Is baby a deal-breaker?
Baby as in an infant… swaddling clothes, drooling mouth, night-time cries? It’s one thing to meet a potential love interest who has children from a previous relationship or marriage, but if the possible SO has a crib in his/her bedroom and car seat in the vehicle, would you think to yourself: maybe it’s too soon?
I ask this as a friend of mine was set up on a blind date with a nice, successful man. He is bright, a great conversationalist and seemingly sweet, but he also has a daughter just a couple months old. My friend was surprised he’d already be on the dating scene and wondered just how things were left off with the baby’s mother. My friend’s fear? That he has too much going on in his life and heart to even think about bringing another woman in the picture.
Have you ever dated someone who had a bambino tucked under her arm? Or a fellow whose Ex just gave birth? Or have you been that new single parent looking for love within months of your child’s birth? How did it impact your relationships?
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Rell - ???/
March 6th, 2009
10:00 am
Her: I’m not taking to that #*^hole!!
-and let the games begin!!!!!..this right here is what i am talking about..he’s an asshole so he gets let off the hook?!?!?!?!
I’m resigned to lower my standard and settle for a woman with a kid.
-NO DONT DO IT…i once had a rule..no kids..i broke it for wifey and look where that got me…player there are a TON of women out here without kids….find em….i am dusting off that rule…i am not entering into a relationsip with a single mother again!!!!!!….hell that includes sex as well…i am ova being step dady while some “azz hole” can leave free and clear…
Sassy Me
March 6th, 2009
10:00 am
Amen! I’m almost 30 and it been awhile since seriously dated a female w/o at least one kid.
ATLTWEN Let me say the when I meet a man and they ask me my age the next question is ALWAYS “how many kids you got?”….and when I say “none” they’re jaws drop to the floor and then they proceed to tell me how “rare” a find I am. Don’t lower your standards cat daddy, just broaden your horizons and places you look when it comes to women. If you’re together then the right woman will come.
NY2GA, Inc.
March 6th, 2009
10:01 am
That’s right AmazonRed. “Shequavious”.
You know how some of us give children names that will make it difficult for them to get a j-o-b these days. Shaking my head.
I would put one of those emoticons here (but I don’t know how to do it). LOL.
THE MELO
March 6th, 2009
10:01 am
Even the married ones have no
I was going to sing high praise,but if the married ones dont have kids either,then we have a bigger problem here.A curse??,deliberate conspiracy by the govt to deny u childern,the water u drank in ur childhood?? What?
Im sure atltwen wants a fam,aint that right boy.The batting average on this crew is what….nada!
Kym
March 6th, 2009
10:02 am
Good Morning All,
As a single parent of one of course I wouldnt have a problem dating someone with a child..I have one. However, I can understand the frustration of those without children having to date those with children. So to those I say yeah Push on! Heck I have to explain sometimes to my single childless friends that as a parent there are things I can’t do that they can. Weekdays there is homework. Weekends are better but we have to have a family day at some point. Some folks don’t see that. The key is to know your limits and what you can handle if someone with a kid is going to be too much for you. Don’t do it.
Staceye AKA Black Mamba
March 6th, 2009
10:02 am
Well as I have often stated…I will NOT date a guy seriously if he has kids. I do not want to deal with kids or the mama thinking I want her kids! Obviously I do not have kids for a reason….and it is not that my uterus is not functional….I just do not want the responsibility. I value my life, freedom, money, etc. God bless those that are good parents. It takes a certain level of dedication and desire to raise them correctly. I do not have patience nor the desire for a job that you do not get paid for….no vacation or sicks days…no 401K, etc! Now what if this man and I decide to get married….that is money coming from our household going to another for child support. Not to mention if the guy is a good father he woudl want that kid to go on trips with us. I am not the one to have my vacations or outings be planned around kids. No thanks.
ARED…I thought I about being like your friend because if they have them then they wouldn’t want any from me. I get to save my body and my sanity. LOL But then brings in the kiddie situation. Can’t win for losing!
mytw♥cents
March 6th, 2009
10:03 am
In my 30s, I’m not sure how realistic it is to expect men to be childless. Even when they’re coming at you 5 yrs younger. But what’s concerning is when I ask how long since y’all broke up. And am told we didn’t- we were never together.(Insert raised brow here.) <– Do you men get that response a lot? I’m in the corner with those who question skintimacy in a relationship when ya NOT planning on poppin one out, so with casual lovers? Makes me think you’ll point n shoot ya lil naked thingy at any target. I’m impressed that you all are still on topic. I was thinkin 8:47 a.m. at the maximum.
Main LURKER I hope you’ve already made your selections for the crazy @zz questions/comments portion of the day from your lurkin cousins. In honor of Daylight Savings time, I think we need at least 3. I’m depending on you…
DREAMS What are you doing this weekend to celebrate. No need to take your temperature, I can tell you got Spring Fever from here. We’re still on topic, tho so tell us later.
SlimOne
March 6th, 2009
10:04 am
Morning yallz.
I’m definitely not into dating a man with a newborn. There is just too much going at that time, plus you never know what will come of him and the childs mother. This is crunch time and the baby is definitely going to have major needs…so baby mama will be more involved with the man that if the child was older and less needy.
Politically In-Correct
March 6th, 2009
10:05 am
I told my new girlfriend that my old girlfriend would be happy to babysit since she’s not dating anyone and staying home a lot more anyways. For some reason, she didn’t like that idea. Now they’re both staying home a lot more.
QueenMother
March 6th, 2009
10:11 am
I have a 2 year old and the father and I ended our relationship when she was 6 months. He was ready to start dating several months later but it took me some time. Though I wanted a relationship at times, the reality was that I had too much on my plate to date anyone until recently and now she’s almost 3 yrs. I work full-time and am a mommy first. I had my child when I was in my late 30s so I had plenty of time for dating previous to baby. It is something I didn’t miss too much. I am now seeing someone but it is more casual and I’m more careful about how I approach relationships. I would like to spend some real time getting to know someone and not jump into anything. Also, I tend to prefer to date men who have children too but the scheduling of when you can actually get together can be a major issue. Between your work, his work, your child, his child/children! Luckily I have a good relationship with my little girl’s dad and he loves spending time with her, which allows me time to get out and date some.
SlimOne
March 6th, 2009
10:13 am
Speaking of crazy names…I was watching Divorce Court earlier this week. Why was was the lady’s name COMONET?!!! WTF! LMAO! I might have to slap my mama for that one if it were me.
eugenia
March 6th, 2009
10:13 am
Here’s another angle, some women are infertile and would be excited to meet a responsible man with a young family, since they can’t have babies of their own. Yes it’d be complicated but the prospective woman could have 2 dreams met at once – a great fellow, and a family. I’m a 34 yr old infertile, married woman, but if I found myself single again I’d search out a man with kids.
AmazonRed
March 6th, 2009
10:14 am
Obviously I do not have kids for a reason….and it is not that my uterus is not functional….I just do not want the responsibility. I value my life, freedom, money, etc.
Staceye, I feel the same way. I had a good talk with one of my friends who is married with kids. She was telling me she envied how I just picked up and went to Paris on a whim. I didn’t have to clear it with anyone to do it. I sometimes wake up on Saturday mornings and just lay there thinking no one is expecting me to get up and cook them breakfast or drive them somewhere.
But ultimately, I’m going to want a husband and maybe some kids (if you asked me today I’d say I’m staying childless). I’ll appreciate the reward that life brings me as well. Even still, I’m enjoying the single moments too. All walks of life have their benefits!
Mr. Can't Do Right
March 6th, 2009
10:15 am
Being a single dad is hard. I can have the best conversation with a woman. We can go out to the finest restaurants. As soon as she hears that I have kids she is OUT!!!! My kids are young but I don’t have the plague!! I could very easily hide the kids and go for the score but why? I thought women wanted a guy to be truthful. Or is this a,” YOU CAN’T HANDLE THE TRUTH” situation? Maybe deep down inside these women are really girls playing dress up. I certainly have not mastered this trick at all.
THE MELO
March 6th, 2009
10:16 am
My sperms cure infertility!
Blow Me
March 6th, 2009
10:18 am
Rell That is definitely a rarity rather you want to see it or not. A man over 30 with no kids is a damn GEM!
Яaqi ☼™
March 6th, 2009
10:18 am
Eugenia have you all ever considered adoption?
AmazonRed
March 6th, 2009
10:19 am
Mr. Can’t Do Right, why don’t you start dating woman with kids?
But yeah, I tend to run. Women who have made it to their 30s without kids are selfish. Sometimes we don’t want to deal with the responsibilities of an instant family, especially since a woman is expected to be a mother when children are present in the household.
I’ve lived my life thinking I’d have time to prepare for kids once I married. Meeting a guy with kids already takes that couple time away. It is what it is.
i'm swiss
March 6th, 2009
10:19 am
“In the majority of situations when a couple has a child, the woman will put the man on the back burner anyway…”
Slightly off topic, but on a related note: How accurate is this ^^ statement? I’ve heard this quite a bit from guys who’ve had kids. Ladies, I’m curious to hear your take on it. Do you think you tend to put more priority on the child rather than your relationship with the father? I understand that the child’s best interest are of utmost importance, but isn’t preserving a healthy relationship between the parents the best thing you could do for a child? This is one of the main reasons I’m wary of having kids…
Rell - ???/
March 6th, 2009
10:20 am
QUESTION FOR SINGLE MOMS
why let baby daddy off the hook because you dont get along with him or he is an azz hole..but the guy stepping in gets the most sh it from you on just regular stuff on who is watching or caring for the kid???..someone pls answer that for me
As soon as she hears that I have kids she is OUT!!!! My kids are young but I don’t have the plague!!
if you are looking for a wife/mother then i say keep trying someone going to buy into your program..but if you just want some wet wet then i say the kids have no place in just “dating”….let them know from jump what you want and let them decide
Dan
March 6th, 2009
10:20 am
I actually had a lady in church tell me that I was “weird” for being 30 with no kids. I told her that I wasn’t married yet either so, for me one without the other, while possible, is not my intended outcome.
For some reason, she found that strange.
In dating, you hear a lot from the ladies about the dudes “in jail, with kids, no education, or on the ‘DL’”; yet, as a single man with no children and aspirations of achievement, I’m the oddity…..
Blow Me
March 6th, 2009
10:22 am
Staceye & Ared Who the hell are yall dating and where the hell do you find an ABUNDANCE of men over 30 with NO damn kids? Where they do that at? Really its’ almost like finding a needle in hay stack. lol!
Atltwen
March 6th, 2009
10:24 am
Im sure atltwen wants a fam,aint that right boy – Melo
You know it! I can’t a wait to have a little one! I love kids. My first job was at a daycare.
On Sunday, I went to my best female friends’ house to play with her two kids in the snow. I was more excited than they were – I built a miniature snowperson and all.
NYCUTIE
March 6th, 2009
10:24 am
I AM NOT WITH DUDES WITH KIDS NO MATTER WHAT!!! I would be settling IF I was ok with dating someone who had a child and I don’t.. Not with settling NO MATTER WHAT YOUR NATIONALITY IS
Politically In-Correct
March 6th, 2009
10:26 am
“Snowperson”? Are you serious? Get real.
Tazzee
March 6th, 2009
10:27 am
Morning Folks!
AmRed I’m like you, my crew is basically childless. My godson was born almost 3 years ago and we call him ‘our’ baby. But there are 5 of us without children and the one with. All over 35.
I also get the ‘how many kids do you have’ question on a regular basis. I think I mentioned the guy that said ‘I can’t believe ain’t nobody done pumped no babies up in you yet’ – yep, that’s what he said,
I have no desire to date a man with a newborn. Like someone said earlier – I’d wonder if it was over with the mother. Although I have had some guys tell me that they were never together like 2 pennies mentioned.
I do prefer that a man have a child so that he won’t want one from me. Preferably age 13 and older I think that’s the legal age when you can leave them in the house alone
PoppaG I caught your comment yesterday. I would LOVE to have Peppers on the other side of Abraham. When I first heard he wanted out of Carolina I was hoping we’d get him. Shoot I was trying to find him at the Pro Bowl to tell him I wanted him in Atlanta…
Blow Me
March 6th, 2009
10:27 am
Rell **why let baby daddy off the hook because you dont get along with him or he is an azz hole..but the guy stepping in gets the most sh it from you on just regular stuff on who is watching or caring for the kid???..someone pls answer that for me**
That is no offense is a ungrateful, self centered, got life fugged up BEEYATCH! I applaud and take my hat off to someone that is stepping up to the plate and being the father to a fatherless son. The is very admirable. So for some woman to not take notice or to be ungrateful for that…is a really a major character flaw on that woman. You definitely need to step off of that!!
Sassy Me
March 6th, 2009
10:27 am
Sometimes we don’t want to deal with the responsibilities of an instant family, especially since a woman is expected to be a mother when children are present in the household./em>
Okaaay!? Just like my granny says “when you eat the whole house done ate and when you go to bed the whole house in bed” and I can live with that. I love waking up and laying there not hearing jack except the birds outside my window.
Atltwen
March 6th, 2009
10:28 am
Rell, man. I rep’d you yesterday and you never came back to the blog to have ya boys back on whole comdom thing yesterday.
AmazonRed
March 6th, 2009
10:29 am
Who the hell are yall dating and where the hell do you find an ABUNDANCE of men over 30 with NO damn kids? Where they do that at? Really its’ almost like finding a needle in hay stack. lol!
Blow, I really couldn’t tell you where to find them. But shucks, since y’all think it’s so rare, maybe I should keep the hot spots to myself.
But seriously, it’s not like I don’t meet guys with kids. But I easily meet more men without. Like maybe for every 3 guys I
meet, 2 won’t have kids, 1 will.
You gotta remember, a lot of professional guys on their hustle feel strongly about kids derailing their plans, so they keep it wrapped.
And I’m never really asked if I have kids right off the bat. Maybe because I’m so thin they figured I haven’t birfed no babies.
Chelly
March 6th, 2009
10:29 am
This is an awful friday topic geesh! Who’s cooking on the grill this weekend & where? Let me know i’ll bring something. Anybody playing softball or flag football in the park? If so which one so we & my girls can come hang out with the fellas!!!! That’s what we should be talking about on this blog today
NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.Yuku.Com
March 6th, 2009
10:31 am
Dan- Your 10:20 comment is because some women believe there is no such thing as a man with no kids.. If a person keeps that thought process, that will be the only kind of man they encounter.. It is not hard to find a man that doesn’t have kids if you that is the type of man that you want!
THE MELO
March 6th, 2009
10:32 am
I’m the oddity
@ Dan,U are the oddity coz she is the oddity.To normal pple and church going folks at that,she wld understand that as perfectly,normal,moral and right.U doing the right thing bro.There are plentiful childless chics out there.The baby jail bird-daddy drama aint wrth it!
@Swiss
Kids do not relegate the dad as far as the relatiosnhip goes.Ple who say that dnt know what they are talking about.Kids need 2 responsible parents and once you have kids,ur lyfe changes coz u have to give them a lot of parenting,directing,care etc.U go thru a mental make over.For me and Queen,they are our number one priority.If my kid is not feeling well or smething, i dont think about my boss,job etc, i drop everything and do what i got do.
Now, if u are getting inot a relationship where the chic has a kid(s),u have to understand where she cming from coz when her kid needs attn urgently,the rendevous uall had prior arranged comes in on number two.U have to get in with that understanding and possibly be able and wiling to assist too.Nothing major but that means ur stiff johnson has to be iced a lil untill the kid situation is resolved.Even married people go thru same shyyt.
Thats ur skinny on kids!
SlimOne
March 6th, 2009
10:33 am
After my sister had her daughter in January, it had me wondering if that is a path I’d REALLY want to take. Yes birth is such a miracle in itself…having the patience and enough of yourself to constantly give and give and give, even when you feel you don’t have anything left to give…is also a miracle. To be honest, I’m just trying to get past seeing the puddsy go through such a transformation…just can’t get that vision out of my head. I saw more of my sis in that weekend than I ever cared to. However, I think I like the idea that if I wanted to have a child I can explore that option..as opposed to being one of those folks who can’t have any.
My cousin’s boyfriend has a ZERO sperm count and he definitely wants kids. I feel bad for him.
Kym
March 6th, 2009
10:34 am
@Rell my situation is unique..my kids father is dead..but when he was among the living I didn’t ask or expect any guy to be a father to my son. I dated but my son was not a part of the equation. Still is not. Not every dude I date will meet my kid..you are dating me not my son. So that Ba-BA mentality is not my thang at all.
I would be hard press to date a dude who would like a kid or more kids. My son is almost out the door so the idea of starting over..does not appeal to me at all.
Blow Me
March 6th, 2009
10:35 am
Ared Maybe that’s the reason women of 30 stay single. Because they have developed a selfish mentality and NOT willing to change it. But want someone to deal with they crazy self centered azz…..
Meeting a guy with kids already takes that couple time away. It is what it is.
Again, Where are you meeting an ABUNDANCE of men without kids over the age of 30…I mean you can met a couple…and 2 is pushing it. But it’s definitely rare the older you get it’s more expected.
Atltwen
March 6th, 2009
10:35 am
“Snowperson”? Are you serious? Get real.- Politically In-Correct
Dead serious! I have the youthful exuberance of a child, and I enjoy what I enjoy; doesn’t matter how old I am.
M'Karyl
March 6th, 2009
10:36 am
Well, my situation was a unique mix of factors…imagine that, me having a situation baked from scatch
…my daughter was 3 months old when I moved to the ATL…my father had legal guadianship and her father had complete parental rights, and she lived with my parents…so while I did not have the physical day to day obligations, there were still the psychological and emotional issues to deal with…but there were 2 things that happened that influenced and shaped my views about single parent obligations.
One, I met a phine brother who worked the the APD…we had an instant click chemistry…BAM!!!!…he was divorced and he had 2 children…he married the mother of his children out of an obligatory sense of values…when she got pregnant with child #1…his folks told him he had to marry her…well, #2 comes along and the marriage still did not work…he was very committed to supporting his children, which he did very well without hestitation…but he had also decided that outside of the obligation to rear his children that he did not want any further committments to children and their well-being…we dated for a few months…he decided that although he really liked me that the fact I had a child was an issue that prevented him from being able to continue in a relationship with me (he did not do casual sex
)…so he told me that our relationship could not work out because any involvment with me could also mean a committment to my daughter…and he was not able to do that…once he raised his children, he wanted to be done…he said that it is a tactic part of the deal…period…well, I accepted that…lo and behold by 28 I knew what he meant…stopped dating men with children myself at that point.
The other was in my relationship with Rogelio…he made me understand that even though my daughter did not live with me…any relationship that I was involved in would have some impact on her well being as the relationship affected me and my life…and he was right…saved me from getting involved with many potentially undesirable interactions.
What I learned from these two wonderful brothers is that the well being of our children is the first and foremost priority for us as parents and that every decision we make should be made to provide for and to protect the best interest of the child…even if it means foregoing relationships…for those lessons I am very thankful…it helped me to make better decisions very ealry on in my life…and my child is thankful too.
NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.Yuku.Com
March 6th, 2009
10:38 am
Politically In-Correct
March 6th, 2009
10:05 am
I told my new girlfriend that my old girlfriend would be happy to babysit since she’s not dating anyone and staying home a lot more anyways. For some reason, she didn’t like that idea. Now they’re both staying home a lot more.
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You have the nerve to ask ATLTWEN are they serious when you typed the above B*llSh*t?? Idiotic!
Blow Me
March 6th, 2009
10:39 am
Ared Lucky you! Being a magnet for finding men without kids.
Kym
March 6th, 2009
10:40 am
MKaryl question why was your daughter with your parents and not with you? I mean I understand if you were off pursuing your dreams but why couldn’t you do that with your child?
Dan
March 6th, 2009
10:42 am
@chelly, if you and your girls trying to get into something: danbynight@netzero.com for details
@NYCutie
You’re absolutely right. I even get the 5th degree about my status, meanwhile cats with kids on either side of the city don’t. But I chalk that up to the female and her insecurities and KIP (keep it pushing)
@Melo
While I don’t subscribe to the “moral decline” of the AA community, I recognize that some things have become more acceptable as a social norm in my lifetime and adjust to these people (and their ideas) accordingly, without changing who I am or what I believe.
Blow Me
March 6th, 2009
10:43 am
M/Karyl So you didn’t have your baby with you? WOW! But you stop dating men with kids @ 28…I am completely confused I dont’ seem to get. You have kids but won’t date someone who does have a child(ren)?!?!?
Staceye AKA Black Mamba
March 6th, 2009
10:43 am
SLIM did you say COMONET? WTF man? LOL
ARED….girl isn’t it the best just to get up and go? I mean it’s a bloddy production just tp gp to the store…dress the kid, damn car seat, stroller. OMG…I just needed some tampoms! LOL Well good news is..as long as I need those that means no more babies on the way…HALLELUJAH! LOL
MR. Can’t Do Right..maybe you should date women who have kids of there own. They are most likely the ones who have a different mindset than those that do not. But just because a childless woman bolts when she hears you have them..that doesn’t make her immature. It is just her preference and her selcetive right. The same whay people have physical preferences….well this is just that…a preference. With so many single moms…you should have it easy to find one.
BLOW men without kids do exist. I meet them. After getting your name and age I ask the kids question. I need to know before we waste our time.
RELL I agree that a sperm-donor should not be let off because mami has a new man. It is not that man’s responsibility. But 9 times out of 10 the child lives with mami so guys think it through when getting involed with a single mom. Are you really in it for the long haul? The child does not need to see a revolving door of men. You must know that is you get serious and get married you are taking on the responsibility of either step-dad or in Rell’s case…DAD!
DAN…I think it is great that you are not a baby-maker. It is a shame that you get looked at as weird simply because you are not some dude with 3 kids…3 baby mamas….or a woman who is smart enough not to get knocked up by some deadbeat. You choose to wait until marriage. People think I am strange because I say I do not want kids ever! Anytime I think I may change my mind…I go out and hear those whiney brats or I babysit and I get a does of reality. STACEYE…GIRL YOU DON’T WANT THIS! LOL
Jennifer
March 6th, 2009
10:43 am
My (now fiance) and I started dating when we were both 22 in 2002. I had a 2 year old son. My fiance welcomed me and the deal that came with me. He knew going in I was a package deal and embraced that. The first few years weren’t easy, especially being 22-24. It was an adjustment for me and him for certain. I used to think all the time, he could be with someone who doesn’t have kids and who can go out all the time and do normal 22-24 year old things. He didn’t want that. He wanted me and wanting me meant wanting my son. My son’s father isn’t involved. So for my then boyfriend to step up to the plate at 22 in his senior year in college and raise my son meant and means the world to me. We are now both turning 29 this month and got engaged last weekend. We are having an April 2010 wedding to mark our 30th birthdays and my son’s 10th birthday that year. I am truly marrying my best friend and he feels the same. As of this season he’s also coaching my son’s soccer team. He has truly stepped BEYOND the step-dad role and is like my son’s father. I can’t see my son being raised by anyone but him, including his birth father.
Cutie Pie77
March 6th, 2009
10:44 am
I prefer to not date men with kids. relationships are hard enough without the extra baggage.
Single parents that are a result of death or divorce are circumstances that can be more understood. but a single guy with a newborn kid, who is out on a date with a woman other than the mother is just disgusting and vice versa.
my advice: If they were good enough to get pregnant/or get pregnant from, you should marry them and save us single women from all the baby momma drama.
lurker
March 6th, 2009
10:47 am
BLOW 9:07..I concur
My2cents Main LURKER I hope you’ve already made your selections for the crazy @zz questions/comments portion of the day from your lurkin cousins. In honor of Daylight Savings time, I think we need at least 3. I’m depending on you… LOL
Sorry troll patrol in effect. Heck you can get craziness from some of the regulars. If not craziness, at least attitude. That’s enough to get things rolling/jumping.
Politically In-Correct
March 6th, 2009
10:48 am
ATLTWEN – I wasn’t commenting on the fact that you had an exuberant youthful experience by playing in the snow – I was commenting on the fact that you called what you made a “snowPERSON” instead of the time-honored “snowMAN” or “snowWOMAN”. Obviously you didn’t get it – you must be blonde.
And, NYCUTIE – STFU you have no dog in this fight (unless you’re counting yourself). That’s all.
Rell - ???/
March 6th, 2009
10:48 am
Rell, man. I rep’d you yesterday and you never came back to the blog to have ya boys back on whole comdom thing yesterday
-player i said what i had to on that subject…i hate to debate a point with women when they start with “thats not me” or “i am different” of course you until i hit that bottom and have you thinking backwards or speaking in tongues..again the poo see is design to catch and hold semen..women do not fully mind meld with men until they get his DNA inside of them on a constant basis…again all the chicks i have dated from college grad to hood rat want me to skeet inside of them….so to go round and round is pointless dawg…everyone of them on here that said they would not will….of course on her terms but trust..once you hit that bottom she has no defenses….lol
Jennifer
March 6th, 2009
10:49 am
She was telling me she envied how I just picked up and went to Paris on a whim
Amazon Red. You can do that with a child. My fiance and I went to Paris and London for a week (first class) when we were btoh 22. That was actually our first vacation together. I had a 2 year old at the time who stayed with the Grands. We’ve been to Jamaica (where he’s from), the DR, NJ, Miami, NY and stayed in the city, etc. We are still getting our travel in. We’ve actually been more places than several people without children. We are taking a trip this year once we figure out where and we’re going to Spain for our honeymoon. It takes a balance, but it can still be done and at a young age. A child doesn’t cripple you. It actually makes you have to understand and appreciate what you value most.