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Love Scene For Two

I love the anticipation of a new romantic interest coming to your place for the first time. Hopefully the place is clean and smells fresh, with mood lighting and music. I think that romance adds to the chemistry between you and your date. Guys, you may not realize how much your romantic skills impress women. It goes a long way, it can be what keeps you in the mix! Ladies, we also can leave a great impression when we romance men, paying close attention to what he likes.

How do you set up a romantic night at the crib? What was the best “at home” date night you ever had? I remember when a guy went all out with a romantic evening for me. I won’t ever forget the care and attention he put into the night. I felt so cared for!

A lot of us are trying to save a little money, so home dates are probably on the rise! Do you think that is a good thing or a bad thing? How do we make the best of it?

Happy Friday!

221 comments Add your comment

MELO

April 24th, 2009
11:22 am

This one was strictly for you Melo

thanx, i luv it!

East Point's Own

April 24th, 2009
11:22 am

Romantic Songs/ Getting Busy songs ( in no particular order) (some song “titles” may be just lyrics.. but you know what I mean)

The Dream – Rockin that thang
Tweet- Smoking Cigarrettes
The whole Miles Davis “Loves Songs” CD
Adina Howard – Nasty Grind
Isley Bros.- Between the Sheets
Isley Bros – Groove To You
Teddy P. – Love T.K.O.
Sade – As good as the first time
Al Green – Let’s Stay Together
Al Green – Tired Of Being Alone
Donnell Jones – Where I wanna Be
Joe Tex – Skinny Leggs ( Just kidding… but I do love this song)

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
11:23 am

@LEGGS
yea, i came to the same conclusion. i’mma leave him alone, cause i like DU.

M'

April 24th, 2009
11:23 am

EPO

E’erbody know thtat outside of San Fran the the ATL is the drag fag capital of the world…period…and I am not talking about gay brothers…and yes, the men in the VA put the GA boys to shame…far more civil, chivalrous, generous, decent and respectful than the GA crew.

AmazonRed™

April 24th, 2009
11:24 am

To this day when we hear it we remember that night.

That’s sweet. It’s nice to have songs that remind you of a person or a lovely moment. When the slow jams come on at night and I’m driving, it’s like a trip down memeory lane of fond memories.

abc

April 24th, 2009
11:24 am

Something about the phrase “romantic night at the crib” cracks me up! It’s incongruous.

Wuffa you don’ won’ no candylie at da creeub?

Just struck me as funny.

I’d expect the guys to speculate that with a romantic date at home, you already have her most of the way there.

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
11:25 am

LOL DuShawn. One night were listening to Sweet Love by Anita Baker. It was a single so it played over and over again. After about 3 or 4 rounds of uh…we were lying head to foot in the bed and the song began to play again, Mason took his foot and kicked the CD player off the nightstand and said “enough already, she’s happy”.

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
11:26 am

**Donnell Jones – Where I wanna Be**

YES!!!

SexyCool

April 24th, 2009
11:26 am

DU – I was just about to point out that you were pulling the collective blog leg. I know you’ve posted some really wild things that you’ve done, but I KNEW that even you were not THAT far out there.

BTW,LMAO!

East Point's Own

April 24th, 2009
11:27 am

@ M’ Actually DC ranks higher than ATL according to whar I have read/heard but I’m not touching this topic any more than that for today.. LoL

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
11:29 am

@DU
i have to admit, i’m happy you were joking.

@AMAZON
when i hear a song on the radio that takes me back, i take the long way home or circle my block a couple of times.

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
11:30 am

I have never had poetry read to me. Never. I’ve been serenaded many times. I have had pages out of books read but never poetry.

Grace

April 24th, 2009
11:30 am

abe some men are romantic at heart and those that aren’t say something like this——->“romantic night at the crib” cracks me up! It’s incongruous. :) try steppin outside and explore!

East Point's Own

April 24th, 2009
11:33 am

Grace How ’bout a romantic night in my back yard at the crib? Is that outside enough for you? ( just bring your own mosquito repellant… )

abc

April 24th, 2009
11:34 am

EVERY night is a romantic night at my house. Lighten up, it’s funny.

M'

April 24th, 2009
11:34 am

EPO

Yeah come to think about it…ya prolly right…lol…truly…I forget about DC cuz it ain’t a state…it is still a district, right????…but uh, they do have a mean queen seen too…wonder if it is as live as MLK and Lowery on a Friday or Saturday night…lol.

Had some homies from Chi come down on year for hte Kool Jazz Festival…I lived in that area at the time…so we cruising down MLK…and my boy Vino is hanging his head out the window “hollering” at the “LADIES”…his boy Cecil kept telling him to look at the feet…lol…finally, he looked out the window, looked down at the feet and said “dayumm..they feet bigger thatn mine”…but yeah, they drag was too fine…lol

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
11:35 am

@DuShawn, I know you’re being silly!

Foots

April 24th, 2009
11:37 am

I have a tie for best home date:
1. Valentines Day a few years ago, my boyfriend at the time grilled me a seafood dinner, and had everything laid out so nicely. We fed each other strawberries and spent the rest of the night in each other’s arms. It was special all in itself that he planned and made the extra effort, but because it was him (and I loved him like no other), it was even more special.

2. I’ve talked about my first home date with my current man on here, the one where I got sick. He took such good care of me although he was looking pretty bewildered, and he even brought the movie to me on his laptop while I was laid out on his bed between sprints to the bathroom. I’m still surprised he called the next day.

We both still make good money, but we are trying to save more and eliminate debt, so we will be doing home dates more often. Valentines Day this year was spent at home, with king crab legs from Costco and a trip to the video store. I hate going out on Valentines Day, so it was perfect. Our trips to the video store are dates within themselves, we have so much fun trying to pick out a movie we both can watch.

kimmie

April 24th, 2009
11:39 am

Melo – Okay, without getting too wild, I will grant your request. It was actually New Years Eve 2007. I had been invited to this big party a friend of mine was giving that was being catered by this budding italian chef, so I was looking forward to it. SO had just gotten back from FL a few days earlier with the kids and had not made any real plans for NYE. I had to work earlier that day. My plan was to go home and shower & change for the party(casual, jeans & sweater). I was going to stop by and kiss him for the new year, chat for a minute and then head over to the party in Kennesaw. When I get over there, I realized this would be the first time I would be meeting the kids. They were busy playing with their toys from Christmas, so a big deal was not made about the whole meeting thing, which was good! It’s about 9:30. At about 10, the kids are worn out and SO puts them to bed. He had already served me a glass of some delicious Riesling! I had some more and we finished off a bottle and started on another. We had the tv on, but were feeling pretty good right about then. I realized I was not going to be making it to that party because I was too tipsy and after all it was NYE, bad on the roads. At about 11:30 he took the glass out of my hand and kissed me. I did not know what time it was and thought it was midnight, so I said Happy New Year! He laughed and said it was not time yet. We kissed our way from the great room to the bedroom upstairs. A half hour later – well let’s just say we brought the new year in right! I got something other than a kiss at midnight! I left out early before sunrise so as not to confuse the kids I had just met. He invited me to New Years dinner the next day at his sisters house and his parents were there.

Great way to start 2008!

Alter Ego

April 24th, 2009
11:44 am

Last night, I got a text message from a guy that I’ve recently begun dating. It said, “I guess I’ll see you there.” Thing was, he and I had not been texting about anything, much less meeting somewhere.

I responded with, “See me where?”

He came back with a lame reply of “Cleaning up my text messages. Sorry.”

My final response was “Wow. Um, yeah, okay. Whatever.”

I am inclined to let this lie where it fell. I’m not into playing these kinds of games with grown @ss men.

Your thoughts?

Foots

April 24th, 2009
11:45 am

SexyCool Surface clutter is cleared away. Kitchen is clean. Bathroom is spotless. Vacuum tracks are visible. Glade scented oil candles are lit. I’m wearing something comfortable, cute and just a little bit sexy without being too provocative. Brian McKnight sings.

Very nice. This is basically what I’m doing tonight. Make sure the house is clean and smelling good before he comes over. I’m cooking, so first we eat dinner, then we watch RayJ’s finale, since we didn’t watch it Monday, while eating dessert. Then I’m going to leave him downstairs, go on up and change into something extremely, blatantly provocative, light the candles, turn on the music, prepare the bed as a massage table, and text him to come upstairs. Should be a good night…

MELO

April 24th, 2009
11:46 am

I’d expect the guys to speculate that with a romantic date at home, you already have her most of the way there

I went the complete opposite with this girl, one time.
I set the date up at my crib.Had my domestic servant to dust up my little spot.My lounge was pretty small,as was the whole house,but very cozy for a bachelor.I got her fav drink,think it was vodka or gin,cant remember.Tony braxton’s first CD had just gotten out and i had it on deck.When u overseas in africa and u the guy who always has the latest joints(music),u the man!I had cousins in Boston who always filled me in with that kinda of stuff.
So she drove to my house later that nite,about 9pm ish,we ate some take out food that i had bought,all the while listening to Tony and sipping gin/voda and some tonic/lemonade.
She was dressed really classy for a nite ofcourse,leggy showing and her bosoom was real generous.
We stood up to dance,and had each other in arms.Huuuugh that nite was really sweet.More so coz that bosoom felt real good on my chest!!
Unlike Melo,i never pressured her for anything even tho i know,she proly wanted some!Not even a nidge from me,other than the rubs,soft kisses and the drunken stiff diccckk that played havoc with me that nite!!!
I dont think that was by design nor planning.It was what it was.But the memory and the cliffhanger kinda of ending is what mad the whole thing so sweet and memorable,in some ways.
Now,with dates like these,where the conclusion seemed anti-climatic(coz i didnt split it),i wld neva tell my homies ’bout it, the intimate details,that is!
I wldnt be able to stand their taunts,years after the event,each time we would meet the girl in town.

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
11:48 am

Being silly to a point! :wink:

I’ve tried one really romantic dinner while I was married that simply fell flat. He didn’t seem to care about all the work I put into it. The table was set, music on, just had to go upstairs and change clothes. Instead he wound up entertaining a male friend of his that stopped over and he never asked him to leave and the two wound up watching some dumba$$ game on tv. End of story!

SexyCool

April 24th, 2009
11:49 am

Go on then, Foots!!!

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
11:49 am

@Alter Ego
that happened to you too? it is what it is.

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
11:52 am

@FOOTS
after watchin’ the shower scene on Ray J . . . trust me you’ll be in the mood. hot!

MELO

April 24th, 2009
11:54 am

Kimmie
thats what im talking about!!! good job..u left me tantalized and hanging, thinking ’bout what cld have gone down that nite! Thats off da chain….

Alter Ego
from a seasoned pro,hes playing u.That message was send to the wrong recipient,YOU!

I guess I’ll see you there

hes got another chic on deck!

AmazonRed™

April 24th, 2009
11:55 am

Alter Ego –

Where is your beef exactly? That he’s seeing other people? Or with his answer to your question about the text?

Foots

April 24th, 2009
11:57 am

Amazon It’s nice to have songs that remind you of a person or a lovely moment

Oh yeah…so true. I remember when I was in college, my boyfriend drove up to see me and we barricaded ourselved in my dorm room. I put “Love’s Holiday” by EWF on repeat and it was such a beautiful time spent together. Sigh….

Beautiful Girl, you think Where I Wanna Be is romantic? It’s about a dude that tells his girl he’s not coming home cause he’d rather be alone, and that he needs to take time off from their relationship (so he won’t cheat on her) because he hasn’t experienced many outside women. LOL!

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
11:58 am

@MELO
men are terrible cheaters. lol. y’all do dumb shiit.

Grace

April 24th, 2009
12:00 pm

why East you’re not providing the repellent!?! At least I don’t have to provide my own likka :)

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
12:02 pm

Romantic Song – Isley’s Brothers “Make me Say It Again” WHEW!

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
12:02 pm

@FOOTS
lol. i love it romantic or not. the other day i heard *rock wit you* by mj. so sweet.

Alter Ego

April 24th, 2009
12:06 pm

Melo – My sentiments exactly.

Amazon Red – Game recognizes game. That’s the beef that I have.

Foots

April 24th, 2009
12:07 pm

Alter Ego Ish happens. In the beginning of any relationship, it’s safe to assume that the person you start dating is talking to at least one other person. He did send the text to the wrong person. It wasn’t suggestive and it could have been to another girl or even one of his boys. Tease him about it, laugh about it, and charge that one to the game.

I have no idea how many times that when I first started dating a new guy, I mentioned a conversation I thought we had, but it wasn’t actually him. The mature ones thought it was really funny.

Now if y’all are exclusive, that may change my answer, depending on what was in the text. But to this day, I still forget which conversations I’ve had with my boyfriend and which I’ve had with platonic friends. He still thinks its funny.

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
12:09 pm

The one thing about that text is using the words “I guess.” Almost like “I don’t want to do this!”

Foots

April 24th, 2009
12:09 pm

Beautiful It’s one of the most beautiful breakup songs out there, that’s for sure. That one and Jermaine Jackson’s Don’t Take It Personal. They both almost make you feel good about somebody leaving you. LOL!

I love No Rhyme, No Reason by George Duke. It’s basically about cheating, but it’s absolutely beautiful. Secret Garden is too dayum sexy!!

M'

April 24th, 2009
12:11 pm

@Leggs

I am also partial to “Miracles” (the long version) by Jefferson Starship…”I got a taste of the real world…” love the lyrics and mood of that song…talking about the groovy feeling of getting on…lol

Foots

April 24th, 2009
12:14 pm

Leggs Oh, that’s the worst, when you have everything all planned out, but it all goes wrong. I planned this lovely white tablecloth and napkin dinner for my boyfriend last year, complete with me cooking some new, sensual foods. I did the rose petal thing, spent $80 on groceries, 3 hours cooking, and I dressed up…only for him to tell me that he wouldn’t be able to come over because he was on call and had to dial in to complete some work. I was so disappointed, and I ended up telling him about my surprise. He was so apologetic, and offered to come over late, but my heart was already broken. We did the do-over the next day, but it wasn’t the same. :-(

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
12:16 pm

my MOST romantic night was when i was dating a r&b singer. he left word for me that my name was left at the door. he had a small intimate concert that night in san francisco with toni, tony, tone.

when i reached the door, a body guard stepped forward and said “this way please”. it was great having ppl looking at me like who’s that? i was led to the lil round candlelit table in the front row. the club was dark and had this soft romantic feel to it. i told the body guard that i wanted to be with steve . . . please take me to him.

backstage was where the party was at. lots of food and famous ppl. as we walked thru the crown, i bumped into raphael saadiq. how exciting! we got to steve’s dressing room filled with girls of course. we had so much fun.

afterwards, we all headed to the hotel. did a little bit more of meeting and talkin’ with folks. then we finally retired to our room. it was like 3am and i was wide awake. the room was gorgeous, the flowers were lovely, the love making was awesome.

i hated that it had to end.

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
12:17 pm

AlterEgo you should have responded saying “okay I’ll be there” and that would have confused the heck out of him.

DuShawn

April 24th, 2009
12:19 pm

When I was in my mid twenties, I was a helluava date. I lived in a condo overlooking Biscayne Bay, right down from Bayside, which is like an Atlantic Station, but on the water. I had a little grill on my balcony. I’d fire up the steaks, lobster tails and colossal shrimp kabobs. The moonlight shimmering off the water always set the vibe. After dinner, we would walk down the street to Bayside. They have these Gondola rides for about 10 bucks, makes you feel like you’re in Venice. On the way back home I would stop by the 1800 club. That was my neighborhood watering hole. It was a real off the beaten path, intimate hang out, with live jazz. They had these Trolley rides ($5 a piece) that take you thru downtown. Its cool, fun and gives you a chance to further your campaign. Afterwards, we’d take the leisurely stroll back to the spot. Now, your home date has included a tour of the neighborhood. Mayne, I used to kill them back in the day. Now, I just watch the kids tear up the house, stuff toys in my CD player, and count the grey hairs on my nutz as I take a dump. I was the man, what the hell happened?

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
12:19 pm

AWWWWWW, I feel you Foots

Jefferson Starship is GOOD….on the other side of the spectrum, I love Mishelle’s (sp?) Do Me Baby!

AmazonRed™

April 24th, 2009
12:20 pm

Game recognizes game. That’s the beef that I have.

What game tho? You said you recently started dating him. Are y’all exclusive?

M'

April 24th, 2009
12:24 pm

@Du

The change in the scene comes along with going gray down south…lol

Alter Ego

April 24th, 2009
12:25 pm

OMG! I feel STRAIGHT CRAZY right now. I just went back through my phone and realized that this is a duplicate of a text message that he sent to me a week ago when we were talking about whether or not he was going to pick me up or meet me at the restaurant.

Just wow.

Y’all please disregard the glimpses into my paranoia.

DJ Sniper

April 24th, 2009
12:26 pm

What’s good people? I’ve been lurking on here for a while, and I finally decided to post. Looking forward to some fun on here.

Anyway, I’ll admit that I’m not much of a romantic person(a big complaint that my wife has), but when we were first starting to date, I invited her over one night after I got off work. I had all the lights off, music playing, and candles burning. She came in and I fixed her a drink and we chatted for a while. We went into the bedroom and there were more candles burning. I undressed her, had her lie face down on the bed, and I gave her a very relaxing massage. You can pretty much guess where the evening went after that. :)

Kym aka Patty Hewes

April 24th, 2009
12:27 pm

Some lyrics from Ooe of my most favorite romantic songs..

Each night I pray for you..cause that’s how much I care for you.
I want to make your dreams come true..theres nothing I wouldn’t do.
Place a rose beside your pillow. Hold you close whenever the wind blows.
These are just the things that I do for love.
Your thoughts are importatnt to me I listen to each word you speak.
I hold you so very gently your so dear to me.
And I’ll be there, whenever you cry to wipe the tears away from your eyes..these are just the things that I do for love.
Walter Beasley-Things that I do for Love.

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
12:27 pm

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: Dushawn, your last two sentences were too funny!

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
12:30 pm

@Alter Ego
but wouldn’t his text to you say *duplicate* on it? i’m glad you saw that this was an error.