Confession: I managed to get hooked on one of VH1’s reality shows! The show, Tough Love, features a male giving tough love and dating advice to women. I asked one of the cast members, Abiola, to answer a few questions. Check it out!
On the show, Tough Love, your coach Steve seems to give it straight, no chaser! Were you expecting it to be as brutal as it was?
First of all, Wise Diva, I love the name of your blog. Misadventures in Dating is the perfect title for my love life up to now! I thought that as a woman who writes about love, dating, sex and empowerment, Tough Love would be a fabulous social experiment and it ended up being so much more. VH1’s Tough Love was definitely tough love! The show is a love boot camp.
The central question of Tough Love was “These women are smart, attractive, successful, so why are they single?” The response of the show has been huge. Ratings have been through the roof because so many women are trying to figure out their own relationship dilemmas. If you can watch, be entertained and maybe relate to one of us and see your own missteps, that’s great.
No matter what, somebody will find something to dislike about you. My motto is “might as well be your own crazy, sexy, quirky, weird self and give the haters something to talk about!” One of the good results of the show is I have a thicker skin. I can laugh at myself more.
Do you think that more women should seek out advice/feedback from guys and get some tough love?
Like you and most women I am an expert on how women think. Men don’t understand us more than we understand them. The way to learn about each other is to communicate. We should never ever change ourselves solely based on male feedback. But we can all stand to learn from each other.
Are you happy you did the show?
Absolutely, and I would do it again tomorrow. The only frustration is that 7 days become 42 TV minutes so you only hear partial conversations but that’s the nature of the beast. I am proud of the show. Drew Barrymore and High Noon Entertainment have created something interesting and entertaining.
The part I enjoy the most about the show is the uncensored feedback the men give the women. It underlines the idea that when it comes to dating and mating, we misread each other..a lot. How can we improve on this though?
Would you ever consider going on a reality dating show? Have you seen the show Tough Love? What are your thoughts about it?