Guilty of Illegal Dumping?
I want to address an issue that is rampant on Atlanta’s dating scene. It’s something we have all done at one time or another: illegal dumping. Ruling someone out for a completely frivolous, nonsensical, utterly ridiculous reason.
For instance, why dump someone for working a retail job when you work in a pharmacy? Why? That doesn’t even make sense! Or how about letting someone go because he has a cat. What’s wrong with a guy owning a cat? Seriously, illegal dumping is actually a symptom of something deeper. Perhaps you should not date anyone for awhile.
I know we all weed out potential dates on things we find personally undesirable, but what happens when these undesirable traits are completely without merit? What if they are just a perception? Why do we bail out so quickly?
Are you guilty of illegal dumping? Are you a victim of it? What is the most frivolous, totally silly reason you dumped someone? What do you think is the dumbest reason you have ever been dumped? Be honest!
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DuShawn
April 21st, 2009
3:41 pm
“…….awful smelling pudsy!” I had to stop seeing this female for that same reason. The sad part about it is I really digged her. The first few times, she was straight. Then one time, she was a little tart. I’m thinking, I surprised her; she didn’t have time to get it right. I gave her another shot, she still wasn’t the freshest. I was considering bringing it to her attention so she could fix the issue and we could continue to kick it. Then I noticed a few thin hairs on her chin. I’m like, dayum she need electrolysis and a douche. She’s a fixer-upper, and I’m not a handy man.
Jamoca
April 21st, 2009
3:42 pm
Cougar- I meant “that better be grade A!”
Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)
April 21st, 2009
3:45 pm
I’m thinking, I surprised her; she didn’t have time to get it right.
I don’t think that’s something one should need time to get right. Shaving, yes. Maybe even a little more lotion in spots. But if you have to do something to get the smell right for special occasions – there’s a problem.
sitting over here with my face all screwed up like I just smelt something
Jamoca
April 21st, 2009
3:47 pm
Lmao @ Du…dang man!…smh @ Pop Tart puddy!
and Melo’s lil judas getting freezer burned!!! You could have doctored it up with some KY Jelly (personal warming lubricant) Hahahaaa…!!
lurker
April 21st, 2009
3:51 pm
Jamoca
Seriously, shorty had deep pockets too….heck that’s an incentive to try to stick with it…I kid I kid. I just could not, for the life of me, get with him. NO PHYSICAL ATTRACTION WHAT SO EVA! I remember taking one of my girls ride along to size him up for me.
She was like, not bad at all, aside from being too short. Enough said at that point, it was a wrap.
MELO
April 21st, 2009
3:53 pm
But if you have to do something to get the smell right for special occasions – there’s a problem
Yeah and often times the sad part,unless somebody really close lets u know,u taking that monkey,all to the grave,in ignorance.
APB,APB:
ALL LADIES:
Smell ur couchie, Right NOW!
Leggs
April 21st, 2009
3:53 pm
To this day I am still surprised when I read about women not knowing their honey pots stink. How the heck is that possible? Shouldn’t she smell the funk before anyone else???
dw
April 21st, 2009
3:54 pm
Dushawn–I dated a girl once and the perfume she wore must not have agreed with her body chemistry, because to me when she wore it she smelled musty. But the puddy never smelled bad. I was actually digging her though and I thought we were tight like that but when I mentioned it to her she took offense and things went down hill from there. So I don’t know I should have handled that one.
lurker
April 21st, 2009
3:54 pm
She couldn’t help the chin hairs. You should have sprang for that and let her fix the other.
kimmie
April 21st, 2009
3:56 pm
This was a fun topic until all the talk about smells & hair.
Some of you men might want to “freshen up” a bit too sometimes! Just sayin’.
dw
April 21st, 2009
3:57 pm
I meant I don’t know “how” I should have handled that one
lurker
April 21st, 2009
3:58 pm
DWbecause to me when she wore it she smelled musty.
I cannot imagine a dude having a sit down to tell me about my personal hygiene. I with Leggs now, I don’t get that. I guess though, it’s no different than walking in a stall at work behind someone you know everyone considers the job beauty only to find out there’s funk lingering and they’re long gone. That one kills me everytime. That’s why I don’t do showers too much. We all need a sit down, most of the time. Seriously.
dw
April 21st, 2009
3:58 pm
Kimmie–In the words of the late great Chef from South Park, You don’t like chocolate salty balls?
Mo (aka Moeisha)
April 21st, 2009
4:00 pm
Okay I have gotten a great laugh off ya’ll today! DAYUM!
dw
April 21st, 2009
4:00 pm
lurker–That’s why I said “to me” she smelled musty, because apparantly she liked this particular perfume and wore it often and she took offense when I said something about it. I don’t think she knew
lurker
April 21st, 2009
4:00 pm
Oh, and an FYI…per the woman doctor that Ophrah had on some time ago, hair on the vajaja, keeps the odor from sex to a minimum. Don’t argue with me, I just heard it there. She could be wrong too but I doubt it. The other reason why I like my feminity.
kimmie
April 21st, 2009
4:01 pm
chocolate salty
Nope, I likes mine chocolate, but fresh as an Irish spring(said in my best fake Irish accent)! LOL!!
dw
April 21st, 2009
4:04 pm
LOL@kimmie
lurker–I also heard that colored panties can cause an odor because the dye mixes with the female’s natural juices. Ever heard that?
i'm swiss
April 21st, 2009
4:05 pm
“Kimmie–In the words of the late great Chef from South Park, You don’t like chocolate salty balls?”
What about white chocolate salty balls?
LMAO @ Bob Villa — er, I mean DuShawn
LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!
April 21st, 2009
4:10 pm
Pretty salty johnson’s will fail an inpection..
Leggs- I agree!
Lurker- I don’t believe doctors all the time.. My gyn told me that the best way to wash mine triangle is to not use soap.. WTH? I was doing crunches while in those stirups to screw up my face @ him.. I told him that dove unscented soap does me well thx
kimmie
April 21st, 2009
4:11 pm
Swiss – You’re cute and all, but I’ll leave those white chocolate truffles to your Swiss Mrs-to-be!LOL!!!
i'm swiss
April 21st, 2009
4:14 pm
kimmie — LOL Oh well, to each her own. But they are silky smooth & cream filled — just sayin’…
Jamoca
April 21st, 2009
4:15 pm
LOL @ DW!…and do you mean musky? …I’m sorry, I couldn’t help not asking, but some of us do pronounce it that way, esp when shuckin’ n’ jivin’ around our folks tho. It was just funny to actually read it…lol
Lurker – Girl, gon’ head and educate somebody! The same can be said about douches…Squash, squash…squash, squash!! lmao. But really some folks just do not know. I’d seriously look at some of the girls crazy that I used to go to high school with. Like, what in the heyal do you need with a douch?…if anything, they create and/or increase more feminine hygiene issues. Not many folks knew/know that. But don’t tell me that you cannot smell ya’self!…then have the nerve to get offended when someone cared enough to bring the issue to your attention…esp if they were discreet.
But usually by then, a whole lot of folks already know. Like ToucanSam, just follow your nose. smh
LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!
April 21st, 2009
4:15 pm
Swiss- Lawd!
lurker
April 21st, 2009
4:16 pm
Lioness actually by gyn said the same. I was asking about cleansing during my pregnancy and he said the same. He said nothing wrong with soap, but a nice long soak in clean water would suffice. He said the body does it’s own self cleansing pretty much. I do use soap though…lol
LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!
April 21st, 2009
4:17 pm
Astroglide is better for the triangle than KY
lurker
April 21st, 2009
4:18 pm
Jamo Guess that why he almost had an attack when I mentioned doucing during my pregnancy. He was like what?! He said no more than twice a year. And yep, he said the same thing….too much of that will create issues. Like I said, I takes a sit down…EVERYDAY…and it handles everything. I ain’t gotta worry about being “caught off guard”….I’m good…lol
Leggs
April 21st, 2009
4:18 pm
Too funny, I’m staying with soap.
MELO
April 21st, 2009
4:21 pm
This was a fun topic until all the talk about smells & hair.
Kimmie, u need ti educate the unger ones.Fowl Smell aint pretty on a female,on a guy its not as bad coz some guys wrk physical stuff.
When i see Queen go thru her routine,sparaying this or that on there,and im jus resting my bed on the bed,im like,the things females go thru.But i kid u not,when its time for me to put my head in der,i lavish at the cleanliness and the nice smell to myself.
U should look at my face and red eyes when i get interrupted and lift my head to look at the offending culprit
Priceless!
Jamoca
April 21st, 2009
4:21 pm
Yep, DW – I heard that as well…occasionally is fine, but too much exposure can cause a smell like something awful. However, some women are not that sensitive as well…hence granny drawhs and/or cotton panties – which does not actually mean they have to be briefs…but without added dyes…allows her body to be properly ventilated. LOL
Okay now…some of ya’ll men know to damn much. lol But it’s actually a good thing…
MELO
April 21st, 2009
4:23 pm
my bed on the bed
my head on the bed! sorry,
i'm swiss
April 21st, 2009
4:24 pm
LMAO…. Totally off topic, but I’ve gotta share this:
Watching a replay of a tennis match b/w Rafael Nadal & Andy Murray on Tennis Channel. The camera pans across the crowd to a couple of Rafa fans wearing bull horns & the commentator says: “Couple of horny Spanish fans enjoying the tennis”
LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!
April 21st, 2009
4:26 pm
Never heard that colored panty thing..
lurker
April 21st, 2009
4:26 pm
DW Don’t know how true dyes causing odor due to not being a good mix, but some don’t know simplicity can be done as well if not better than all that other stuff. Like I was saying yesterday, you can go really classy and sexy without buying undies that will leave you injured. I like simple colors, pinks, beige, creme, taupe….and I luv black….black anything. I don’t do the rainbow…not knocking anyone that does. Those colors for me are soft, sexy and feminine. One thing too about boy shorts…they range from truly looking like boxers on those hanging around the house days to sexy sexy. That way you can have a nice mixture without hurting. You ain’t gotta do “sets” all the time either with soft colors….you can mix and coordinate. Not sure if those wild colors would set my ph balance out of wack…lol…
Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)
April 21st, 2009
4:27 pm
Did someone say minty chocolate? Kimmie at your service!
Yes indeed Jomoca Grade Midwestern A the ladies seem to luv it!
Ladies you must have the vajay smelling fresh if you want the all world tongue if not you gets le finger!
Lioness I need a new inspection!
i'm swiss
April 21st, 2009
4:28 pm
“…allows her body to be properly ventilated.”
So why not just go commando? No objection here.
Well, depending on the chica — and the time of the month… 
LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!
April 21st, 2009
4:29 pm
Cougar- Gave your johnson a scrub I see..
Jamoca
April 21st, 2009
4:30 pm
Lurker – Right!…yes, it is self cleansing…like a oven. Lol…But yes, we still NEED to use additional cleaning agent to get the job done. <—that was for you Leggs!…ain’t nobody sayin’ for women to solely depend upon our body’s natural “juices” …but all that douching can/does actually wash away our body’s “good bacteria” which defends itself against the “bad bacteria”. So naturally, if she is hit with some of that bad bacteria down the road…her body will have none of his own “natural/good bacteria” to fight it off. That’s all we’re saying.
You can make matter worse by fixing something that’s not broken, simply from over doing it.
Foots
April 21st, 2009
4:32 pm
Y’all trip me out!! Frankly speaking, I don’t want my ‘Nanny (short for Poohnanny) smelling like roses and jasmine fields. Normal ‘Nanny scent is fine with me. But nanny that smells like the dumpsters of Atlanta Fish Market needs more than soap, it needs an exorcism.
Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)
April 21st, 2009
4:33 pm
Lioness, the Johnson is clean smelling good and ready to stand to attention for inspection!
lurker
April 21st, 2009
4:33 pm
Jamoca but all that douching can/does actually wash away our body’s “good bacteria” which defends itself against the “bad bacteria”. So naturally, if she is hit with some of that bad bacteria down the road…her body will have none of his own “natural/good bacteria” to fight it off. That’s all we’re saying
Pretty much sums it up….I do other goodies too. I just don’t over do it cause really, if you practice good hygiene, all that other stuff ain’t necessary.
MELO
April 21st, 2009
4:33 pm
lurker 4.26
send me some pics of u to takpat78@gmail.U saying sme real sexxy stuff there.Im curious!
Leggs
April 21st, 2009
4:37 pm
Like I said, I’m going to continue to use soap. Massengill should be out of business by now….who does that anymore? For some reason I’m having trouble typing the word so the men could read it. I have no idea why!
lurker
April 21st, 2009
4:37 pm
Melo only if I can copy you wife. What’s her email addy?
Cougar Hunter ( My, My, My)
April 21st, 2009
4:39 pm
So Lioness you like to eat dinner before you do your Johnson inspections?
LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!
April 21st, 2009
4:39 pm
Women need to eat plain non fat yogurt and that will ALWAYS keep the triangle fresh!
Cougar- Did I forget to mention that there is a fee when you are not a member?
MELO
April 21st, 2009
4:39 pm
Her email add is melovixen69@gmail.com
thanx Lurker!
LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!
April 21st, 2009
4:41 pm
Melo- WOW!! You have a BUNCH of email addresses.. LOL!
kimmie
April 21st, 2009
4:42 pm
Fowl Smell aint pretty on a female,on a guy its not as bad coz some guys wrk physical stuff.
Melo – To each his own, but after you do your “physical work stuff”, jump in the shower! Keep that “must” to yourself. Too many think just cause they are a dude they can slide. Not happening here!
But yes, the ladies do need to take special care. Proper personal hygiene habits must be taught to little boys & girls!
One of the toughest moments in my corporate career was when I had to have a talk about hygiene issues with a young lady I supervised years ago at another job. She was a heavy girl and would have the nails & hair done, but others around were complaining. Funny though, when I talked to her she said she had a medical issue and knew she had a problem! Wouldn’t that make you especially diligent?!!
Jamoca
April 21st, 2009
4:44 pm
Pretty much sums it up….I do other goodies too. I just don’t over do it cause really, if you practice good hygiene, all that other stuff ain’t necessary.
^^^ Bingo! You diggin’ the boy shorts too…and a lover of black? Classic. Those boy undies aka hipsters remind me of the 70’s when the women wore the really short shorts with just a little (or in folks cases – A LOT) of cheeks showing. lol…just enough to be sexy and comfortable at the same time, without feeling like you have on a rubberband for underwear. Not cute or sexy.
LOL @ Foots! Is that really you? lol
I’m Swiss….Commando? Only if I were on my way to my man or he’s on his way to me…wrapped in a classy sundress…lookin’ like: Muah!
All willy nilly…naw. That’s what my sheer/nude panties are for…so breathe on!!! LOL …oh, and at bedtime. The best time to allow the body to “breeve” lmao!