Is your friend rude to the person you’re dating?
Let’s say you have a friend with a history of not liking your mates. Or maybe it isn’t that they don’t like your mates, as much as the fact that you have one.
I have to admit, I’m not really used to my fellow’s friends not liking me. Sure, women typically have to sniff eachother out, but I have found that once people get to know me, we hit it off. This is true for the majority of Roland’s pals except for one man – “Marcus.”
Roland and Marcus have known eachother for nearly 15 years through work, and while they don’t hang out on a regular basis, Roland considers Marcus one of his better friends. The problem? Marcus always gets weird when Roland is dating someone; he makes fun of him for “disappearing” when a girlfriend is in the picture, has gotten angry at him for texting/calling her, and has a history of being unfriendly to the girl.
I’ve only met him a handful of times, but sure enough, it’s tense. (One time he walked past me without returning my hello. He also is curt when I try to strike up conversation.) Each time, I just try to be friendly and ignore the obvious awkwardness, but I have to admit, I’m not really eager to hang out with him.
Roland says that this is just the way Marcus is and I need to accept it; that he’s too old to change, that I should “rise above it” and I’m wrong for letting it “affect our relationship,” especially as we don’t see Marcus that often. Roland also suggested that maybe I should talk to Marcus directly about it, but I kind of feel like that’s Roland’s job.
I counter that I’m willing to hang out and be friendly with Marcus, but I’d like Roland to try to talk to him to make things better, or at least let me know ahead of time if he is inviting Mr. Rude to hang out. (Some might also think one shouldn’t bring rude friends around their partner, but maybe that’s unrealistic.)
I at first wondered if Marcus just had an issue with me until others who know him explained he’s always like this with Roland’s girlfriends. One possibility is that Marcus – who is a divorced father – is actually in the closet, but Roland (and others who know Marcus) say this isn’t true. I guess I’m simply unclear as to the cause of Marcus’s discomfort. Either way, my tolerance for it is low.
How would you handle a friend who is rude to your mate? Would you talk to your friend about their actions and feelings? Or would you expect your mate to grin and bear it?
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DreamsMaterialize
March 2nd, 2009
8:45 am
**Morning**
None of my friends has ever been rude to anyone I was dating, even if they didn’t particularly care for her. Now, I have had occasions where wife or girlfriend of one of my friends was rude to someone I was dating. Women decide in the first 10 seconds if whether or not they’ll like another woman for the rest of their lives and then treat them accordingly.
NYCUTIE
March 2nd, 2009
8:47 am
Good Morning All
Roland should NOT be s accepting of the way his friend treats you! Also, it is not your place to confront your mans friend about the way he treats you. My man would not tolerate ANY of his friends making me feel uncomfortable! You are in a weird situation.. Hope you & your man work that out very soon since you really like him!
M'Karyl
March 2nd, 2009
8:56 am
It seems to me that Marcus has a wee bit of the envy/resentment bug…meaning that he may harbor some emotional attitudes towards the women who become distractions to any potential time he may have to spend with Roland…or he may wish it was him having the datemate…if this is a consistent pattern of behavior, then he is obviously immature and needs to get a life…even if he does not like the ppl Roland chooses to spend time with, in all honesty it is really not his business…he needs to get some of his own.
mytwocents
March 2nd, 2009
8:57 am
Roland and his friends… **Blanca** Is he much older than you? Were you forewarned that the friend is kinda tart? I’m also wondering if you’re ultra sensitive to not being liked in general or would ‘cordial’ satisfy you? Dont forget- *not* going is always an option. But it seems Roland may not have ever addressed his friend’s overall demeanor in regards to his d/mates and so it’s continued over the years. If he has, then maybe Roland’s opinions of his friends matter more to him than he matters to them.
The Truth
March 2nd, 2009
9:01 am
I like the new digs.
All of your boys girls get a free pass, period. However, its up to them to maintain the peace. I’ve only had one friend that had a chick I didn’t like. She was a straight skeezer and he wound up marrying her. I just tried not to be around her.
Alot of women try to separate friends thinking they’re the reason the guy cheats or act out. It’s not. Ol boys gonna do what he does.
NYCUTIE
March 2nd, 2009
9:06 am
My two cents, I was thinking the same about his lack of interest in Blanca
DreamsMaterialize
March 2nd, 2009
9:09 am
NYCUTIE
It’s your place (right) to confront your man’s friend or anyone else who would treat you with disrespect. It usually goes over better if your man handles it, but if he doesn’t or waits to long, then you would be well within your rights to defend yourself.
kinderbabe
March 2nd, 2009
9:10 am
hmmm…this guy sounds really rude. i don’t think you should be forced to adapt to his behavior. your guy needs to speak up and find out once and for all what marcus’ problem is. he may just be bitter towards all relationships even those of his close friends. if i had a friend like that, i would definitely attempt to see what the problem was and why his/her attitude was so funky towards my man. depending on what the response was, no longer how long i’ve known that person, it would affect our friendship in the future. it says a lot about a person when they are unable to be happy for you when something good is going on in your life. is that really a friend?
mytwocents
March 2nd, 2009
9:12 am
NYC- We all care about closest friends’ opinions. But one or two posts about Roland’s crew, and it was clear he holds them in the Highest Esteem. What part of the city are you from anyway? I’m from the BX.
Bit-O-Hunny
March 2nd, 2009
9:13 am
Blanca (have we lost the option to BOLD and ITALICIZE?) I experienced the same kind of thing with most of my guys female family members. They came off really rude and tried to be threatening but they just don’t know….really, they don’t know me. Anyway, after seeing me around family functions more, and more often I guess they deemed me worthy of a warmer reception. It kinda put me off with them and had me ready and often in defensive mode around them. I don’t know that he noticed it all that much, but women can be something else. They thought they were protecting their male cousin, WTF?
If it bothers you, I would just tell Roland, “Look this is your @zzhole friend, so you deal with it or I will and you won’t like how I deal with it.” Oh yeah, in your nice voice
..LOL
Lace
March 2nd, 2009
9:13 am
Good morning, I like the new set up! I’ve never experienced any rudeness or akwardness from any friends/family of anyone I’ve dated nor have any been given to my dates. IMO it can pose an unbalance/tensions run high when it comes to gathering and such. Maybe Roland should look deeper into why “Marcus” shows hostility towards you and his past gf’s and settle his indifferences, then again misery loves company.
AtlMom
March 2nd, 2009
9:17 am
“Roland and Marcus have known each other for nearly 15 years through work, and while they don’t hang out on a regular basis…. Marcus always gets weird when Roland is dating someone; he makes fun of him for “disappearing” when a girlfriend is in the picture, has gotten angry at him for texting/calling her, and has a history of being unfriendly to the girl.”
*****Sounds like Marcus may have a thing for your man because it’s not just you. It’s EVERY girl your man has dated. Your boyfriend needs to tune him up on his very un-gentlemanlike treatment of you and kick Mr. Girlfriend to the curb.
NYCUTIE
March 2nd, 2009
9:19 am
Dreams, I totally feel you BUT she would be confronting a MAN. That is NOT her place! Dude doesn’t have respect for her when she says “hello” imagine when she tries to tell him that she doesn’t like how he treats her.. He might call her a biyatch and things could go left very quickly.. Her man needs to check that ignorant fool he calls his BFF!
My 2, I am from 106 st & Columbus Ave. in Manhattan
The Truth
March 2nd, 2009
9:24 am
Btw, Blanca always wonders if people like her. I’d recommend therapy or a few more years under her belt and she wont give a dam. She’s ultra sensitive ,however, ol boy may be rude. Still people will harass you if they think it will bother you.
Blanca, you dont have to like the cat. You can still function in life with people not liking you. I remember you wondering if Rolands family would like you. Needing approval so badly is a reason not to like a person. LOL
mytwocents
March 2nd, 2009
9:25 am
I think we have to qualify the disrespect. It’s rude to completely ignore someone speaking directly to you, but if someone doesn’t wanna converse with you… that his right. I wouldn’t wait around being truly disrespected w/o asking him if there’s a problem. I’d just be doing it with a brow raised at Roland if the behavior hadn’t been previously addressed. And DREAMS- hush with your 10 secs theory. Most of us can’t be just that petty and without a thought process. Can we?
Lace
March 2nd, 2009
9:28 am
Truth I think you’re onto something there @ 924
Lace
March 2nd, 2009
9:29 am
Hey Dreams
my neighbor from around the bend
The Truth
March 2nd, 2009
9:32 am
Hey Kinderbaby. Good to see you around.
I like this no delay thing. You can tell someone to kiss your azz in real time. LOL
Lace, where did you get that emoticon?
mytwocents
March 2nd, 2009
9:34 am
TRUTH- I think we can split the hourly rate on this one. BTW, you’ll receive your first care package in June 2010. That’ll gimme enough time to pass the collection plate round the blog.
kinderbabe
March 2nd, 2009
9:34 am
hey, truth…i am so happy that there is no school today! i definitely am enjoying my 3 day weekend.:)
Lace
March 2nd, 2009
9:37 am
TRUTH : plus ) equals
Cemeeli
March 2nd, 2009
9:38 am
Ohhhh we have a new Lounge. It’s cute and upiddy in here…
Hey Kinderbabe…looks like your kindergarteners are at home today, and so are you.
Morning GANG!
Truth lol @ “You can tell someone to kiss your azz in real time.”
The Truth
March 2nd, 2009
9:38 am
Tatas-2010? Thats how you treat shiesty Uncle louie. I’ll just hold off on sending the luxury goods til my position on the roster improves.
Kinder-enjoy. This is a great day to not have to go to work. Enjoy and stay warm.
Raqi
March 2nd, 2009
9:40 am
Yes I have had to deal with the rude friend on both ends. We no longer deal with his friend. However my friend after having been put in her place while in my house is no longer a problem.
kinderbabe
March 2nd, 2009
9:41 am
that’s right cemeeli, the babes are at home today. i kinda wish they would have said something last night though so parents could have had more notice. it’s hard to find child care at the last minute.:( a lot of people probably had to call out from work.
i like the new setup too. it’s a lot faster.
Lace
March 2nd, 2009
9:42 am
:p—finding more emoticons
Lace
March 2nd, 2009
9:42 am
oh rats! it didn’t work
THE MELO
March 2nd, 2009
9:42 am
Good morning all:
F**ck the consistently rude friend!! If ur boyfriend is not handling his so-called friend and the azzh**ole is being rude to u,u may need to evaluate that relationship.
In all new relationships,those closest to you are trying to determine if the new person deserves that place.Its only normal.
I told the same thing to my brother one time when he was with this new girl.Asked him a guy question:are u serious with her or u just wanna phuck?? Coz I wasnt going to have her as a sister in law!!
Lace
March 2nd, 2009
9:43 am
awww rats only one emoticons—-:(
DreamsMaterialize
March 2nd, 2009
9:46 am
NYCUTIE
I feel you. That’s why I said it always goes over better if your man handles it. But Blanca’s man obviously didn’t handle it. At that point you have two options: 1) Address the situation yourself or 2) Let it ride.
mytwocents
I’m just sayin’… Tell me you haven’t done, seen, or heard this before:
Dude: Baby, what’s wrong?
Girl: (huff) I don’t like her.
Dude: Why not?
Girl: I just don’t.
Dude: But ya’ll just met. You don’t know anything about her.
Girl: I don’t need to know anything about her. I just don’t like her. It’s “woman’s intuition”.
Lace
Hey how have you been? Did you get a chance to get out in the snow? Dunwoody represent. lol
mytwocents
March 2nd, 2009
9:49 am
I was wondering how KINDERBABE snuck in here. Oh to be a teacher…Have a lovely day.
TRUTH- Uhhm that shoulda read sometime in June at 20:10. (Kuwaiti Postal Service delivery time.) So no need to withold my treats.
Cemeeli
March 2nd, 2009
9:49 am
Kinderteach – I’ve been there. Looking for childcare on a short notice is not easy. The best childcare network on snow day, ect. is when the kids that are close friends parent’s rally together and decided who’s gonna keep the kids so everyone else can go to work. One year i took 7 kindergarteners – 1st grade on a group trip to see Sesame Street Live, and the parents were like “now we gonna have to live up the “bar” you’s set”.
My son’s at school today. That’s what a pay for anyway.
NY2GA, Inc.
March 2nd, 2009
9:50 am
In my experience, it’s kind of odd for a dude to throw shade at a man’s girlfriend. LMAO. Now, he may not say much to you, but Roland’s friend seems downright rude. Roland may not say anything to his friend because sometimes men don’t pick up on things the same way women do. He’d have to see it outright for himself in order to take action in some cases. But,if his boy is rude to you in that way again I think you’re within your rights to just smile and say “You don’t seem to like me much do you-Why is that?” He’ll either respond with a bunch of shiggity that may hurled out in an effort to try to hurt your feelings or he may be taken back that you actualy thought that and say “Blanca, that’s not true”.
Yep. I’ve had female friends and family members of the man I was dating act really rude the first time they met me. I tell you some women are a real piece of work. They acted like they were a pack of wolves and I was a rabbit that just happend to stumble off the beaten path. Maul it!! You know, you try to be friendly and they may give you terse answers, backhanded compliments, look you from head to toe; and so on. Immature and petty behavior is not becoming. So, at 36 years old I see it from a mile away and am more apt to tell these folks to “kick rocks”.
Raqi
March 2nd, 2009
9:50 am
Blanca Roland’s friend sounds a bit needy. Does he have a woman of his own? Maybe that’s the problem, he needs one.
I know the biggest issue with my friend is that we sometimes cancel engagements and events to due something that needs to be dealt with at home and she can’t get with that. She has no one but herself. The rest of us have husbands and family. I like her and have known her for many years but she is welcome to leave the friend circle since she has a problem. She chooses to remain but I personally do not put up with her crap and two of my other friends just tolerate her.
Lace
March 2nd, 2009
9:51 am
DREAMS: I enjoyed every bit of the snow, I took some great pictures too
AmazonRed
March 2nd, 2009
9:52 am
What’s up everyone?
Well Blanca, if you are not willing to dump Roland over this, you’ve got to roll with it. If this is something you want handle and he’s not willing, then why are you with him? Now I’m sure he has a ton of great qualities that make up for that, and if you’re gonna be with him anyway then drop it.
There is no rule that everyone has to like you, but I wouldn’t tolerate some being rude to me. I’d probably just ignore him all together. But for you, maybe you should straight up ask him what’s up and give examples of his rudeness (since he’ll probably play dumb).
But again, if you aren’t willing go make the steps to change the situation, then leave it alone.
Lace
March 2nd, 2009
9:52 am
I found another one! : plus D equals
Blow Me
March 2nd, 2009
9:53 am
Testing TESTING…..IS THIS THING ON ? So we have emoticons?;)
The Truth aka Faithful til the End
March 2nd, 2009
9:53 am
Tatas- thats better. Let me see what products they’re working with. You’ll have to excuse any camel grease on said goods.
How did we make it with the old set up? 5 minute delays was killing the delivery on my comments. Now all we need is some nice furniture and its a wrap.
Lace
March 2nd, 2009
9:54 am
lemme see
Cemeeli
March 2nd, 2009
9:55 am
They like rabbit soup.
Kym
March 2nd, 2009
9:55 am
Good Morning all,
I am going to agree with Dreams on the point of if Roland is not willing to correct the behavior of his friend than ole girl needs to stand up and do it for herself. I also agree with Truth in that if you are this tied up at this stage of your life that you have to have approval of everyone your SO is associated with you might need to increase your therapy sessions. So he is rude to you? So he doesn’t like you. He may very well have a man crush on your SO hell for all you know your SO may swing at both sides of the fence..but for that to have you all tied up. Evaluate yourself..I mean is it really this dang deep?
Raqi
March 2nd, 2009
9:55 am
Kinderbabe fortunately my son is 14 and does not require childcare, however he did accompany Mase to work today rather than stay home. But I do remember those days when I had scramble for last minute childcare when my mom or my boys grandmother was not available. Now looking into the future…
Lace
March 2nd, 2009
9:57 am
aw shucks now! that’s 3 emoticons, lemme see what else I can find.
THE MELO
March 2nd, 2009
10:00 am
If u were hanging with this chic by the name Cameron,this weekend,she says ure an ass**hole!!! She gone back to Cali.Hw u gonna ask for puddy and dogg her all weekend long like that????
Arent uall glad,the weather in the south is not like up there in the north.Coz if this were like this regularly,our education system wld have been waaaaaaaaaayy down! Child care closed,schools closed,LORD have mercy! Hw u gonna close schools at the slighest hint of snow?
Now Blanca,it may be possible that ur mane is gay! U need to investigate that coz Markus definately is!!
Cemeeli
March 2nd, 2009
10:03 am
Melo – I got a call from my folks in Philly, telling me that the schools are closed there. Hadn’t been like that in years…
Lace
March 2nd, 2009
10:03 am
:’(
:$
(H)
:S
(*)
(BYE)
let’s see which ones work
The Truth aka Faithful til the End
March 2nd, 2009
10:05 am
Lace-good looking out with the emoticons. Your mission is to spend the rest of the day finding the hidden emoticons and report back to me with your findings. Dont worry about your boss, he’s on board with this.
NY2GA, Inc.
March 2nd, 2009
10:05 am
@Cemeeli. LOL.
THE MELO
March 2nd, 2009
10:05 am
Hey **Cee,Cee**, u said ur bro in law is from Guinea?? Just read that they did the African thang over there:decapitated the Prezedente this weekend!
mytwocents
March 2nd, 2009
10:06 am
DREAMS- Alright, alright. I’ma glass half full type so I thought those were anomalies. That’s my story and I’m stickin’ to it.
NYC- I think that’s Staceye’s stompin grounds. Do you see the whole city’s schools are shut down? A million crazy kids bout to run thru Central Park.
Kym
March 2nd, 2009
10:07 am
Folks make me sick..
Melo in the south we get black ice. Because it is rare to have snow here we do not have a fleet of sand trucks and snow plows to clear the roads..so we buy our groceries light our fires and keep our tails in doors. If this bothers you there is a open highway, airline flight or greyhound bus waiting to take you wherever you would like to go.
kinderbabe
March 2nd, 2009
10:07 am
thanks **mytwocents** i will enjoy the day!
glad to hear **cemeeli and raqi** that you were ok w/childcare today.:)
**raqi** you have a young man on your hands so he can almost take care of himself..lol. that’s definitely an advantage.
**cemeeli** i have family in philly too. my sister was so happy to be off work. however, the universities aren’t closed so she still has to report to class:( she wasn’t too thrilled about that.
Stormy
March 2nd, 2009
10:08 am
Hey Everyone!!!, even u 2 Melo
I hope that everyone enjoyed the beautiful snow on yesterday.
Blanca, Blanca, Blanca…..
M'Karyl
March 2nd, 2009
10:08 am
The operative behavior in this case is that he treats all of Roland’s gf’s like this…not just Blanca…so the problem is with old dude…IMO.
Personally, I do not see why it is even necessary to convey emotionally-based behaviors towards someone that a) you really do not know and b) the relationship is not your concern…we can all have opinions about someone else’s datemate but if for whatever reason you are not feeling that person, then just do not interact with them and get on with it…truly.
Samantha
March 2nd, 2009
10:10 am
I find that my friends that do not like my Man is just jealous because they don’t have a man or they can’t keep one! I know from experience that you should never just listen to your friends when it comes to your mate. You should just pray on it and observe things for yourself. Sometimes your friends are telling you things about your mate that are true and in that case I say listen to them, but if you know the history you have with your friend that is telling you these things about your mate then you should really consider the source in which their opinion is coming from..(i.e. if your ’so called’ friend has a history of being jealous of you then you know not to listen to them).
Cemeeli
March 2nd, 2009
10:13 am
Hey Melo – Yes Guinea.
What was your w/e jaunts?
Lace
March 2nd, 2009
10:13 am
LOL…. TRUTH: I think that’s all that’s out there
& 
M'Karyl
March 2nd, 2009
10:18 am
@Samantha
Always consider the source…lol…and often it is true that there is some hate going on…I prefer to keep my silence about my friends mates if there is something that I am not feeling about them…ain’t me…so ain’t my concern…but more so than not women will use that as a reason to articulate the hate and such…what a waste of energy.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
March 2nd, 2009
10:19 am
I go out of town for a couple days and have to drive back into THIS!! I am like Grouchy Smurf “I hate snow”.
Anyhoo….I wouldnt worry so much about old dude. Like someone else said, just ignore him. He does sound a lil suspect as I have never heard of a guy being that jealous (I guess).
Morning Everyone! I do like the new format!
Hey Kinderbabe!!
kinderbabe
March 2nd, 2009
10:21 am
hey mo! how’s it going?
THE MELO
March 2nd, 2009
10:21 am
**What was your w/e jaunts? ha?
Melo in the south we get black ice:black ice my foot Kymn! So hw did u and evrybody else get to wrk then? If they said there wld be a delay in opening,id understand.At least that wld make some of the ice melt and allow pple to drop their kids,esp child care and go to wrk.Some folks have jobs that really stress them up.I used to wrk for the bank,in operations.Worst job ive ever had.I minute late,u get a write up.Fck it.I aint going nowhere Kym! Am I allowed to vent tho or u are going to torture me and decapitate my head like they used to do during the last prezedente’s rule? U knw that bish guy.
The Truth aka Faithful til the End
March 2nd, 2009
10:22 am
In my circle your responsible for any catty chick you bring into the loop. If ol girl starts showing out and you brought her you handle that. If we have to do it she’s not going to be happy. We don’t spare many feelings amongst ourselves or others.
kimmie
March 2nd, 2009
10:23 am
Morning Blog Gang!!
Gotta get used to the new set-up but it does look nice!
I have several observations for ths scenario. I’ve have a friend that trips every time I’m in a relationship & she isn’t. She’s never rude, but I just don’t bring her around my men & yes, I do check her on her attitude. It seems most everyone has that “friend” that just can’t be happy for the other’s happiness. They may feel you are taking time away from them and that things will change. If you are true friends, this won’t be an issue. All of my friends are married with families except this one friend. When my other friends met someone and got married & had kids, yes of course they did not have as much time to hang out, but we are still best friends to this day. Folks just need to GROW UP and thats what needs to happen with Roland, Marcus & Blanca. Marcus needs to get a life and even if he does have a crush on Roland, he needs to find somebody else to crush on so he won’t be running around acting like a little B! In fact, I might be looking at Roland sideways if this the way Marcus treats ALL Rolands women, and he ALLOWS IT. No, everyone is not going to like you, but you at least be polite & speak. Why would you even want to have a conversation with such a punk, Blanca? I think whats really going on here with you Blanca is that you are disappointed that Roland has not “checked” Marcus. You & Marcus don’t have to like each other or be friends, but yeah I think Roland should have put him in his place, and they can still remain friends. He’s allowed the disrespect with all the others, so silence give consent. And yeah, if he doesn’t say anything, I would say something to him right there in front of Roland so there is no misunderstanding.
Actually one of my good friends’ husband HAD a friend just like Marcus. I say had because he finally realized ole boy was not really a friend and did not have his best interest at heart. Backstabbing was taking place and even though everyone, including his wife tried to tell him, he had to see it for himself. I’m so glad cause none of us could stand his butt!
Cemeeli
March 2nd, 2009
10:25 am
why am i sweating so?!
Melo – I had a ice slide this morning coming into work. I just went 40 the rest of the way here.
AmazonRed
March 2nd, 2009
10:27 am
Lace,
The “blank stare” works, but that is trademarked by me.
LOL
The frown works too.
THE MELO
March 2nd, 2009
10:28 am
Melo – I had a ice slide this morning coming into work:Me too.Fck the black ice.If u irresponsible,yeah,u end up in the lake,like those 2 mufggas in Cobb.Why do pple always want an excuse for laziness?
Raqi
March 2nd, 2009
10:28 am
Lace imma try some too.
8-D
<:-)
~:-|
Staceye AKA Black Mamba
March 2nd, 2009
10:28 am
Blanca,
It sounds like Roland’s boy loves his boy in another way! LOL He may need to examine that friendship. Now I will be the first to call my girls out for becoming M.I.A when they get a new man. You now they go into enema mode (up his butt) and you never hear from them or see them until the dude decides he wants a boys night or goes out of town or even worse…he breaks her heart. Now your phone is being blown up. I will not be there for you then chick. You tossed your friend aside for a dude. Now you expect me to let you cry on my shoulder. NOPE! I am also known for letting my girls know when the guy they are so smitten with isn’t worth the skin he is in or the space he occupies on earth. But if you as a grown woman wants to allow yourself to be mistreated because you are too stuck on stupid to demand better treatment and walk away…not giving into the separation anxiety or the, “oh but I love him” BS…that is on you! Newsflash….he does NOT love you. So stop being pathetic and woman up. Put on your grown woman knickers and move on wiht your life because it is short….too short to be wasted on the likes of a jackhole creep who wouldn’t know a good thing if it bite him on the azz! Now if I happen to see the jerk..I will be cordial and say hello. But I will not be fake.
Raqi
March 2nd, 2009
10:29 am
:^)
8-o
:-}
Jamoca
March 2nd, 2009
10:29 am
“Personally, I do not see why it is even necessary to convey emotionally-based behaviors towards someone that a) you really do not know and b) the relationship is not your concern…we can all have opinions about someone else’s datemate but if for whatever reason you are not feeling that person, then just do not interact with them and get on with it…truly.”
^^^ Agreed. So simple. It ain’t algebra <—- and my 7yr old is learning the basics of this arithmetical operation…so this couldn’t be so difficult to figure out. Talk about giving certain issues (to include certain people) entirely too much weight.
Hey Tatas…don’t forget to throw some MonaVie in that care pkg…I needs my percentage. (lol)
Kym
March 2nd, 2009
10:31 am
Melo vent all you like..doesn’t mean I won’t comment on your vent.
Cemeeli
March 2nd, 2009
10:31 am
Morning Kimmie!
Tazzee
March 2nd, 2009
10:32 am
Morning Folks!
Never had a problem with a friend being rude to my guy but I have dated some guys with salty friends. In a situation like Blanca’s I would just ignore dude – especially since he’s not around much.
I loved the snow yesterday! Hopefully winter is done with us and Spring is ready to come on in.
THE MELO
March 2nd, 2009
10:32 am
Kym,comment all u like:We might end up having sexx,so im cool with that!
kinderbabe
March 2nd, 2009
10:32 am
STACEYE “jackhole” lolol. i like that one, gotta use that.
i'm swiss
March 2nd, 2009
10:34 am
“One possibility is that Marcus – who is a divorced father – is actually in the closet…”
Yeah, that would be my first guess. A dude getting all catty w/ his buddy’s girl… somethings just not right. My question would be why hasn’t Roland called the dude out for being a beeotch?
kimmie
March 2nd, 2009
10:35 am
Hey Sister Cee!!
Raqi
March 2nd, 2009
10:35 am
^_^
((:-/
:”)
<3
</3
i'm swiss
March 2nd, 2009
10:36 am
Side note: The new blog is SOOOOOOO much better than the old POS.
Jamoca
March 2nd, 2009
10:37 am
Heyyyy…now how in sam heyal did you do that? (lol)
Cemeeli
March 2nd, 2009
10:37 am
Swiss you’re suppose to have the coffee!
Where’s my stuff? :
Lace
March 2nd, 2009
10:38 am
AMAZON what keys do I use to get the blank stare?
Staceye AKA Black Mamba
March 2nd, 2009
10:38 am
**Mytwocents** girl yes back in NY if it was under a foot we had to take our butts to school. They felt that we took the subway to scholl so no danger there! But I guess they are going soft. The wimps! Go to school! LOL I used to put jeans and long johns under my uniform skirt until I got to school.I wore my furry snow boots..the black ones so I could keep them on all day. It actually was my fashion statement where we all had to be clones of look-alikes. I added lace to the cuff of my blazer and the trim of my skirt. (Of course I got a demerit). Ahhh…the glory days!
Since 2004 when I moved here, I do NOT miss having to shovel my car out (once I determined which lump of snow was actually my car). My car is in a garage now and I never have to scrape ice off the windshield. But I still keep my scraper in the trunk. I was out driving in the snow happy as hell that the scared southerners who are used to it were so scared they went and bought groceries and hunkered down like it was a real blizzard (too funny…they’d lose their minds in NY). The stores were open and uncrowded…I wished it would snow a lot more. No traffic..no crowds at stores…a beautiful thing! I rememebr being out int that ice storm that ATL had in January 2005. Again…no non-driving fools on the road and the store was my playland.
AmazonRed
March 2nd, 2009
10:39 am
Lace, I told you the
is mine. You can’t use it. LOL
Lurker
March 2nd, 2009
10:40 am
Sexy new digs….I like
Cemeeli
March 2nd, 2009
10:41 am
O:-) Swiss were you an angel, with that JD sauce?
i'm swiss
March 2nd, 2009
10:42 am
Dang, Staceye… Was it a particularly bad weekend? That 10:28 sounded especially militant… Anything swiss can do to bring you to your happy place? A booty rub, perhaps?
Cemeeli
March 2nd, 2009
10:44 am
Cemeeli
March 2nd, 2009
10:44 am
:-\
Kym
March 2nd, 2009
10:44 am
Melo, I seriously doubt it..I gave up sexual charity work years ago.
i'm swiss
March 2nd, 2009
10:45 am
Cee — Haven’t tried the JD sauce yet. Grilled some stakes for Swiss Miss & I this weekend, and had to stick to my own secret marinade.
Oh, and the coffee’s fresh & hot in my kitchen — where are you?
Lurker
March 2nd, 2009
10:45 am
Staceye AKA Black Mamba
March 2nd, 2009
10:46 am
On now Swiss wants to rub on a sista’s ground round! LOL
Nah..I just hate to see smart women act so stupid when they get man on the brain! I know how to separate the two.
Lurker
March 2nd, 2009
10:46 am
:p
:-
Cemeeli
March 2nd, 2009
10:47 am
Swissie =-O I’m surprised!
Tazzee
March 2nd, 2009
10:48 am
You guys are killing me with emoticons! LOL @ Cemeeli – I know the blank stare too but I’m going to leave that to y’all
Cemeeli
March 2nd, 2009
10:49 am
>:o
Hey Tazzee!
THE MELO
March 2nd, 2009
10:52 am
Hey u Techies:I need a new, strong lap top that will give me the most speed and with a lot of storage space and at the most reasonable price.What brand do uall recommend and what do i say when i go to the shop so i look like i know what im talking about???
tahnx so much!!
Raqi
March 2nd, 2009
10:53 am
testing