Beside Every Bad Boy
I once read that beside every bad boy is a bad girl. I interpreted this to mean that some men are drawn to the bad girls for the exact same reasons bad boys are so appealing to the ladies: excitement. The allure of excitement translates to passion; and passion can translate to, well a lot of good stuff!
While the excitement can make a bad girl seem intriguing there is a fine line between bad girl and wicked woman. Why are bad girls rarely seen without a man?
Guys, what is your definition of a bad girl? I am not talking about the emotionally unstable creatures or the psycho chicks. The bad girl that I am referring to are the women who have a little edge. How much “bad” can you handle? Is there a particular edginess that is actually attractive without being a turn off? Have you ever met a woman that just drew you in with her bad girl attitude or behavior? Did you ever have a relationship with a bad girl?
Ladies, is it true that every woman has at least a little bad girl in her? What brings out your bad girl attitude or edginess? How do men respond to it? Are you a reformed bad girl? Was it difficult to break the bad girl habits?
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Staceye AKA Black Mamba
April 29th, 2009
1:01 pm
BARRY…men claim they want a “virtous” woman…but then they go out and get the total opposite. I think men say they want what is good on paper. Some even marry those…but then they cheat with what they really wanted in the first place. All this is to say that people are full of it. They follow the masses and end up unhappy and eternally seeking their true pleasure. Men say they want a virgin…but when when they get one…they are quick to say she sucks in bed. Then they may or may not end up creeping. And if they do….they are going for what they really wanted in the first place. The “virgin” was what he was taught to believe that she is what he really wanted.
SASSY…”I think a bad girl can handle herself with decorum when need be and get knee deep in your shyt when you’ve phucked up.” You are 100% correct on that. Just like you, I am a chameleon. I adapt to my surroundings. I guess that is all those personalities I have!
Sassy, also, question…I heard that this Swine Flue pandemic is not the first. But in the 70’s this same flu went around. Do you know of anything about this?
BEAUTIFUL..I agree with Raqi. I always say if a man is willing to cheat with you…he will cheat ON you if you were to get into a real relationship with him. Not to knock you any woman..but what do you think you have that would stop him from doing TO you what he already did to another woman? Puttin’ it on him…NOPE! If dog wants to roam, he shall…no matter how big your bone is or how well you treat him. I think you deserve so much better than sloppy seconds and secret rendevous. So I am glad you found out early that he is married. So cut your ties and move on. You do not want bad karma coming back to you.
AmazonRed™
April 29th, 2009
1:01 pm
Angie –
Really? I started it? I’m the one who put it out there that i’m attracted to unavailable men? I don’t think so.
If you don’t want people to respond to the things you say. Don’t say it. Not like it was on topic or anything.
Foots
April 29th, 2009
1:03 pm
Beautiful Once I found out the information that would not allow any involvement to move forward, I abandoned the whole idea. The information I found out didn’t make him more attractive, it made him LESS attractive. You find dudes with issues MORE attractive, and yeah, that’s kinda crazy to me. I’m sorry if that’s harsh.
I’d say the same thing to a dude who had that same problem.
Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)
April 29th, 2009
1:05 pm
Afternoon Folks!
Barry love your comment.
melo as a church girl I have no reason to envy any ‘bad’ girls. The fun thing about being a good girl with a few bad tendencies is that they never see it coming…
Ed
April 29th, 2009
1:07 pm
Simple answer. Because truly bad girls are too busy being bad to figure out how to support themselves like normal adults. Thus they are almost always dependant on some man financially and for a sense of security. Usually they are ripping the guy off financially all the way along…
AmazonRed™
April 29th, 2009
1:07 pm
The information I found out didn’t make him more attractive, it made him LESS attractive.
The word I like to use is repulsive.
Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)
April 29th, 2009
1:07 pm
lurker The Mellow Mushroom in Vinings is my new spot – been there twice since I moved for the veggie pizza (no onions)
AmazonRed™
April 29th, 2009
1:07 pm
melo as a church girl I have no reason to envy any ‘bad’ girls. The fun thing about being a good girl with a few bad tendencies is that they never see it coming…
Get it said Tazzee!
AmazonRed™
April 29th, 2009
1:11 pm
The Mellow Mushroom in Vinings is my new spot
That is around the corner from my job, Tazzee. Do you work near home too?
Demigod...via PDA
April 29th, 2009
1:12 pm
Angie…I know you are just typing how you feel…but gurl, can we get a break on hump day?
Melo…sup
Cemeeli
April 29th, 2009
1:14 pm
Hey folk.
Am I bad girl? Dunno if I can answer that point blank really, have to ask my old-man and the chic from ‘round the way.
But one thing folks have said about me – I don’t fly off the cuff, reliable (I try to be), and spontaneous. I will go the extra limb for my folks….and if they ever need me to help ‘em make some moves, I’m there.
As far as just straight up gettin’ into stuff (hustle girl trappings)?. Been there too….
At this season of my life, I’m jus grown…Nowaday, I sit back, watch, anticipate, and inform the young girls of what’s unwise.
&I'llbethat (6'1&Luvinit)
April 29th, 2009
1:15 pm
What it do good people. Truthy, Demi, Raqi, AR,Bootiful, Dan
JoyFulOne aka Sidelines
April 29th, 2009
1:16 pm
“The fun thing about being a good girl with a few bad tendencies is that they never see it coming…”…
Well said, well said…
Cemeeli
April 29th, 2009
1:16 pm
Hi Melo, hi Tazzee!
Sup Jamoca?
JoyFulOne aka Sidelines
April 29th, 2009
1:18 pm
Hey there Demi, long time…good to read yah!
AmazonRed™
April 29th, 2009
1:19 pm
Hola 6′1 – Where you been?!
Sybil
April 29th, 2009
1:19 pm
What are these “Bad Girl Tendencies” y’all keep talking about? And if you have them, aren’t you a Bad Girl?
For the church crowd, this is like saying, “I’m not a sinner. I am saved by grace. But I’m not perfect. All have sinned and come short.” Well, then, aren’t you a sinner still because you still commit sin?
I’m just sayin’.
&I'llbethat (6'1&Luvinit)
April 29th, 2009
1:23 pm
I have been off in the cut!!!!
&I'llbethat (6'1&Luvinit)
April 29th, 2009
1:26 pm
not to forget Cee and staceye. Hola chicas
Demigod...via PDA
April 29th, 2009
1:27 pm
(a.red the ish starta)
A.red….what you do? lol
Angie…honestly, you know the rules..no romancing with co-workers…but it seem like you have a lot of time on your hand…why not just go with the flow. I feel it is ok to break the rules now and then.
JoyFulOne aka Sidelines
April 29th, 2009
1:27 pm
“So it appears to me, that no matter how comfortable her lifestyle becomes, her “survival mode” never lies dormant. She’s also mastered when to apply the killswitch to her “inner baddazz” with or without her man’s signal. Like a chameleon, she simply adapts to her environment.”…
Definition IMO…
AmazonRed™
April 29th, 2009
1:27 pm
Sybil – you can drink and not be a drunk. There are many sides to one’s personality. Just because you partake in certain behaviors doesn’t mean that’s all you are. In my opinion.
Sybil
April 29th, 2009
1:28 pm
But can you smoke and not be a smoker?
lurker
April 29th, 2009
1:28 pm
Tazzee I love Vinings. Hadn’t gone in a while. I used to go a lot when they had the Pappagallo Shoe Store. I also shopped a lot at Talbots and Banana Republic. My date would take me to Johnny’s and the Orient Express. I recently went back while shopping during the Easter season. Just so nice down there…love it.
lurker
April 29th, 2009
1:30 pm
“So it appears to me, that no matter how comfortable her lifestyle becomes, her “survival mode” never lies dormant. She’s also mastered when to apply the killswitch to her “inner baddazz” with or without her man’s signal. Like a chameleon, she simply adapts to her environment.”…
I can dig this
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging
April 29th, 2009
1:30 pm
Sybil, how dare you come in here calling these good church folks sinners. They’re not fugging, they give up holy booty. LOL But people please do answer her her question because I’d like to know too.
6′1 whats up woman? Hope all is well. Whose had you all tied up where you cant even come in and say hi.
lurker
April 29th, 2009
1:31 pm
Tazzee I didn’t do pizza this time…got a couple of salads and garlic bread. Think I’ll take my daughter there this weekend.
Beautiful
April 29th, 2009
1:33 pm
**You do not want bad karma coming back to you** even though he is going thru a divorce, i still knew to keep it movin’.
**I bet Michelle’ll cut a bytch** in a heartbeat!
**I’m the one who put it out there that i’m attracted to unavailable men? I don’t think so.** instead of looking at my comments, READ THEM! i didn’t know he was unavail till two days later.
**Once I found out the information that would not allow any involvement to move forward, I abandoned the whole idea** you don’t have the whole story. (1) all flirting has stopped (2) i was attracted to him waaaaaay before i knew. so your post is inaccurate.
@ALVIN
skip me if you don’t likey.
@6′1
hey you!
Cemeeli
April 29th, 2009
1:34 pm
6′1 How are you and man doing? HOpe you are well.
i know you didn’t forget me. just didn’t see me up in here. OR “up thu’ dere”….lol.
Sup?
Jamoca
April 29th, 2009
1:34 pm
Lol @ Demi!…baybeh, you better get somewhere and slap some moisturizer on those knees…lookin’ like you’ve been playin’ with that sidewalk chalk. Hahahaaa! (I’m kidding)…looks like the old DemSumm’s back…new and improved! (well sorta…) lol
Cee – what up, chick? Me? I’m just swell…and understanding that everyone views the term “bad” differently. You think maybe if there was a better example given or more examples that were consistent or rather a similar tone in each scenario, then more folks would be on the same page?
But then, I’d only expect to find some opposing arguments, but hey, that’s cool too. Different perspectives, bring various viewpoints and interesting debates. In that respect, I’m all for it.
Beautiful
April 29th, 2009
1:36 pm
**What are these “Bad Girl Tendencies” y’all keep talking about?** i would like to know too.
Sassy Me....tastes like candy :-)
April 29th, 2009
1:36 pm
Dan Yes you’re right> The same thing happened on “some” chicken farm in China when the whole Avian flu went around.
Staceye yes there was an outbreak of the Swine flu in the early 70’s and there was a vaccine but it jacked some people up and gave them a disease called Guillain-Barré syndrome. Guillian-Barre is a syndrome in which the body’s immune system launches an attack against an antigen but some how wires get crossed and instead of attacking the antigen it misfires and attacks the body’s CNS causing paralysis. “The Fridge”(William Perry) was just hospitalized for this….I think last week or the week before.
Demigod...via PDA
April 29th, 2009
1:37 pm
6′1….babe waz sup! How r things on you end and are you back in atlanta…I was just chatting with this tall yella Dom. and her girlfriend who looks just like vanassa blu (yes fellas baby was 5′2, a buck twenty with blessed Ds), at the mall and thought about you, lol
AmazonRed™
April 29th, 2009
1:38 pm
instead of looking at my comments, READ THEM! i didn’t know he was unavail till two days later.
And he’s still on your mind, more so than the guys who actually are available.
Go somewhere with that Angie. Really. Now you’re on here backpedalling. Face it, you sound silly azz hell. Especially to be as old as you are.
LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!
April 29th, 2009
1:39 pm
Demi- LMAO @ your 1:12 comment
&I'llbethat (6'1&Luvinit)
April 29th, 2009
1:40 pm
Truthy, I need your help with this new dog, she is a real bad little bish! Cee can I get a pepsi girl. Bootiful, told you last year that you need to let me do more than kiss u on ur 4head. AR and Raqi, quit preaching girls, some things never change. Demi, what it do big dawg?
AmazonRed™
April 29th, 2009
1:41 pm
But can you smoke and not be a smoker?
Sybil – probably not. It comes down to behavior. Tendency leading to habit. Many folks are not occaisional smokers, tho one can be.
You can have a bad side but not be a bad girl necessarily. But if you’re one to break the rules and do it your own way, you could be a bad girl.
I think Staceye is a bad girl. Not that she’s a bad person. But she’s indicated she’s not one to do things traditionally just because you were told to do something.
There is a story she tells in private school where she would alter her uniform to be different. Stuff like that.
Demigod...via PDA
April 29th, 2009
1:41 pm
to be fair….they were both some cool cougars
Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)
April 29th, 2009
1:42 pm
AmRed Naw, I wish I did work close to home.
lurker I can walk to that area from my place. Being that close to an Ann Taylor Loft is not good for my budget. Oh and that greek salad at MM is good too (no onions)
Sybil It appears that your definition of ‘bad’ is different from mine. To clarify – at first look most would think I’m pretty vanilla and an overall sweet person. Because of that, some try to walk all over me. But it’s not going down like that. As my sweetie says, I’m the type that will get you ‘told’ but you won’t realize it until 30 minutes after the fact. Or as 2CPTG used to say, I’m ‘nice/nasty’ – Ain’t no sinning going on in my comment.
Hey Cemeeli!
Dan
April 29th, 2009
1:43 pm
@6′1
What up? How you hanging in?
Cemeeli
April 29th, 2009
1:44 pm
Moca yes maam. We ’bout to splice this topic.
As that king of mine say’s “real recognized.”
As i pass this splif on to MusicMami.
Shorty I’m there for you anytime you need me,for real girl, it’s me in your world, believe me.Nuttin make a man feel better than a woman,Queen with a crown that be down for whatever. There are few things that’s forever. My lady, we can make war or make babies.
Back when I was nothin, you made a brother feel like he was somethin. That’s why I’m with you to this day boo no frontin. Even when the skies were gray, you would rub me on my back and say “Baby it’ll be okay”
Now that’s real to a brother like me baby, never ever give my cootie away, and keep it tight auight. And I’ma walk these dogs so we can live, in a fat ass crib with thousands of kids. Word life you don’t need a ring to be my wife, just be there for me and I’ma make sure we
Be livin in the effin lap of luxury, I’m realizing that you didn’t have to f* wit me.But you did, now I’m going all out kid. And I got mad love to give, you my nig…
YUP, jus’ like that.
Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)
April 29th, 2009
1:46 pm
The Truth and Sybil Everyone sins – that’s a fact. The difference is do you have any remorse for your sin and trying your best not to sin. So yes, I sin – daily. But I don’t sin because I know grace is there, I’m thankful for the grace when I do sin. There’s a difference.
Beautiful
April 29th, 2009
1:46 pm
**Now you’re on here backpedalling** how so? and yes he’s on my mind and will be for a min.
@6′1
when or if i make that change, you’ll be the 1st to know. ;o)
Raqi
April 29th, 2009
1:48 pm
It might have been well put, but it was a whole lotta of words that didn’t say a damn thing. LMAO
Hey 6′1 haven’t read you in a while.
Jamoca
April 29th, 2009
1:49 pm
Lurker…No, let me rephrase: Main_Lurker. How’s that? (Tatas-thx chick, yeah…I’m bitin’). lol
Hey gurl! How are ya? See…it really doesn’t sound as bad, when pointing out the commonality. We’ve contributed so many different scenarios, but in most of the (similar) scenarios given they had those three qualities that I mentioned. Can we flip those qualities into character flaws???…heck yeah!
lurker
April 29th, 2009
1:50 pm
Beautiful…simply said….why entertain that sort of situation knowing it will go nowhere before it began? To subsequently blog and comment and jokie joke after knowing all you need to know, sounds more like contemplation. I think that’s all people are trying to relay. Are you looking for the go ahead? If you go through though and make mention, you’re gonna get slayed on this mug…and somehow, from your posts, I think you’d divulge if you went there.
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging
April 29th, 2009
1:51 pm
6′1, you been in here 5 mins and already macking on the locals. Look, if that goes down I need to see it and since I like to be honest and up front I’m jumping in. If it goes down like I’m thinking I’ll be in and out in just a minute. LOL
I told you don’t let those dogs on the bed or furniture. Ever. You confuse them because only the alpha gets to sit up high to preview the territory. Dont let her into your space unless you call for her. Make her sit before you feed her. That goes for snacks too. Never chase her or that becomes a game. If she runs off you go the other way. One day when you’re petting her put her on her back and hold her lightly by her chest so she cant move. /whatever she does is her natural temperment. If she goes ballistic she’s dominant and you’re going to have to dominate her, which you most likely dont know how to do. Its not hitting her. If she lays down calmly but wont listen to you she’s stable dog but doesn’t see you as the alpha. That can be remedied in a few days if you do like I told you above. Before she goes outside, eats or does anything she has to work for you. Sit, roll over, do something but she must earn her keep. This she’ll respect.
Raqi
April 29th, 2009
1:51 pm
I’m the type that will get you ‘told’ but you won’t realize it until 30 minutes after the fact LOL
Tazzee I bet you have people waking at 2am in the morning saying “oh no that b!tch didn’t what I think she said!!!!”.
Sybil
April 29th, 2009
1:51 pm
Get off, Beautiful.
I like cake.
However, if I ate as much cake as I wanted to I would be Queen/Plus sized. So, I know I can’t be eating all the damn cake.
And who knows why I like cake when cake is bad for the numbers on my scale? Who cares why I like cake or why I’m thinking about all the cake I can’t eat? I just do.
But – I have to stay away from it cause a whole buncha cake is bad for me.
Yes. It’s official. I’m laughing at myself here. But really, lighten up on the beautiful one – we are all flawed. There is beauty in admitting it.
AmazonRed™
April 29th, 2009
1:53 pm
and yes he’s on my mind and will be for a min.
It’s your funeral, girlfriend. Don’t ever be mad if all you attract is drama in your life.