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Love Scene For Two

I love the anticipation of a new romantic interest coming to your place for the first time. Hopefully the place is clean and smells fresh, with mood lighting and music. I think that romance adds to the chemistry between you and your date. Guys, you may not realize how much your romantic skills impress women. It goes a long way, it can be what keeps you in the mix! Ladies, we also can leave a great impression when we romance men, paying close attention to what he likes.

How do you set up a romantic night at the crib? What was the best “at home” date night you ever had? I remember when a guy went all out with a romantic evening for me. I won’t ever forget the care and attention he put into the night. I felt so cared for!

A lot of us are trying to save a little money, so home dates are probably on the rise! Do you think that is a good thing or a bad thing? How do we make the best of it?

Happy Friday!

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LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 24th, 2009
2:51 pm

MK- I have NO idea how/why people do such HORRIBLE things to their children!!! It makes me sick!

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
2:52 pm

DJ make her breakfast in bed tomorrow or Sunday morning. You can cook, right?

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
2:53 pm

**Hey ya’ll. As nerve wrecking as that 3hr test was yesterday for Southern Company, I passed**

good for you girlie!

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
2:54 pm

And also with the breakfast give her a just because thank you card for being the wonderful wife that she is.

DJ Sniper

April 24th, 2009
2:54 pm

Melo, we don’t have any kids, unless you count the 4 legged one with fur. lol Money has been a bit of an issue. Bills are always paid, so we’ve never been in danger of being evicted or having utilities disconnected, but there are times when we just seem to be on two different pages financially. She works part time and goes to school full time, so her funds are kinda limited at the moment, and I haven’t been as financially supportive as I probably should be. I’ll also admit to still having a selfish streak, i.e. thinking in terms of “me” as opposed to “us”. That probably comes from me never really being in a serious relationship until this one(prior to my wife, 6 months was the longest I was ever with anybody).

I’m not even gonna lie; part of me wants to work on that issue, and part of me is like, “f**k it, this is who I am.”

Raqi, pay attention in class. lol

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
2:55 pm

Take her shopping and you pick out the outfit complete with shoes and accessories. You do have good taste, right?

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
2:56 pm

Good one, Raqi. I was concentrating on the “sniper” part of the name. :lol:

@DJ, nice that you admit you haven’t done the best in your marriage. Well, since you guys are still married and if you’re not talking about divorce, it’s never to late. Start tomorrow and do something. Bet neither one of you have smiled toward each other in a long time. If there are still embers glowing, step up and do something. It’s going to be absolutely gorgeous tomorrow. The park and picnic sounds lovely if both your schedules allow it. How about it?

DJ Sniper

April 24th, 2009
2:58 pm

Raqi, I have to DJ a party tomorrow afternoon, so most of my day is pretty much occupied. I do know how to cook, so the breakfast in bed idea is worth a try.

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
2:58 pm

Well tell the part of you that don’t to take a backseat because you are going to romance your wife this weekend.

Simple does it.

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
2:59 pm

OH YEAH, THOSE JUST BECAUSE THANK YOU CARDS ARE PRICELESS!

MELO

April 24th, 2009
3:00 pm

and I haven’t been as financially supportive as I probably should be

seems u already know whats wrong,rest is up to u to change it or not.Are u supportive of her going to school,opposed,jealous of it or indifferent? U make more bread than her now,u think that will remain the same after shes done??
Im asking coz as a dude,that weighs on most dudes minds.U dnt seem to have many issues,form my gleaning,other than that shes in school,so most of her time is spend on school stuff.And school pple are church mouse thrifty/poor with money and their time is spend studying etc.Either u are with her on that programme or u not,RIGHT?

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
3:02 pm

Ok, cook breakfast and cuddle in bed with her a little longer, then get ready for the party. Is she coming to the party w/you? If not, how about inviting her.

How long have you been married?

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
3:04 pm

DJ if she likes to take shower in the morning, go in start her shower, have her a nice clean soft tower sitting out and her robe. While she is showering you make breakfast, waffles are my personal favorite :smile: and they are easy, then bring it up to her with the card. If she likes to read the paper have the section that she prefers with the breakfast.

Unless your wife is an evil b!tch you will be sitting pretty for the next few days simply because she will not see it coming.

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
3:04 pm

@DJ
compromise. tomorrow is a new day. it’s never too late to be the man you need to be for your wife. she is the most important thing, right?

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
3:05 pm

Seems like both of you need to show each other some appreciation. Raqi spelled it out nicely.

AmazonRed™

April 24th, 2009
3:06 pm

My co workers and I have been hanging outside. Started at lunch. Then trash talking began and an impromptu bball game began. It’s so nice outside and you could tell folks were tired and full and no one was focused on work. The HR director was in the group and she’s letting all of go home at 3:30 as long as we don’t tell the owner. He’ll come out of his office around 4 and wonder where everyone is. :lol:

Love it.

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
3:07 pm

Awwww shucks, there are icees here in the freezer and I want one, but don’t know who they belong to. Man o man. When I opened the freezer the green one shouted my name! To think I meant to bring some from home and forgot. This is sheer torture for me! Sorry, carry on….

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
3:07 pm

When you give her the breakfast give her a kiss on the cheek and tell her this is her time and you are going to leave her alone to enjoy it.

Have your energy drink ready just in case, but if not don’t even expect anything in return. It’s all about her.

MELO

April 24th, 2009
3:10 pm

as long as we don’t tell the owner

Owner??
Didnt know u work for Jermaine Dupri, Ared. :lol:

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
3:10 pm

And guess what you get to go in another room and be your old selfish self again while she enjoys her moment.

And don’t have a pile of dishes waiting for her to clean up later. LOL

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
3:11 pm

@DJ
sounds like to me you’re in a rut. get out and fast!

who has sexy plans this w/e?

MELO

April 24th, 2009
3:12 pm

Have your energy drink ready just in case

Raqi?? :twisted:

U telling me there is an energy drink that can really take u there?? Really?? which one….and hw long after u drank it??

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
3:12 pm

Some days I just don’t go back and read my own comments…the typos are just to much. LOL

tower…towel. tower…towel.

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

April 24th, 2009
3:14 pm

A good Friday to everyone in Blogsville!

Romancing/cooking dinner for a woman is the best!

I once was dating a 4th grade teacher and who had some bad azz kids in her class. So on one Friday I left work early and order her a 12 dozen roses that were white, yellow and pink! :smile:

Placed in the bouquet was a note stating how much I enjoy her company and to meet me at my place for dinner that night. I cooked some of her favorite foods for dinner while we drink her favorite wine (merlot) while relaxing to sounds of Grover Washington and later finishing with Joe.

After dinner we relaxed then I proceed to give her a full body massaged on my warm waterbed, this was winter time in the Midwest. Then we watch one of her favorite movies ( Spike Lee’s School Daze)! What a weekend that turn out to be!

@Foots I like how you are working it for your SO, keep up the good works!

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
3:14 pm

LOL Melo the energy drink will be for him. She just might want to thank him over and over and over again. Knucklehead :smile:

However if she doesn’t it is all good because he is expecting nothing in return. Right DJ?

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
3:17 pm

DJ go out tonight and buy her some nice lingerie to wear under her robe so she can feel pretty and sexy while enjoying her breakfast.

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
3:20 pm

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

April 24th, 2009
3:23 pm

Men we need to represent and give cards, send flowers, do massages and let these wonderful women know how much we appreciate them!

@Melo if you need cialis or viagra I know a docter who will give you some for free! :smile:

Staceye: I hope you do not store up all that passion and imagination forever! :wink: …. I see the problem Mamba foreigners don’t know how to appreciate a queen like you!

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
3:23 pm

Vickies probably has a sale going on right now. She always does. But if not go to retailmenot.com and find some coupons that you can probably use.

MELO

April 24th, 2009
3:28 pm

Neva mind ur suggestions to DJ,hiz problem with wify is money coz he aint opening the wallet enough for her.

Thats a problem i solved long time ago once i decided i wanted this one to birth my kids,take care of the future generation i re-created and do some stuff for me here and there and there! I give her most of my money other than the one I invest.
When u do that to a woman DJ,her floodgates OF romance and evething else opens up! Her pores(literally) all open up and she always has a glow about her.Coz shes happy!
A mad/unhappy/grudging woman,no matter how much she tries to spruce herself up,will still look dour,ugly and unglamorous.A fincially secure one,and happy will look vibrant,bright and fabulous.
Another thing,since u seem to be recent married:hang with dudes who are married and in ur mind,act married.The more u hang with unmarried dudes,the more detached and drifting u get from ur devoted wife.

Topic

April 24th, 2009
3:29 pm

I have come to realize that special moments like weddings are not to be shared with those who you are ‘casually’ dating.

MELO

April 24th, 2009
3:32 pm

Melo if you need cialis or viagra I know a docter who will give you some for free

I got inshearance buddy! no thanx (not insuarance).
besides,cialis and viagra have nothing on my zulu herb concoation!

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
3:35 pm

Melo really? So you think if you all just give us money then we good? Sweetie we want your time and your thoughtfulness also. Package baby…the whole package. Just like one part of us is not the all for you men folk, your wallets to help provide is not all we seek and desire.

We really do like spending time with you all. And we love the nice things that you all take the time to do.

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
3:43 pm

You should have realized that from the gitgo!

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

April 24th, 2009
3:44 pm

@melo O.K. send me some of that Zulu concoation!

@ Raqi of course we are providing more then money because women have lot of needs! As well as providing for you financially men willing take part in stimulating you mentally, spiritually, romantically, and physically! That is one of our many jobs!

I feel like a jamaican now! Taking care of a woman is a lot of work! :wink:

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
3:44 pm

LOL @Melo, you still spelled it wrong. Funny!

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
3:48 pm

ok, i’ll bite. why is it wrong to take someone to a wedding you are dating?

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
3:51 pm

First of all I read it wrong because I thought sharing pictures or magazines. Not once did I think of an actual wedding. I know, left field. Anyway, casually dating and dating aren’t the same to me!

LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 24th, 2009
3:52 pm

Melo- I agree with your 3:28 comment!

Have a wonderful & safe weekend ALL :)

Foots

April 24th, 2009
3:59 pm

Sniper A little romance goes a long way. It’s one thing if you CAN’T do it, and it’s a whole ‘nother thing if you CAN but WON’T. Which is it?

Take it from a woman, sometimes, just a “I’m thinking of you” text message, or the offer of a foot rub, or the suggestion of taking a walk together is extremely romantic and can reduce tension in the relationship. Just so she knows that you’re trying to address an issue that she’s identified to you. Then you can identify an issue for her to address at another time.

And I say this because my man isn’t terribly romantic, although if I bring something to his attention and he knows it won’t kill him to do it (most things won’t), he’s the type of man who will try. Even if we are mad and arguing. He tries, he doesn’t ignore, and that’s what makes all the difference. And it makes me want to try. Sometimes, if you want to be the leader, you have to lead.

And I must say, melo is giving good tips as a married man.

MELO

April 24th, 2009
4:02 pm

So you think if you all just give us money then we good

Thats a starting point.U cant take her to dinner if she has a mugg face on her.She wont even agree to the dinner.cook out etc.
Make sure shes feeling secure 1st!After that, shes happy and willing to accept a nite on the town!

DJ Sniper

April 24th, 2009
4:04 pm

Melo, her going back to school isn’t an issue at all. If she ends up making more money than me, so be it. I’m not concerned about that. I’m fully on board with her furthering her education.

Leggs, the parties that I DJ are mainly bar mitzvahs, so it’s not like a grown folks party. Besides, I think she has to work tomorrow morning anyway. We’ve only been married for about a year and three months. Damn shame it’s already like this huh? lol

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
4:06 pm

@LEGGS
it would be a great idea actually. if you haven’t already, it would be a perfect time to see him all dressed up and looking handsome. you would be able to see him in that type of environment where marriage is in the air. is he nervous? is he comfortable? does he want to try and catch the thingybobber? he may even ask you the question. how do you feel about getting married? do you want to be married someday? this would be your opportunity to gather info about a man who you may see one day as your husband. just my .02.

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
4:10 pm

**We’ve only been married for about a year and three months**

the first five yrs are the toughest.

Foots

April 24th, 2009
4:10 pm

Raqi I kinda get what Melo is saying, but from another point of view. I love quality time and thoughtfulness, fidelity, consideration and romance just as much as the next woman. Those are things I value. And if a man gives me what I value, although he may not value it as much as I do, I’m good. Until I start wishing that he gave me something that HE really valued…

But what do most dudes value most? Money. If he freely and happily gave me what he valued the most, it says a great deal about the way he feels about me.

It would be the same way if my man had nearly no free time and so he placed his value on how he spent his time, and he chose to spend all his free time with me. Although he may not have a dime and we did nothing but look at each other in that time, I’d be beaming because he gave me what HE valued most.

It’s about the real sacrifices we make to make each other happy. Melo’s wife knows that he values his money. And if he gives it all to her, she knows that he values her MORE than his money, and it makes her happy. That’s how I take it.

MELO

April 24th, 2009
4:18 pm

Melo’s wife knows that he values his money

Foots,u Damn right.In the beginnning, i cldnt do it.
I have given my young brothers my kinda recipe on that.They all give excuses,well u know, its wont wrk on us coz blah,blah,blah.But in truth i know,their maturity level hasnt reached mine yet.
When my fam(wife) dont have to wait on me to buy this or that for her and kids and me coz the money is in the bank,I am happy!
Our marriage is an open book.What wld i need the money for, if not for her,me and kids obligations???

Foots

April 24th, 2009
4:18 pm

And you know what? That last post of mine helped me identify what my man’s beef with me was last week. Go figure!

Beautiful I remember once when I was about to be on the outs with a dude, and he asked me to go to a wedding with him (one of his best friends was getting married). I basically said “hellz no”. I didn’t want him to be getting any warm and fuzzy ideas.

Weddings are all about making a commitment. There’s nothing wrong with taking someone you aren’t committed to, but it could make things a little uncomfortable if weddings make one of them start thinking along those lines and the other one isn’t. I’ve always found that I meet dudes when I go to weddings solo. I’ve never taken a date to one.

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
4:19 pm

Naw, disagree w/you Beautiful. I would much rather see my man dressed up with us going somewhere and not to someone’s wedding. My man won’t ask me these questions at someone’s wedding because he will already know where I stand long before he’s a date of mine at a friend’s wedding. I get what your saying, but it won’t fit for me! At a wedding is the last place I want to gather information from someone.

@DJ, when you said you had an to dj in the afternoon, I was wondering what type of gig you might have. Also, you need to do something quick and spice your marriage up. Before you know it you’ll be in a deep rut and just married 2 years. Marriage takes more you think, as you are clearly now seeing. You need to shake those smoldering embers to the point that they start sizzling. A humdrum marriage leads to so many unnecessary problems. If this marriage is what you want, then FIX IT before it’s too late.

MELO

April 24th, 2009
4:23 pm

bar mitzvahs,meaning what DJ?

Poppa Grande

April 24th, 2009
4:29 pm

I don’t know if you all are still on topic. I’ve been studying all day for final examinations which start next week. So, I thought to peep in as a break.

I’ve mentioned her setting the mood once by preparing dinner and the mood while I was out watching college football with my friends. She was wearing a catsuit when I returned.

I’ve prepared dinner for her as well. A couple of weeks ago, I put together some shrimp kabobs and grilled them along with a london broil. I also grilled some zucchini, yellow squash, vidialia onions in balsamic vinegar. When she got home from work, there was this dinner with Tony Toni Tone’s song “What ever you want”, which was followed by Whatever by Jill Scott, and a few other songs along the same them of “whatever” including “Be our guest” from Beauty and the Beast. She caught on to the theme of the songs and was really appreciative. Thanks to itunes you can make a CD with any songs that you want