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The Girlfriend Experience

There was a film entitled “The Girlfriend Experience” that debuted at the Tribeca Film Festival last week that is creating quite a buzz. The premise of the film is basically about a “working girl” who charges $2,000 an hour to act as a client’s girlfriend for the night, providing more intimacy than just physical intimacy.

This week Oprah interviewed a young lady who worked at a brothel in Nevada. She also said that many clients are return customers whom she has an ongoing connection to. They  basically pay for “the girlfriend experience” and seek her out to provide the experience of having a relationship. What do think about men or women that pay for emotional intimacy? Is it just another commodity or are these people fooling themselves?

I am not interested in becoming a working girl, don’t worry! I just started thinking about how some single men date women to get the girlfriend experience without the expectations, commitment, or exclusivity. Now I know there are men that are interested in forming good relationships. It can be difficult figuring out who these men are, but usually time reveals all.

Ladies, do you ever meet men who want “the girlfriend experience” instead of a REAL committed relationship? I’m talking about the men that jockey for your time, attention, and all the perks that come with being their official woman. Yet avoid any discussions about commitment or going to the next level. What do you do? Do you move on? Do you let them know that they are expecting the girlfriend experience?

Guys, do you meet and date women and desire to get “the girlfriend experience” without an actual relationship? Is this usually a sign of committment phobia? Have you ever dated women who wanted “the boyfriend experience” without being in a relationship with you? How did you handle it?

Happy Friday!

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AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
11:35 am

I don’t want to be married. I don’t want a girlfriend.

For Real – How soon after you meet a girl do you tell her this?

The other day, you mentioned a lady you are seeing who was told she is “too available” to you. I might give my girlfriend the same advice now knowing you don’t want a girlfriend or a wife. I’d question what my friend was doing with a guy like that, especially if I knew she wanted a commitment.

So now it makes sense why something like that was said.

lurker

May 1st, 2009
11:35 am

For Real so the chick that’s too available…what was that all about. You can go on and on and on with a chick day in and out with nothing more or less in mind?

LIONESS- Just Booked My Vacation

May 1st, 2009
11:36 am

Cougar- to each its own. A drink is a drink.. I could understand not wanting to pay her rent/mortgage. Buying a drink is not that serious..

lurker

May 1st, 2009
11:37 am

AREDThe other day, you mentioned a lady you are seeing who was told she is “too available” to you. I might give my girlfriend the same advice now knowing you don’t want a girlfriend or a wife. I’d question what my friend was doing with a guy like that, especially if I knew she wanted a commitment.

I was thinking the same. He’s just wasting a chick’s time. There are some but not many with “nothing” in mind when she mets a dude.

LIONESS- Just Booked My Vacation

May 1st, 2009
11:38 am

Ared- That is why I responded to him that we need the WHOLE story.. Not bits & pieces.. He carried that girl how he wants and the friends caught on to that..

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 1st, 2009
11:39 am

I sure can’t wait until this season Grey’s Anatomy and Private Practice come out on DVD…

Dan

May 1st, 2009
11:39 am

@WD

My post wasn’t “dirty” unspam that joint for ya boy.

@Lioness

Yes. “to each his/her own” – to complete the thought – to each [drink] his/her own [responsibility]

Leggs

May 1st, 2009
11:39 am

You guys have some great memories. I too wondered about the “too available” lady! :lol:

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
11:41 am

You guys have some great memories

It happened this week. Not 2 years ago. :lol:

(I’m joking w/ you Leggs)

LIONESS- Just Booked My Vacation

May 1st, 2009
11:42 am

Dan- WOW!! Sad :(

Leggs

May 1st, 2009
11:44 am

You are too funny ARed. While typing that I said to myself, well it only happend this week.

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
11:44 am

Lioness – :lol:

The mortgage part was funny.

lurker

May 1st, 2009
11:46 am

LeggsYou guys have some great memories. I too wondered about the “too available” lady!

The way he posed his question, it appeared to me his interested was peaked…and was wanting to make sure he moved in the right direction of avoiding getting blocked (by her girls). Heck I think all the chicks still blogging (as it was late), was passing opinions and advice what ole girl was coming from….so he could not get his “time in” rationed. Heck, nevermind now….lol He ain’t looking to have a girlfriend nor wife.

lurker

May 1st, 2009
11:47 am

my typing has been bad lately

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

May 1st, 2009
11:47 am

For Real@ You need to drop some deep ish for these ladies they need to know how you operate!

Question: Ladies why do you stop doing the freaky once you have become comfortable in the relationship/married?

lurker

May 1st, 2009
11:48 am

Cougar Question: Ladies why do you stop doing the freaky once you have become comfortable in the relationship/married?

Some of us don’t…hence the reason we can’t quite wrap our minds around “the need” to cheat

Tmac

May 1st, 2009
11:48 am

Sassy Me….tastes like candy :-)

I have some African ritual to resuscitate her libido and it works like a champ I heard….

lurker

May 1st, 2009
11:49 am

…..Cougar other than having your cake and eating it too…there’s never a “need” though…no matter the problem. If you’re married, deal with it.

Sybil

May 1st, 2009
11:49 am

Cougat – We don’t want it any less. Y’all sorry @$$#$ just get lazy and act like you forget how to perform foreplay cause YOU have gotten so comfortable that all you want to do is roll over, hump and come.

For Real

May 1st, 2009
11:49 am

Ared: 1. You are not a girl your are woman, 2. I’m not a boy, I’m a man, 3. If you are not married then you are a single woman and I am a single man. 4. I’m just playing with the list (hey wise i’ll get to later) but as to what to call a women in a relationship that isn’t married….. SINGLE!!

Lioness: But doesn’t he already know he is physically superior?

Kym: No debate I understand this is a touchy subject for some but let me counter your last point and I will drop it after. You pointed it yourself “Granted some rapist set sights on certain things..hair color, physical features, remind them of mama” – Those are things of attraction which flows their punkazz boats. Without the sex it’s a fight of unevenly matched people.

Wise: Actually I have been blessed with the women that I meet. I can without a doubt say that all of them were/are top shelf. Any man would be honored to have them as a wife. That’s why the your whole “good to me” or “good for me” concept doesn’t work. The question isn’t whether I was “good to” or “good for” the women in my life because I was and they would tell you the same. The question is “Am I the one for them” and the answer to that question is “NO”.

LIONESS- Just Booked My Vacation

May 1st, 2009
11:50 am

Lurker- Right on..

Tmac- That ish sounds scary! Staceye watches Paranormal State on the reg so be careful with that voodoo stuff :)

Kym--Living for what passes as the weekend.

May 1st, 2009
11:50 am

Okay wait For Real..hold up. You are giving women info up front you don’t want serious, marriage..blah blah. And then if you call a woman say tonight and say “You up for the freaky sneaky and she says sure.” And you call on Sunday and say “Please ma’am may I have some more?” and she says Sure. Then at that point she is considered too available. Because each time you ask she answered. If all you are doing is hanging out and she is available and you are available then how in the hell is a person too available? You know something wrong with you dude..your logic is all out of wack. Too available? What the hell?

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
11:51 am

Ladies why do you stop doing the freaky once you have become comfortable in the relationship?

Coogs – This is a N/A for me. I don’t do that. :lol:

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
11:52 am

Kym – For Real didn’t say she was too available. The girl he is seeing was told that by one of her girlfriends.

KoolAid House

May 1st, 2009
11:52 am

“Question: Ladies why do you stop doing the freaky once you have become comfortable in the relationship/married?” I never did.

Question: Why do you guys get fat when you’re comfortable in the relationship/marriage. I never understood how some of you guys walk around with that beer gut when it wasn’t there when you got married!

LIONESS- Just Booked My Vacation

May 1st, 2009
11:52 am

For Real- It has nothing to do with physical..

Kym- He is a Gemini ;)

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
11:54 am

I don’t get why guys with no interest in having a relationship or getting married date in the first place. Is that the only way they can get a girl to sleep with them or something?

Or maybe you just have to align yourself with women like Staceye who also doesn’t want a relationship or marriage?

I’m lost.

Leggs

May 1st, 2009
11:54 am

For the record, I’m KoolAidHouse, but keep forgetting to change my moniker from another blog.

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
11:55 am

LMAO @ Sybil. Damn!

Dan

May 1st, 2009
11:55 am

@Lioness

It’s not sad, were speaking on the degree of expectations.

You expect something “minor” like a drink to not be a problem for guy that is courting you; he, in return may expect more of you than you’re willing to give at that moment.

His expectation is no less valid than yours, just a differing degree of the outcome.

Raqi

May 1st, 2009
11:56 am

Foots I don’t think it’s about the random, I honestly think it is about having a need fulfilled. A need that he cannot get met within his relationship or just a need to be in a relationship but cannot make it happen.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 1st, 2009
11:56 am

Cougar “Ladies why do you stop doing the freaky once you have become comfortable in the relationship/married?”

I don’t start until then…

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
11:57 am

I’m just playing with the list (hey wise i’ll get to later) but as to what to call a women in a relationship that isn’t married….. SINGLE!!

For Real – That makes no sense tho. Pay attention to what i’m asking.

You’re at the office party and are making introductions. You don’t say this is my “single” Sarah. You introduce her by a title such as “my girlfriend” Sarah. So what term are you supposed to use if not girlfriend? Lady? Woman? (which sounds so stupid in setting like those, imo). lol

lurker

May 1st, 2009
11:58 am

I don’t start until then…

Here Here….good answer (clapping)

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

May 1st, 2009
11:58 am

Lioness@ Are you caught up with a men buys you something that makes him a gentlemen?

Lurker I believe you! Their are too many knucklehead men that screw up good relationships for whatever reasons! But we both know some women do everything to get a man to marry him then stop performing after the wedding! That is a divorce waiting to happen!

Sassy…. Can you tell us what taste like candy and what type of candy you talking about? :smile:

For Real

May 1st, 2009
11:59 am

Ared: I say it on the first day so there is no confusion. Would you still question your gf if the guy was “good to and good for” even tho he didn’t want a gf or wife? What would you say to her if she didn’t want commitment? By the way please define commitment because when men here that word it SCREAMS MARRIAGE.

Lurker: Yep that was me. Not sure what you mean by “You can go on and on and on with a chick day in and out with nothing more or less in mind?” Oh and a waste of time on happens when you do not gain ANYTHING at all which I find almost impossible. At least I have never experienced it before.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 1st, 2009
11:59 am

Kym- He is a Gemini

FOUL ON THE PLAY!!! :lol:

BTW – Today is the beginning of my birthday month – let’s all start celebrating!!!

somehow I didn’t make plans for my birthday this year….how did that happen?

Dan

May 1st, 2009
12:01 pm

@Ared

Why is the title “friend” so abhorrent in those situations? “This is my friend ___.”

Foots

May 1st, 2009
12:01 pm

For Real I didn’t ask about who you were, I asked about specific dating experiences since this is a dating blog. You didn’t give any examples of you interacting with a real woman in your blurb, other than the woman who was backing away from you earlier this week.

I’m sure that you date, because you’re not about forming relationships, so tell us a story about one of those chicks as a way of contributing to the conversation.

And yeah, I did raise my voice. LOL!

DuShawn

May 1st, 2009
12:01 pm

“……Why pay someone to do what your wife can do?” Humans have been tricking since the beginning of time. I can’t explain it, but I could understand it. A few years ago on my birthday, as a gift to myself, I rented this expensive sports car for the week end. Both my whips were operable and parked in the drive way. I just wanted to flex for my birthday. I equate that to married brutha’s that trick off. Although you have something nice parked at home, sometimes you get tired of driving her and want to stunt.

Kym--Living for what passes as the weekend.

May 1st, 2009
12:01 pm

@ For Real..then my apologies. I had the misconstrudded the facts. Well all I can say is good luck with that.

Foots

May 1st, 2009
12:02 pm

Just a little though. :-)

Leggs

May 1st, 2009
12:04 pm

Awww ARed, you know since that’s his stance, he’s going to introduce the woman by her first name…nothing more, nothing less!

I thought you were calling me Sybil because of my two monikers, but realized there is a Sybil in blogsville!

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
12:05 pm

Would you still question your gf if the guy was “good to and good for” even tho he didn’t want a gf or wife?

Absolutely. But if she wants marriage and he doesn’t, he’s not good for her. So you can remove that from the equation.

If she doesn’t want a commitment and he doesn’t either, then there is no problem.

And I don’t care if “commitment” screams marraige. Many women desire marriage so what is the problem?

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 1st, 2009
12:05 pm

TMAC…I posted it on my Facebook..so who is to say that it did not get around? Not sure….

RAQI…”I prefer mustard she prefers mayo.” You guys fighting already? LOL

TAZZEE…where’s da party? :lol:

LIONESS- Just Booked My Vacation

May 1st, 2009
12:06 pm

Cougar & Dan- Where are you two getting your info from? I have NO expectations from any man that I don’t know in a bar or anywhere. I was just saying that buying a drink is not that serious! Now, if a dude is talking my HEAD off for hours and doesn’t have the common decency to offer me a drink, then I know that his tail is not for me.. First impressions are the most lasting :)

Sybil- LMAO!!

Raqi

May 1st, 2009
12:06 pm

Did you all hear about the woman that is suing Chase because they mistakenly told her husband about the $800,000 that is she has in a secret account. After finding out he nagged her about giving him part of it so she gave him $150,000 so now she is suing Chase for that $150,000.

See why do you need a prenup when you are smart enough to save money on the side just in case things go awry? LOL

It’s funny because she gave in and let him have the $150,000 to save her marriage, but I bet she is hiding the money so she will have it if they get divorced and she wont have to divide money that no one knows exist. Why would anyone hide money from their spouse especially reaching almost $1mil if it is not a just in case savings? She sho ain’t hiding it so she can die rich. Dying rich just leaves it to someone else.

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
12:07 pm

Why is the title “friend” so abhorrent in those situations? “This is my friend ___.”

Dan – I’m talking about exclusive relationships. If you and your girl are exclusive and working towards marraige, that is not your friend.

Lawd, Steve Harvey got this one so right. :lol: Run ladies.

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
12:08 pm

Awww ARed, you know since that’s his stance, he’s going to introduce the woman by her first name…nothing more, nothing less!

Leggs – You ain’t neva lied! I shouldn’t have even asked. :lol:

AmazonRed™

May 1st, 2009
12:12 pm

Actually I have been blessed with the women that I meet. I can without a doubt say that all of them were/are top shelf. Any man would be honored to have them as a wife. The question is “Am I the one for them” and the answer to that question is “NO”.

Lawd – If this guy was a Leo I would think my ex was posting on here. :lol: