I Do NOT Hook Up
It is always so interesting to people watch on any given weekend in Atlanta’s social scene. If you pay attention to how we engage each other, you will realize singles sure have a way of getting a message across. The problem is getting the “right” message to the “right” people. I heard a Kelly Clarkson song on the radio the other day called I Do Not Hook Up. Now there’s a message for you!
I think that a lot of times our conversation, flirt techniques, and how we approach a prospect, convey “messages” all the time. Now, the “I do not hook up” message is important to a single woman seeking an actual relationship. A man can be talking to a total vixen and not know it because she is not going to send her vixen signal out to him. We know men desire us. We get it. We desire you too! We just aren’t always down for the hooking up.
Ladies, do you have challenges with sending a “I do not hook up” message to men that you meet? What if you are just looking for the casual thing? Do you let this be known straight away or wait until you observe more?
Guys, how do you send your “I do not hook up” message to women? Do you find that women are surprised when you do? If you are looking for hooking up only, do you actually communicate this? Do you pretend you are interested in the woman?
How can we improve our techniques of sending the “right” message to someone we are interested in? Is it hard to do without appearing to be playing games?
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321 comments Add your comment
lurker
April 20th, 2009
4:25 pm
NYC….can’t be comfy and sexy at the same time. Comfort use to be the sacrifice for sexy but both all rolled in one.
lurker
April 20th, 2009
4:26 pm
I meant can’t “beat” having comfort and sexy all at once
MELO
April 20th, 2009
4:30 pm
Melo hon, please seek help
why,coz i get mine wet eve now and then?? Child plz!! I m not one of those that believe my stuff is meant for decorations only.
Lurker,dont tell me u dummer than Eve,still trying to figure out what she discovered long time ago?
Kym aka Southern Girl (Gal)
April 20th, 2009
4:32 pm
I think there is some blog competition for the hand of Warrick Dunn. Wisey and Tazzee have been stalking him for years.
AmazonRed™
April 20th, 2009
4:35 pm
But then again, he’s going to have to grow a few inches to be tall enough for me.
He’s a shorty.
lurker
April 20th, 2009
4:35 pm
sorry Melo too sleepy and tired to either engage in explicit talk or have a knock down at this late hour in the day…whatever you say/said works for me…in whatever you’re tryna relay/say/debate, you win
Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)
April 20th, 2009
4:37 pm
SexyCool LOL – he is a shorty. I saw him at a Hawks game a few years back. I just said “Hey Warrick” like I knew him and he spoke but I could tell he was wondering where he knew me from, LOL. But I’m only 5′4″ and he was about my height. But I have to agree with Sybil – he can stand on his wallet and be tall enough for me
just kidding…I don’t have a height requirement
SexyCool
April 20th, 2009
4:38 pm
Kym – My name haD been on that list from day one as well. However, I am officially pulling out of the competition. Wise and Taz are way shorter than me. They’d fit on/under his arm perfectly.
Soulfinger
April 20th, 2009
4:39 pm
Love the boy shorts!!
MELO
April 20th, 2009
4:42 pm
OK lurker.
Hope u have time for ur man when u get home..that sleepness suggests u an amorous type urself.
Feed that man when u get home,solids,liquids, and eve in tween urs etc.A well fed man is proly gonna handle hiz biz well and sleep soundly.
A not so well fed man is qurrelsome,u dont want that!(ma grannny told me that,took me yrs to understand but im glad to share)
Poppa Grande
April 20th, 2009
4:43 pm
Well, Warrick may be short, but he does speak and shake your hand.
Jermaine Dupri is short and conceited. Reach out to shake his hand and he walks away.
Add that to recent comments, that he was the best thing to happen to Atlanta since Martin Luther King.
Greg Street and he have been going at it lately. Greg Street kinda told JD off after that MLK remark.
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while doing dishes
April 20th, 2009
4:43 pm
Ared, mail call.
Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)
April 20th, 2009
4:44 pm
Kym LOL, you’re right about the Warrick fight. Every now and then a new blogger will come trynna stake claim but I’m the original MIA Warrick stalker.
MELO
April 20th, 2009
4:48 pm
Greg Street and he have been going at it lately
Aint that a Greg street gymick to promote “his” sampled wacko CDs where he dont sing a thing but invites other rappers for lines?
Cemeeli
April 20th, 2009
4:49 pm
Cee’s Real Love Chronicles.
PoppaGWhen you and Mrs. G became a serious couple, was it like that with you two? Say like if i bought something my SO disapproved and felt i needed to return the item b/c he felt i coulda made a wiser move and out for my best interest.
I can feel/touch/see the impact of this love.
Poppa Grande
April 20th, 2009
4:51 pm
Melo
I’m sure that he is. He is a DJ.
Jazzy Jeff does those types of CDs all of the time.
Return of the Magnificent is one of my favorite CDs period. Jeff doesn’t sing or rap. However, he does have Big Daddy Kane, CL Smooth, Methodman, Raheem Devaughn, and others. Will Smith does a skit with him.
Poppa Grande
April 20th, 2009
4:54 pm
Cee
There have been things that I’ve returned. I let her know that i appreciated it, but there was something bigger on the horizon. It let her know that I was looking at a future with her and not just the present as well (according to her).
Poppa Grande
April 20th, 2009
4:56 pm
Melo
JD did say the remark. It may have be taken out of context though.
But he knows better. He has a rep of being conceited. I’ve had my run-ins with him as well. I commend him for work to build So So Def, but you don’t have to be snotty about it.
Cemeeli
April 20th, 2009
4:57 pm
Oh left this part off.
The 4:49 post is evidence of respecting him and the relationship. Never allowing independance to have me ignorant of what i need in my life.
Cemeeli
April 20th, 2009
5:00 pm
My point exactly PoopaG.
I knew my son liked him for a reason.
….this is getting better, and better!
Leggs
April 20th, 2009
5:17 pm
Good night everyone!
Just be thankful!