Tiger Woods can go in either direction after public humiliation

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Tiger Woods leaves the podium after a 13-minute confessional, taking no questions. (Bloomberg photo)

We are used to witnessing confidence and cool. We are used to seeing Tiger Woods standing over a 12-foot putt, with several million people watching and several million dollars on the line, and calmly tapping a small white ball into a four-inch cup.

We are used to uncommon resolve: 14 victories in majors, the first at the Masters when he was 21, the last at the U.S. Open when he labored on a torn knee ligament and a double stress fracture in his tibia.

We saw none of that Friday. We saw a broken man. We saw flaws. It was uncomfortable. Woods, who used to own the room because he owned his sport and to a degree the celebrity landscape, read from a statement that he might’ve rehearsed 1,000 times. Still the words tumbled out of his mouth slowly like he was speaking a foreign language. In a sense, he was.

This is what happens when reality hits. We’ve seen it  before — weeping evangelists after sex scandals, fallen athletes after failed drug tests, Hollywood celebrities after DUIs. This was Tiger Woods off stage. It wasn’t pretty.

“I have a lot to atone for,” he said.

Tiger Woods' mother, Kultida, watched Tiger from the front row. The two embraced afterward. (AP photo)

Tiger Woods' mother, Kultida, watched his speech from the front row. The two embraced afterward. (AP photo)

What will public humiliation mean for his future? Possibly everything. Some boxers are never the same after they get knocked down for the first time. The air of invincibility is gone. We can’t be certain how Woods will be affected by the knowledge that he is no longer universally admired and revered.

What does it mean for his future? Possibly nothing. Great athletes operate with tunnel vision. Woods thrived, despite meteoric expectations and pressure, the death of his father, injuries, certainly multiple women texting his cell phone. The great ones are driven by failure and criticism and a doubting public.

But Woods said it himself: We judge by actions, not orchestrated press conferences. To predict what happens the next time Woods steps onto a golf course is futile.

We’ve come to expect greatness from Woods. If he entered and won the Masters in April, it wouldn’t be surprising. Why? Because it would be so Tiger. Because he’s that good. Because unlike a mountain of record holders in sports, Woods never cheated his game. He broke commandments.

He no longer has the perfect life. He is staple content on TMZ. Some 40 Stepford-looking supporters and a few hand-selected media members witnessed Woods’ statement in a room from the PGA Tour headquarters in Ponte Vedra Beach, Fla. But among the missing: his wife, Elin Nordegren.

“Every one of you has good reason to be critical of me,” Woods said in a 13-minute statement, with his mother, Kultida, watching from the front row. “I am deeply sorry for my irresponsible and selfish behavior. I was unfaithful. I had affairs. I cheated. I am the only person to blame.”

A dozen women, from porn actresses to a coffee shop waitress, claim to have had affairs with Woods. Multiple reports said the news led to an argument between Woods and his wife, leading to him rushing out of his home Thanksgiving night and crashing his Escalade into a tree. Woods denied reports that Elin hit him with a golf club, although it was strange he actually made an issue of it Friday, saying: “There has never been an episode of domestic violence in our marriage. Elin has shown enormous grace and poise. Elin deserves praise, not blame.”

Question: Who was ever blaming her? And why even address allegations of performance-enhancing drugs, a story that has received little attention, on this day?

He admitted spending 45 days in rehab, and will return there soon (though for the record he never specified it was for a sex addiction, only “the issues I’m facing”).

“I stopped living by the core values that I was taught to believe in,” he said. “I convinced myself that normal rules didn’t apply. I thought only about myself. I thought I could get away with whatever I wanted to. I felt that I had worked hard my entire life and deserved to enjoy all the temptations around me. I felt I was entitled.”

When it was over, Woods and his mother, Kultida, embraced. “I’m so proud of you. Never think you stand alone,” she told him.

He is not alone. But he’s no longer on a pedestal either. Now we’ll learn how he reacts to that.

119 comments Add your comment

Delbert D.

February 20th, 2010
5:36 pm

Jeff, how are you going to deal with your public humiliation after totally misreading the situation?

Felix the Cat

February 20th, 2010
5:55 pm

Tiger molested me.

John Boys' Watcher

February 20th, 2010
6:23 pm

The Fourth Estate, alias the media, are whinning because they did not get Tiger to come before them so they can be judge and jury. Nearly all of us either know and or are related to someone who committed similar transgressions so this is not an anomaly. The self righteous and the Fourth estate need to grow up! Tiger needs to get right with his family and his creator and they and they alone deserve full disclosure.

FNFAL

February 20th, 2010
6:34 pm

John Boys’ Watcher, Tiger is a Buddhist. He doesn’t believe in a humanized deity. Read a book once in a while.

crafty

February 20th, 2010
9:03 pm

Big Picture: (for the few actual golf fans out there)
If Tiger pitches an 0-fer this year, with Pebble and St. Andrews on the rotation, and goes into 2011 at age 35 and needing 5 majors to pass Nicklaus…game on. His comfort zone of expectation(20-24 majors) is gone. This was supposed to be the year for him to pad his total. How many have won 5 after age 35?….Only Hogan. The most important race in the history of the game just got a lot tighter.

Melissa

February 20th, 2010
9:28 pm

Zero sympathy for the adulterer. He did it repeatedly with at least a dozen women. The only thing he’s sorry for is that he got caught.

dawg 4 u

February 20th, 2010
10:44 pm

Great column Schultz. I think you really nailed this one. Tiger is no longer the “perfect image” and now is the “flawed man.” He always was flawed just like the rest of us and now will never be on that pedastal again. We elevate these guys to god-likeness and they even start to believe it. They’re believing the public perception rather than the reality that they are no better than the rest of us – richer and more famous yes but just as flawed. He may still cruise past Nicklaus’ records but the past image is gone. I still wish him continued success on the golf course because he is one of the greatest if not the greatest ever.

otis

February 21st, 2010
12:20 am

the only mistake that you can ever make about TIGER is never underestimate what he can do. he has done it time after time after time. this will make him better just watch and see. he will show everyone why his name is TIGER. TAKE THAT TO THE BANK.

GatorJimBob

February 21st, 2010
7:11 am

it is sad that Tiger’s respect for the integrity of the game does not carry over to his personal life. It is clear that Tiger has no moral compass, lacks personal integrity, doen’t have a clue what personal committment means. He has no personal Code of Conduct. The three basic qualities that every successful person has, including Tiger; Desire, Direction and Discipline are the very same traits that failed him in his behavior off the field. If you could look up the definition of “morally bankrupt” you would see a picture of Tiger.

TommyJack

February 21st, 2010
10:33 am

That he is the best golfer ever is probable.
That he gives generously to charity is noble.
That he is one of the most sullen, disrespectful, egomaniacs is certain. The guys is
lousy with the gallery and press. His arrogance is well known. It ever trickles down to his
a-hole caddy.
No real remorse here. Presser was just a bidness deal.
SkaRoo him.

Don't feed the trolls

February 21st, 2010
11:54 am

Michael Vick is a loser and always will be.

Camille Rose

February 21st, 2010
11:59 am

Tiger will golf and win championships again, everyone will forget about all this eventually. Except he will not be with wife and about a half billion dollars. I find it laughable that some of Tigers whores were upset that he did not include them in his apology. Good Luck Tiger!

tiger

February 21st, 2010
2:02 pm

all black men cheat and whip up on their white hos

tiger

February 21st, 2010
2:04 pm

white women get what they deserve

tiger

February 21st, 2010
2:09 pm

my race is ty-coon

Stan Kelley

February 21st, 2010
7:01 pm

Stan may be a Moron is a moron, a poor golfer and a person who may need some psychotherapy, or maybe a strong laxative would do the trick.

Fish2774

February 22nd, 2010
9:46 am

For those that continue to make excuses why they’re owed and apology listen you idiots! Tiger doesn’t owe any of us an apology based of the fact that: 1. We should be role models to our kids first, 2. He never asked you to purchase a product he endorsed you choose too, 3. Remember no sin is greater than another, so when you look at another man or woman other than the one your wit while drooling over that person. Remember that’s considered “LUST” which is a sin. “So Don’t Be A Hypocrite All Your Life”.

oldfart

February 22nd, 2010
10:37 am

If I look at a woman other than the one I’m with it’s called human nature. My wife knows to check my pulse if I don’t look at a beautiful woman, men are visually stimulated more than women, and some other old fart can call that a sin if they want to, I say it is biological. Now if there is a vow of exclusivity and I act to break that vow she has every right to come at me with an 8-iron. Not a hard line to draw.

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