At a recent dinner with friends, a dating dilemma became the hot topic of the table. Here goes: so my friend knows a 30-year-old smart, attractive and fun woman who is still a virgin. It’s not that she necessarily has a strong religious conviction and decided to wait until marriage, but for reasons to which I’m not privy, she’s waiting for the right guy.
Said woman, let’s call her Kelly, thinks she’s found him. She’s been seeing Mark for about six months very casually. They hang out with mutual friends and play sports together, and while they’ve fooled around, they still haven’t “gone for it.” The thing is, he doesn’t want to. He’s told mutual friends that he doesn’t want to be responsible for being her first, because he believes she’ll then want to be serious and he’s just not feeling it.
Some guys at dinner the other night offered that maybe he’d feel too much pressure to perform and that’s why he hasn’t gone for it, but frankly, I’d think there would be less pressure as Kelly (ahem) wouldn’t know any better.
I’d say he’s just not that into her, but if that’s true, why does he keep hanging out with her? Apparently girlfriend has thrown herself at him and made it clear she wants to have sex, but he still refused. (And yes, I’ve already asked: he’s not gay.)
MIA members – why do you think a man wouldn’t take a shot with this girl? It seems he obviously likes her, right? Do you believe it would be too much performance pressure or simply that he might feel too responsible for her emotions? In my opinion, Mark probably has something happening on the side, lest he go crazy!
What would you do? (Keep it clean!)