I’m no relationship expert but I have made a disaster out of enough relationships to know a little about what not to do. I feel pretty qualified to say this: never, ever, EVER give a guy an ultimatum. It’s the quickest way to torpedo your future with him – unless, of course that’s your cowardly way of ending things.
I have seen/heard just about every dating/relationship ultimatum you could name: Commitment phobe ultimatum (Marry me or I will split), the Porn Ultimatum (Don’t even think of touching me until your stash is gone), even the Pet Ultimatum! She actually wanted him to choose her over “man’s best friend”.
Ultimatums are like emotional traps set to back a person into a corner. You are unfairly forcing them to make a decision. No good can come from it. When it backfires, you try to be the victim when you are actually the opposite. At least that has been my experience.
Have ultimatums ever worked for you? Why do women seem to try this approach so much?
Guys, have you ever had a woman give you an ultimatum? How did you respond? Have you said to a woman “do this or else” before?
Ladies, have you ever been given an ultimatum? What was it and what did you do?
I think they can be avoided. It just takes a little bit of negotiating skills, a pinch of patience, and most of all compromise. What are other ways that you think ultimatum disasters can be avoided?