Variety is the Spice
I bet we all find ourselves in ruts: career, dating, relationship, even sexual ruts. You get used to doing the same old thing and you suddenly realize how dull and uninspiring it becomes. You know what the say, though. Variety is the spice of life!
So what do you do to get out of your ruts? How do you shake things up?
I like to get a change in scenery. A quick trip somewhere out of town. Or perhaps book a room in a fabulous hotel in the city, preferably a sexy one.
Relationships can become mundane if you don’t work at keeping it interesting. I think that both partners should be able to come up with ways to keep things popping. What is the best way to spice up your relationship? What if you just started dating? Do you keep things interesting and spicy to prevent the transition to “comfortable” stage of exclusive dating?
What have you done in the past that really made things spicy?
Happy Friday!
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fee
March 13th, 2009
11:11 am
NYCUTIE< I feel you on when you are into somebody, and taking it to the max… I have love overload.. which sometimes, scares them…mmmmmm.(fee scratchin her head… and thinkin… maybe I need another approach) LOL
Beautiful… I never starts nothin up in this joint.. people carry knives too much up in hear… I learned day one when Truth took a bite out of me… My2 gave me a bullet proof vest, and I dont share…. the only thing I will start in here is Prayer… Fee stays true to her game and beliefs… You on the other hand Start it, step in it, and then look for someone to wipe it on… hehehehe…
Leggs
March 13th, 2009
11:11 am
OMG, I definitely “thought” you up this morning WillieD. Was in our mailroom talking to someone from UPS and immediately thought of you. And, here you are! How are you doing?
Speaking about jobs. I work for a very, very difficult attorney. Been w/him for 13 years. Everyone should have received their reviews by the 2nd week in February. I always get mine on 3/15, along with performance pay breakdown this morning. That’s why I said I was in a good mood. Review was much, much better than I expected and I got a pay raise and not a pink slip. I’m good!
Rell, I definitely could have used a few pieces of that fish last night since I got in too late to eat. Sounds delicious!
Beautiful
March 13th, 2009
11:13 am
MQEW
i was totally shocked when i got the mail yesterday. they can rely on me to do stuff and they loves them some Angie! when they call, i’m there!
FEE
thanks, but no thanks for the prayer ma, this is a blog. (eyeroll)
DreamsMaterialize
March 13th, 2009
11:13 am
NYCUTIE
I have friends BUT I can’t say they are anything like me
Funny that’s what every woman seems to say when you ask her about her friends. wassup wit that?
mytwo
I’m not tryna get you in any trouble in blogland. It’s always fun to see if there’s a real difference between how you view yourself and how other people view you. Cmon now, tell us wassup.
NYCUTIE
March 13th, 2009
11:15 am
Dreams- Let me clarify.. I have friends but I am NOT sure if they play with dycks @ J. Alexanders while awaiting their appetizers..
Rell - Law 36
March 13th, 2009
11:15 am
@DM…I was thinking the same thing…why she backpeddle?
@leggs…yea i have alot of it….
@beautiful…yo…its friday…chilllllllllllllllllllllll..we see you
@fee..since she dont want her prayer…send one up for me
Beautiful
March 13th, 2009
11:18 am
FEE
name one time/day where i called someone out? thought so. you still wet behind the blog ears gurl, slow down.
going for a run! does exercising make anyone else horny as a horn dog?
fee
March 13th, 2009
11:18 am
Beauty.. I know this is Blogsville. but not everyone is allergic to prayer.. (fee coughing).. Lord Bless Beautiful…
Dreams.. its true, cuz some chics are as shall’ as they come.. cant trust em… friends are a commodity among women..
Kym
March 13th, 2009
11:20 am
@Fee honey ignore the looney in the room. She is suffering from some kind of personality disorder that without treatment leads– “to foot in mouth followed by foot to azz.”
Like they say consider the source.
i'm swiss
March 13th, 2009
11:20 am
NYCutie — Well, now I tried to post a link to some pics to dispute the notion that Serena’s booty is sweaty all the time, but either the blog censors are on patrol, or the new blog eats booty.
Staceye — Well, maybe not quite 24 hours a day, but I try. Hey, right now I’m working with the best booty I’ve ever had in my life, so I’m d@mn well gonna enjoy it as much as possible while the Matterhorn is still functioning at peak performance.
Kym — Everlast, huh? Well, not exactly… Though I do have 1 buddy who could kinda look similar if he grew a goatee. But you know us whiteboys all look alike…
fee
March 13th, 2009
11:21 am
Rell.. It is already done, the way is already made, and the storm is over… Amen.
Beauty.. stick with Amazon… I cant recall you calling anyone out, not that I pay much attention, but flames seems to follow you… I love you beatiful…
DreamsMaterialize
March 13th, 2009
11:22 am
NYCUTIE
LMAO I got u. Well if you happen to find out that they do, hook me up!
Rell
Chicks always say stuff like that when you ask about their friends. “You won’t like my friends”, “I wouldn’t even do that to you by hooking you up with my friends”, “My friends ain’t on your level”, “You don’t wanna meet my friends”. I’m like sh_t don’t make my decision for me. Let me decide if I’m gonna vibe with somebody.
M'Karyl
March 13th, 2009
11:22 am
@Kym
Well, now in the new anatomy…the foot appendage connected to the mouth opening… hihihi
Leggs
March 13th, 2009
11:23 am
Don’t mean to ruffle any feathers here, but I think all women should play with their man’s “stuff” while out at dinner at some point! To go a step further, I see nothing wrong w/either party stroking the other or both at the same time while at the dinner both. Of course, discretion is the word for the evening. It can be tastefully done. One of the thrills is trying to keep a straight face!
fee
March 13th, 2009
11:25 am
Wassup Kym, I know.. I wore vaseline on my back today… silliness is sliding off real easy.. plus I got a good work at church on last night… anything you cannot change, plead the blood…
Tmac
March 13th, 2009
11:26 am
Speakin of Variety…never dated a black girl.
Cemeeli
March 13th, 2009
11:26 am
Tazz I know. But sometimes acctng ppl are on some other stuff like having fun! See? You know I’m not about to put NO CPAs down.
I’m checking out the SB Festival. You need an extra party pal to go?
fee
March 13th, 2009
11:26 am
@Leggs… shoot doing that, I wouldnt be able to keep a straight face, a closed mouth, or a quiet hummmmmmmmmmmmmmm… Lawd have mercy..
Sassy Me
March 13th, 2009
11:28 am
what kind of science are you into? I remeber putting in 16-18 hours in the lab trying to get some results. Funny, it never diminished my libido though. haha actually had a couple late night rendevous in the lab. lol
DREAMA I’m currently a microbiologist working with National VZV lab…right now I’m working with VZV(chicken pox/shingles) and HSV(herpes 1 and 2)…what we do is test specimens sent to us from around the country for the presence/absence of these particular viruses as well as some other projects with labs in Uganda and Mexico. I’ve always liked science and math so I’m in hog heaven. There’s a sense of pride I feel working in/with an organization that has such global status.
fee
March 13th, 2009
11:28 am
Swiss. I was reading your comment about serena while drinking my water, needless to say water is on my keyboard… Ya’ll silly, but she do look like its a funky sweat shop for real….
NYCUTIE
March 13th, 2009
11:29 am
I am SOOOO not a hater and any type of friend basher.. Never a salt thrower on anyone! Especially not my friends! If I call them my friend, then I fully respect them as a person! I don’t throw that word “friend” around lightly.. Real Talk!
Cemeeli
March 13th, 2009
11:31 am
Hey WillieDynamite. Sup?
NYCUTIE
March 13th, 2009
11:31 am
Tmac- Are you Black?
Cumfortable-Say My Name
March 13th, 2009
11:31 am
It has gotten real catty in this blog lately. WTH is going on?
Leggs
March 13th, 2009
11:31 am
Tmac Really? Are you black. I don’t know why it is but when I read you, you come across so timid. If you had to analyze yourself, would you say you have a lot of “backbone” (meaning hudztpah, nerve, risk taking genes (sp?) or just a little?
Oh yes you can fee It’s not easy, but it’s fun trying.
Cemeeli
March 13th, 2009
11:32 am
Fee – Bleed the blood too.& ” Plead” that the righteous be forsaken.
Rell - Law 36
March 13th, 2009
11:34 am
@dm…when women say all that it means she wants all the attention…thats all it means…trick is to withdraw yourself from the situation and get at her friends with out her knowledge..then she will come correct…this how you get out the friend zone…ignore your target…get with her friends and she will come back around looking for that attention
example
when i got out the military…i went to this local college party back in va…i meet this really attractive girl…so me being the lil simp i was back then i stuck on the full court press…but she applied the brakes quickly…she was in a situation with a football player…she was just looking friends…i was nice she liked me but not like that…so this went on for weeks..until fate would have it i would meet my first love on the same campus not even a month of getting the thanks but no thanks treatment from women a…..women b love the full court press…loved my wordly view etc…we hit off…so during this time…i did the hiesman on dat other chick…so one day she says come have lunch with me we have to talk…so i am like cool…we meet and she starts in with i miss you and the attention you gave me…i get jealous when i see you around campus with women b…i meet you first…i dont like her..she does not deserve you…she is not on your level…sound familiar…lol…so here is what i did without knowing it…i applied law 36 and i created a triangle…both very powerful….couple days after this…she women a finally came on in and gave me what i wanted…i got the draws dawg(said like tommy from martin)….loll…all the while still dating women b…whick lead to a woman c coming on the scene..but thats not part of this story…hope this helps!!
NYCUTIE
March 13th, 2009
11:36 am
Cumfort- Ignore it
Willie Dynamite
March 13th, 2009
11:36 am
Leggs-
All is well on this end. Glad to see you and lil leggs are hanging in there.
Staceye AKA Black Mamba
March 13th, 2009
11:37 am
FEE…Your church has excercise programs too? I think that is great. Church folks can see that fitness ain’t a sin!
Girl I thought of my mami when you said plead the blood! That woman will plead for everybody and their great granny. Somebody did you wrong…she pleads. Somebody got it out for me….she pleads. If somebody ticks her off…she pleads for God to hold her back from losing her religion!
Rell - Law 36
March 13th, 2009
11:38 am
Speakin of Variety…never dated a black girl
-i see we have a troll amoung us
dude even in my situation i may say that like i would never….but the reality is that i will and thats all i want really want
Tmac
March 13th, 2009
11:39 am
I am black of African immigrant family….its hard these days to describe myself
african american ? black ? african and american ?
THE MELO
March 13th, 2009
11:39 am
One of the thrills is trying to keep a straight face!
u right about that..keeping a str8 face while the man’s fore- finger is deep inside ur pudsy and ur mouth is choke with macaroni& cheese,thats bound to arouse the waiter’s suspicions and attn, yes maam,can i help you?,instead of responding to him,u raising ur head but ur eyes are closed coz u busy letting the joys downstairs get deep inside and down ur spine.Sooner or later the waiter gets it and is walking away,smiling that the Miss on table no# 5 is kinda having some unique,non-dining fun!
Willie Dynamite
March 13th, 2009
11:41 am
Similac-
wassup Ms.Lady. Been reading ya lately. Sounding all Grown and wise. Lil C keeping you busy as expected. And what’s this bout you being off the market. got booked huh. Gotta be a good dude cause I know you aint bout that foolishness.
Rell - Law 36
March 13th, 2009
11:43 am
Contempt is the prerogative of the king. Where his eye turn, what he decides to see, is what has reality; what he ignores and turns his back on is as good as dead.
JtJ
March 13th, 2009
11:43 am
@ Leggs……I have done that B4!!!! He was begging me to stop before the water came…..he could only ask for some water….cause he was totally caught off guard. We have this things were we look at each other seductively and I bite my bottom lip in anticipation……let’s just say we be swerving all over 85 North trying to get home….lol….
Once after dinner at Pappadeaux in Alpharetta..the waiter asked what we would like dessert…I said yes..” I’ll take him ( my man) with chocolate sauce and whipped cream …the waiter was like “awwhh shucks now!!”". JJ faced turned red and he said let’s go now!
Tmac
March 13th, 2009
11:43 am
Rell….me aint a troll, just stating facts
I just never feel confortable with black girls….from cultural stand point. Whats funny is I found other races more confy than african americans. View of African american girls have to myself like blacks and Africans in general is very not attractive either.
Le Siren
March 13th, 2009
11:44 am
Tmac, you coming on here trying to start some shyt! You know that as a black man, you can’t just announce to everyone that you’ve never dated a black woman! I sense some self-hating going on…
fee
March 13th, 2009
11:45 am
Katty….mmmmmmm??? you think so comfortable… i just think people say what they want no pun intended.. and its not a matter of the heart… i hope no one is here is silly like that to take this blog to geart even though some good convos, pov’s, and advice can come out of here,,,
NyCutie… exactly know your friends.. not everyone that come in your life is a true friend… true friends are like Fam in my book… but 2 me that word is tossed loosely now a days.
Leggs
March 13th, 2009
11:48 am
@Jtj. YOU GOT IT. Surprised you made it home, should have just pulled to the side of the road, rode hard and quick and continue your travels
! Leave it alone, MELO!!!!!
NYCUTIE
March 13th, 2009
11:49 am
Leggs & JtJ- That is what the PHUCK I am talking about!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Cemeeli
March 13th, 2009
11:49 am
Hahahahaaaaa….WillieD u know me man! Err thang is errthang. Man, where da heck you been? Capers?
How’s the fam?
fee
March 13th, 2009
11:49 am
Tmac,, I know you just didnt spill those beans like that.. so you down with that black girl stereo type… Awe heck.. Im bi-racial but dont spit those words… Lawd… Why.. you just havent met the right Black woman…
Rell - Law 36
March 13th, 2009
11:49 am
TMAC..are you african…like in shaka zulu african..if so i understand..the world view on black women and black men is not all good….specially amougst africans..i was called a aggin in somalia when i was ova there to help…
Staceye AKA Black Mamba
March 13th, 2009
11:50 am
TMAC…Melo is African. Actually, TMAC you are what I consider a REAL African American. You are American born but with African Parentage. Al these so-called “PC” terms drive me nuts. I consider myself Black because nobody as far back as my great great grandparents were from Africa. They were from other countries. Although I am sure they have lineage back to Africa. (Someone mentioned Ethopia & Somalia based on my features…though I am not sure). But when learning of my family history, I stopped at them because it was enough to know my lineage from, DR & PR, Jamaica, Turkey, Seminole Indian, & White. I think if I learn anymore I will confuse myself!
kimmie
March 13th, 2009
11:51 am
About Tmac – Yall must have missed it yesterday, because when given the age range of folks on this blog, he said he was too young! He’s just on here having some fun, probably not even legal yet!
TMAC – It appears you’re not grown, open-minded and intelligent enough to be on this blog. We also don’t take kindly to racist, ignorant remarks. Go find somewhere else to play, okay?!!!
I try to keep out of mess most of the time, but dang!!
NYCUTIE
March 13th, 2009
11:51 am
Tmac- Nothing wrong with that because I have NEVER dated an African..
Sassy Me
March 13th, 2009
11:52 am
Tmac What’s the turn off about?…..you know you my eyes were the size of silver dollars when I read your post ’bout never tasting the chocolate goodness
Speaking on that, what IS your favorite flava?
Willie Dynamite
March 13th, 2009
11:52 am
Tmac-
lemme ask you this, Whats your experience level? I mean if black women make you uncomfortable is it a one and done type thing or you just had numerous bad experiences? Have you maybe just hit a few homeruns with different races and just never really tried the variety or what? expound if you will.
Leggs
March 13th, 2009
11:53 am
:kiss: Want to see what this looks like???