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You don’t need Donald Trump’s assets or Oprah Winfrey’s money to consider a prenuptial agreement these days. More and more people are choosing to protect their financial assets, just in case. Is this a sign of how we view marriage?

If you can get past the “implied distrust” that prenups can bring, then maybe you can decide on terms that work for the both of you. Some of the prenuptial agreements being used today also map out a specific plan that outlines the couple’s finances and how they will be managed during the marriage. However, some  go as far as to require that the husband or wife maintain a regular sexual relationship with the other partner in order to be eligible for any portion of assets.

Considering your current financial standing, would you ask for a prenuptial agreement…. before you got married? If so, how would you bring it up? Would you have the papers ready prior to speaking to your partner?

If you love someone should you trust that person with your whole heart and your entire net worth? Or is it a matter of love and trust on one hand but when it comes to the money.. pre-nup is the way to go?

For people who are unmarried, would you have a problem signing a prenuptial? What about an infidelity clause?

362 comments Add your comment

Beautiful

April 22nd, 2009
2:31 pm

@M
ditto.

@AMAZON
i’ve been over our little fight. and yes i see most of your comments to me as attacks. please stop.

For Real

April 22nd, 2009
2:31 pm

ALL THESE MEN AND WOMEN THAT HAVE KIDS AND HAVE NEVER BEEN MARRIED, HOW IN THE HELL CAN YOU NOT BELIEVE IN PRENUPS????

ALL THE WOMEN ON THE BLOG MAKING 100K+ DO YOU BELIEVE IN PRENUPS???

THOSE MEN AND WOMEN THAT DO NOT BELIVE IN PRENUPS, DO YOU HAVE ANYTHING TO PROTECT????

THE DIVORCE INDUSTRY IS A BILLION DOLLAR INDUSTRY!!!!!!!

I AIN’T SAYING OJ WAS RIGHT BUT I DO UNDERSTAND!!!! BESIDE SHE AGREED TO TIL DEATH DO US PART!!!

MELO

April 22nd, 2009
2:32 pm

I think what Beautiful,Cuttie and Lurker are saying is that they prefer to be trophy queens rather than sign pre-nups.
Even still,the work out/utility, u provide is not worth millions.U overpricing ur head game waaaaay too much :lol:

dw

April 22nd, 2009
2:32 pm

@Truth–LOL, not to mention the debit rewards points. You will be rolling dough pretty soon!

Jamoca

April 22nd, 2009
2:32 pm

Dang!!! I’ll take PRENUP for $100, Alex! lol …OMG @ tipping the axe man!…more like longterm disability instead.

But I have to admit, at least the way they portrayed him in the movie – he was a big guy…but soft as cotton to fall for her…like all he had to do was remember why he exiled her from the beginning.

Scarlet Johannson (unsure of spelling) did a fine portrayal of Anne’s sister – though they shared the same status, but she was just the sweeter of two. But other than his wife having a bit of trouble bearing an heir for him, I saw nothing else really wrong with her. So he found himself “bewitched”…so he in turn got what he deserved as well.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2009
2:36 pm

and yes i see most of your comments to me as attacks.

That is YOUR problem not mine. Change your attidude, outlook or slap yourself and get glad if you have to.

I disagree with a lot of people’s viewpoints. That’s all in the nature of having discussions with folks from all walks of life. You really are not special. So change is up to YOU.

LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 22nd, 2009
2:37 pm

For Real- I make VERY good money and I do have assets! Trust I am not one of these women who are fiending(sp?)to get married! There is a difference :)

Poppa Grande

April 22nd, 2009
2:37 pm

Lioness

Haven’t ever been the cause or involved in one of those.. My insurance company is getting rich off my responsible driving azz..

You have insurance though. (If not, Po Po is looking for ya)

Just because you have it a policy (which is a contract) doesn’t mean that you will have an accident.

Just because you have a pre-nupt, doesn’t mean that it will end.

Attitude is key. How you take the suggestion of a pre-nupt says just as much about you as him asking you does.

For Real

April 22nd, 2009
2:40 pm

LIONESS: Why do you want to get married?

Truth: Dayumm mane ainevenknow you were rolling like that!!! Can a brother get a small business man grant?

LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 22nd, 2009
2:41 pm

Melo- I don’t know where you are getting what you are saying about me from? I am not fond of marriage to begin with so lets cross that bridge first.. I am saying IF I do decide to marry a mofo that i am not signing a prenup. If he is adamant about me signing it, then there isn’t enough trust in the relationship for the marriage to work…

Wise Diva

April 22nd, 2009
2:41 pm

Goodness, I think we should rename Misadventures in Atlanta to the Misplaced Internet Anger blog, LOL!

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2009
2:41 pm

Attitude is key.

:idea: :idea: :idea:

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while doing dishes

April 22nd, 2009
2:41 pm

Angie, did your dream of me have any hair pulling and azz slapping? You know I’m bald right? LOL

For Real, they overlook those obvious facts. Tomorrow they’ll be giving a list of reasons they’ll leave some cat. Vows dont mean jack when they’re ready to bounce. LOL

Fellas, was talking with some guys at work and about half have been snipped. Have you noticed more guys cutting the cords? I’m thinkink about it.

Melo, lmao at overpriced headgame but so true.

Jamoca

April 22nd, 2009
2:42 pm

Weren’t they good?!?! However, Truth, my dear – we know you likes it rufff!! lmao …he was still a cottonboy for that dumb move. But he made up for that real quick in the end. Lol…

RandyT – What’s the name of the book that you read? I’d like to check it out and see what else I’ve missed.

M'

April 22nd, 2009
2:43 pm

@beautiful

Let it go…ARED is ARED…and you are you…so be it…this is life…ARED is entitled to her opinions…and she articulates them very well…and you, well you express yourself…lol…we are all built differently…that is life…peace.

Cougar Hunter ( I luv the southern Shawties!)

April 22nd, 2009
2:43 pm

Lioness: I’m playig of you are playing, I am ready if you are ready! Lol.

Look Lioness you know Mr. Truth is out of town and cannot get that smack on le azz! plus Truth is going to hold on to that $90 dollars!

Holla

No one is getting TRUTH’s $90 dollars!

kimmie

April 22nd, 2009
2:45 pm

Truth – Quit avoiding me. You new “rolling in dough” status has me intrigued.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2009
2:45 pm

ARED is entitled to her opinions…and she articulates them very well…

Thank you for the compliment, M’. :)

and you, well you express yourself…lol

You’ve got jokes too!!! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha)

April 22nd, 2009
2:46 pm

Hey Err’body! Just droppin in for a sec, I see ya’ll are holding it down as usual.

Just one quick vent though: I HATE POLLEN! And I think my co-workers are trying to slowly convert me into being as crazy as they are. They outnumber us sane folks tremendously. Insert ARed’s blank stare ‘here’

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2009
2:46 pm

No one is getting TRUTH’s $90 dollars!

I’ve got it. The thing is…he just gives it to me freely. He’s such a generous man. :lol:

Jamoca

April 22nd, 2009
2:47 pm

Lmao @ —> No one is getting TRUTH’s $90 dollars!

Ya’ll silly!

LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 22nd, 2009
2:47 pm

Cougar- LMAO!! I need a pair of pumas that cost EXACTLY $90.

Truth- Can I borrow some chedda?

dw

April 22nd, 2009
2:48 pm

“Have you noticed more guys cutting the cords? I’m thinkink about it.”

Thiid! Ain’ gon’ baybul ta duh it! I ain’t messing with the pipes bruh! My wife got her tubes tied, which in most cases is reversible, that’s enough!

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2009
2:48 pm

Hey Mo. Here you go. :|

:lol:

For Real

April 22nd, 2009
2:48 pm

Truth: 90% of divorce are filed because of irreco, elrecko.. umm because they couldn’t get alone anymore. Translation, she ain’t happy no mo with being married because he changed and since he changed I want half his ish even tho I am the only one that’s not happy because I deserve to be happy and I deserve to keep living the lifestyle I have grown accustom to.

PG: Isn’t strange that marriage contracts are the only contract where the party that breached the contract is compensated for said breach?

Cougar Hunter ( I luv the southern Shawties!)

April 22nd, 2009
2:49 pm

Tazzee what you putting out these days! Send me a pick so I can evaluate your looks! :smile:

I have spoken with a lot of sistas in the ATL and they have met/dated several brothas who make less then they do!

Some of the Bruthas that make money like it easy so they look for the women who make less so they can control/impress the ladies!

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while doing dishes

April 22nd, 2009
2:49 pm

The Truth is feeling alot of pride as the fellas admire the large sum of money in my possesion. Its good to be the king.

Jammy poo, he was a sucker for dropping wife number 1 which entitled him to a whole nother country. I guess he wasnt familar with MOB (Money over Beyatches) LOL

M'

April 22nd, 2009
2:50 pm

@WD

Ya know…and why…we are all human…and we all have different experential values…let it be…express yourself and if someone disagrees…so be it…I get to know YOU when you articulate yourself…not when I impose my perception of YOU on YOU…I may be a Goddess….but I ain’t GOD.

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2009
2:50 pm

Truth — You are living up to your name today, sir. Too many people think there’s something mystical about marriage — whether it’s some sort of romantic fairytale or BS religious spiritual union. And then when the fit hits the shan, they can blame it on “the romance fading” or “it wasn’t god’s plan.” Nope, sorry, it was you and your bad decision(s). Nothing else.

What it really comes down to is 2 people making a decision to share their lives. And guess what? You both have to keep making that decision every single day. If you don’t know that you still want to stick with this person even on their worst day, then don’t do it…

LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 22nd, 2009
2:51 pm

I have spoken with a lot of sistas in the ATL and they have met/dated several brothas who make less then they do!- Never understood this!

MELO

April 22nd, 2009
2:51 pm

Most men with money/wealth prefer the route Prince Charles took.
Get some pretty knock off and give her temp wify status.Sire some progeny to perpetuate the breed and then dogg her outta the neihgborhood.
I think that was a good win win for both.She was a hoe,him,a mean and brutal attitude to match.
When u got real money everything/most basic stuff that real people prize(like marriage),is trash.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

April 22nd, 2009
2:52 pm

ARed – thanx Chica! It looks just like me right about now as I continue to answer some of the dumbest questions from my co-workers, thinking to myself “I am 10 hot seconds from busting someone’s head to the white meat if they dont GWINE ON!!” :0)

M'

April 22nd, 2009
2:54 pm

@ARed

Speaking the truth and being real are my most ernest virtues…that is all I have right now…and what I say is sincere…even if disputed…TRUTH…uh-huh…I have no reasons to tell lies and blow smoke up someone’s arse…I see you as YOU and I know me as ME…and there is a reconciled peace in that truth.

Cougar Hunter ( I luv the southern Shawties!)

April 22nd, 2009
2:56 pm

Truth go ahead and get that get that Snip, Snip done (because children equal a loss of $90 dollars/dinero! Let me know how you feel after the operation!

I am thinking about getting in the next 2 to 3 yrs!

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while doing dishes

April 22nd, 2009
2:57 pm

Truth’s reasons to get married.

1) To pass wealth, though most folks call that divorce

2) To raise kids

3) And I added this one strictly for Tazz, when you meet that chick thats just such a gem that you have to offer her a contract, da one, wify, glove on the hand, you get the drift

For Real

April 22nd, 2009
2:59 pm

C-Hunter: (I just can’t bring myself to call another dude cu.. Imma grown azz man) “Some of the Bruthas that make money like it easy so they look for the women who make less so they can control/impress the ladies!” – Man that’s some KP ish right there!!! Don’t fall for the hype. Although there are some women making more money than men, the fact still remains men on average make more money than women. Like Truth has said many of times Men marry for azz and Women marry for Security (Money).

For Real now massaging that area below Mo’s navel and above her dookieshute to help her find her right mind.

M'

April 22nd, 2009
3:00 pm

Oh…BTW…M’ stands for OF THE PEOPLE…some ppl still want to refer to me as KARYL…well, KARYL without M’ has no meaning…so “<strong”I AM M’ or M”KARYL…no compromise.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2009
3:00 pm

I am 10 hot seconds from busting someone’s head to the white meat if they dont GWINE ON!!” :0)

:lol: Don’t hurt em Mo. :lol:

For Real

April 22nd, 2009
3:01 pm

Lioness: You still haven’t answer my question as to why you would get married.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 22nd, 2009
3:01 pm

Jamoca…book is the same name “The Other Boleyn Girl”. I was in England seven times last year and that whole period is fascinating but bloody as hellz. Most of it is historically quite accurate although the sister was possibly not as angelic as the book/movie protrayed her according to the history books. Apparently she cut a swath through the French court and was pretty wild. Most of the events surrounding Anne Boleyn and Henry VIII were well documented. There is some speculation that Anne Boleyn had Catherine, Henry VIII’s first wife poisoned (the one that the Pope would not let him divorce), and I think it was his 5th wife he also had beheaded. He is buried in Windsor Castle (beautiful, a lot like my house only bigger…yeah right) beside the third wife I think it was.

LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 22nd, 2009
3:01 pm

It is going to be in the 80’s for the remainder of the week :)

Mo (aka Moeisha)

April 22nd, 2009
3:01 pm

For Real – a. little. to. the. left. please!!

Truth – mail call! I had a friend that got snipped, he said it wasnt too bad and the healing was quicker than he thought.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2009
3:03 pm

I didn’t realize it was you M’Karyl. But I knew I liked you. :lol:

MELO

April 22nd, 2009
3:05 pm

Misplaced Internet Anger blog, LOL

Diva,ladies are fighting/angry about pre-nups,they dont even have boyfiends yet to discuss ish with. :lol:
Some of these ladies have the wedding planned. LMAOF

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while doing dishes

April 22nd, 2009
3:06 pm

i wonder if women ever think of upgrading their product, making themselves more marketable.

Mo, calm down hot mama. I’m telling you up front I’m not withdrawing my $90 to bail you out of jail. I love you but not $90 worth. MAYBE $20 worth.

Poppa Grande

April 22nd, 2009
3:09 pm

For Real

Isn’t strange that marriage contracts are the only contract where the party that breached the contract is compensated for said breach?

It held the monopoly until Bailouts came about.

Suisee

What it really comes down to is 2 people making a decision to share their lives. And guess what? You both have to keep making that decision every single day.

I concur. Even if marriage is God’s plan, humans have screwed it up (as humans have done with everything else). So, it is on the people. If the pre-nupt is motivation for some people to stick through it, so be it. That is their life, not mine.

Wise Diva

April 22nd, 2009
3:09 pm

I may be a Goddess….but I ain’t GOD. <— LOVE that, it belongs on a cute baby t shirt, LOL, nice one M

Raqi

April 22nd, 2009
3:09 pm

Sorry Karyl I didn’t realize you didn’t like me, or anyone else, referring to you as just Karyl.

Leggs

April 22nd, 2009
3:12 pm

Wow, you guys are somewhat still on topic. Same o same, ARed and Beautiful going at it.

@M, knew it was you. You may have shortened your name, but not the tone of your post nor your typing style. U use “leader dots” like I do!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 22nd, 2009
3:12 pm

I had myself “snipped” after my third child. Not bad, i wanted to try it out that night but couldn’t (the concept of pain being an aphrodisiac muct be true, I had a boner for days after). Doctor had no sense of humor at all. I kept suggesting while he was down there could he go ahead and sew on an extension and could not get a rise out of him at all.