I have a theory about relationships: when contemplating break-ups, most people naturally consider their other options before ending something completely. In other words, they look for their next lily pad.
I’m not saying that’s a bad thing, nor can we necessarily control thinking about it. In fact, it might even be helpful to remind oneself there are other viable fish in the sea.
In my view, it becomes a problem if we stay in an unhealthy or unsuccessful relationship just because no other love prospect is in sight. The decision to end a relationship shouldn’t be about leaving for something better or worse; it comes down to whether you think said relationship has the stuff of forever. But how many people do you know will stay in a crappy or “OK” relationship because they have no better offers?
Have you ever found yourself looking for a lily pad when deciding to end a relationship? Are you more comfortable leaving someone behind if there’s someone else in the present? Are you someone who leaps to another lily pad, or someone who isn’t afraid to get out there and swim?