Congratulations to the New York Giants! What a game that was, right? I am soo going to miss football though. So much so that you will have to humor me with this “game” themed post today.

If dating is a game, then who is keeping score? When it comes to sizing each other up, single people sure know how to assign extra points for the most random things.

For instance, I know a woman who agreed to go out with a guy because his car’s license plate was supporting Breast Cancer. I met a guy last night who asked a woman out because she mentioned that she was a gymnast in college. I know, random! (Also, blatant wishful thinking)

Apparently we meet and scrutinize one another because we believe that little things can add up to a lot. So what seemingly small thing are you impressed by? What is the most random reason you decided to ask someone out or agree to date someone?

Do you think that people meet you and give you “extra” points about something you do or say? Spill it!

Happy …

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A new website was created specifically for those of us who have a “missed connection” mid-air. You’re on the plane and you notice someone that sparks your interest. Maybe time, space, or opportunity did not allow you to get their number. What do you do?

Well one guy decided to devote an entire website for these situations with We Met On A Plane: “Have you ever met that special someone on a plane but for whatever reason you didn’t end up exchanging your contact details with each other and later regretted it?”

I could have used this last spring! I was on a flight to Boston for a job interview. I was super nervous and this really handsome man was my seatmate. He talked me off my anxiety cliff, reassured me, and gave me a lot of great words of encouragement.

If I had paid closer attention, I would have asked for his name so I could have thanked him later! Who knows what can happen from our random encounters in the “friendly skies” – you really never know!

Has this ever happened …

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Have you ever been faced with the dating dilemma of picking looks over personality? I didn’t realize this is so commonplace, but a couple of my guy friends tell me they deal with this all the time. They may meet two women they are attracted to and will pursue both for a period of time. Then they have figure who they are attracted to the most.

My friend Brad says that often times the personality enhances a woman’s looks, but there are times when it does not. He has noticed that a bad attitude on a good looking woman can become tiresome…”eventually”, that is.

How do you rank personality and looks in importance?

Have you ever picked looks over personality and regretted it later? Did you ever date someone because of their personality and passed up a more physically attractive person?

It may seem like a shallow question, but can your looks make up for a less then stellar personality?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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After a couple of months of dating, things start to go really great or really awful. You have been around each other long enough to explore how you two get along and normally the attraction goes deeper. What do you do when you know you want something exclusive but you don’t want to be the one to reach for it first?

I know a lot of people prolong the committed part of dating for a number of reasons: they aren’t sure about the person, they are secretly looking to see if someone else is out there, they are having more fun playing around.

How and when do you decide to take things to the next level – break up or exclusivity?

How can you tell if the person you are dating is playing you for “entertainment” or truly interested in a committed relationship?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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I believe there are a lot of single women who think about what kind of mate they want to be. I know I have thought about it from time to time. My ideas about what I think would make a “good wife” does not always align with those of the men that I date.

Whenever the topic of marriage or “wife” duties come up, I always perk up and pay attention to what guys say. They usually have very specific things they believe a good wife should do. Always makes for an enlightening discussion!

This is probably a good discussion to have when you are serious. I think a lot of married couples are surprised when they realize how much they differ from their spouse’s expectations of a husband/wife.

What really informs a man’s idea about what makes a good wife, though? What informs a woman’s idea about what makes a good wife?

What do you think is most important?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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I have a friend who has extreme anxiety about “letting it all hang out” with her man. The lengths that she goes through to put her “together” side front and center seems a little exhausting! I am much too lazy to do all that for a guy. Why are many of us afraid to show our true colors to the person we are seeing?

Obviously, we all date a person’s “representative” on the first couple of dates. At some point though, you have to drop the pretense and be your authentic self. Who wants to get up at 5:00 am and put make up on for a guy? Why would you spend loads of cash on a woman when you are on a budget to save money?

Have you ever had a difficult time being yourself around the person you are seeing?

Have you ever noticed when the person you are dating finally “relaxed” around you? Did it make a difference?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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As much as I hear single people proclaim their love of being free, those same people will completely trade it all in to be with someone great. Single life has its moments, but how awesome is it to meet someone and be caught up in the haze of “love”..be honest!

That butterfly feeling you get when you see them calling. The naughty thoughts you have about them during the day. Waking up next to a person who literally makes you feel like you can conquer the world…all that gushy stuff is FUN.

What do you think are the perks of dating a great match? Do you enjoy the getting to know you part the most? Do you relish slipping into a comfortable routine with one another and merging lives the best?

Sometimes, it’s the little things that you get those gushy feelings over! What’s your favorite?

Guys – we know you get that gushy feelings too – no judgment, though! What is your favorite thing about a new romance?

Happy Friday!

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My friend Lewis recently had dinner at his lady friend’s house. He noticed a lot of racy pictures of her that she displayed in her living room. When he inquired about them, she said that her former boyfriend took the pictures and she kept them because they were so beautiful. I am not sure if Lewis was bothered more by the nearly nude images or the fact that the “guy before him” took them.

He asked me if I kept things from past relationships and I actually had to think really hard to remember. I had kept a lot! I also forgot that some of it came from an ex. It’s interesting to see how the things we hold on to from our past relationships become a part of who we are. If it was a gift from an ex, the sentimental value is there but that doesn’t mean we haven’t moved on.

How much “stuff” do you still have from your past relationships? Would you keep racy pictures, sex tapes, jewelry, etc. that would be a constant reminder about them?

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Sometimes you know the exact moment that your relationship is over. It’s possible that is the point where you realize the only thing you two have is good sex. I won’t pretend that good sex will make you hang on a lot longer than you should, it happens. A lot.

The question then becomes how long will it take before the relationship with great sex is not satisfying all the other needs? Do you think it is wrong to stay in a relationship when the only thing you enjoy about it is the sex and little else?

I think most people would agree that bad sex is a deal breaker, but should it be a deal breaker when the sex is great but the relationship is not?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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A group of MIT researchers conducted a study about “economic behavior” and what factors influence how we spend, save, acquire debt as consumers. Not surprising, a lot of our spending habits are related to seeking romantic partners. You guys know how I love these scientific studies!

Data was collected from 134 US cities that included the sex ratios of unmarried people, average consumer debt, and the number of credit cards per person. What they discovered was that in cities where unmarried men outnumbered unmarried women, there was more personal debt and more credit cards per person.

If you have ever seen Love Jones, you may remember the scene where Hollywood says, “You don’t need poetry to get women”. Savon replys, “Try a breath mint and a Visa.”
Funny enough, I thought of this when reading about the study.

How do you think our spending habits impact the dating scene. Does the money we spend make us believe we stand out more, thereby attracting more?

Do you believe we rely …

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