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Beside Every Bad Boy

I once read that beside every bad boy is a bad girl. I interpreted this to mean that some men are drawn to the bad girls for the exact same reasons bad boys are so appealing to the ladies: excitement. The allure of excitement translates to passion; and passion can translate to, well a lot of good stuff!

While the excitement can make a bad girl seem intriguing there is a fine line between bad girl and wicked woman. Why are bad girls rarely seen without a man?

Guys, what is your definition of a bad girl? I am not talking about the emotionally unstable creatures or the psycho chicks. The bad girl that I am referring to are the women who have a little edge. How much “bad” can you handle?  Is there a particular edginess that is actually attractive without being a turn off? Have you ever met a woman that just drew you in with her bad girl attitude or behavior? Did you ever have a relationship with a bad girl?

Ladies, is it true that every woman has at least a little bad girl in her? What brings out your bad girl attitude or edginess? How do men respond to it? Are you a reformed bad girl? Was it difficult to break the bad girl habits?

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i'm swiss

April 29th, 2009
8:14 am

Can’t hang long — gotta head out for an interview, but before I go, I’ll address 1 question from your post, Diva:

“Why are bad girls rarely seen without a man?”

Answer: Because we (guys) think they’ll give up the pdussy. (And they usually do) :lol:

Back this afternoon…. Have a good one, people…

Dan

April 29th, 2009
8:40 am

While Mr. Swiss has a point,

The other thing about about a “bad girl” is that she’s an enabler. She isn’t the chick to pull off the edge of anger, she’s trying to push you over. In a fight, she does what she can, dukes up throwing like the G’s. She goes ALL OUT for her dude and expects the same in return.

And while that has (had?) it’s place in the oh-so-fondly-recalled “younger days”, it doesn’t fit well after…21. By a certain point, “growing up” is the modus operandi, the word for the day. And that “snap first” attitude is unhealthy and unhelpful.

That isn’t to say that a “bad girl” doesn’t have her place in the “adult” world. A jazzy chick is a jazzy chick and sometimes that’s a good thing for growth as some of us still ride the precipice.

I’ve said it before and I will again, I like a chick that is right jazzy with me (at appropriate times). And there’s nothing like walking in with the baddest chick in the room on your arm. Well armed for discussion and dismissal.

Dan

April 29th, 2009
8:46 am

I forgot to add,

that a “mean” walk don’t hurt either.

Sassy Me....tastes like candy :-)

April 29th, 2009
8:50 am

Ladies, is it true that every woman has at least a little bad girl in her? What brings out your bad girl attitude or edginess? How do men respond to it? Are you a reformed bad girl? Was it difficult to break the bad girl habits?

Mornting blog fam….Yes I do think every woman has a little bad girl in them(some more than others) but whether they’ll reveal it is another matter. Personally my bad girl lurks just below the surface and will show her face at will and randomly….sometimes when I wanna have fun my bad girl comes out and makes it happen with her flirty behavior and the men who like it tend to be the shy type and I don’t really like that b/c they’re boring. Then again there are times where I’ll meet someone who can handle my “wild child” and it’s oooon.

Men seem drawn to it at times b/c they say it’s “mysterious” and I think that’s interesting.

Raqi

April 29th, 2009
9:02 am

Good Morning.

LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 29th, 2009
9:06 am

Good Morning All :)

Raqi

April 29th, 2009
9:07 am

The allure of excitement translates to passion; and passion can translate to, well a lot of good stuff drama! Nah I just kidding. Just a little.

IMO the right amount edginess is a good thing. A smidgen of spice makes for a little adventure. Spontaneity. And kick@ss
I am like a perfect bowl of ceviche. Wholesome, hearty and satisfying.

Bad girl edginess for me is not the arms flaring, neck rolling, loud displays of attitude. She is like a rose bush, pretty and quite easy to maintain but when you rub her the wrong way you will get pricked.

Raqi

April 29th, 2009
9:13 am

LOL I guess I got caught up in the spam bin. WiseDiva if my comments are in the bin don’t bother posting them. I will go a different route.

Raqi

April 29th, 2009
9:15 am

Detouring…

A little bit of edginess makes for adventure and spontaneity.

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

April 29th, 2009
9:16 am

Good morning folks.

Bad girls are lame but easy. Give me an educated, fun, good spirited chick with a sense of adventure and I can manufacture the rest. A bad girl isn’t going to do jack but get you in trouble. Its not even the same attraction level that bad guys have for women. For men its like here comes trouble. Who wants to hang out with a chick like Grace Jones that’ll bite the crap out of you if you order the wrong food?

The closest I’ve ever come to a bad girl was a chick with who was irresponsible on all fronts. Thought it was cool at first but proved to be trouble from day 2.

Every woman has ample wild woman in her if nurtured correctly. Thing is if she’s balanced it’ll come out at the appropriate time. Not when she’s screaming at the 6′5″ 260 pound gym owner while standing behind you screaming “my bf will wup your azz”.

On a sad note this is day 4 of 4 of my days off. I need more time off to determine if the last four days were sufficient for total recovery. I’m thinking no.

AmazonRed™

April 29th, 2009
9:21 am

Ladies, is it true that every woman has at least a little bad girl in her?

Just in the bedroom, that’s where the stripper pole is.

Everywhere else, I’m an angel. See halo? *halo dings* :D

Morning everyone.

SexyCool

April 29th, 2009
9:46 am

Just call me Bad Girl Gone Good. :-D

AmazonRed™

April 29th, 2009
9:47 am

Who wants to hang out with a chick like Grace Jones that’ll bite the crap out of you if you order the wrong food?

:lol: :lol: :lol: I am so done for the day already. :lol: :lol: :lol:

SexyCool

April 29th, 2009
9:47 am

Three Words Daily – Detox your mind.

robert

April 29th, 2009
9:51 am

Why are bad boys rarely seen without a girl?

abc

April 29th, 2009
9:56 am

Some chicks act bad because they think guys like it. I, for one, don’t like it. Some chicks ARE bad because they just are; I still don’t like it. What’s to like about so-called ‘edge’? All the edge does is make people uncomfortable around you, the opposite of what being a lady or gentleman is all about.

That said, Swiss nailed it: bad girls always have guys around because they figure they’ll be getting laid, and they’re usually right.

IRISH25

April 29th, 2009
9:56 am

SHE’S GOTTA HAVE BAMBOO EARRINGS…….AT LEAST TWO PAIR.

SexyCool

April 29th, 2009
9:57 am

It wasn’t difficult to break what little bad girl habits that I had. I just outgrew a lot of what was simply foolishness. However, I still make it a point to disply just a little bit of that sass (channel my inner Nu-Nu) that men seem to find so irresistible.

Dan

April 29th, 2009
9:57 am

Because women can be with an azzhole,

and never have to take responsibility for it.

It’s always someone else’s fault

AmazonRed™

April 29th, 2009
9:58 am

Dan

April 29th, 2009
10:04 am

So…I should’ve conditioned that with “some”?

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

April 29th, 2009
10:06 am

Last week I saw a chick that weighed 120 lbs max, going off on this cat that was 230 easy. She’s calling him a punk and telling him she’ll wup his azz and whatnot. At first it was funny but the chick wouldn’t let it go and everyone started walking off. This chick thinks she’s a bad girl but really she’s an idiot. That cat would have tore her little azz out the frame. Add 30 more desgrees and her azz is wupped. They say this place gets real jumpy when the heat goes up. I saw in that guy eyes he was contemplating slapping the crap out of that chick.

Cool, you’re a good girl with a few socially acceptable bad ways. LOL

Kym, where are you?

Dan

April 29th, 2009
10:06 am

@abc

So, for you a demurr wall flower that does nothing but acquiesce to people around her is “ideal”? (granted, I went that far for a reason)

SexyCool

April 29th, 2009
10:08 am

Truth – Very well stated.

AmazonRed™

April 29th, 2009
10:10 am

If that’s your reality Dan, so be it.

SexyCool

April 29th, 2009
10:13 am

Swiss – Good luck on the interview.

Remember, have at least three questions to ask them about the position and/or the company. And be sure to get the correct spellings of any names and contact information for your follow-up letter.

Dan

April 29th, 2009
10:16 am

No, just a generality

I know quite a few women for whom that condition is a reality. But that’s a discussion for another day

Leggs

April 29th, 2009
10:19 am

There’s a bad girl in every woman. Well, there should be especially in the bedroom. Living life somewhat on the edge (meaning within the confines of the law) and being spontaneous, as Raqi stated, is the ingredients to being a bad girl.

BTW, thank you Bobbie! Good, bad, handicapped, blind…all are getting sexed up.

Leggs

April 29th, 2009
10:24 am

“are” the ingredients…

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

April 29th, 2009
10:27 am

Dan, that demur chick isnt the opposite of a bad girl. Women need a different skillset than dudes. A chick that possesses the worst skills associated with a sorry dude isnt cool. Just think if you accidently have a child with said chick.

Most women shine the brightest when they’re in a solid relationship. They’re not bad girls but that inner jazz comes out and they’re a ball to be around. Like me and last gf went to a Braves game. She’s wooping and hollering and we just had a good time. Then she turns back into ex gf and head out. Not a bad girl but a fun chick to hang with.

Cool, I’m putting together a resume as we speak and its challenging trying to structure it for all the jobs I’m applying for. How do you tell a company you’re a job ho willing to do anything except what you’re currently doing? LOL

Swiss, good luck.

Beautiful

April 29th, 2009
10:30 am

morning ev1!

Dan

April 29th, 2009
10:34 am

Truth, I see the evolution of the whole “bad girl” thing to adulthood as good thing.

While I worry about the “in the corner” chick, the one that is assertive, confident, contrary and capable would be a “bad chick”.

She don’t deal with dudes on that submissive tip, she speaks her mind, is confident with all aspects of herself, and if a cat/chick don’t like it..”cool”.

I actually kinda like b. itches to be honest with you. But the kind I’m talking about knows when (and with whom) to get that jazzy with.

Beautiful

April 29th, 2009
10:37 am

both DAN and TRUTH are correct imo. i’ve known guys who only like bad girls . . . my brother. and then there are guys who are only turned on my good girls.

Beautiful

April 29th, 2009
10:39 am

*by good girls*

Dan

April 29th, 2009
10:40 am

See…a “good” girl is kinda square to me

While I appreciate an intellectual and articulate woman, I got to know that when the hood homies are around she can roll with it. Versatility is what I’m talking ’bout

dave

April 29th, 2009
10:43 am

Bobbie, U R right, been with all kinds, one thing in common, all like the sex when the time gets right . . .

SexyCool

April 29th, 2009
10:43 am

Truth – You’re looking to explore new career opportunities and seeking challenges that will facilitate professional growth. (Work that into your Summary of Qualifications.)

DuShawn

April 29th, 2009
10:43 am

“……Give me an educated, fun, good spirited chick with a sense of adventure” IMO, that’s a partial definition of a Bad Girl. If you add she’s a hustler, survivor, with a style, swag and presence that commands respect, the definition would be complete. From what I’ve read thus far, it seems most commenters are confusing a Bad Girl with a Stupid B*tch. Personally, I’m a proponent of the bad girl. A green, square, debutant chick would bore me to death. A bad girl is like the Bonnie to your Clyde. You could tell a bad girl **“Look here baby, we’re on a paper chase. I need you to take these four machine guns to the pawn shop and bring that money back, I’d do it myself but you know I’m a felon. Imma take that bread, cop a nine pack and start flippin it. In the mean time, I also need you to go to the food stamp office. Tell them I left you and the kids and you lost your job. Get $800 a month in assistance. We could sell $400 worth of groceries and our fridge would still stay on swole. Also you need to start braiding hair again, tell you little homegirls you can hook their Micro’s and Individuals up for the low low; and one last thing, stop by the cleaners and pick up my suits, I got an interview for that CFO position I told you about tomorrow.”** Believe me when I tell you, A Bad Girl will get it. She’s got your back when it’s really going down. If you think the goodie two shoes girls are better, don’t work for six months and let the lights get cut off, watch how quick she leaves your azz because you’re not the man she thought you was.

AmazonRed™

April 29th, 2009
10:44 am

See…a “good” girl is kinda square to me

And proud! :D

Beautiful

April 29th, 2009
10:46 am

@SEXYCOOL
i should have known when i didn’t get a call or text the last part of the w/e. married men seem to disappear when the w/e approaches. spending time with wifey and kids. . . makes sense that they would do the disappearing act.

my best friend went through this in GA. it took her awhile to finally get it. monday through friday they want to see you, call you, text you to death.

SexyCool

April 29th, 2009
10:47 am

Demi – Mad luv.

Raqi

April 29th, 2009
10:47 am

It’s interesting seeing all the different takes on the meaning “bad girl”. What’s bad for one is ideal for another.

SexyCool

April 29th, 2009
10:50 am

Beautiful – Yep. That kind of thing typically doesn’t take too long to show itself. The thing is – we have to be paying attention to it when it does and refuse to accept the B.S. excuses that ALWAYS follow.

Put that @ss curbside. NEXT!

Demigod...via PDA

April 29th, 2009
10:57 am

Du…you know your posts take up the whole screen, lol…you must have a real woman on your team at all time…or as my homegirl likes to say, “My Bottem Bish.” She kills me with that line, lol

abc

April 29th, 2009
11:01 am

Dan, I don’t see how being a lady or gentleman and being an acquiescent wall flower are synonymous.

But then, I tend to equate ‘bad girl’ or ‘bad boy’ as being synonymous with lacking class, manners, emotional stability, etc. I suppose it’s the same thing, only different.

Dan

April 29th, 2009
11:01 am

Naw, I think Dushawn summed it up

There’s a difference between the “crazy chick” and the “bad girl”

The crazy chick was fun when I was younger and loved to fight, now I can be arrested and sued. And that’s not good

Beautiful

April 29th, 2009
11:02 am

the definition of bad girl will be defined differently by each and every man it seems like.

DuShawn

April 29th, 2009
11:02 am

@Demi..lol, I feel strongly about this subject and had a lot to get off my chest. I can’t sit by and let the bad girls get bashed.

Dan

April 29th, 2009
11:03 am

@abc

Agreed, to the first part.

But simply “lacking social grace” does not a “bad boy/girl” make.

abc

April 29th, 2009
11:04 am

Dushawn indicates that for a ‘bad boy’, a ‘bad girl’ is a good fit. Difficult to dispute; birds of a feather, and all that.