Sign on the dotted line
You don’t need Donald Trump’s assets or Oprah Winfrey’s money to consider a prenuptial agreement these days. More and more people are choosing to protect their financial assets, just in case. Is this a sign of how we view marriage?
If you can get past the “implied distrust” that prenups can bring, then maybe you can decide on terms that work for the both of you. Some of the prenuptial agreements being used today also map out a specific plan that outlines the couple’s finances and how they will be managed during the marriage. However, some go as far as to require that the husband or wife maintain a regular sexual relationship with the other partner in order to be eligible for any portion of assets.
Considering your current financial standing, would you ask for a prenuptial agreement…. before you got married? If so, how would you bring it up? Would you have the papers ready prior to speaking to your partner?
If you love someone should you trust that person with your whole heart and your entire net worth? Or is it a matter of love and trust on one hand but when it comes to the money.. pre-nup is the way to go?
For people who are unmarried, would you have a problem signing a prenuptial? What about an infidelity clause?
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Poppa Grande
April 22nd, 2009
3:14 pm
Truth
I hope that they give you insurance b/c you would have to file bankruptcy if you get the snip. It costs more than $90.
Didn’t you post the Thursday is “man love” day or something over there? If so, isn’t it Thursday already there? You betta watch out.
AmazonRed™
April 22nd, 2009
3:14 pm
ARed and Beautiful going at it.
I haven’t called anyone names today tho. So I know I’m not in attack mode.
Raqi
April 22nd, 2009
3:14 pm
Alright it’s that time of day…
Doesn’t take much to make me happy and make me smile
Never never will I feel discouraged
‘Cause our love’s no mystery
Demonstrating love and affection
That you give so openly yeah
I like the way ya make me about you baby
Want the whole wide world to see
Whoa, whoa, you got the best of my love
Mo (aka Moeisha)
April 22nd, 2009
3:14 pm
Truth – okay I will have a couple of woo-sahs and chill out…..hopefully. It must be a full moon or something cause the crazies are more crazy than usual
DuShawn
April 22nd, 2009
3:14 pm
I can see why this is a dating blog. Yall some marriage hatin mafukkas, Dayum.!! The Pre Nup situation is pretty cut and dry. If you got real bread and she don’t. She must sign. If yall about the same financially, what’s the point. Sadly, the more wealth one accumulates the more disingenuous people tend to become. On the getting the Nutz snipped topic, I’ve been thinking about that too. Wifey says she’s not having anymore kids, but we’re not doing anything to prevent it. My timing is not what it used to be for the ole snatch out and swallow method of birth control.
Jamoca
April 22nd, 2009
3:16 pm
“M” – I “knewed” it was you, M’karyl! Lol…you looked/posted so familiar after awhile. Hi there!
Troof – My guerilla man (lol) – Didn’t I say that? So I agree, that was also another dumb move that he made, esp being that in “his” world he could have BOTH without a problem. And to think, once he finally got with Anne – “the luvin” wasn’t what he had bargained aka “payed fo” . In my best voice of Fred Sanford – “Big Dummy!” “Apparently she cut a swath through the French court and was pretty wild” ??? Because I’m speaking of Mary being the fairer one, as portrayed in the movie. Btw, the title makes since…sometimes the titles are not the same book vs movie. But thanks!
DuShawn
April 22nd, 2009
3:19 pm
I can see why this is a dating blog. Yall some marriage hatin muthafarthers, Dayum.!! The Pre Nup situation is pretty cut and dry. If you got real bread and she don’t. She must sign. If yall about the same financially, what’s the point. Sadly, the more wealth one accumulates the more disingenuous people tend to become. On the getting the Nutz snipped topic, I’ve been thinking about that too. Wifey says she’s not having anymore kids, but we’re not doing anything to prevent it. My timing is not what it used to be for the ole snatch out and swallow method of birth control.
Raqi
April 22nd, 2009
3:19 pm
Didn’t Eddie Murphy’s wife get like $5mil for every kid she birthed during their marriage?
$5million…And Randy I was actually thinking about getting snipped. That’s enough to make me rethink it now. LOL Just kidding. I can’t imagine getting my tubes snipped or tied. I’ll just go back to what I was doing prior to this little bean. It worked.
kimmie
April 22nd, 2009
3:19 pm
Truth – I’m STILL waiting on my cut$$$$!!! You gave Mo some money, what about me after I’ve been financing you all these months!
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while doing dishes
April 22nd, 2009
3:20 pm
Poppa, I’m trying to adapt to this culture but I just CANNOT get used to 2 men holding hands while walking. YUCK Btw, I may have to hit you up for a loan to cover the difference. Just mail the payment coupon to;
For Real
69 MIA street
Blogsville, USa
Randy, did it hurt? Somwthing about the thought of scizzors around certain parts is unnnerving.
Jamoca
April 22nd, 2009
3:22 pm
Okay, don’t know what happended, but stop after “Big Dummy in my prev post, referencing King HenPecked. LOL
RandyT – I was asking about Mary, Anne’s sister not being as angelic…well wrong word, fair as the movie portrayed her. It sounds like you’re still referencing Anne. So I got a little confused.
For Real
April 22nd, 2009
3:23 pm
Mo: I see the fangas ain’t working. Are you angling for an earmuffintectomy?
Turth: I read that your bank just closed it’s door and the FDIC can’t seem to find your $90.
Lioness: You don’t understand why a woman would date a man that made less money than she does but you can’t understand why a man that makes more would want a prenup?
MK: Can I still call you Kitty Kat when we are alone?
LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!
April 22nd, 2009
3:23 pm
Du- You are a DAMN fool! Snatch out & swallow WOW!!!
Jamoca
April 22nd, 2009
3:25 pm
Oooops, what’sa matta, Du- they’ve got you awaiting moderation? Lol, but not really.
So cute, Raqi, when you call her little bean. Awww…
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while doing dishes
April 22nd, 2009
3:26 pm
Snatch out and swallow. Roflamao
LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!
April 22nd, 2009
3:26 pm
For Real- Just got a manicure and will answer you shortly baby
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
April 22nd, 2009
3:26 pm
Jamoca…Mary apparently cut a swath through the French court too several years after she was Henry VIII’s mistress at age thirteen or something like that. By that time, mary had won his interest and mary was sort of cast aside. Anne Boleyn was pretty much brought up in the French court before being brought to London. It is interesting to read the book and later be driving around the Motorways (their M’s, like our interstates) and see the signs for Leed’s castle, and Hever castle, as well as Windsor and the Tower of London, all mentioned in the book. I think they patterned them all after my house in Gwinnett
.
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
April 22nd, 2009
3:27 pm
Jamoca, meant to say “by then ANNE had won his attention…”. not Mary, sorry, my bad.
Hunter ( Name change so I can converse with Mr. Real)
April 22nd, 2009
3:27 pm
Mr. Real If a man only marries for azz he is truly a lost soul!
Hey Lioness, is not ready for marriage she aint done with her playa card yet! Lioness quit playing with me are we on for the inspection this month or next month?
Does anyone live in Deklab (I am not going to reduce your property taxes) County? You may not see your property taxes reduce this year!
Foots
April 22nd, 2009
3:28 pm
I haven’t read everything posted, but as an aspiring CFP-to-be, yes, I would sign one. I’ll probably be the one requesting it. I wouldn’t marry somebody I didn’t love, but I wouldn’t want to marry somebody I couldn’t do business with. And the bottom line is that marriage is a contract.
If I had kids, I would certainly advocate for a pre-nup, for the reasons that some others have posted. I definitely will need one to protect my retirement income.
It was so funny that in my first CFP program class, our female instructor mentioned that we should all have pre-nups about twice per class. Her message definitely got through to me, and I was able to take the emotional aspect out of it and start thinking of it like a business transaction.
Poppa Grande
April 22nd, 2009
3:28 pm
Truth
Seriously, I know a lot of dudes that got “fixed”.
They all said that it wasn’t as bad as they thought it may be.
One of guys still managed to get his wife pregnant and she had triplets. That mess almost led to divorce. He thought that she had an affair. After all, he had the procedure over 2 years earlier and shouldn’t be able to knock her up. They went through tests to prove that with high certainty (no test can prove 100%) that he was the father.
after seeing those kids, myself, they are his. One looks like so much like him, you think that he had his own “mini- me”.
MELO
April 22nd, 2009
3:29 pm
My timing is not what it used to be for the ole snatch out and swallow method of birth control
mayne,u killed me with that one
U juice is too sweet to waste,hahaha…i think im gonna try that!!!!Ive neva been the one to withdraw tho…Once my lower back engages inwards,its a gonna.Besides,when im getting to that crescendo,most heifers under me are bound to have that suicide cluth all around ma back,using hands and them wide, long leggs!
The dycck can be so chronic!
Poppa Grande
April 22nd, 2009
3:31 pm
Raqi
You call yours a “little bean”. The secretary outside of my office (who is now pregnant) calls hers “a parasite”.
M'
April 22nd, 2009
3:32 pm
@ Sistah Raqi
With you…I took no offense…you went with common sense nomenclature…no bad on your part…and if I wanted to address that with you…then I would have…you did not know and I did not say…it was not that important…you meant no offense…peace my sister and much love with the new baby…you be cool sis.
I just stated it cus me changing lanes…lol…getting more specific with some stuff…okay, so we already know I am nuts…roll with it.
@ Jamoca y Ared
Uh-huh…we be knowing.
@ For Real
You can call me what the fugg you like as long as I can get from under this financial pressure and the dizzle is good….LOL!!!!
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while doing dishes
April 22nd, 2009
3:32 pm
Hunter, would you stay with a woman that didnt cook?
Didn’t work?
didn’t clean?
Possible
Would you stay with a woman that wouldn’t fugg you?
Hell no.
Point proven. LOL
Mo (aka Moeisha)
April 22nd, 2009
3:33 pm
For Real – earmuffintectomy?? Mo now turning on the fan at her desk to Super Hi….. :0)
Raqi – how are you and the Lil Diva doing?
Kimmie – LMAO @ your financing Truth!
LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!
April 22nd, 2009
3:34 pm
Cougar- You are too cute. You got it right that I am not ready for marriage but I am FAR from a playa
Next month is booked up too..
I would like some chronic..
Mo (aka Moeisha)
April 22nd, 2009
3:35 pm
Hunter – give us DC residents (Dekalb County) a break man!!
Foots
April 22nd, 2009
3:35 pm
I have to ask one of the attorneys on the blog: In Georgia, if a woman marries and has assets before the marriage, is it true that she gets to keep all of her assets in case of a divorce, without a pre-nup?
And the thing about wills providing for children…that’s great, but that’s for when you die. I can’t imagine having kids, getting married, and getting divorced and some dude taking half of the money I saved up for my children’s education and support. Or if I have money set aside for the care of my parents and something happens in our marriage to break it up. I’d have to protect that money. Pre-nup time.
It’s not just about trust to me; ish happens and nothing is guaranteed, let alone such a transient emotion as love. Like Amazon’s point about insurance, that’s the way I feel.
Are we even still on topic??
Jamoca
April 22nd, 2009
3:36 pm
RandyT – Yeah, I remember that from the movie version. Because based on that, they only brought in Anne because Mary was going through the ills/symptoms of simply being with child. And dude needed to get off and not loose interest in “the Boleyns” period.
And per the movie, he made his decision exactly at the same time that Mary was giving birth – finally to a male heir (which he wanted), but instead opted for the chick with the “voodoo coochie”…and she suddenly found herself in the Queen’s predicament. Hmmmm…and let’s not go into what she had in mind to remedy the situation.
Talk about scandalous! Yeah, good movie indeed…the story as a whole. Fascinating!
Heyal, I may not need to check the book out after this discussion with you. Lol
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while doing dishes
April 22nd, 2009
3:37 pm
Kimmie, you said the money you gave me was a love offering. How the hellz you gonna keep throwing it up in my face. I don’t want to talk to you as long as your adamant about me paying you back.
For Real
April 22nd, 2009
3:38 pm
Chick: Baby I’m telling I did not cheat on you the kids are yours!
Dude: Awwwwww Nawwwww Hellllll Naw!!!! U, U, U, Yousa ly, ly, ly, lying Jazebel!!! I had my, my, my, my nu, nu, nu, nutts clipped!!
Chick: Baby look at them they look just like you. Here hold them!
Dude: Awwwww Hellllll Nawwwwww!!!! Da, Da, Da, Desses ain’t my, my, my kids!!!
Chick: WHY AIN’T DEY YO KIDS?
Dude: Cause naan one of de, de, dem Sta, Sta, Sta, Click, Click, Studders!
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
April 22nd, 2009
3:40 pm
Truth…nah, didn’t hurt at all except for the needle going in with the anaesthesia maybe a little. A little sore for a few days, although my ballz were swollen for awhile. Kind of flattering actually. It is kind of a weird feeling having some guy moving your sac around, but it only takes a few minutes. Haven’t had to worry about any new heirs or worrying about some paternity suit since so it was worth it…just wish the doc had a sense of humor though.
I figured it was easier for me than having my wife’s tubes tied. I have had no regrets at all. Although I did have some fun with it one night. I was “with” this lady who had two grown children and had not had her tubes tied. I told her in the sincerest voice I could, “honey you are so sweet and so nice, I think Im going to have my vasectomy reversed just so you can have my baby”. Dayum she shot out of the bed so fast you would think she had been shot from a cannon. I was dying laughing it got her so scared.
Dan
April 22nd, 2009
3:40 pm
aaah, Foots, always the rational one.
“..can’t do business with..” is so on point, it cut me.
Why marry or be with someone that you can’t communicate on EVERY level with? Least of all finances.
Killing me.
And props to Ared too for recognizing the “people see money different” comment from Tough Love.
If more of us were not only able, but capable of speaking about finances rationally, a whole bunch of problems would be solved.
AmazonRed™
April 22nd, 2009
3:41 pm
One of guys still managed to get his wife pregnant and she had triplets. That mess almost led to divorce.
I’ll say!!!
Poppa Grande
April 22nd, 2009
3:42 pm
Foots
n Georgia, if a woman marries and has assets before the marriage, is it true that she gets to keep all of her assets in case of a divorce, without a pre-nup?
I haven’t researched it, and can’t say for sure. But it sounds familiar.
kimmie
April 22nd, 2009
3:43 pm
Truth – Ain’t that much luuuvvvv in the world. Besides, you knew I was a B when you married me!!!LOL!!!
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while doing dishes
April 22nd, 2009
3:45 pm
Foots, glad you came on today. i’ve been wanting to talk to you about us getting married. Hell, its obvious I’m crazy about your blog persona and i just want it to be me and you. Lets not even talk about the legal mumbo jumbo associated with pre-nups. Lets just let our love get us through this. How much did you say was in your parents care account again?
Poppa Grande
April 22nd, 2009
3:45 pm
AR
The doctor actually gave a partial refund and offered to redo the procedure.
My friend took the money, but chose a different doctor…:lol:
LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!
April 22nd, 2009
3:46 pm
For Real- you are going to hell w/ gas o lean tighy whiteys on!
For Real
April 22nd, 2009
3:47 pm
For Real now preping for earmiffintectomy by tying Mo’s ankles to the desk.
MK: “financial pressure and the dizzle is good” – Since I’m not doing as well as Truth is will you settle for one of two?
Foots: Pre-marital property/possession stays with the owner and is outside of the divorce. Foots I like the way you think. Do you like in thigh?
Raqi
April 22nd, 2009
3:47 pm
LOL Poppa. When reading Jamoca’s comment I was thinking since this bean sprouted arms and legs she is more like an octopus. She is running out of room as well as starting to turn and I am feeling every single movement.
Jamoca
April 22nd, 2009
3:47 pm
LOL @ parasites…my mother calls my youngest “Beanie” …I didn’t like it at first, but it’s wearing on me. But I still do not call her that, myself.
Hahahaaa…M’karyl…ummm-hmmm, we sure do.
LOL @ ForReal!
AmazonRed™
April 22nd, 2009
3:47 pm
My friend took the money, but chose a different doctor…:lol:
Talk about super sp.erm!!!
Beautiful
April 22nd, 2009
3:49 pm
@MELO
how you know how good my head game is? it might be worth millions. too bad you’ll neva find out. lol.
AmazonRed™
April 22nd, 2009
3:49 pm
Foots, glad you came on today. i’ve been wanting to talk to you about us getting married. Hell, its obvious I’m crazy about your blog persona and i just want it to be me and you.
DuShawn
April 22nd, 2009
3:49 pm
@RandyT-is it true that after the procedure you have to ejaculate a certain number of times to get rid of the leftover semen before having intercourse? (When you get your medical advice from the fellas on the basketball court, they will tell you anything.)
Leggs
April 22nd, 2009
3:52 pm
@Foots, what a person acquires before the marriage belongs to that person and isn’t calculated with items acquired during the marriage!
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
April 22nd, 2009
3:53 pm
DuShawn…I can’t remember for sure but maybe. I know that they recommend you use protection for awhile longer (a few weeks if I remember correctly maybe) but cannot remember exactly why. Can’t remember but I want to think that some want you to provide a new semen specimen a few weeks later before dropping the raincoat or whatever.
LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!
April 22nd, 2009
3:54 pm
WOW!
http://www.cnn.com/2009/US/04/22/passenger.injured/index.html