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It’s Not A Guy Thing

I know men are often blamed for being the ones that hate confrontation, but it’s not a guy thing. Plenty of women detest having long drawn out discussions about “where is this going” or “what are you thinking/feeling”. I know this because I lean toward the, so called guy side in these situations. In a relationship, I don’t like the uncomfortable confrontations that will surely come with a new relationship.

I’m the type that just likes to say what’s bothering me and move on – quickly. I don’t want to dwell on it or dissect it. I’m also the type that cuts her losses really quick when I notice things going south with a new guy. There was a guy who insisted on calling me repeatedly after we decided we weren’t going to work. He would engage me in these heated discussions and it was draining. Why can’t I ever date the men who avoid confrontations like I do?

Guys, have you ever dated a woman who was like you in the sense that she hated confrontations? Do you think that was a good thing or a bad one? How did that play out when you really needed to get something off your chest?

Ladies, do you think men avoid confrontation because the way women react when things get intense? Have you found a way to handle the confrontations with a little bit of finesse that won’t make the man cringe or run for the hills?

What do you do when you lose interest in someone new and there is not really a “break up” needed, but the person confronts you about where they stand?

Happy Cinco de Mayo everyone! Where will you be celebrating?

296 comments Add your comment

Leggs

May 5th, 2009
2:53 pm

@Melo, yes the advice still counts. The position one is in when giving sound advice doesn’t negate the message being conveyed. She could have been sucking on his earlobe and typing at the same time.

@SexcyCool, your Senior Letter Campaign reminded me of something that happened over the weekend. Four years ago, I caught a 15 year old girl having sex on the air conditioning unit next door to my house. It was a freaking cold winter afternoon. Well she knocked on my door Sunday afternoon to say “thank you” for the things I said to her. I was blown away. Away, I told her many things some nice and a lot not so nice. Tell your gf’s daughter to (1) never let anyone belittle her, (2) always walk with her head held high, (3) awlays believe in yourself no matter what anyone else has to say, and (4) keep negative people out of your circle!

Kym--is like Whoa!

May 5th, 2009
2:59 pm

Okay look here.. there can only be one The Truth. How can I trademark my name.

Kym--is like Whoa!

May 5th, 2009
3:04 pm

@Leggs and what did you say to the boy?

AmazonRed™

May 5th, 2009
3:06 pm

Kym – Trademarking definitely helps. :lol:

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 5th, 2009
3:06 pm

Truth, there’s not enough room in this joint for the 2 of us. Either put on a turban or do a name change.

Mo, yeah its pretty pathetic. I bought a margarita today with no alcohol and used my imagination

AmazonRed™

May 5th, 2009
3:06 pm

Great story Leggs! I’m so glad the young girl listened and didn’t just dismiss it.

Leggs

May 5th, 2009
3:09 pm

The boy ran off leaving her standing there, I couln’t deal with him. However, I did know where he lived. I went to his house and told his parents what I witnessed. Of course he lied. He had even changed his clothes acting like he never left the house. But because he was 15, I was able to easily trip him up. Once he came clean, I let his parents handle him. Then, I went to her house and told her parents.

i'm swiss

May 5th, 2009
3:09 pm

“Four years ago, I caught a 15 year old girl having sex on the air conditioning unit next door to my house.”

Sooooooo…. that means now — she’s legal! :lol: (Kidding, kidding)

Happy Cinco de Mayo, blogsville! I’m starting the celebration early by enjoying the traditional Jack & Coke (hey, it’s my tradition). Any big plans for anyone?

MELO

May 5th, 2009
3:10 pm

SexxyLeggs On a fckking,frigin’ cold and hard air con??!!!
Smething about that boy :lol:

Foots

May 5th, 2009
3:10 pm

Leggs I wonder if the boy that ran off and left her standing there is kin to the dude that led police on a chase, then jumped out of the car, leaving his wife and children behind??

Leggs

May 5th, 2009
3:16 pm

@I’m Swiss, hello! I know you’re joking.

@Melo, it was so windy outside and tree branches being blown all around the yard. I thought it was a tree branch dangling when I realized it was a freaking LEG!

@Foots, when I heard the news story I wondered how the heck do you run off leaving your wife and children after crashing the car!

LIONESS- Very Sleepy

May 5th, 2009
3:17 pm

Leggs & Foots- Too many coward azz men out here!!

LIONESS- Very Sleepy

May 5th, 2009
3:18 pm

Leggs- I am BAFFLED by your story! I can’t believe she would allow a boy to touch her in that way @ that age. WOW!!

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 5th, 2009
3:21 pm

ARED…”You can rip my ticket up to come visit you. We’ll continue by webcam. Don’t mind the martini next to me.” You call it a martini now. I thought it was the Rabbit! :lol:

TRUTH…no liqour…oh hellz nah! I can’t come visit you bruh! :lol:

Leggs

May 5th, 2009
3:25 pm

If you’re baffled can you imagine how I felt when I saw this. When she told me her age my heart ached. When I demanded she step into my house, she had the nerve to say her parents told her never to step into a strangers house. That did it for me. You can’t come inside but you think it’s ok to have sex on an air conditioning unit. I wanted to wring her neck!

LIONESS- Very Sleepy

May 5th, 2009
3:28 pm

Leggs- I couldn’t IMAGINE how you felt! The nerve of that little girl.. They do say the apple NEVER falls far from the tree..

AmazonRed™

May 5th, 2009
3:28 pm

I thought it was the Rabbit!

Staceye – don’t even put that out there in the universe for me! My “o’s” don’t come by battery operated devices! :lol:

Leggs

May 5th, 2009
3:28 pm

A girl who lets a boy touch her like that, at that age, in that way has issues and low self-esteem. Something is going on in her life, perhaps in her home. What freaking teenager in their right mind is going to have sex in the winter on top of an airconditioning unit!

She now plays basketball outside my door with the boys in the neighborhood. I haven’t seen this young lady in 4 years and now she’s playing basketball w/the fellas. She’s good too!

AmazonRed™

May 5th, 2009
3:29 pm

Leggs – were they even using protection? I mean, the story makes me shudder.

LMAO @ you going to their houses. It takes a villiage. So many other people wouldn’t care. Wonder what happened to that little boy liar.

Jamoca

May 5th, 2009
3:30 pm

Okay…I’ll be sure to shorten it this time around, Bill…

Well, I said all that to say, I realized later on that it was my fault, so guess who was big enough to put her pride aside and come back asking for another round??? Yes, sir…you got it. He could have told me to go on’ somewhere with my “petition” but he didn’t. In fact, I added that if it did not work out for whatever reason….the demise of the relationship would not be on my account. …so with that, I think I’ll end it on that lil note.

So hopefully, you get the gist of what I’m saying…and I hope things work out for you both…with or without the other.

MELO

May 5th, 2009
3:31 pm

I thought it was a tree branch dangling when I realized it was a freaking LEG! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Her mum and dad wld have been like :wcked: :wicked:

Her boy,looking back from across a neighbor’s yard :grin: at that unfinished bizzness.

And she wld be like :) when her parents ask her “what u doing with that boy,having sexx with him on the cold air con like u a squirrel?”

MELO

May 5th, 2009
3:31 pm

Her mum and dad wld have been like, :wcked:

MELO

May 5th, 2009
3:32 pm

Her mum and dad wld have been like :wicked:

AmazonRed™

May 5th, 2009
3:34 pm

Melo, it’s “twisted” :twisted: or “evil” :evil:

Leggs

May 5th, 2009
3:35 pm

No, they weren’t using protection. Told her all about stds, pregnancy, etc. She knew some of this, but was more ashamed at getting caught than doing the deed. I had an issue w/that. I didn’t even have to question whether I should go to their houses or not. I have a daughter and would want one to tell me if it was my daughter.

ARed – the boy was sent back to Jamaica to live with his grandparents.

OMG, “like u a squirrel.” That was funny!

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 5th, 2009
3:44 pm

LOL @ melo’s wicked….

MELO

May 5th, 2009
3:45 pm

Thanx Ared.
Dang that spoiled my skit!!!

Jack Smiley

May 5th, 2009
3:52 pm

I poop alot…..

MELO

May 5th, 2009
3:54 pm

Jack,u got no intestines or they’re Jacked up! :grin:

Jamoca

May 5th, 2009
3:57 pm

well…good for you and your overly active dookie shute…(smh)

Leggs

May 5th, 2009
3:57 pm

JOKE: WHAT GOES 99 CLUNK…99 CLUNK…99 CLUNK…?

Remember these jokes are corny! Jamoca, you’re not allowed to guess (LOL)!

Foots

May 5th, 2009
3:58 pm

Let me try it… :evil:

Foots

May 5th, 2009
3:58 pm

Foots

May 5th, 2009
4:00 pm

Okay, here is the winner of the Dumb Az Hellz Chick Award for Tuesday, May 5th:

Police say Dearman’s girlfriend, 19-year-old Aisha Jackson, was waiting for him in a car. Jackson was arrested hours later when she returned to the same McDonald’s that night to order food at the drive-thru. Another McDonald’s is roughly a quarter mile away and the area has dozens of fast-food restaurants, he said.

“That was not a very smart thing to do.”

Jamoca

May 5th, 2009
4:01 pm

Awww…Leggs, why the heyal not? Lol…I know I’m no good at figuring these popcicle jokes, but it’s still entertaining to hear/see what we come up with.

hmmmm….99 clunk, 99 clunk???

Kym--is like Whoa!

May 5th, 2009
4:03 pm

a centiped or milliped with a wooden leg.

Foots

May 5th, 2009
4:04 pm

Testing… :rolleyes:

Foots

May 5th, 2009
4:05 pm

Aww, that one didn’t work. Hey Amazon, what are the other smiley/emoticon codes??

Leggs

May 5th, 2009
4:06 pm

Only because I know you don’t do corny! :lol: Have at it. To me, the answer doesn’t make much sense!

Kym--is like Whoa!

May 5th, 2009
4:06 pm

@Leggs well glad you reached her.

LeeH1

May 5th, 2009
4:07 pm

What a game! Women want to be passive and not confront. Then they want to whine and be aggressive when the man is forced into a confrontation by a passive agressive woman, who doesn;t want to confront, but wants the man to confront, so she can go limp then play him for being confrontational.

All these games such as “Tell me the Truth/Don’t Tell Me What I don’t Want to Know” and “I Want all the Reassurance in the World/Don’t Commit Too Soon” and “I Want to Draw a Line in the Sand/But Don’t You Dare Step Over that Line” and my personal favorite, “Don’t You Dare Break one of the Rules that I Just Made up and Haven’t Told You About!”

Funny how all the cross-gender movies such as “Tootsie”, “The Merchant of Venice” or “Yentl” all show the women characters happiest when they can confront the world and be open and honest like a man. Women are most unhappy when they are afraid to confront. Why do women fight to keep this unhappiness?

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 5th, 2009
4:08 pm

Y’all kill me with this “I cant believe she was fugging” shyt. If you wasnt at that age you was giving hand jobs or something. Here we go with the angels in the outfield bs again. Not you Ared my clean shaven love doll with the afro in the middle.

I cant believe y’all are bailing on me because of the ban on alcohol. What about my great convo, quick wit, and humor you loved so much. Isnt that enough to get you over here? Please say I mean more than a drink.Please.

Wise, I need to have a confrontation with you. I’ve tried to support your work and offer topics to help you yet you ignore me. Sometimes I question where our relationship is and what it means to you. All i ask for is acknowledgement and for you to tell me how you feel.I dont want to come across as a nag but I have questions that need to be answered dammit. Listen to me and quit watching that dam hawks game. (The Truth busts out in tears for affect, just like the chicks do)

Leggs

May 5th, 2009
4:08 pm

WOW, too late Jamoca….KYM IS THE WINNER!

This is from yesterday and though entirely too corny, but here it is:

WHAT MAGIC SPELL TURNS YOU INTO A DINOSAUR?

AmazonRed™

May 5th, 2009
4:10 pm

Foots – Roll your curser over the emoticons and you can see what the code is. “eyeroll” is “roll” :roll:

Jamoca

May 5th, 2009
4:11 pm

LOL…okay, then you feel my frustration. How about giving us a hint, huh? Is it a person, place or thing and where is “it” found? That’s the least you can do…c’mon now. lol

Leggs

May 5th, 2009
4:11 pm

@Truth, I’m not entirely surprised she was having sex, more surprised at the spot they chose to do it and that she let this little boy take her there or that she took the boy there. No matter how you spin it, she degraded herself!

AmazonRed™

May 5th, 2009
4:15 pm

Y’all kill me with this “I cant believe she was fugging” shyt. If you wasnt at that age you was giving hand jobs or something. Here we go with the angels in the outfield bs again. Not you Ared my clean shaven love doll with the afro in the middle.

Thanks, kettle corn.

But why is it so hard to believe folks weren’t having sex at 15? I just had my first french kiss at 15. I told my first boyfriend that I wasn’t having sex til at least high school was thru and I stuck with it. I especially wasn’t having sex on prom night. I didn’t want to be a statistic.

I might have given a hand job, remember ME not getting any benefit from it, so I didn’t stick down that road :lol: . But that sho ain’t the same think as getting tagged on an air conditioning unit! :lol:

AmazonRed™

May 5th, 2009
4:17 pm

(The Truth busts out in tears for affect, just like the chicks do)

You are hella stoopid. :lol:

Jamoca

May 5th, 2009
4:17 pm

Ohhh…I give up! lol

DuShawn

May 5th, 2009
4:17 pm

That story of the young girl having sex, reminds me of when I was 15. My Old man walked in on me having sex in his bed. I was supposed to be in class. He didn’t say a word, went to the kitchen, I looked out the window and saw his car, of course I panicked, told the girl to get dressed as I began to make up his bed. Then I heard him drive off. I walked her back to school, went to the last few periods and slowly made my death march home. When I arrived, Pops had done snitched me out to the Old Girl and she was hot. They gave me the speech about STD’s and pregnancy and then made me change their dayum linen. To further the humiliation, he made me give him the girl’s number and he called her parents. I’m thinking to myself, “you a ole P#ssyazz Father, we could have kept this between us.” Honestly, I got off easy. I was anticipating an azz whooping. Two weeks later he caught me again. Same girl, same place. I was a real knuckle head.