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The Girlfriend Experience

There was a film entitled “The Girlfriend Experience” that debuted at the Tribeca Film Festival last week that is creating quite a buzz. The premise of the film is basically about a “working girl” who charges $2,000 an hour to act as a client’s girlfriend for the night, providing more intimacy than just physical intimacy.

This week Oprah interviewed a young lady who worked at a brothel in Nevada. She also said that many clients are return customers whom she has an ongoing connection to. They  basically pay for “the girlfriend experience” and seek her out to provide the experience of having a relationship. What do think about men or women that pay for emotional intimacy? Is it just another commodity or are these people fooling themselves?

I am not interested in becoming a working girl, don’t worry! I just started thinking about how some single men date women to get the girlfriend experience without the expectations, commitment, or exclusivity. Now I know there are men that are interested in forming good relationships. It can be difficult figuring out who these men are, but usually time reveals all.

Ladies, do you ever meet men who want “the girlfriend experience” instead of a REAL committed relationship? I’m talking about the men that jockey for your time, attention, and all the perks that come with being their official woman. Yet avoid any discussions about commitment or going to the next level. What do you do? Do you move on? Do you let them know that they are expecting the girlfriend experience?

Guys, do you meet and date women and desire to get “the girlfriend experience” without an actual relationship? Is this usually a sign of committment phobia? Have you ever dated women who wanted “the boyfriend experience” without being in a relationship with you? How did you handle it?

Happy Friday!

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LIONESS- Just Booked My Vacation

May 1st, 2009
3:17 pm

Ared- You’re strange.- you hit the nail on the head with THAT one!

Grace

May 1st, 2009
3:18 pm

You’re strang – LMBOFOTFR!!!! Amazon woman you always make my day :D

Grace

May 1st, 2009
3:19 pm

Dang woman I can’t even type, you made me spill drink all over my key board :D

Raqi

May 1st, 2009
3:19 pm

Tazzee are you still hanging around?

Dan

May 1st, 2009
3:20 pm

@Grace

That’s absolutely a mischaracterization of what I’ve written all day.

If we in a relationship and I:

am faithful to the relationship,
have given you no reason to suspect otherwise,
treat you with the respect that I have for you,
show you, every time we’re together, that I care about you,
(^^^responsiblities/wants/needs taken care of)

and
the only thing missing is a title, then suddenly I’m a “get the milk for free guy?” really?

Then that is what is truly sad about a the women in these times – not knowing what a good thing is when you see it.

And even with that, if the time comes that you it make SHE feel better about a title, I’m with that too….but look **poof** what’s changed?

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
3:21 pm

:lol:

Maybe it’s on purpose. Like candid camera. She’s our candid blogger, just here to confuse and befuddle us. :lol:

Leggs

May 1st, 2009
3:21 pm

I have no problem dropping it, but it’s only fair, at least in my book, that I respond to statements made to or about me.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 1st, 2009
3:22 pm

Raqi yep – just got out of a meeting and all caught up. Please explain why you won’t be able to blog with us when the baby is sleep? ;-)

Cemeeli

May 1st, 2009
3:22 pm

Swissie Thanks for the offer…but. My “boyfriend experience” is very satisfiying right now. And nope, not just “happy” because i have a man either! I’m talking ’bout THE TRUTH!

I’m in your Valet club….”where i’m not only a client but very close to the President.”

Don’t get me started on this Friday!!!

Raqi

May 1st, 2009
3:23 pm

If labels and titles are really no big deal Dan why do you men have a problem with a woman attaching one to you or you all’s relationship?

Grace

May 1st, 2009
3:24 pm

show you, every time we’re together, that I care about you Dan – what about when we’re not together?

Then that is what is truly sad about a the women in these times – not knowing what a good thing is when you see it Dan I know bs when I see it. what’s sad is men think that woman is supposed to go along with anything a man sells her just so she can say she “got a man” That’s sad. If you’re going to do something do it not half arse do it – just do it.

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
3:27 pm

Lioness – Where are you going on vacay?!

Beautiful

May 1st, 2009
3:28 pm

**It’s all about what treatment you’ll accept, single or not**

exactly. if i went on and dated joe blow or the married guy, i would be lowering my standards tremendously. not being exclusive or wanting marriage is a no go in my book. i know what i want. you know what you want. even though our standards are diff, they are still good cause everyone’s wish list will not be the same.

Grace

May 1st, 2009
3:28 pm

My question Dan to you – why go thru all the motions and not call it for what it is? I’m not here to judge you or change your mind, clearly it’s made up and this is something you’ve been practicing for some time now and have willing participants as well.

Cemeeli

May 1st, 2009
3:29 pm

OH i forgot my duties

Swissie Ah, is may damsel card is good? Lol…I need an escort.

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
3:30 pm

even though our standards are diff, they are still good cause everyone’s wish list will not be the same.

Someone please get this chick.

Is the blog bar open? :lol:

Beautiful

May 1st, 2009
3:31 pm

**My “boyfriend experience” is very satisfiying right now.**

i’m happy for you CEE. :o )

Foots

May 1st, 2009
3:32 pm

For Real I’m of the “okay, whatever” mindset at this point. If you don’t want to use titles, then don’t. You certainly don’t need to because you give no one a title. But don’t hate on me because I do.

Grace

May 1st, 2009
3:34 pm

Grace

May 1st, 2009
3:37 pm

here’s a pinkitini Amazon no gulping it’s very potent :D

Beautiful

May 1st, 2009
3:37 pm

@AMAZON
so your standards are the same as mine? i think not!

Thirdwheelofconfusion

May 1st, 2009
3:38 pm

It’s funny that this topic is brought up today. Earlier in the week I have a huge fight with the person I am seeing. We have been seeing each other for 3 months and I got made because he won’t change his facebook status to in a relationship. It still says single. Then he tells me he does not want to be in a committed relationship because he is leaving the state in 6 months. But yet he calls me all the time wants to hang out, celebrate our month annivasrays, pay for expensive gifts, sex whenever and if I have plans I am suppose to dump them and hang out with him. I like him a lot but I am starting to get fed up because I want a serious relationship. Am I the dumb one for staying?

DuShawn

May 1st, 2009
3:39 pm

Women’s position on this subject should not come as a surprise. The same way little boys are subliminally programmed not to cry, show emotion and to be tough. Little girls are programmed to one day be a bride, have a wedding and a family. That mindset is reinforced through societal pressures and the teachings of their foremothers. As I was growing up, I often heard my mother tell my sister about wasting time in relationships that weren’t moving in the “right direction”. Surprisingly, I don’t think that’s a bad thing. If it were not for the persistence of women, a lot of families wouldn’t be together today. The genders will never agree on this issue. When a female tells her girlfriends she just got engaged, they all say congratulations! When a dude shares the news with his friends, they all say, “You sure you want to do this?”. Therein lies the difference.

Raqi

May 1st, 2009
3:39 pm

Girl don’t you know I am 41 years old? This little bean sprout don’t even like me now, you think she is going to let me rest when she gets here? LOL I’ll probably peek every now and then. But not like right after she is born. Imma need my sleep.

I wanted to tell you while Mason and I were out walking last night he was telling about an accident he witnessed yesterday morning and the situation was the blinking stop lights that you despise so much. He was on the red side with one car ahead of him and there were a few cars across from him on the red. It is a pretty busy area and one side on the yellow has a bit of a blind spot. Most of the cars that approached treated the stop as a four way stop. He said as he and a car across from him attempted to take their turn when it looked clear a car came speeding thru the yellow light and hit the car across from him. It was a blind spot and the car on the other red side did not see him coming.
If everyone treated the out lights as a four way then accidents like that could be avoided. If not you can find yourself sitting there forever because you don’t know if a car is going to come up and not stop.

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
3:39 pm

so your standards are the same as mine? i think not!

Angie – No, thank goodness. But as usual, you missed the point.

Grace, that pinktini is RIGHT on time! ;)

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
3:41 pm

<i<I like him a lot but I am starting to get fed up because I want a serious relationship. Am I the dumb one for staying?

Thirdwheel – If you want a SERIOUS relationship (your words) and he does not want a committed relationship (his words). Then you are dumb for staying if you know you’re not going to get what you want out of the relationship.

Sorry.

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
3:43 pm

When a female tells her girlfriends she just got engaged, they all say congratulations! When a dude shares the news with his friends, they all say, “You sure you want to do this?”. Therein lies the difference.

Aw…:lol:

Leggs

May 1st, 2009
3:44 pm

@Thirdwheelofconfusion = you’re kidding right. Someone earlier today said “we don’t listen!” How can you not hear him saying “he doesn’t want a relationship” and then ask are you dumb for staying! Oh, I get it, you’re trying to start something up in here. You put in there 3 months (90 day rule taken care of), expensive gifts, etc. You’re trying to start some trouble!

Cemeeli

May 1st, 2009
3:45 pm

I never understood how/why females send dudes pics of their na na or bootay.. Puzzling!”

NOw see, if i wasn’t laughing so hard. I might could take a stab at the answer.

Lioness Did it come by-way a text, or on a space page.

Grace

May 1st, 2009
3:46 pm

3rdwheel…with all that I’ve read you’re certinaly not happy with your situation and you clearly want to bump it up to another level. You said he’s expressed that he does not want a relationship, is that with you or with anyone. Please do yourself and your sanity a favor and wean yourself away from him. You’ve invested way too much time and emotions on someone who has told you he’s not willing to reciprocate them back to you.

Beautiful

May 1st, 2009
3:46 pm

@THIRD
it’s over in six months. ummm, just have fun and take it as is. i feel for you. good luck!

Grace

May 1st, 2009
3:49 pm

why should she have “fun” with her feelings? geeez

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
3:50 pm

it’s over in six months. ummm, just have fun and take it as is

Angie – I’m not trying to be mean snide or attack you in any way, but I have a question. Pretend a blogger you actually like asked this question so you don’t have to feel defensive while reading.

Why would you advise someone to just “have fun and take it as is” when they desire to be in a serious relationship? Wouldn’t you think that person is selling themselves short and perhaps missing out in meeting the “right one” while hanging with a guy who has no desire to be in a relationship?

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
3:51 pm

why should she have “fun” with her feelings? geeez

I think I love you, Grace. :lol:

Beautiful

May 1st, 2009
3:51 pm

my standards aren’t set that high were no man can’t reach them. they are very realistic and molded for today’s man.

going to get my hair done, then to the mall. jcpenny’s is having a sale on jeans . . . 75% off!

bye ladies!

LIONESS- Just Booked My Vacation

May 1st, 2009
3:53 pm

Ared- Vegas.. Hot azz Vegas..

Leggs

May 1st, 2009
3:53 pm

@ARed, you shouldn’t have started your post with “I’m not trying” ~ that made me laugh!

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
3:53 pm

my standards aren’t set that high were no man can’t reach them. they are very realistic

Well what do you know, Angie and I do have something in common. :D

Grace

May 1st, 2009
3:54 pm

there are things you just don’t play with – whatever happened to having a conscience?

5^^^Amazon

Raqi

May 1st, 2009
3:56 pm

molded for today’s man

Beautiful please elaborate on that Monday. Your standards are your standards and men just like women come in many different varieties.

Beautiful

May 1st, 2009
3:57 pm

@AMAZON
obviously THIRD ain’t going anywhere. she’s gonna stay with dude up until he leaves. i’m just stating the obvious. nowhere in her post did she mention leaving. so since she is going to stay, she should make the best of it.

i guarantee you she already knows what to do.

Wise Diva

May 1st, 2009
3:58 pm

@ Raqi “Okay just the same, I have kissed a guy and we were not on a date. I was actually on a “date” with someone else at the time.” <– how does that even happen and can I get a tutorial? LOL!! Just kiddin

LIONESS- Just Booked My Vacation

May 1st, 2009
3:58 pm

Cee- LMAO!! I have YET to receive a text with a bdy part in it BUT I do have associates that have received them right after meeting a dude.. Never understod how a person feels so comfortable with sending explicit pics of their secret places.. An assciate of mine used to send her MARRIED friend with benefits pics of her na na ALL THE TIME.. :(

Kym--Living for what passes as the weekend.

May 1st, 2009
3:59 pm

@Amazon did someone say bar. Happy 4 days before Cinco De Mayo Friday!!! Mangorita anyone?

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
3:59 pm

please elaborate on that Monday

See, that girl doesn’t know where is up and down. I asked earlier that what happened to our men and she says “nothing.” Yet, her standards are molded from “today’s man” which must be different than yesterday’s man. One would think.

I need another pinktini.

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
4:00 pm

obviously THIRD ain’t going anywhere. she’s gonna stay with dude up until he leaves.

Angie –

How do you know this? Even your silly ass caught a clue and left. Why can’t she?

I do agree that that she already knows what she needs to do. But no harm in asking.

lurker

May 1st, 2009
4:01 pm

Tag team Big Red and Grace…lol

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
4:01 pm

Oooh…ass got by the blog wizard. :lol:

LIONESS- Just Booked My Vacation

May 1st, 2009
4:04 pm

Oooh…ass got by the blog wizard.

Diva must be drinking as well :)

Leggs

May 1st, 2009
4:05 pm

Have you guys noticed that 3rdWheel hasn’t come back on!

Thanks Raqi, because I was thinking shouldn’t your standards be molded to what you want in life and what you will and will not accept, not molded to “today’s man!?!”