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The Girlfriend Experience

There was a film entitled “The Girlfriend Experience” that debuted at the Tribeca Film Festival last week that is creating quite a buzz. The premise of the film is basically about a “working girl” who charges $2,000 an hour to act as a client’s girlfriend for the night, providing more intimacy than just physical intimacy.

This week Oprah interviewed a young lady who worked at a brothel in Nevada. She also said that many clients are return customers whom she has an ongoing connection to. They  basically pay for “the girlfriend experience” and seek her out to provide the experience of having a relationship. What do think about men or women that pay for emotional intimacy? Is it just another commodity or are these people fooling themselves?

I am not interested in becoming a working girl, don’t worry! I just started thinking about how some single men date women to get the girlfriend experience without the expectations, commitment, or exclusivity. Now I know there are men that are interested in forming good relationships. It can be difficult figuring out who these men are, but usually time reveals all.

Ladies, do you ever meet men who want “the girlfriend experience” instead of a REAL committed relationship? I’m talking about the men that jockey for your time, attention, and all the perks that come with being their official woman. Yet avoid any discussions about commitment or going to the next level. What do you do? Do you move on? Do you let them know that they are expecting the girlfriend experience?

Guys, do you meet and date women and desire to get “the girlfriend experience” without an actual relationship? Is this usually a sign of committment phobia? Have you ever dated women who wanted “the boyfriend experience” without being in a relationship with you? How did you handle it?

Happy Friday!

497 comments Add your comment

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

May 1st, 2009
12:13 pm

I see I cannot blog and listen in on a conference call at the same time! :smile:

Lioness Do you believe a man is a gentlemen who buys you something!

Ladies I am just asking from your point of view I cannot for the men.

@Ared when is it appropiate to call someone your girlfriend or boyfriend? Why is the title so important to you! :wink:

Where is Mamba I think T-Mac has her trembling because he has that african voodoo for her! :smile:

Kym--Living for what passes as the weekend.

May 1st, 2009
12:15 pm

So help me Terry Bradshaw if I ever here one more man introduce his wife, SO, or girlfriend as my lady/woman again I will scream. If ever there was a more stupid way to identify a person. Saying someone is “my lady or woman irks me to know in. I just..(insert scream here)

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 1st, 2009
12:16 pm

Afternoon folks.

On topic because I’m not reading back to see if its changes.

This place is the absolute king of buying a gf. These cats pay loot monthly for a chick to walk around holding hands and tomorrow she’s doing the same thing. Saw an older portly fella holding hands with a nice looking oriegentle that he’d of never had access had he not been paying. Thing is its not only not looked down on but its the norm here. Why romance a chick when you can drop 30 kd and have a happy ending. LOL

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
12:18 pm

Ared when is it appropiate to call someone your girlfriend or boyfriend? Why is the title so important to you!

Coogs – When relationship exclusivity is established.

And yes titles and rules are important to me. Those silly gray areas cause a lot of unnecessary confusion. I don’t want to go out on the town and have a guy tell me he’s “single” just because he’s not married. If you’re exclusive to someone else, you are not available to me and you know that is the point of the question. So stop playing games. It’s unnecessary. There are chicks out there that will play with whatever particular program you’re on at the time, so seek them.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 1st, 2009
12:19 pm

RAQI…she has a “leave ninja fund”. That was her secret stash to be out if he acted a fool. :lol: I know I would…

COUGAR..you know nothing makes me tremble in fear..oh weel rodents! :lol: I know…a NY’er who is a afaid of mice! CRAZY! :lol:

LEGGS…you calling me Sybil again? :lol:

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
12:20 pm

Saying someone is “my lady or woman irks me to know in.

Kym – I think it’s corny too. :lol:

I surly did introduce my 38 year old to my coworkers as “my boyfriend” at the office Christmas party. I’m not calling him my “dude,” “man” or “fella” in a professional setting. I don’t care if he was 50. :lol:

Beautiful

May 1st, 2009
12:22 pm

@FOOTS, WISE
i’ve been tryin’ forever to get FOR REAL to talk about his personal life. i’ve tried being subtle to where i’m not coming off as a flirt. i’m curious to know if he’s dating and what she’s like.

mysterious is his name . . .

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
12:23 pm

i’ve been tryin’ forever to get FOR REAL to talk about his personal life. i’ve tried being subtle to where i’m not coming off as a flirt. i’m curious to know if he’s dating and what she’s like.

No wonder he’s scared. :lol:

Rell - know dat

May 1st, 2009
12:24 pm

if you dont understand the importance of titles then you not even ready to play

chew on this

You give her a title to recieve the benefits of said title….

You give her a title to establish who you are in life….now that will throw some of you…but just think on it fellas

please STOP RIGHT NOW top flightn the poo see…

Leggs

May 1st, 2009
12:26 pm

I’ll probably always call you Sybil, my lil sis! :lol:

Kym--Living for what passes as the weekend.

May 1st, 2009
12:26 pm

Hell just say the person’s name. Hello Roger Rabbit..I would like you to meet Sam Spade. Sam Spade..Roger Rabbit. Done.

Sassy Me....tastes like candy :-)

May 1st, 2009
12:27 pm

I have some African ritual to resuscitate her libido and it works like a champ I heard….

Tmac show ‘em what you got…..watch out there now :)

ForReal were you hurt or scarred in a previous relationship?…did she hurt you really bad or somethin cause you seem rather staunch and adamant in your stance against relationships….or at least the title(i.e.girlfriend or wifey). Almost sounds/tastes like Raqi’s mayonnaise from this morning. Just a question not an accusation. Please relate and expound cause inquiring minds wanna know. Get at me…….

Raqi

May 1st, 2009
12:28 pm

Staceye what’s funny is it seems like he was more concerned with getting some of the money rather than why she was saving and hiding that kind of many in the first place.
But the thing is now, if the do not have a prenup he will get half and it is all the bank’s fault.

Now I am one for dividing all assets accumulated during the marriage equally should it south, but I ain’t gone lie. If I am saving and hiding money I am doing so with the hopes of not having to give him any.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 1st, 2009
12:29 pm

LEGGS…”I’ll probably always call you Sybil, my lil sis”…OK…just checking! :lol: I think I am Staceye today. :question:

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 1st, 2009
12:31 pm

RAQI…she should sue the bank for whatever she may have to give him should they divorce. I am a firm believer in separate finances.

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
12:31 pm

So Kym, after you introduce the person by name, how would you handle someone asking what their relationship to you is? And the person asking is not random to you.

It’s real simple for some, especially in professional settings. When someone introduces their significant other, they provide the title. Your dating hang ups should not be evident in times such as these. (trust me, we all know what it means when you introduce someone as friend or just by name it = NOT SERIOUS, so don’t think y’all are fooling anyone) :lol:

Dan

May 1st, 2009
12:31 pm

@Rell

You give her a title to establish who she is in your life

I mean I get it, but the whole “title” joint gets overblown. Sometimes “jusbeing” is soooooo the move

Leggs

May 1st, 2009
12:31 pm

:lol: @ARed!

@Beautiful, pump the brakes! Sounds like borderline blogstalking! :lol:

Cemeeli

May 1st, 2009
12:32 pm

Who’s going to Hawks/Heat game tonight!?!? Ticket holders, please…please…please scream, rally, and represent enough for me too!!! Oh-wee, i want some tickets!

Tazzee Tonight for the game, your cousins are meeting at the spot on CampCreek and reserving the “selective” velvet seating (i’m laughing at this setting arrangment).

…details soon…

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
12:33 pm

Sometimes “jusbeing” is soooooo the move

Run ladies. :lol:

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

May 1st, 2009
12:34 pm

Red you are funny! :wink: Angie might hinder a person from dropping some info about themselves!

Kym you get your scream out!I guess we are making relationships way to complicated today! :smile:

Mamba are you (BKA Sybil too)? :lol:

Lioness

LIONESS- Just Booked My Vacation

May 1st, 2009
12:37 pm

Couger- Yes?

SexyCool

May 1st, 2009
12:38 pm

Me and some of my folk may be over on Camp Creek at one of those spots, Taz. If ya’ see me, holla!

Raqi

May 1st, 2009
12:38 pm

Staceye I was thinking she could probably do that by having a case opened now that will remain open for a set amount of years and should they divorce within that time frame her damages to be paid by the bank would be whatever she has to give up. However the way things are now would Chase even exist in let’s say 10-15 years?

I personally think she was stupid for having the money in the same bank that she shares a personal account with him and an account for their kids. If I ever changed by marital beliefs and decided to stash some cash I would not do it in a bank that my husband utilizes.

Cemeeli

May 1st, 2009
12:39 pm

Staceye – I need to borrow a reeeeaaal stupid outfit for tonight. Something gaudy and South Beach-ish. Can you find?

If i meet you right after work, before the game, I can get you to rinse out my wash n’ set i’m wearing from your domini-sisters, and then gel my hair up in a mohawk. :)

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
12:39 pm

Nas and Kelis split up?!? :cry:

Nick and Mariah made it a full year? :shock:

Cemeeli

May 1st, 2009
12:40 pm

@ SexyCool – Look for the girl with the wanna-be-a Mohawk look, then you see Tazzee, laughing her butt off ‘cuase she know i can pull it off.

Leggs

May 1st, 2009
12:43 pm

WOW, they did. Congrats to them. They may wind up like Whitney and Bobbie. No one thought that marriage would last as long as it did.

Dan

May 1st, 2009
12:43 pm

@Red

Why run?

Just being to me means -just being me and [her]. Caring for someone shouldn’t require an artificial title.

Leggs

May 1st, 2009
12:43 pm

That would be “Bobby”

Foots

May 1st, 2009
12:44 pm

Raqi I personally think she was stupid for having the money in the same bank that she shares a personal account with him and an account for their kids.

Yeah, I’mma go with what she said. To have bank like that in ONE bank account is crazy anyway. Don’t that chick understand FDIC limits??

Kym--Living for what passes as the weekend.

May 1st, 2009
12:44 pm

Well first off people at my office will never meet my SO. We don’t have events like that here.. and I am not one for showing folks off. I am even getting out of the habit of saying my son when I introduce my son.. the boy has a name..I know I gave it to him… so he is more than just my son.
So the only people who should be asking are family and hell if they get to meet him then they know already he might be around for a while. Granted some family memmber will come up and ask is that your boyfriend..and depending on how rebellious I feel I might say nope we just f*(&(&ing around. (I go for shock value from time to time). But if someone professionally ask then I will say we are dating. Done. If the next question ask for more detail..I will move away or give them the blank stare.

abc

May 1st, 2009
12:45 pm

Strange topic. If you take $2K per hour (or event!) for your company, you’s a ho. What one gets from a ho is ‘the ho experience’. Spinning such that saying that any chick will cost you money is a bit different from a ho that just plain charges you. Purporting that hiring a ho is some sort of mainstream activity is not true.

So the question is, would you buy a ho and skip the relationship? Obviously, people do, else there wouldn’t be ho’s. I have a pretty low regard for ho-mongers, though. I have a bit of sympathy for the ho’s themselves, but none for the tricks.

Dan

May 1st, 2009
12:46 pm

@Foots

Remember, we’re up to $250K for individuals (and other structures)through 12/31/09

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
12:47 pm

Just being to me means -just being me and [her]. Caring for someone shouldn’t require an artificial title.

Cuz that’s bull. It’s not about caring. Just about everyone else in your life has a title. Grandma, sister, boss, mechanic.

So I’ve got to “justbe” with your funky azz? No thanks.

All the other titles are what they are. It’s no big deal. But when it comes to relationships, it is? Hogwash, imo.

Beautiful

May 1st, 2009
12:47 pm

@LEGGS, AMAZON
lol. y’all funny today! i’m very observant. ev1 else has said something about that special someone in their life.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 1st, 2009
12:47 pm

Staceye No party planned…yet. But I did just book a flight to go see my college roommate in DC this month. I’m excited because I’ll get to see two of my line sisters that I haven’t seen in 18 years (yup, I’m getting old).

Kym My guy calls me his lady – and I like it ;-) Yes, it’s corny but I don’t like the term girlfriend and friend sho nuff ain’t gonna cut it. On the flip side – I don’t know what I’ll introduce him as…I’ll probably just say his name because most of my folks know that if I’m introducing them to a guy he’s someone special.

Foots

May 1st, 2009
12:48 pm

Dan Oh, I care for plenty of dudes, three in particular, they are my friends. But the one that I love and have decided to be exclusive with, that’s my boyfriend. The title sets him apart from everybody else. Just my own experience.

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
12:50 pm

Kym – Interesting perspective. Thanks for answering.

My office just attended a black tie charity event last weekend, so stuff like this comes up often. We get a plus one and it’s expected that we’ll bring signicant others if we have them. If we don’t, most often we’re asked to accept only one ticket.

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
12:52 pm

If you take $2K per hour (or event!) for your company, you’s a ho. What one gets from a ho is ‘the ho experience’.

:lol: I love it when abc dumbs it down for us. Got any “yo mama” jokes for us today? :lol:

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 1st, 2009
12:52 pm

So I’ve got to “justbe” with your funky azz? No thanks :lol:

Cemeeli and SexyCool Funny thing is, I somehow forgot the game was tonight. I was planning to go do this walk-a-thon, then looking at the dark skies thinking I’ll just go do some cleaning. My mind is bad. I’ll be looking for both of you on Camp Creek tonight – with my rally towel in hand.

Cemeeli

May 1st, 2009
12:53 pm

Dag abc I tried to go nicety with the Valet service provider. YOu got straight to it on that 12.45 post. ooooo-kay.

Tazz – Check your Iphone it’s buzzin’ girl. :wink:

lunchtime!!!

Foots

May 1st, 2009
12:53 pm

Dan They were talking about $800K, which is substantially more than $250K.

The $250K is for individual accounts only. The retirement account limit did not change, nor did the aggregate joint limits I don’t believe. If they did not, she would have been covered for even less than $250K.

Just covered this a few months ago in the CFP program.

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
12:54 pm

i’m very observant.

Angie made a funny. :lol:

Beautiful

May 1st, 2009
12:54 pm

@COUGAR
i skip all your posts. who are you again? your a dude right? welcome to blogsville!

hinder . . . no not quite.

Cemeeli

May 1st, 2009
12:56 pm

@ Tazz- I’m leaving my towel right here on my desk. So come Monday, after the win, i wont be so heavy handed bringing in my lifesize replica of SkyHawk for the office. hahahahha

Now!

I really need that Mohawk up-do Stac…. Check back in an hour.

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
12:56 pm

Oh, I care for plenty of dudes, three in particular, they are my friends. But the one that I love and have decided to be exclusive with, that’s my boyfriend. The title sets him apart from everybody else. Just my own experience.

Foots – Thanks for that. I mean, that sounds so much simplier calling something what it is then pretending it doesn’t exist. To each it’s own to.

Not only that, but in the real world, people work with titles. No matter how you personally feel about them. So stop being silly.

Raqi

May 1st, 2009
12:56 pm

Foots I know. If for no other reason I would have that kind of money divided up in several banks and accounts just to insure it.

I am sitting here trying to imagine the nature of the conversation that I would be having with a banker that he/she lets it slip that my husband has money that I don’t know about. I don’t doubt that he does however what would we be talking about that a personal account of his that does not have me name on it will come up in conversation. When I am at the bank I give them the numbers to the accounts I want to inquire about. No one is offering up any info voluntarily.

The only example I have:

Me: I will give you $1000 if you can tell me if my husband has any other accounts with your bank.

That instance right there is evidence that we already have problems brewing within our union.

SexyCool

May 1st, 2009
12:58 pm

Taz/CemeliI’ll bring my towel TOO and I may have on the shirts that they gave out at the game the other night with that huge @ss Home Depot logo on the back.

Dan

May 1st, 2009
1:01 pm

I hear you Foots (and you too Red)

It’s just that somma you ladies have infinite definitions (friends, aquantinces, etc) that it’s confusing.

My point is that what I call you don’t mean as much as us walking in together, arm in arm; me holding your chair out (door open, etc). It the XY and Z of me showing love. But that’s just my experience.