Occasionally I’ll get a text or phone call from people in my past, not necessarily in any romantic sense as much as to say hello and catch up. For the most part, I’m not friends with Exes. For reasons I’m still exploring, I find it strange that former lovers can later just hang out or even go on double dates.
However, because I’ve moved around so much, I’ve grown to see it’s really not that big of a deal, especially as I rarely see my Exes and they’re not a regular part of my life.
I never hide to my Exes whether I’m seeing someone at the time, but I generally don’t feel I need to report to my boyfriend whether I talked to an Ex, either. In my mind, those rare conversations are harmless and it’s not as if we reminisce on our past. I wouldn’t be so cavalier, of course, if those discussions became a regular or intimate thing, or if they tugged on any heart string.
What’s your stance when it comes to keeping in touch with former flames? Would you tell your partner if you spoke to an Ex or if a good friend is in fact a former lover? And would you care if your man or woman spoke to partners from their past?