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Love Scene For Two

I love the anticipation of a new romantic interest coming to your place for the first time. Hopefully the place is clean and smells fresh, with mood lighting and music. I think that romance adds to the chemistry between you and your date. Guys, you may not realize how much your romantic skills impress women. It goes a long way, it can be what keeps you in the mix! Ladies, we also can leave a great impression when we romance men, paying close attention to what he likes.

How do you set up a romantic night at the crib? What was the best “at home” date night you ever had? I remember when a guy went all out with a romantic evening for me. I won’t ever forget the care and attention he put into the night. I felt so cared for!

A lot of us are trying to save a little money, so home dates are probably on the rise! Do you think that is a good thing or a bad thing? How do we make the best of it?

Happy Friday!

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Kym aka Patty Hewes

April 24th, 2009
8:52 am

Good Morning All,

Okay see this topic made me breakout the Will Downing.
A great home date, is a simple light dinner, maybe a nice chicken breast and veggie stirfry..or picking up chinesse from your favorite place. Shoes off, light music in the background(Will D or Boney James, or Walter Beasley) and some cuddling. Just the peace and serenity of spending time in the arms of the one you care for.

After Tonight..I’m going to show how make love.
AFter Tonight..I’ll be the only one you thinking of.
After Tonight..I bet you never be the same love.
After me loving you..you loving me. After Tonight

AmazonRed™

April 24th, 2009
9:00 am

Happy Friday All –

An impromptu home date is how my last relationship began. It was nice to stop by to pick up some tickets and be greeted by a home cooked meal by candlelight.

I have to admit, I haven’t really set the scene for romantic home dates. Usually, a guy isn’t invited to my home til more of a routine is established (and the background check has been passed :lol: ). I just think dates out are more romantic. But as WD said, with the economy, I’ll have to start putting more thought into this…

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
9:08 am

Good morning! Home dates can be beautiful and releases tension. Meaning people are more relaxed at home w/o all the stimuli a date out in public offers. A nice dinner, soft music in the background, a board game or two or just watching a movie cuddled up can be so so soothing!

M'

April 24th, 2009
9:12 am

Well, at home dating is an excellent option to pursue…espcecially if either party has superb culinary skills to enhance the experience…the atmosphere is definitely more intimately controlled…meaning no outside distractions and such…nope, not a bad option at all if all things are mutally agreed upon and accepted…a truly good time can be had by all.

NY2GA

April 24th, 2009
9:12 am

Good morning all..

Kym, I like it.. I like your choice of music/words as well.. “After Tonight… I’ll be the only one you thinking of”. That’s the impression you want the special person to leave with when the night is over. You want her calling all her BF’s bragging about how great that night was.

I’m thinking some candles lit, soft music, FRESH flowers, nice bottle of wine that she likes and a nice dinner made especially for her.

Note Fellas: Find out what she likes to eat, not what you want. Usually, you can’t go wrong with a Salmon and a nice veggie.. Shrimp app, made in a lemon/butter sauce.. Go all out and take your time.. Let her know it’s all about her for the night..

Trust me, she will show her appreciation (kind words, appreciative of the effort, etc), it not, run …

former lurker

April 24th, 2009
9:16 am

It was Valentine’s Day, I made Lobster. I got all of the old wine bottles together, cleaned off their labels and put roses in them and put them all around the apartment. I got some little candles and had them floating in all kinds of glasses around the apartment. Started off with gin and tonic, moved to wine. I had jazz and some old soul on the stereo: Art Blakey and the Jazz Messengers, Lee Morgan, Curtis Mayfield and the Impressions, Aretha Franklin, etc. Good night. She loved it, still talks about it.

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
9:17 am

I had a dream not too long ago that I was having dinner in a diner and the scene was absolutely breathtaking. When I woke up the next morning I jotted it down in my handwritten journal because I want to make it come true. And add a few extras that were not in the dream.

Just a small look into what I am planning for late October, everything is in white. Soft music. White candles outlining the room, along the walls on the floor, on shelves, on tables of various heights draped with white linen. White table linens. White China. White rose pedals covering the floor to cushion our feet as we dance heart beat to heart beat. And my add-in is going to be me dressed in a white pants suit and barefoot. (There is something about being barefoot that makes it so daggone sexy) Strawberries covered in white chocolate to sweeten the palate after serving our favorite entrée. And champagne.

That’s my fantasy that I plan to make reality in my own home for this year.

Tom

April 24th, 2009
9:20 am

Raqi – That is one of the nicest fantasys I have ever read! Good job!

Blow Me

April 24th, 2009
9:24 am

Good Morning All and Happy Friday!

NOPE home dates are out of the question. In the early stages, I am funny about allowing people into my home. It’s my sanctuary..Its the place where I can rest and regroup all of my thoughts.

Later down the line……..way down the line that is. We can have a great movie not and sip on some merlot and do what it do. But until then being and seeing my home…is much later on in the game.

Also I will definitely not be going to his home for a “date”. When I think of dates. I think of a outing not a innie. lol!!

Guys try to get fresh..so on the initial stages that is definitely inappropriate. Later down the line…sure.

M'

April 24th, 2009
9:24 am

@Raqi
That be jammin…soft, romantic, intimate and pleasing…what a nice combo!!!!

AmazonRed™

April 24th, 2009
9:30 am

I can say that one thing this blog has helped with is being more creative. I’m not a creative person by nature. In addition, I don’t need a lot of flowers and poetry to be happy or find something romantic and just naturally assume guys don’t either. But I’m sure some rose petals and candles from time to time won’t hurt.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 24th, 2009
9:30 am

Hi WD,

This is something I put some work into. Usually around the third date, I plan dinner at my place. Soft music, scent diffuser on, several bottles of wine, soft music playing thru the stereo system. I usually plan on cooking Italian, maybe Chicken Marsala or Pollo Rosa Maria (Carrabas or Cheesecake Factory recipes from on-line). Have table set with real china, silverware, salad plates, wine glasses, candles, etc., already in their proper “Amy Vanderbilt” places. She stays with me while I cook, or wanders around the pad or plays with my dogs. A little slow dancing in the kitchen as the sauce simmers perhaps.

This part of dating I really like. This and the wine, china, champagne glasses, and fancy picnic stuff at Stone Mtn. before the laser show. Yep, I like these a lot…and a ‘little romance’ can be ‘a lot rewarding’. (some of my favorite t-shirts!!!).

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 24th, 2009
9:34 am

Oh, and somewhere around 10:00 or so, the song “We’ve Got Tonight” by Bob Seger and the Silver Bullet band comes on while we are slow dancing in the den “coincidentally”. Strange how that happens ;-) .

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
9:37 am

Oh Tom and M’ I do thank you all. Now I can scratch off the first to-do at the top of the list.

1. Find babysitter. Tom and M’ has volunteered.

Wise Diva

April 24th, 2009
9:39 am

That’s it, give me your address Randyt, LOL! I love that song, why do I always date men who are anti slow dancing?Hmph. It’s such a great intimate thing to do.

M'

April 24th, 2009
9:39 am

@Blow

Yeah…we do have to choose the right time and moment for wanting to let our boundaries be open and our hair down when it comes to who went want in our space and when…the moment has to be a mutally comfortable one and also with someone who has the ability to not be imposinly frisky and such…and that can be tricky…I remember when I had my own apt on P’tree Ave…one time this cat I knew stopped by…well, he seemed to think that inherent in the fact the we were both alone in my apt that is meant I wanted him to make a move on me…yeah right…it seems that he was of the mind that if I did not want him to make any moves then why did I invite him into my place…duh, well you knocked on the door, I opened it and said take a seat…no problem…duh, if I live alone…then who else is suppose to be there????….a chaperone????…awrighty now…and unfortunately, I learned that he was not the only man of such a mindset…needless to say, with the exception of good friends…my place soon became a no invite brothers over zone…lol.

M'

April 24th, 2009
9:41 am

LMAO @ Raqi…typically my hard and fast rule is that I do not babysit…lol…but every rule must have at least one exception…so I guess you would be it…lol

kimmie

April 24th, 2009
9:55 am

Happy Friday Blog!

I have not had the pleasure of having an evening planned out in such detail for me at his home yet. I did it all, complete with candles & music, for one of my exes. I had on black velvet pajama-style pants & a velvet one-shoulder tunic and satil mules. Black velvet undies that were next to nothing. All was well until he went into my bedroom and turned on a basketball game after he ate. Sigh…

I’m sure with my current SO I would have had a totally different reaction and ending. Sigh…

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 24th, 2009
9:58 am

;-) at WD.

Yeah, that song truly has some of the best lyrics of any song out there. I wish I had a dollar for every time I’ve seen an attractive lady alone during my travels, and wished I could get that song to play. It gets to the point really well and to answer that unspoken question, it can seal the deal sometimes…in a good way.

Oh wll, time to go hop a plane. Talk later.

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
9:59 am

The one problem I have with dating at home is if it’s the first date. I had 2 invites in the past month to have drinks at their house. To me, that’s a no no and a bad way to start things off. Plying me with liquor in an environment I’ve never been in is not a good start. How come guys don’t see this as not being cool? Never mind, I already know!

M'

April 24th, 2009
10:12 am

@Leggs

Yeah…that it another one of those iffy gigs…but ironically, my experience here in the VA has been totally different than the ATL…most brothers that I have met here are a lot less aggressive with the games and a lot more gentlemanly…if there is such a term…I have kicked it with the bro’s here unlike in the GA without having to question any motives.

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
10:18 am

I have always felt that round tables are better suited for intimate settings for two. Anytime I have attempted to create a romantic setting or even just imagine a romantic setting if there is a table it is round. For some strange reason to me square tables create boundaries or borders. It is something about the corners that kinda throws it off. A round table is more free flowing and inviting into your dates universe.

Just one of my many quirks.

And yes the choice of music can enhance or kill the mood.

Just because your date likes Nelly doesn’t mean his latest hit is a fit for the evening. I know a lady that happened to.

MELO

April 24th, 2009
10:23 am

NOPE home dates are out of the question

STOP fronting as if nobody has ever been up ur high behind! Come down to the erotic zone.We talking real,like when evething is now established and u ready to………okay Blow!

ugh,some of u females :grin:
Why u need a disclaimer eve time be4 u do sme indulgence??..u knw(in soft voice),i neva done this be4
:lol:
just do it!

Blow Me

April 24th, 2009
10:29 am

How come guys don’t see this as not being cool? Never mind, I already know!

Because they DO think its cool…lol! That was funny!

MELO

April 24th, 2009
10:33 am

I’m sure with my current SO I would have had a totally different reaction and ending. Sigh

Diva,plz tell these bloggers that the topic today is for mature adults ONLY!
Kids,please lurk today!

KIMMIE SO:????: U and Karate kid have not crossed the Rubicon yet? Yeah,I dont think so,as usuall, i got it wrong.Tell us girl,about the moment it happened!!

SexyCool

April 24th, 2009
10:42 am

Surface clutter is cleared away. Kitchen is clean. Bathroom is spotless. Vacuum tracks are visible. Glade scented oil candles are lit. I’m wearing something comfortable, cute and just a little bit sexy without being too provocative. Brian McKnight sings.

Three Words Daily – Celebrate each accomplishment.

SexyCool

April 24th, 2009
10:43 am

Forgot to add. My house is like this most of the time anyway. I just like to do a little bit extra when company is coming.

AmazonRed™

April 24th, 2009
10:43 am

Brian McKnight sings.

Love. Him.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

April 24th, 2009
10:43 am

OK I remember setting up a romantic evening for my ex and I. Since he was from another country I was not about to try to make a dish from there nd jack it up. So I found a spot that made his favorites and brought it home. I lit a lot of candles and made CD’s of all the songs we said we liked. I bought champagne and chocolate covered strawberries. I knew what time he was coming so I ran the tub with only hot water so it would be cool enough be the time we got in. It was filled with bubble bath and rose petals. So when he arrived I was dresses in a very slinky belly dance costume and a long jet black wig and danced for him (He loved my dance to “The One” by Prince). Then led him to the tub…only to want to smack the hell out of myself. This dude was 6′8 and I am 5′8….we did not fit! :lol: So I let the water out and we showered together. Then I fed the strawberries and champagne to him and gave him a massage with lotion. We got our freak on and feel asleep! Overall…a pretty good night. I have never felt compelled to do that for anybody else. Oh well…except myself. I do it alone sometimes. Yep…I watch myself dance in the mirror..all made up and wigged out in my costumes. :lol:

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
10:47 am

I think a nice romantic evening if you live in a place with a balcony at the right angle would be watching the sunset from your balcony. Or even a roof top dinner.

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
10:48 am

@MELO
your 10:23a is how i feel too. just be real!

MELO

April 24th, 2009
10:48 am

Hey United nations aka Staceye,that was off da chain,what im talking about.
Raqi, u need to do a lil better and more with ur testimony.Why u leaving us hanging…well thats ur style anyway…

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
10:51 am

@RAQI
your 9:17a . . . it’s like you described heaven.

AmazonRed™

April 24th, 2009
10:52 am

Then led him to the tub…only to want to smack the hell out of myself. This dude was 6′8 and I am 5′8….we did not fit! So I let the water out and we showered together.

Staceye – There is always some comedy in your stories! :lol:

One thing I love about my house, the tub in the master bath is so long I could lay down in it. Had a couple of close calls nodding off in that thing. :lol:

I like to dance for myself too. :)

Grace

April 24th, 2009
10:54 am

I’ll take a home date over going out any day. The tone is more on a comfortable level for both of us. The last home date I had was filled with music soft and old school jams, a seafood medley which we prepared together and movie. Preparing a meal together is so romantic, it’s a time for bonding and checking out each other’s culinary skills.

DuShawn

April 24th, 2009
10:54 am

You folks are so classy and romantic. My home dates typically included a lot of drugs, malt liquor and porn.

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
10:57 am

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
10:59 am

@Raqi, the roof top/balcony dinner sounds delightful. I have to make that one happen! Also, I definitely agree with on the round table vs. square table = free flowing less boundaries!

DuShawn

April 24th, 2009
11:02 am

Some Heroin, Ex, a little meth. That’s what set’s the ambience.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

April 24th, 2009
11:04 am

Let’s see…my romance playlist…

1. Secret Garden-Quincy Jones, Barry White, Al B. Sure, El Debarge

2. Ebony Eyes-Rick James & Smokey Robinson

3. Late Night Rendevous-Carl Thomas

4. Atlantis-Isley Brothers

5. The One-Prince

6. Making Love in the Rain-Herb Alphert & J. Jackson

7. Funny How Times Flies-Janet Jackson

8. Uhh Ahh (Remix)-Boyz II Men

9. Feenin’-Jodeci

10. Top of the World-Menace to Society Soundtrack

11. I’m Still Waiting-Johnny Gill

12. There You Go-Johhny Gill

13. Something in Your Eyes-BBD

14. Come Over-Faith Evans

15. Way You-Chante Moore

16. Love’s Taken Over (Sooth remix)-Chante Moore

17. I Love You-Keith Washington & Chante Moore

18. Justify My Love-Madonna

19. Erotica-Madonna

20. Closer-Nine Inch Nails

21. Imagine That-R. Kelly

22. Lusty-Lamb (I have a hot tribal belly dance to this one) :wink:

23. Angel-Massive Attack

24. I Hate You-Prince

25. I Adore You-Caron Wheeler

26. Say Yes-Floetry

27. Signs of Lovemaking-Tyreese

28. Simply Deep-Kelly Rowland

29. Seduction-Usher

30. Come Over-Estelle & Sean Paul

I have more but these are 30 that come to mind! :lol: What are some of you guys’ favorties?

East Point's Own

April 24th, 2009
11:05 am

@M’ Its a lot more dudes up here (in VA)that are not all that much into women too. I have never seen so many dudes out in social scenes who don’t say nuthin to any ladies in the room. These cats like to dress up more than the women…LoL I had never heard of a club that let’s men in free while charging women until I came to VA. Dudes up here are extra soft/sweet for the most part.

But maybe I say that cause I am from ATL and yeah we do things differently down south. My homegirl from ATL was here last weekend and she concluded that all the dudes she met up here were lames… I’m just saying though.

Beautiful

April 24th, 2009
11:07 am

@DU
ok so, this is what you plan for a romantic date? have you ever been slapped in the face because she excepted to be wined and dined? *not being funny*

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

April 24th, 2009
11:08 am

ARED…this was an NY Tub….so you know it was small as hell! :lol: Something crazy or funny is always happening to me…I swear!

DUSHAWN…. :lol: OMG! You are nuts!

MELO…hey I am always up for a challenge…but cooking a meal frm another country without a run through first is a no go. :lol: I had to drive all the way to Queens where the East European spots were to get that food. I attract foreign men. My girls back home say if a dude is foreign….he’ll want me! :lol:

kimmie

April 24th, 2009
11:09 am

Melo – Just came out of a meeting & read your 10:33. I said me & SO have never planned a all-out romantic evening at home yet. Even the times when the kids were away, we usually have gone out somewhere first. That’s what I was saying. Are you asking if we have not done the do, after a year & a half? Come on man, we grown! I would never come in here shooting some bull like that!LOL!!!

Grace

April 24th, 2009
11:12 am

Raqi candle lite dinner on the balcony is a must during this time of the season, not to cold, not to hot – just right :) I have this cute bistro I bought from wally world a few years ago. I’ll be dusting that sucka off tonight getting it ready for the weekends to come, oh yeah the lil’ lights too.

MELO

April 24th, 2009
11:13 am

Come on man, we grown!

I know, i was just hoping that with todays topic,u wld let ur hair down and let us know how the first cut went down with ur man.Not all the way but u know…. :lol:

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
11:14 am

Melo a rather awesome setting that he has done was before we married and after a fine dinner that he prepared, we went up to his room and in the bathroom he had nice music playing and candles on the countertop and the flames from the candles reflected off the mirror creating an awesome glow on the bare skin. There was lily pedals floating on of the water. (Nice touch. I love lilies) Then he turned on the jets in the tub and created instant foam bubbles from whatever he had poured into the water ahead of time.

But that’s scene only for someone you are already getting busy with. Oh yeah he had the satin sheets which I absolutely hate and he hates even more so we did it on the floor on top of the comforter. And then feel asleep wrapped up in the comforter. Slept ’til about 10am the next day which was a Saturday morning.

This one was strictly for you Melo.

Leggs

April 24th, 2009
11:17 am

@Beautiful, of course he never been slapped in the face because his dates rode the same drug wave he was riding. You only hang with those of even ilk. Free drugs, that was the date. :lol:

DuShawn

April 24th, 2009
11:19 am

I’m just being silly. Dayum, I don’t want to be here today. Seriously, on the subject of dating and music. I remeber when my lady and I were starting out. We played this one song all night, literally. Neither one of us wanted to get up and change the CD. “Simply Beautiful” by Al Green. We rode out to that until the sun came up. To this day when we hear it we remember that night.

Raqi

April 24th, 2009
11:20 am

Yeah Grace that is one I would like to do. Unfortunately we don’t have a balcony nor a flat roof top.

I actually would like to find some type of lilypad structures that floats on top of water and put them on the pool water with some candles on them and have a nice pool side evening. Maybe sometime next summer.