Beside Every Bad Boy
I once read that beside every bad boy is a bad girl. I interpreted this to mean that some men are drawn to the bad girls for the exact same reasons bad boys are so appealing to the ladies: excitement. The allure of excitement translates to passion; and passion can translate to, well a lot of good stuff!
While the excitement can make a bad girl seem intriguing there is a fine line between bad girl and wicked woman. Why are bad girls rarely seen without a man?
Guys, what is your definition of a bad girl? I am not talking about the emotionally unstable creatures or the psycho chicks. The bad girl that I am referring to are the women who have a little edge. How much “bad” can you handle? Is there a particular edginess that is actually attractive without being a turn off? Have you ever met a woman that just drew you in with her bad girl attitude or behavior? Did you ever have a relationship with a bad girl?
Ladies, is it true that every woman has at least a little bad girl in her? What brings out your bad girl attitude or edginess? How do men respond to it? Are you a reformed bad girl? Was it difficult to break the bad girl habits?
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Demigod...via PDA
April 29th, 2009
11:09 am
Angie…any time you are dating married anything…just keep in mind (you or that person) is just a side piece. So just get your nut or 5min of attention and keep it moving.
Folks be tripping.
Sexy Cool…you are quick to put them lames on the curbs…I know you be pimpin them dude, tellin them to say out until they’ve made their quotas, lol!
SexyCool
April 29th, 2009
11:10 am
Demi – Since you brought up the term from Hustle and Flow, which chick did you think was the REAL bottom b? Nola? or Shug? (Assuming you’ve seen the movie.)
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging
April 29th, 2009
11:11 am
Du, we never know how tight a chick is until they’re tested. Most, both good and bad girls and guys, fail.
My boy has a chick that is ride or die but without tattoos. She’s smart, driven, educated, a business owner, attractive and has nuts the size of Bill Gates. When he slipped she didnt ride but carried his azz. He’s doing something right now that in any other situation would be called simpin but in her case I 100% support his actions. She’s the new generation of ride or die chick. Not there to help you endure the bad times but to maintain the good times. She may not know how to pawn shottie’s but she generates a few hundred grand using her mind. And did I say she NEVER waivered, even when he did. When he was going thru it I know it challenged his ego. She probably didnt care because she was too busy doing what she do. She’s bad alright, but not in the old hood way.
Cool. I’m going to use that. I thought employment ho may have sent the wrong message.
DuShawn
April 29th, 2009
11:12 am
@abc, “…birds of a feather, and all that” Your posts have somewhat of an elitist tone. I’m trying to determine if your last comment was condescending or complimentary.
Dan
April 29th, 2009
11:15 am
And Truth, that’s the chick I’m tombout,
Head down, at her hustle, but ain’t one of the “oh he slipped, he gotta go” she in it to win – period, point, blank
SexyCool
April 29th, 2009
11:16 am
Demi – Exactly. B betta have my money. LOL.
Seriously though, the “Let it lie where it fell.” lesson was a very hard one for me to learn. I beat my head up against THAT wall of stupidity time and time again. Unfortunately, I had a VERY hard head.
These days, I refuse run into situations emotions open, eyes closed. I more apt to stroll looking to discover a person’s character and then judge whether or not an individual is worthy of my emotional energy based on a number of variables.
Professor
April 29th, 2009
11:17 am
Truth- are the jobs you applying for have a similar competencies? Are you applying for management positions? If so look on ladders.com and they have a section called my resume stinks and look at the before and after resumes (good guideline).
On topic- I think there is a fine line between classy and trashy, bad and ignorant…with that said I think some “bad” girls know how to do it with style and class thus not bringing shame to the relationship. That is my two cents
M'
April 29th, 2009
11:17 am
Okay now…so I am so openly interpreting what a BAD GIRL is…is she uncouth and classless???…is she vulgar speaking with a rough swagger????…is she one to blatantly dismiss conventional mores for her own preferred agenda????…is she sexually provocative and uninhibited publicly and privately?????….or is she a gun slinging gangbanger????
Hmm
April 29th, 2009
11:21 am
Most guys like bad girls. I’m not talking breaking the law or anything like that, but one who is willing to be spontanious and take a chance. I know my guy likes getting it on in random places that most wouldn’t dare attempt. An empires building over looking the football field late at night or a random golf corse late at night. Places where we could potentially get caught….I don’t think he would like me as much if I was smoking a joint, with my shirt hiked up to my butt and the word “bruiser” was very apparent on my left butt cheek. Women should present themselves as ladies until the time is right. There definantly is a time and a place for badazz to come out.
Dan
April 29th, 2009
11:22 am
@M’K
Put all that in a bowl, mix it up, and class and education and you have the 21st century “ride or die” chick (for those over 30)
lurker
April 29th, 2009
11:23 am
I’m with M…got me wondering,what is a “bad girl” per se? I mean, folks have always considered me “the one” out of the circles I’ve run in but my image is ultra conservative. I’ve always been considered as having an edge just not filty mouth or a law breaker or a hoodrat. I think by today’s definitions, I’m officially a good girl.
Beautiful
April 29th, 2009
11:23 am
**So just get your nut** i see you still don’t know me. i don’t nut just for anyone.
**I thought employment ho may have sent the wrong message.** too funny.
Eileen
April 29th, 2009
11:24 am
@ DuShawn @ 10:43… Sho you right!
Beautiful
April 29th, 2009
11:27 am
**filty mouth or a law breaker or a hoodrat**
when i read the topic, this is what i imagined a bad azz was.
DuShawn
April 29th, 2009
11:27 am
@Truth, There are several levels of Bad Girls, but they all share one common trait,….Strength. I recently had drinks after work with two sistas from the office. One is the Director of IT and the other has an equally high powered position in the firm. Both are advanced degreed, six figure chicks. By the time I met them at the bar, they were on their fourth Hennessey on the rocks, talkin cash shyt and cursing so loud they embarrassed me, and that’s hard to do. They are truly some bad girls, but they have the corporate pimptress game on lock. The next day in the office they were back to their conservative, strictly business, no smiling or time for bullshyt selves. It was as if that evening never happened. I dig those two women.
yes!
April 29th, 2009
11:29 am
For a man, bad girls are good to use for sex and to use during a partying/wild phase.
They should only be used for those two purposes.
Any man that is genuinely and consistently attracted to bad girls should seek therapy. =)
M'
April 29th, 2009
11:29 am
@Dan
Oh…well then so be it…I guess I tend to think of bad girls as the ones who adjust the social agenda and their comportments to an anormal self-expression…were the Flappers and the Bootlegginng Betty’s of the 20’s bad girls????…the gangster “doll” or “moll”…lol…the chicks who ran and worked bordellos…hmmmm….Bad Girls.
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging
April 29th, 2009
11:30 am
Prof, the skillsets vary widely from job to job. I’m in Kuwait and there are many companies with various openings. I’m trying to come up with something that i can use universally or with slight modifications. Thanks for the input.
Dan, that sums it up best. Just put your head down and get it done. Thats what she does. His girl is about it though. I told him I’ll buy the ring if thats what it takes. She’s a demonstrated winner thats in your corner. You gotta take that deal
TheForgottenMan
April 29th, 2009
11:31 am
I’ll take the nice, sweet girl next door over a bad girl any day (or night).
lurker
April 29th, 2009
11:34 am
YESFor a man, bad girls are good to use for sex and to use during a partying/wild phase.
They should only be used for those two purposes.
Any man that is genuinely and consistently attracted to bad girls should seek therapy. =)
WOW. I didn’t think the topic was about hookers. A SO would classify as such. No?
Dan
April 29th, 2009
11:35 am
@yes
The attraction to the “bad girl” is the attraction to the “bad boy” in a sense, the comfort and security of having that person that will be on your side through whatever.
Now an attraction to the “crazy chick” is what requires therapy
Demigod...via PDA
April 29th, 2009
11:35 am
Du…and understand that. I feel VH1, MTV, and BET are ruining young people minds….Mayne, as find are some of those girls on Ray J bullish were…I can’t remember one of those bishes names…lol
ABC…yes and no. I am not a bad boy by a long shot (I just like having women around me), but even I need a strong woman at my back side.
I want a women who has been thru hellz and back…she knows how to appreciate God, herself, and you.
folks losing money in the stock market and think it is time to commit suicide…(naw, the fun is just beginning)
AmazonRed™
April 29th, 2009
11:35 am
How do you tell a company you’re a job ho willing to do anything except what you’re currently doing? LOL
Truth – You do what this guy did. Click the link.
http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/chi/942873935.html
Terh Datazzup
April 29th, 2009
11:37 am
No such thing as a Bad Girl.. Bank robbers-Men Car Jackers-Men .. Ther are no levels to bad. Either you a bad or you’re not.
SexyCool
April 29th, 2009
11:40 am
Some of what is being described as “Bad Girl” behaviour is simply Street Survival Tactics 101. Outwit. Outplay. Outlast.
LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!
April 29th, 2009
11:41 am
Do only bad girls curse like sailors?
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging
April 29th, 2009
11:42 am
Du, I guess in my experiences the tightest chicks I can think of have been middle of the road with a few wild hairs. The one bad chick that I can think of was the worst relationship I’ve ever been in. Always pushing the envelope even when the only possible outcome wasnt going to be good. I guess the fact she liked to be tied up forced me to overlook alot. LOL
My boys girl is more like your workmates but even when she’s funning she can pop back to professional in a minute. She really is a specimen, in my eyes.
Tee
April 29th, 2009
11:43 am
Live. Love. Laugh. Thats all I can say….Have a great day all! I have to agree with DuShawn, though. But to each is own. Some square guys will respond to this topic with a negative outlook on a “bad girl” and will post some ignorant views as to how they feel about the topic. Be optimistic because you don’t know; you may never know so don’t speak on it. BLESS
**STILL A BAD GIRL….
LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!
April 29th, 2009
11:43 am
This topic is too vague.. Does the type of music the chick likes to listen to make her a bad girl?
abc
April 29th, 2009
11:44 am
I didn’t mean any condescension, DuShawn. Birds of a feather flock together, as in everyone gets in where they fits in. It opens up another conversation, about the effect one’s peers and their behaviors have on one’s own behaviors, attitudes, etc.
My girl is a warrior princess, very very intelligent, loyal to a fault, sophisticated, well-mannered and a Godly woman and lady all at the same time. And beautiful! She’s one in a million, about as close to Proverbs 31 as anyone will ever find. Her goodness would, to my mind, outweigh benefits of perceived strengths of bad girls 10 to 1, at least.
So, I’m biased. Oh well.
Dan
April 29th, 2009
11:44 am
@Sexycool
Agreed.
DuShawn
April 29th, 2009
11:46 am
“…..bad girls are good to use for sex” Let me clear up this misconception. Bad chicks are not easy. In fact, they are the most difficult to conquer. They know the game. They are not easily fooled or mislead. For those that prefer the square broads, that’s cool, do you. Bad chicks don’t date nerds anyway.
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging
April 29th, 2009
11:49 am
Ared, roflmao. Can you say frustrated with the job search?
Demigod...via PDA
April 29th, 2009
11:49 am
sexy cool….I am going to have to go with Nola, the gurl hustled the radio DJays into playing her pimp’s music…
Grace
April 29th, 2009
11:50 am
“bad girls” are exciting, they know what they want and they go for it with no inhabitions. I would think it would be hard for a man to keep up with the bad girls since he knows that she can replace him with a drop of a dime. Although he may play with her b/c he knows there is no limit to what she can and will do to satisfy her appetite. JMO
AmazonRed™
April 29th, 2009
11:51 am
My boy has a chick that is ride or die but without tattoos. She’s smart, driven, educated, a business owner, attractive and has nuts the size of Bill Gates. When he slipped she didnt ride but carried his azz. He’s doing something right now that in any other situation would be called simpin but in her case I 100% support his actions. She’s the new generation of ride or die chick. Not there to help you endure the bad times but to maintain the good times. She may not know how to pawn shottie’s but she generates a few hundred grand using her mind. And did I say she NEVER waivered, even when he did. When he was going thru it I know it challenged his ego. She probably didnt care because she was too busy doing what she do. She’s bad alright, but not in the old hood way
Truth – That’s the truth right there.
You think of the Obamas – yeah, he’s not going to sell crack on the corner. He’ll outsmart the game another way.
Just cuz folks are square doesn’t mean they aren’t in for the long haul.
Dan
April 29th, 2009
11:51 am
@Du
I was typing as you posted.
For the “baddest of the bad” you really have to up on you game. She has to KNOW that you got flex, but no break.
Beautiful
April 29th, 2009
11:54 am
i cursed like a sailor in my 20s. i stopped when a guy told me it didn’t fit me.
Dan
April 29th, 2009
11:55 am
But by Truth’s and Dushawn’s definitions (and mine) tell me that the First Lady ain’t the 21st Century bad girl.
Before being President BHO had holes in his shoes, car, and she was running the gwap in the house. But kept her head down at it and with him.
As far as “outsmarting the game”, where I’m from, if you alive at 30 with some semblance of a career – you win.
Demigod...via PDA
April 29th, 2009
12:00 pm
I will tell you one of the top Bad Chick in our nation…Michelle Obama!!
She is telling white folks to kiss her sexy black azz left and right…them bishes don’t even know it!!
DuShawn
April 29th, 2009
12:04 pm
I agree with Grace. You can’t just be any dude and think a bad chick is going to give you her all. You gotta be a bad muthfukka ya damn self.
By the way, how do you work the Bold and Italic font on this new blog?
AmazonRed™
April 29th, 2009
12:05 pm
But by Truth’s and Dushawn’s definitions (and mine) tell me that the First Lady ain’t the 21st Century bad girl.
She’s not. At. All. I don’t see why you have to be classified as “bad” by being loyal.
Senator Obama lived in a modest apt when Congress was in session. Michelle got a hotel room when she was in town. She’s paid her dues.
Beautiful
April 29th, 2009
12:05 pm
**off topic**
why is it that i want the relationships i can’t have. three men are avail right now to do whatever . . . commitment, marriage. but no, i’m thinkin’ bout a mf who is taken. smh.
abc
April 29th, 2009
12:06 pm
Now, the Obamas aren’t ‘bad’ in the sense the topic implies. Puh-leeze. That is simply projection.
One could extrapolate that anyone who exhibits toughness, resolve, realized ambition, and so on, is ‘bad’. That simply is not so.
Foots
April 29th, 2009
12:07 pm
You don’t have to be a “bad girl” to be on your man’s side through whatever. I call that a “committed mate”.
AmazonRed™
April 29th, 2009
12:07 pm
Thank you abc! I mean really.
Staceye AKA Black Mamba
April 29th, 2009
12:11 pm
I like to say I am a good girl with Bad Girl tendencies!
TRUTH…I LOVE me some Grace Jones!
Strang’e forever!
I think everybody has their own opinion of what a Bad Girl really is. If saying what I mean and meaning what I say is a qualification….then I guess I am a bad girl. If not take no ISH from anyone, will not back down to anyone, sticking to my guns on my opinions and being easily wavered, or just not being a dumb broad makes me a bad girl,…then I guess I wear that brand proudly! I must say certain things in my life have made me what I am…but the foundation was already there.
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging
April 29th, 2009
12:11 pm
Dan, perfect example. As we as a race get further away from just surviving and on to excelling the skills needed to be bad will change. MO is a perfect example, and she looks like she can put it down in the presidential poon palace. Now, if any chick should be able to ask for half its her. She carried the flag to help him get where he is.
Du, I’m a nerd. When I think of the things I like to do today its borderline Leave it to Beaver. Reading, cooking, chilling, training my dogs. Just enjoying every day. I look back at some of the things I used to enjoy and have done now and realize thats all behind me. I don’t have the heart for it anymore. Now if ol girl wants to bring in a gf I can get up for that but thats it. LOL Even with that a chick is useless if she cant talk about where she’s trying to go in life and more importantly what she’s doing to get there.
SexyCool
April 29th, 2009
12:11 pm
Demi – Agree on Nola and Mrs. Obama.
Beautiful – I was with you on the chilling on the cursing until you said you stopped because of what a dude said to you. (I am going to guess that it was not a completed thought and didn’t really address how his comment caused you to reflect and ultimately brought you to a different way of thinking. )
I don’t curse as freely as I used to. These days, I am loose with my tongue mostly amongst those who know me best. I usually do not curse around people who don’t know me well or whom I would like to make a favorable impression upon when first meeting them. However, regardless of what some stick in the mud people say, sometimes, colorfully is the only way to get some points across.
SexyCool
April 29th, 2009
12:16 pm
Michelle Obama grew up on the south side of Chicago. If y’all think she ain’t got some ‘bad’ in her, puh-leeze.
Besides, nothing in Wise’s topic indicated that being bad was a bad thing. In fact, she specifically stated that there is a line between a bad girl and a wicked (read: evil) woman.