If you can’t accept him just as he is, should you really continue dating him?
These were the words that pulled me back to reality. I had been whining to my buddy about a guy who I wished would “get his stuff together”. I lamented about the list of things I felt would prove he was a good catch for me: If he could only stop smoking, if he could just get a better paying job, then we could get serious. I spent the first 90 days literally picking him a part looking for things to change. Big mistake and a common pitfall for single women. That is not what the first 90 days should be about.
How do you usually navigate dating in the first 90 days? If you both are seeking something meaningful, do you use this time to have fun without the expectations? Do you ever worry about getting caught up and confusing how you feel about someone in the beginning?
I think men generally are in observe and report phase. They observe the women for “the crazy” and make a mental report of what kind of woman she is. Guys, do you agree or am I way off? Ladies, has this been your experience?
Have you ever dated someone and noticed a complete personality shift after 90 days? What is that about!