In all the hoopla and media attention of Steve Harvey’s book, Act Like a Woman, Think Like a Man, few people have mentioned the fact that he had a little help. Denene Millner, (who I believe lives in Metro Atlanta) worked closed with Harvey.
I mention this fact because I think it is a great example of when men and women work together to make something successful. This is what seems to get glazed over in a lot relationship books. Men and women have their own ways of love, but when we work together, great things can happen.
In the book, Mr. Harvey summed up what men want into three things: support, loyalty, and “The Cookie.” This is all well and good because I don’t know ANY woman that would turn that down.
I find it interesting though, that in the chapter speaking about how men want loyalty, Harvey (and Millner) talk about infidelity: “You got about a good month at best without it (sex) and he’s going to get it from somewhere else”. Wow, so loyalty only applies to fidelity for 30 days or less!?
I know Harvey & Millner don’t speak for all men and women, but I would like to know how important loyalty is to you. Is it one of the 3 basic “wants” from your partner? How does loyalty and support come in to play when it comes to being faithful?
I think that men and women both want loyalty, but we obviously frame it differently. How do you show loyalty in dating and relationships? Is it hard? Do you think we are asking for things in a partner that we aren’t able to fully give to them?
For those who are in relationships, is it true that after 30 days of no intimacy (or communication about it) your relationship slips into a high risk of infidelity?