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Why do we lose interest?

We hear it on TV, from friends, even relatives. It’s perhaps gallows humor, but for many, they’re joking about the cruel truth: eventually, you’ll stop wanting to have sex with your partner. 

That may be true for many of us, but the question TV, friends and relatives never answer is why. Is it because the passion you thought was real was just temporary lust? Is it because the familiar becomes boring? Is it that familiarity breeds contempt?

I was in a two-year relationship in which the intimacy fizzled, big-time. I think it was a mix of unresolved arguments that created an emotional divide I couldn’t overcome, combined with me feeling just plain unsexy after him seeing me with the flu or a stomach bug or simply in my worst states. Frankly, I think my own immaturity played a role, as I was then probably unable to handle the true intimacy that comes with a serious relationship.

Have you ever lost interest in sex with your main squeeze? And don’t give me any run-around about if the loving is good enough, the partner can’t say no; I think no matter your skills, life can get in the way. The reasons behind this phenomenon seem complex and varied, so tell me your experiences. Finally, if sex is no longer a big part of your relationships, do you think you can still make it work? Is intimacy still a huge deal after a decade or more together?

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East Point's Own

April 17th, 2009
8:19 am

I never lost interest sexually unless there was another issue, such as I didn’t want to be in the relationship any longer, or she was getting into a routine and that was getting old ( by routine I mean either wanting to have sex the same way all the time, and/or wanting it almost on a set schedule).

But maybe Andre 3000 said it best when he sang “Nothing lasts forever’, Then what makes love the exception?”
Why do we expect that love between two people will last forever in all cases when nothing else in life does?

Raqi...28 Weeks with Braxton Hicks...

April 17th, 2009
8:24 am

From the lips on a woman doing it for eight years, MAINTENANCE sex is a must. No if, ands or buts about it. Do it. You aren’t feeling it tonight? Do it anyway. You are angry with him? Do it. Heck do it just because. 3 minutes is all it takes.

Many may not understand this, but there should be some effort made toward getting busy. Life does get in the way so you have to make the effort to make time for each other. If you only waited for that loving feeling to slam you to the ground, you are gonna be in trouble.

I attended a seminar with my friends once and the instructor made a good point. He said couples should touch each other everyday. Not groping or fondling, but just a simple touch. Whether it’s a kiss on the cheek or a mere touch on the hand, touch each other to maintain that bond of affection.

Familiarity can cause relationships to slip into being mundane, but IMO if you keep your SO as a high priority in your life it helps in keeping the spark flickering.

Kym aka Dominque Deveraux

April 17th, 2009
8:42 am

Good Morning All,

I like that quote East Point..nothing last forever and there is nothing that says love will either. IMHO you have to work to get it as far as the next day..without wanting to run screaming like your hair is on fire. As for sex there are times you don’t want to no matter how high your sex drive is. The key is to keep the ideas flowing try something new..buy a movie together, rent a room, go outside(pitch a tent first) whateva the two people involve agree on then go for it.

I-85

April 17th, 2009
8:49 am

Sex is the piller of any relationship no matter how much you love someone. If you can’t provide your partner, he or she will find it somewhere. If you don’t see each other more often then sex appeal will always be there. My gf and I see each other on weekends and for 3 year we’ve been kicking it just like the beginning…

Raqi...28 Weeks with Braxton Hicks...

April 17th, 2009
8:50 am

Everything can get stale and use a refreshing. Sometimes coming to this office everyday just makes me want to go bananas. Looking at these same walls, sitting at this same desk, dealing with the same people, it gets mind numbing sometimes. The solution that I have found that works really well, redecorating. Putting up new pictures. Rearranging the order of my desk. Having my desk face a different direction. So far it has helped. Those little changes give my office a new fresh feeling.
The same concept IMO is applied to relationships. Don’t do the same thing the same way day in and day out for years at a time. And I am not talking about just sex. I am talking about everything that make up you all’s life together. Going to the same place, never trying anything new, going out on the same night every week, never going out, walking into the same bedroom that looks the same way for the past 5 years. Heck change your self. Update your wardrobe. Wear your hair different.

Kym I agree. Get a room. Splurge every now and then. Sneak away for a lunch rendevouz. And then not.

Stan

April 17th, 2009
8:53 am

Raqi nailed it, so to speak.

It is easy to lose interest, or simply allow life to get in the way, so MAKE the time for it even if it is just a quicky. If you do lose interest in the long term then no I don’t think you can make it work and be happy with the relationship.

If interest is lost and you don’t want to make time for it then there is probably another reason other than just not wanting it. something else is going on in the relationship that is working against you.

Blanca

April 17th, 2009
8:57 am

Hey All, I’ll be in and out of the office today and unable to monitor the dreaded spam monster as closely. My apologies in advance if comments are held, but I’ll try my best to check it as often as possible.

Raqi...28 Weeks with Braxton Hicks...

April 17th, 2009
9:09 am

Another thing, it is only in the perfect world of never-never-land that you drives will be in sync at all times. In fact most days they will not be. Someone needs to set the tone sometimes to get things to happening.

And another thing, negative criticism and judgment stomp out affection every single time. If you are constantly criticizing, emasculating and judging your mate they will more than likely lose interest. Heck I know I would.

And one more another thing, every encounter is not going to be mind blowing. It ain’t gonna happen. While you should not settle into boring, you also should not expect toe curling every single time. When you partner is simply obliging to fulfill your need, that should be an A in appreciation in itself.

And one last another thing, remember sex is 50% on you. I can do that thing you like all night long but if you don’t give in to it I’ve done my part. And that I know because if I am not there mentally there is nothing he can do to get me there if I don’t welcome it.

Your partner cannot make you happy if you are not open to being made happy. And that is in everything. In and out of the bedroom.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 17th, 2009
9:09 am

Hello all from DC (beautiful day here and an always intoxicating city).

One of the best lines in a movie was in an old Woody Allen movie called “Annie Hall”. They had been together for awhile and things were getting old and tired so they decided to go to counselors. In a split screen it showed her counselor asking her how often they had sex. She responds, “it seems like all the time, maybe three times a week”, then it shows his counselor asking the same question. He responds, “almost never anymore, maybe three times a week”. They were seeing exactly the same thing in two different ways.

There are a number of reasons for this, it is not a one size fits all. One big one is that it is easy to fall into a routine, doing things almost exactly the same way as the last ten times with very little variation. When one has been with a partner long enough he/she learns what things have worked in pleasuring their partner…where to touch, what pressure to use, where to nibble, where to swirl… The problem is that it is easy to fall into a pattern because of what has worked well in the past. The solution, change things around, different place, different time, clothes on, clothes off, different position, or different order…just change it up some.

Another reason is the fact that sometimes two people are not in the mood at the same time. A man will not always convey this (or like me, he pouts at the time), but he does get his feelings hurt when he is rejected. Men keep a running tally in their heads about sex and it stays there, where a woman tends to always set the mental counter back to zero. If it has gone for a longer time, the man is extremely aware. The woman is mindful and implies she will make it up to him, but generally doesn’t because to her every day/night is a new day (counter back to zero) while he is thinking about the gap widening even more since the last roll. Men…try not to keep score…women, remember that men usually WILL keep score.

A big reason is that the “romance part” tends to get away in the busy everyday life at lightspeed, (thus the old adage “wham, bam, thank you, maam”. Men have a really bad habit of forgetting to just add in the nice touches…the slow dance in the kitchen with a glass of wine while dinner is cooking, instead of playing Nintendo while she does all the work, taking time to look in one’s partner’e eyes and touching her cheek softly without saying a word, or maybe quietly telling her just how beautiful she is in the moonlight… If men just sat down at their computer and wrote out a list of these kinds of things, and memorized them so he had an arsenal of small ways to make the lady feel special, it would go a long way toward making ALL of it better.

Taking time to know the things about one’s partner that one did not already know about what he/she would secretly like. I was taking a shower one night with a former lover, and we started getting amorous. All of a sudden she asked me to do something I had never realized she wanted, even though we had made love dozens of times. I had no idea and lost a lot of satisfaction for her and myself that could have been brought into the bedroom months before. Take the time to actually ask in some subtle way, you will be surprised what your partner is capable of.

I say this as one who did not do these things well early on, but have learned by trial and error what works. I am no one’s idea of a Romeo or a super stud, but have learned some things that make all of it better :-) . (Thinking about this has made me froggy, I think I’ll check out the DC nightlife tonight ;-) .

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 17th, 2009
9:13 am

Hey Raqi. I was so busy writing that “book” I just submitted that I just now saw your posts. As usual, you are incredibly perceeptive about what works in the real world, rather than that fantasy land that most of try to live in all the time. Great posts.

Sassy Me....mmmm.....mmmm good :-)

April 17th, 2009
9:15 am

TGIF BLOG FAM!! :)

In my last relationship I lost interest in not only sex but intimacy outside of sex as well because I had other needs that weren’t being met and my S.O. just didn’t seem to care. I mentioned it to him and nothing happened. I felt that it was unfair since I was meeting and satisfying all of his needs and that wasn’t being reciprocated. Eventually though, that came to be only one of the reasons that lead to the demise of our relationship.

Raqi...28 Weeks with Braxton Hicks...

April 17th, 2009
9:21 am

As we grow we often change. And change can sometimes work for us or against us. I think one thing a lot of folks fail to ponder in the beginning stages of relationships, “is this person someone I am willing to grow with?”. Actually asking yourself that leaves room for the unforeseen changes. We tend to grow in and out of habits and interest. My husband was not jumping planes before we got married. Now he is. It was an unexpected change for me, however not a change so drastic that I can’t live with it. That is just one simple example. There are other things that others experience that has made relationships better or made them crumble.

The art of compromise is a great attribute to have. We often get with individuals that we share common interest with, never expecting those interest to change. What happens when they change? Was your entire relationship built around those interest therefore jeopardizing the life of your relationship? Compromise from the start by engaging in the none common interest and then create new communal interest as you grow together.

Okay imma shut up for a minute. I gots to go to the…nevermind.

AmazonRed™

April 17th, 2009
9:21 am

Well, that is one benefit to have never been in a relationship longer than 2 years… I’ve never lost interest in my partner sexually.

Happy Friday everyone!

Raqi...28 Weeks with Braxton Hicks...

April 17th, 2009
9:23 am

because I had other needs that weren’t being met and my S.O. just didn’t seem to care

Sassy Bingo! That is gospel right there.

BRB

For Real

April 17th, 2009
9:24 am

What up Blog Fam!!!

Raqi is on point today but I would change 50% to 100% because you are the only one that can control you. Relationship are 98% effort and 2% emotion. Here is are a couple of quotes for you:

“New” doesn’t equate with “happy,” or there wouldn’t be any antique stores.
-Wilfred Ford

People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed; never throw out anyone.” –Audrey Hepburn

Sassy: “I felt that it was unfair since I was meeting and satisfying all of his needs and that wasn’t being reciprocated.” – How do you know you were satisfying all of his needs? Most people reciprocate being treatd well. Did you ask him?

dw

April 17th, 2009
9:32 am

I’ve been married for ten years and have been with my wife on and off since high school, which adds up to about 19 years. We still enjoy each other sexually, although there have been some “lulls in the action”, most of which I attribute to having children. We have 5 children and after each child was born there was a period where we really didn’t engage in any sexual intimacy. No, not just the 6 week waiting period, I think it was that she didn’t feel sexy, not to mention whoever was the baby at the time was a major C.B., I would try and get rejected, tell her how sexy I thought she was, take her out on romantic dates (when we could find a sitter), but it ultimately was something that she eventually would get over on her own. Now if she’s tired or has something on her mind, I just poke let her for the time being, at some point throughout the night she gets tired of me poking her in the back, and then its on.
One thing that she has been working on though and I must give her credit for it, is I told her that I always feel like the aggressor and it seems like I’m the only one that wants it, so she has been trying to be the aggressor in some instances lately. I think that could be why men lose interest, because I’m not the only one amongst my friends that has felt the same way, as a matter of fact all of us have.

Kym aka Dominque Deveraux

April 17th, 2009
9:32 am

@For Real and some people take being treated well as a sign that they can run roughshod over the other person. One lesson I am teaching my son is you have to teach people how to treat you. If you are dating someone and treating them in the golden rule way(treating them with respect and courtesy and consideration) and they keep giving you their azz to kiss..it is time to ..to quote Randy Travis.”Move on to a better class of losers.

AmazonRed™

April 17th, 2009
9:33 am

not to mention whoever was the baby at the time was a major C.B.,

:lol: I’ll say.

Raqi...28 Weeks with Braxton Hicks...

April 17th, 2009
9:37 am

The problem is that it is easy to fall into a pattern

Randy Yep. Just because I liked it yesterday does not mean I am feeling it today.

My friend Doc as been with her husband for 20 years and she gives me some really good advice. I apply it as needed in my relationship because not everything always applies, but I really appreciate her. She clued me in on the Maintenance sex.

One night I made a move at my husband and he responded saying he really wasn’t in the mood. Well I let him know neither was I, and really I wasn’t, but let’s do it anyway. In the end I need we were both more in the mood than what we thought. Just needed that nudge. And even more important he father got really sick soon after that which resulted in us having many nights apart from each other.

Sassy Me....mmmm.....mmmm good :-)

April 17th, 2009
9:40 am

Sassy: “I felt that it was unfair since I was meeting and satisfying all of his needs and that wasn’t being reciprocated.” – How do you know you were satisfying all of his needs? Most people reciprocate being treatd well. Did you ask him?

For Real yes I did ask him and there were times that I didn’t have to ask…tears of joy over something nice I would do showed his needs were being met…the look on his face when I touched and massaged him…or the way his belly poked out after I fed him….or after he’d had a long day the way he snored after he’d been bathed,fed,burped,laid and put to sleep. And that’s just some of the stuff I did and ALWAYS WITHOUT HAVING TO BE ASKED TO DO SO. He.ll yeah his needs were met…..

Raqi...28 Weeks with Braxton Hicks...

April 17th, 2009
9:48 am

Relationship are 98% effort and 2% emotion

ForReal I agree 110%.

FEE

April 17th, 2009
9:55 am

I Just want to say Hello To everyone… Happy Friday, and since Im a virgin I cant speak on this subject…. Ha!

For Real

April 17th, 2009
9:58 am

DW: Dayumm five kids!!! You should be luck she that she doesn’t greet you with a lead pipe each morning.

Kym: I get your point which why I said most people. And you do know that kids are the most evil creatures on the planet. (Said in my Mr. Smith voice from the Matrix)- They are like a virus.

Sassy: So you are saying he never did anything nice for you, you never had that look on your face when he touched you, he never massaged you, your belly didn’t poke out after buying you dinner, or after you have had a long day you snored after you have been bathed, fed, burped, laid and put to sleep? If your answer is yes you never and I mean never eva experienced those things with him then no he didn’t give a dayum about you and I will be over a 8 to get bathed, fed, burped, laid, put to sleep, wake back up and get laid again, put to sleep, hunch in my sleep, wake back up and get laid again and then put back to sleep.

For Real will be over Ared house in the morning to re-inact the scene from Baby Boy with Ving Rhames – You wants some eggs???

AmazonRed™

April 17th, 2009
10:01 am

For Real will be over Ared house in the morning to re-inact the scene from Baby Boy with Ving Rhames – You wants some eggs???

Yeah boy!!!!

Leggs

April 17th, 2009
10:02 am

Good morning everyone!

What more is there to say that Raqi and RandyT hasn’t already said. I especially agree with the “maintenance” concept. There will be many times when both parties’ sexual barometers aren’t meshing. I have a co-worker who once told me that she never sleeps in underwear only because whenever her husband decides to wake up in the middle of night wanting some action, she doesn’t want him to fool with the panties. She has never, ever said no to him. They’re on the 32nd wedding anniversary. Sorry, got to go and throwup…getting sick!

lurker

April 17th, 2009
10:03 am

I think love is the only thing that lasts forever. when the novelty of a new relationship wears off and it’s no longer sparkly and exciting and brand new, that by no means diminishes true love. Lust, passion, hot and heavy comes before or along with love (IMO) and will eventually subside to some degree, but true love remains. My folks have been married for over half a century heading towards the 6 decade mark and they ain’t been getting down for quite sometime now but they love each other.

I personally have never been in a relationship where sex lost it’s luster but I have been in a relationship where I no longer wanted sex because the other person stopped growing and felt like baggage.

kimmie

April 17th, 2009
10:03 am

Good morning! It’s the weekend baby!

Raqi, you could write a book. Entitle it Love in the Real World.

Distance or just not feeling appreciated were reasons why that loving feeling faded in some of my relationships. Also, I can really relate to what Raqi said about touching your partner every day. True intimacy begins outside of the bedroom. Me & SO have been together a year and a half now, so I would say we’re still at a honeymoon stage, but every day that we see each other we touch in a loving way. He might just touch the top of my hand or I’ll touch his cheek, but it keeps the intimacy going. We always hold hands. If any of this ever changed, I would know something is wrong.

mytw♥cents wonders... too early for SoCo?

April 17th, 2009
10:03 am

DW I’ve been really enjoying your perspective on thangs.

Main LURKER. You know I’m beat cuz I don’t even wanna deal with the crazies today. Please secure the perimeter. Maybe some who are prob in that 10+ time span will share insights tho.

SASSY I’m all the way over here and I see yo hand on yo hip’. When you dip I dip we dip. Don’t bust IV Real’s lip open today, you know his side hustle requires them to be jes right.

It’s kinda sad how so much of life is Common Sense. Sad, because many trade their portion in early or just keep the switch off. If you’ve agreed to share your life, then you’ve agreed to share your body. When y’all are gettin it and he’s like “Whose is it?” Some of these chicks sayin “It’s Yours!” out loud. But they’re silently thinkin “It’s Yours only on Tuesday, 2nd Thursdays and Saturdays (if I didn’t go to the salon.) Yup, this type always has a man.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 17th, 2009
10:06 am

In reading Sassy’s comments (and this is directed to all of the ladies on the blog) I want to remind all of you that men are not psychic, they do not come with the swami mind reading gene. They are kind like labrador retrievers, cute, playful, and dumb as a box of rocks sometimes. Women have a really bad habit of playing some Vulcan mind game where the “if he really cares he will know this, I shouldn’t have to tell him”. My ex-wife expected me to know when to pass the ketchup without her asking, that I shouldn’t have to BE asked…hellz I’m not that smart and I am biased enough to think I am smarter than most men.

My point is send the message LOUDER. Often we are quite willing to accomodate and please (hellz if Mama is happy, everybody is happy). Don’t assume that we are going to figure it out, get the point across so there is no confusion. You women would be amazed at how much time we men spend scratching and azz trying to figure out what you are upset about.

LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 17th, 2009
10:08 am

Good Morning All :)

Underwear are a NO NO UNLESS it is that time.. Other than that, I try not to wear any around my man PERIOD!

Happy Friday :)

LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 17th, 2009
10:08 am

Randy- I agree!

For Real

April 17th, 2009
10:12 am

Dude: Kimmie I love our walks in the park while I hold your hand.

Kimmie: Me too Suga butt.

Dude: But I have been wanting to ask you something.

Kimmie: Anything CLL!!!

Dude: Who is that holding your other hand?

Kimmie: Why that’s my spiritual monkey.

Dude: WTF!!! Spiritu… what’s his name?

Kimmie: Truth!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 17th, 2009
10:12 am

OOps, jsut rerread my last post and meant to say scratching “head and azz” not just azz. Sorry.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 17th, 2009
10:13 am

My typing is really crappy today.

MELO

April 17th, 2009
10:13 am

Sorry, got to go and throwup…getting sick!

Congrats SexxyL,whos the Daddy? :lol:

knoxgrad

April 17th, 2009
10:14 am

Really? On a professional website can journalists not know the difference between the word “lesson” (something that is taught) and “lessen” (a reduction)???????

kimmie

April 17th, 2009
10:15 am

For Real – LOL!!!! Dang man, I just can’t get RID of him!!

dw

April 17th, 2009
10:15 am

@For Real–No need for the lead pipe bruh! We planned all five.

LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 17th, 2009
10:15 am

Melo- Get out of my head! I was thinking the same thing.. LOL

abc

April 17th, 2009
10:16 am

I’m not even going into the whole seratonin and dopamine thing again. Suffice to say there are chemical reasons for loss of physical interest. They call it ‘chemistry’ for a reason.

There are some things that don’t change about chemistry, though. You’ll build up an immunity to that which causes surges in dopamine, but if you like the way they smell without perfume and cologne, that’s a good sign of postive chemistry. Odor is a chemical result.

Intimacy has a lot more to do with non-sexual things than with them. You can have sex with total strangers and not be intimate with them at all. Intimacy is about familiarity, trust, real love apart from romance — but keep the romance going, even if it takes significant effort to do so — an abiding affection and caring that transcends one’s own selfish desires, instead focusing on the welfare of your partner. Commitment to that, and living up to that commitment in spite of human, fleshly ways is what marriage is all about. The rewards are great compared to the personal investment it takes.

Would you discard your mother and father? Would you disown your brother? Discarding your intimate partner is that way. Perhaps they were the wrong person after all, due to their inability to suit your needs for intimacy.

Kym aka Dominque Deveraux

April 17th, 2009
10:18 am

@For Real I don’t think kids are evil I just think they don’t know any better and are not taught better so they don’t do better. I actually had to explain to my son’s teacher that if you want kids to interact in a group, you might want to explain group dynamics to them. Start with telling them there is always going to be one weak group member who is going to let everyone else do the work and get credit for that work. Hell that happens in the adult world.

What I tell my son is that if someone is treating you bad, they eventually will need something from you and when they do explain to them, Sorry, can’t help you I am not really cool with how you treat me and keep it moving. Let them move on to mooch off someone else.

LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 17th, 2009
10:23 am

Kym- Interesting..

Raqi...28 Weeks with Braxton Hicks...

April 17th, 2009
10:24 am

Often people lose interest because they are busy looking over onto someone else’s lawn instead of tending to their own.

Yesterday while we were sitting in the doctor’s office Mase and I were just talking about stuff. One conservation just flowed into another. He told about this one guy that works for him that made a statement about wishing his wife was more like me. Mason said he did not inquire as to what he was referring to, however after first telling him he dares him to come near me LOL, he asked him does he think he has what it takes to maintain the grass that Mase has in his yard. We all know the saying about the grass being greener is not always grass, but sometimes it is in fact grass however not all grass is maintained the same way.
Some grass is harder to grow. It may look beautiful but it takes more effort. Some grass require more sun that others. Some grass cannot survive in certain climates. Some soil is severely infested with bugs and worms and grass cannot grow there. Some soil is acidic. Some too hard. Some too dry.

All that to say, while you looking over at another person’s lawn you don’t know what it takes to get that lawn to grow and last.

SexyCool

April 17th, 2009
10:25 am

The only times that I have not been interested in intimacy with my partner inside of a relationship corresponded with times when we were having other issues. Those issues have always boiled down to three things – money, suspicions of unfaithfulness or health issues.

Maybe the time will come when I am in a relationship and desire will lag for other reasons, but I can’t imagine it.

Three Words Daily – Preparedness. Not luck.

Kym aka Dominque Deveraux

April 17th, 2009
10:26 am

Do you know scientists believe men have close to 15 erections per day? Start the hoochie-coochie process early.Send your partner a few dirty messages throughout the day. That can add a bit of spice.

LIONESS- I Just State The FACTS!!

April 17th, 2009
10:26 am

Raqi- That dude needs to grow up!

MELO

April 17th, 2009
10:26 am

ABC,u flying over the heads of most with that intellectualism!Maybe evething u said is valid but u said nothing about sexuality,esp ur own to fuel debate on the topic at hand.
Do u engage in the do and if so, how does the do taste over time for u and ur lady?

mytw♥cents

April 17th, 2009
10:27 am

Insert Heavy Sigh here. I’m so not a fan of awaiting moderation. Oh well, may take hours with Blanca’s busy schedule. Lemme see about the moniker theory…

Hunter

April 17th, 2009
10:31 am

Women start making it a commodity. Man goes to a football game — no sex. You have a guy’s night — no sex. You wash the dishes — sex. It’s now a pat on the head or taken away to punish us.

And heaven forbid a man says no — then it’s a statement about the relationship. Ladies — we have bad days at the office, we have other things on our minds and we don’t always want it either. Especially when you act like you’re doing us a huge favor.

Tbe worst mistake you make is cutting us off because we find out we can live without it and you loose all your power.

James D.P.

April 17th, 2009
10:31 am

Research b-PEA.
Phenylethylamine