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Sign on the dotted line

You don’t need Donald Trump’s assets or Oprah Winfrey’s money to consider a prenuptial agreement these days. More and more people are choosing to protect their financial assets, just in case. Is this a sign of how we view marriage?

If you can get past the “implied distrust” that prenups can bring, then maybe you can decide on terms that work for the both of you. Some of the prenuptial agreements being used today also map out a specific plan that outlines the couple’s finances and how they will be managed during the marriage. However, some  go as far as to require that the husband or wife maintain a regular sexual relationship with the other partner in order to be eligible for any portion of assets.

Considering your current financial standing, would you ask for a prenuptial agreement…. before you got married? If so, how would you bring it up? Would you have the papers ready prior to speaking to your partner?

If you love someone should you trust that person with your whole heart and your entire net worth? Or is it a matter of love and trust on one hand but when it comes to the money.. pre-nup is the way to go?

For people who are unmarried, would you have a problem signing a prenuptial? What about an infidelity clause?

362 comments Add your comment

For Real

April 22nd, 2009
3:55 pm

“One of guys still managed to get his wife pregnant and she had triplets.” – I think I figured out how Raqi got preggo!!!!

RandyT: I been trying to get my tubes tied for 3yrs now but I keep talking myself out of it everytime I see pictures of them inserting that long tube in them. Wait a minute!! Maybe I have been looking at the wrong pic. Nahhhhhhhhhh I ain’t gon do it just in case I’m right.

Leggs

April 22nd, 2009
3:55 pm

@ARed, don’t cry…you knew this was going to happen. Hell, we all saw it coming. :lol: If not w/Foots, with someone. He’s like a snake, has to shed skin every 6 months or so for new blood (blog female) to slithered toward his beckoning! (No offense)!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 22nd, 2009
3:55 pm

There was a lady in my office years ago that got pregnant several years after her husband had a vasectomy. Kid sure looked an awful lot like one of the brokers in the office though.

lurker

April 22nd, 2009
3:56 pm

Truth/Melo too many “lurkers” posting under that monikers…ya getting ya “lurkers” mixed up. Yeen never seen me on craiglist buddy

M'

April 22nd, 2009
3:56 pm

<strong.@ For Real

Hmmmm…depend on what my real biological daddy can do…lol…and let me see…how bad do I need a dizzle fix…uh, no…I need or want both…lol

Foots

April 22nd, 2009
3:56 pm

dw My wife got her tubes tied, which in most cases is reversible, that’s enough!

That’s what my BIL thought, until my sister had a tubal pregnancy that was painful, emotional and costly. He got snipped soon after. They were both in their early 30s.

If that happened to your wife and you both had to go through a misplaced pregnancy because she was “fixed” and you were not, you’d probably make it happen.

Beautiful

April 22nd, 2009
3:56 pm

**If he is adamant about me signing it, then there isn’t enough trust in the relationship for the marriage to work…**

welcome to the WLB!

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2009
3:57 pm

and I was able to take the emotional aspect out of it

Thanks Foots!!!

Decisions about a lot of things are much better when you do this!

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while doing dishes

April 22nd, 2009
3:57 pm

Just had a great thought. If I get snipped then all I’ll have to worry about is diseases like aids and syphillis. Ok, I’m depressed again.

Du getting medical advice from Dr. J. LOL

Ared, that was a play for the money. Your so sensitive. I’m going to spend $3 of it on you.

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2009
3:58 pm

RE: Getting snipped & pain…

I haven’t been snipped, but I have had 2 other surgeries in that area and my only advice is this: Don’t do it during allergy season or if you have a cold. ‘Cos sneezing or coughing is going to make your life flash before your eyes for a week or two…

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2009
3:59 pm

ARed, don’t cry…you knew this was going to happen. Hell, we all saw it coming.

He could have at least changed up some of the words on the proposal. I’m so devistated. :cry: :cry: :cry:

Just call me M’foo foo cuz I’m taking HALF!!!

kimmie

April 22nd, 2009
4:01 pm

Truth I want a certified check, sent to me TO-DAY by next-day-international mail. Now you want to drag poor Foots into your web of deceit!!!

Raqi

April 22nd, 2009
4:02 pm

LOL ForReal I know how but I am oddly interested in how you think it was done. I will tell you exactly how after hearing your side.

lurker

April 22nd, 2009
4:02 pm

Truth odd that this is a blog being free speech and all, as soon as civility by way of God just brings out the devil in you? Don’t be such a “God” hater…he loves you sunshine.

M'

April 22nd, 2009
4:03 pm

@ Ared

Oh now you foo of the ppl…lol

For Real

April 22nd, 2009
4:03 pm

@MK: “no…I need or want both”

For Real: Dayumm!! I figured you would say that.

Truth: (Walking the down the street in Kuwait) Man I just can’t get used to dudes holding hands and ish.

Some Dude Not For Real: (In an Arbic accent) Break Yoself Fool!!!!

Truth: Hey bruh I ain’t got no money.

SDNFR: (In an Aribc accent) Oh, oh you think I’m Tommy Tucker the neighborhood sucker huh? I know you got $90!!! Now give it up!!

Dan

April 22nd, 2009
4:04 pm

Dude!!

I just got my Student loan statment and I am into the principal!!!!

Hellzz yes!

LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 22nd, 2009
4:04 pm

LMAO @ M’foo foo!!!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 22nd, 2009
4:05 pm

For Real…could it hurt any more than childbirth??? Just wondering (of course maybe you women been shooting us a line about how much it hurts to have a baby with a big head stretch that small thing that much!!!). LOL

Foots

April 22nd, 2009
4:06 pm

Truth My daddy already has a good retirement account for himself. He just remarried to a woman about 15 years younger than him making 6 figures and who kisses the ground he walks on. Smart dude. He don’t need my money. LOL!

Big Poppa Thanks for the info.

Leggs I’ll have to look that up. For some reason, I thought it was different for women to protect their assets.

Dan I definitely need someone who can think and plan around finances. I agree that we could all be so much farther along if we talked honestly about finances.

Foots

April 22nd, 2009
4:07 pm

For Real In thigh? Naw, I’m more of an armpit girl, like Slim. LOL!

M'

April 22nd, 2009
4:08 pm

I have decided that with the life I have left that something I desire will be…not because of who I am with…but because I am ME…I hope love and peace are the guides to who we are, how we choose to be and how we choose to treat other ppl..oh yeah…men/women…black/white/latino/asian/native american…somebody…can you really love a good person and a good soul????…are you one yourself????…I only have HOPE that we can reuntite ourselves against these percieved differences.

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while doing dishes

April 22nd, 2009
4:09 pm

For Real lmao

Kimmie, due to a bad internet connection I cant read your posts. Dam gay as towelheads cant do jack right. I’ll try again next month.

Lurker, my bad, thought you was Desperate Lurker.

DuShawn

April 22nd, 2009
4:09 pm

I’ve made two consultation appointments and backed out each time. I don’t know. I’ll give it some more thought. I like kids, every time I see a new little baby; I miss those days and I want to make another one. I may have to have one outside the home and truly test the strength of our marital vows.

dw

April 22nd, 2009
4:10 pm

@Foots–That does sound painful, But I have to tell you it would take something like that to make do it. Hopefully, we never have to go through that and I can leave my package intact.

M'

April 22nd, 2009
4:11 pm

@ For Real

At this moment…both will not hurt…but I will take the one that makes reality real…so if daddy sending money, then dizzle on the back burner…stewing…simmering and boiling over.

LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 22nd, 2009
4:13 pm

Du- You need your tail WHOOPED for that last comment!!

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2009
4:14 pm

DuShawn – How many kids do you have now?

After 3 kids in 5 years, my mom got fixed before they closed her up with my youngest sister. SHE was done with kids and made sure of it! :lol:

Raqi

April 22nd, 2009
4:14 pm

Since we are on the subject all you men folk approaching the age of 40 need to schedule and follow thru on a prostate exam. Seriously.

Jamoca

April 22nd, 2009
4:14 pm

Great posts Foots!…

Raqi – Saw this, and automatically Little Miss Lizzie came to mind. Here goes:

I’m sorry I can’t be with you, But I”m very busy you see
Painting my eyes, my cheeks, my hair,
So mommy and daddy will be proud of me.

I’m sending this little message, To convey to you this thought,
God will soon have left me, To use the gifts you brought.

Be sure to come and see me, As soon as I get here,
Just give mother time, to dress me ever so dear.

And so I Thank You from my heart, For each lovely gift for me,
For when God leaves me with mommy and daddy, I’ll not be deressed you see.

I thought this was too cute….and thought about you folks. Although, I’m sure you’re already in the “nesting mode” …I saw this on a baby shower invite.

And why does something tell me that you’re not finished poppin’ em out yet. Lmao (….now dodging Raqi’s house slippers, she wears around the office)

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2009
4:15 pm

Du- You need your tail WHOOPED for that last comment!!

The Bruhs are wild men. DuShawn, careful what you wish for. Remember, death parts ya! :lol:

DuShawn

April 22nd, 2009
4:15 pm

3 There stair steps 7,6 and 5

kimmie

April 22nd, 2009
4:16 pm

Truth – I have no problem flying over there and GETTIN MY MONEY!! Ya know I have a LOT of it!!!LOL!!! Don’t play that blind, deaf & dumb routine with me, buster!!

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while doing dishes

April 22nd, 2009
4:16 pm

Ok folks, its 1115 here and I gotta get some sleep. 3 oclock is only 15 minutes away.

I hope you all have a great thursday.

For Real

April 22nd, 2009
4:17 pm

“Naw, I’m more of an armpit girl, like Slim.” – For Real now rubbing tussy on his wang.

“M’foo foo” – That’s was funny as hell Ared. Hey you kinda tall right? Do you like it in the back of the knee?

Dan: Didn’t you graduate from college in 1970? Dayum that’s one helluva payment plan.

Raqi: It’s something strange even for me to talk about sex with someone that’s preggo not by me. Don’t get me wrong, the baby still ain’t mines. I just think preggo women are the cutiest thangs. If I see one out at a resturant I usually offer to pay for their meal and ask them if they want dessert. They usually say yes I can pay, then I excuse myself to the restroom to climb out of the window so I don’t have to face them.

Foots

April 22nd, 2009
4:18 pm

Hey Jamoca, how are you today? That’s a cute little poem.

Raqi

April 22nd, 2009
4:19 pm

Jamoca yeah that is cute. And this is it. Girl do you know how old I am? Too old to be having more babies.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2009
4:20 pm

There stair steps 7,6 and 5

Bless you and your wife. That was me and my sisters at one point. I’m surprise your wife doesn’t take bc pills like vitamins. She must kinda want another one too.

Jamoca

April 22nd, 2009
4:20 pm

Du – Just wait until your little ones reach those teenage years…especially those little girls. You’ll get a workout keepin’ up with them and knockin’ out the little knuckleheads that will attempt to follow.

And where’s the LOL disclaimer on that last statement, mayne? Yeen playin, huh? lol

kimmie

April 22nd, 2009
4:20 pm

If I see one out at a resturant I usually offer to pay for their meal and ask them if they want dessert. They usually say yes I can pay, then I excuse myself to the restroom to climb out of the window so I don’t have to face them.

LOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2009
4:22 pm

“M’foo foo” – That’s was funny as hell Ared. Hey you kinda tall right? Do you like it in the back of the knee?

Lawd!!! :lol:

Yeah, I’m 5′11″ Only like it back there if it misses the target. :lol:

Jamoca

April 22nd, 2009
4:24 pm

Raqi – yes, actually I do. Remember, I have a pretty good memory. And yeen nowhere near Sarah (& Abraham)…so stop it! We’ve already had this discussion, remember? LOL

Hey Foots…two days in a row? Just like old times…lol

LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 22nd, 2009
4:25 pm

For Real- Whoever you are married to or dating must have a six pack from laughing @ your crazy tail ALL THE TIME!! Goodness :)

Raqi

April 22nd, 2009
4:27 pm

ForReal WTH you mean this baby ain’t yours? Oh so it’s like that now? See Randy insanity by way of erection. Now he wants to play crazy. I got yo crazy.

Speaking of dessert, this little bean is jumping. Where’s my late afternoon apple? I’ll be back…

For Real

April 22nd, 2009
4:27 pm

“Yeah, I’m 5′11″ Only like it back there if it misses the target.” – For Real now rubbing tussy on his wang.

Jamoca

April 22nd, 2009
4:27 pm

LOL @ Lioness to ForReal…and the inquiry on the sly of his marital/dating status…lol…I’m messin’ around, but N/R…hahahaaa

LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 22nd, 2009
4:31 pm

LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 22nd, 2009
4:32 pm

Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)

April 22nd, 2009
4:33 pm

Moe get out of Deklab County while you can…

See Lioness why you playin you know I am going to be scouting Gwinnett County in search of the inspector this week! Now send me the info! :wink:

@Red 5′11″ Tall and leggy hmmmmmmmmmm! :smile:

Dan

April 22nd, 2009
4:35 pm

@For Real

2001, but us po folk’s do what we can, when we can.