th, 2009
4:38 pm

Fine, I’ll admit it. That story of 15 year old sex on AC units suprised me! I know we have a different generation of knuckleheads today tho.

I’m just glad I had a childhood and at 15 was worrying about childish things.

And it wasn’t easy growing up in Los Angeles. Heck the first day we played outside when we moved there the kids were talking about lesbians (I was 7). We were quite sheltered after that! :lol:

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 5th, 2009
4:39 pm

MELO…those moments are to savor if you are not a child. LEGGS was right to tell both of their parents. The way they were going she coudl have ended up pregnant or worse..some STD! Ole boy running aorund sticking his joint in any an everything raw..and she is letting him so how many others has she allowed in there. You’d be amazed how little kids really know about sex except where to put it. The STDs & preganancy myths run ramped because some parents actually will not talk to their kids about sex on the real level. They have thier kids so scared to talk to them that the’d rather get thier info from the idiot kids on the street. Lil Leggs is not like that. She is a very respectful 14 year old who has a good mami to make sure she doesn’t end up like one of these lost souls. If I had a child I’d want to know if he/she is doing no good.

Leggs

May 5th, 2009
4:41 pm

No, no need to raise it Melo. It’s a new day!

MELO

May 5th, 2009
4:42 pm

Lurker,why all the pain in explaining.Tell us just this one time,hw u got that off ur back with the boy

Thanx uall for u advice :lol: I think if i tell her tonite,she either gets hurt or we be in a big fight.Im inclined to tell her tho,like Rai advised or else it becomes her standrad.
I tell u tmrw what i finally decide on..it sure is gonna be either one or 2.

abc

May 5th, 2009
4:44 pm

The only advice my old man gave me about sex was ‘learn when to keep it in your pants’. Mom was most concerned that I’d become sexually active without her knowing, so I assured her that when I became so, I’d tell her. So, I told her all about it; I was 16, girl was 19. I thought I was a bit of a late starter, at that. They knew they couldn’t stop me, so they tried to teach me to be even a little bit responsible about it. I can’t say they did the right thing, but they couldn’t have stopped me. Kids want to get laid, they get laid, that’s that.

Now DuShawn, “chicks” and “ho’s” is not Ebonics! It’s not exactly King’s English either, but hey.

Kym--is like Whoa!

May 5th, 2009
4:44 pm

You get a piece of chicken!! and you get a piece of chicken!!!Couldn’t resist.

Leggs

May 5th, 2009
4:45 pm

…be it a hotel balcony, the hood of an SUV You see when grown ups do it in off the wall places its FUN, when children do it it’s STUPID! I didn’t make the rules, just enforcing it!

lurker

May 5th, 2009
4:45 pm

And never think you’re child is that far removed from what you see “other bad kids” doing. They’re all kids, hormones running amuck. No child better than the other, all capable of doing wrong. The difference will be what you instill. If you don’t, they’re just another heathen. This is the thing, teach as much as you can as often as you can. They’ll ignore and blow off some, but some will stick. When they’re ready to step out, what you taugh will go with them. If they decide the low road in life in better, who can they blame? Eyes wide open…

AmazonRed™

May 5th, 2009
4:47 pm

Im inclined to tell her tho,like Rai advised or else it becomes her standrad.

Melo – Her standard? Hasn’t she been cooking for your rusty azz for over a decade??? :lol:

Leggs

May 5th, 2009
4:47 pm

Awwww, thank you lil sis! That was nice of you!

@ARed, I’m with you at 15 I was doing childish things and sex wasn’t part of my childhood.

lurker

May 5th, 2009
4:48 pm

Melo must you be crass all the time? Gheesh

Don Pablo

May 5th, 2009
4:49 pm

Are all of you adults?

Some really read like teens.

MELO

May 5th, 2009
4:53 pm

Yeah Ared but she knows dinner is my fav meal.It has to be right.
Lurker,what i do.. i luv u,u know that right?

Cant hold this,am calling her now coz i saw some of that left over stuff in the fridge this morning,she might want to do seconds on that poison :lol: :grin:

AmazonRed™

May 5th, 2009
4:55 pm

See, this is why I’m not married. :lol: (Reason #156,209)

You don’t like how/what I cook. You can certainly take over those duties. :lol: Especially if I have to get up every morning and go to work like my “breadwinner.”

SexyCool

May 5th, 2009
4:55 pm

Lurker – I ask myself the same think frequently as I smdh.

SexyCool

May 5th, 2009
4:56 pm

But….at least he’s consistent.

DuShawn

May 5th, 2009
4:57 pm

As men my father and I discussed that incident. He laughed and said “at least I knew, I didn’t raise a punk.” We both looked at my 5 year old son. I said, Pop if he’s anything like me I nned to stack up 250K for abortion, bail, lawyer and get up on your feet money. He said if he’s anything like you, you better double that amount.

Leggs

May 5th, 2009
4:59 pm

Good night everyone!

HAPPY CINCO DE MAYO! NO DUI’s THIS EVENING…EVERYONE BE MINDFUL OF YOUR SURROUNDINGS AND THE AMOUNT OF ALCOHOL YOU INTAKE!!!!

lurker

May 5th, 2009
5:01 pm

SexyCBut at least he’s consistent….

and that’s scary…lol

SexyCool

May 5th, 2009
5:04 pm

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LIONESS- Very Sleepy

May 5th, 2009
5:08 pm

Melo- LMMFAO!! That was hilarious!! He knew she couldn’t cook before they got married!

SexyCool

May 5th, 2009
5:09 pm

Lurker – Tell me about it. lol

Wise Diva

May 5th, 2009
5:10 pm

Have a wonderful evening everyone, if you celebrate, have a ‘Rita for me too!