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Atlanta tops Daily Beast list of places to meet single men

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Is it the company, the view or the booze? The Daily Beast gave the Glenn Hotel's rooftop bar a nod as it lists top places to meet single men. AJC file photo

After The Daily Beast crunched the numbers on population, eligible guys, four-year college degrees, nightlife and the number of gyms, Atlanta topped its list of best and worst cities to meet men.

As with any of the lists Atlanta shows up on, data rarely equals reality. This list mentions single gals who are searching, but doesn’t seem to consider Atlanta’s significant gay population, or how it could affect the data it used. It weighs all the bars, restaurants, clubs and theaters  — much of what we do for fun — as equal to places where we sweat on the treadmill. To keep the list tidy and uncomplicated, they couldn’t consider that where you meet people in Atlanta might be different than where you meet them in Columbus, Ohio or Los Angeles. Really, if I had to recommend a place in Atlanta for the single-and-searching, I’d instruct them to put Bella or Buddy on a leash and head to a dog park.

Then again, the Daily Beast only promised that you’d meet single men, not that you’d date them.

So, why Atlanta this time? Our Census data, and a social scene that “cooks.”

Whether it’s the Southern hospitality or the sub-tropical breezes, something about Atlanta is attracting all the right men: the doctors training at Emory, the junior executives at Coca-Cola, and the musicians and artists that make up one of the country’s most vibrant music scenes.

The list gives nods to the Graveyard Tavern in East Atlanta Village and downtown’s Glenn Hotel Rooftop Bar.

Rounding out the top 10 are Boston, Seattle, San Francisco, Minneapolis-St. Paul, Washington, D.C., Austin, Miami, San Diego and Denver. Last on the list: El Paso, Texas.

So what do you think? Where are the best, most fun places in Atlanta to meet singles?

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106 comments Add your comment

Dwight

October 19th, 2009
1:51 pm

The Heretic.

Necol7

October 19th, 2009
1:52 pm

Is this list for Gay men? If you are Gay this is the best place to meet successful single men.

Steve

October 19th, 2009
1:59 pm

This seems to be about gals meeting straight men, if you read the article.

Fred

October 19th, 2009
2:02 pm

Must be the wrong city, last I heard all the men in Atlanta were gay or married. I am married.

VoiceOf Reason

October 19th, 2009
2:18 pm

I’m sorry, did you say ATLANTA???

HotATL

October 19th, 2009
2:21 pm

Where is the best city for Women to meet Straight Men? When you get a true article on that question, then I will be back to read. PEACE!

Alright

October 19th, 2009
2:21 pm

Very funny! Where do they get this stuff?

Jamie Gumbrecht

October 19th, 2009
2:22 pm

Steve, the list does seem to be about gals meeting men, but the number of single men here who are gay wouldn’t necessarily be clear in the Census data. I can’t criticize — there’s no great way to create these lists. But for our purposes, these lists can generate helpful discussion for folks who are looking for fun ideas of where to meet people.

gaygal

October 19th, 2009
2:23 pm

not trying to meet men; am trying to be first.

Wow, Just Wow

October 19th, 2009
2:24 pm

The editors obviously never visited Atlanta.

Wha?

October 19th, 2009
2:27 pm

Ha! Wrong list, wrong city…

JohnF

October 19th, 2009
2:32 pm

Any single male, over-30 with a college degree and decent income that lives inside the city limits of Atlanta is most likely going to be gay. How do I know?..well it takes one to know one as they say. Now there are plenty of single guys under 30 that are straight but most of them are only recently out of college..or they still act like they are in college. If they have gotten themselves together at all, they have most likely already been snatched up and looking at their future out in the burbs. And just since Atlanta’s gayness is part of this discussion, it should be noted that Atlanta is a great city for single gays…but it has little to offer for long term gay couples.

KJ

October 19th, 2009
2:34 pm

I was a single, in shape, affluent, reasonably attractive male for several years in Atlanta, and I had a horribly difficult time meeting women, so, yeah, gay or not, this is apparently a great place for a woman to be extremely picky. Any woman here that complains about meeting men either needs to hit the gym or the psych couch.

TI

October 19th, 2009
2:38 pm

JT

October 19th, 2009
2:41 pm

How about INTELLIGENT period….there are some very unintelligent remarks made here. That’s not to say that some of what you ALL say here has some truth to it. But to make a general assertion that “all men in ATL are gay” is not so intelligent….AND it’s some bs. Now, one can look at the picture and the first thing that I noticed, is there are no WOMEN in the image, but to say that every man in that image is gay would be assanine. Everybody’s entitled to their opinion, but if you don’t have anything to say, shut the hell up is all i’m sayin’. And to ‘Fred’, like saying you’re married would have anything to do with whether you’re gay or not……

CeceG

October 19th, 2009
2:43 pm

I relocated here in 1992 from Chicago, where a successful female would have no problem finding a date with a straight guy or just a great straight friend. When I came to Atlanta I didn’t realize what was going on with the men here untl all of the articles about a lot of the men being “undercover” started coming out…it explained quite a bit… So far we all seem to be in agreement. I wish I could move somewhere else to be honest Atlanta is just not doing it for me.

everydayjane

October 19th, 2009
2:48 pm

I can’t judge whether it’s the top spot. I will say that ratio of 10/1 or 8/1, whatever it is – Is Hype!

CC

October 19th, 2009
2:49 pm

Best laugh I have had all day. This city is really hard to meet decent straight guys. I am in my 30’s, college educated, and have a respectable income. I also own my own home, car, and have a hefty portfolio. Yet, meeting men is about impossible it seems. So, I would love to hear new ideas of where to look.

Also, if you are thinking “oh, she must be a dog” I am a retired model and I love the gym. So, why not give us gals a list of new places to check out the opposite sex.

Andrea

October 19th, 2009
2:55 pm

The article says it is a good place to meet men (whether or not they are eligible for dating is another story). The city of Atlanta is not the place to meet men for long term dating or relationships. Hook-ups, ABSOLUTELY. One-night stands, NO PROBLEM. But, (sounding horribly politically incorrect) you better have your gaydar on full blast. Because, I can assure you, the only people that have their pick of eligible men in this city are the gay ones. Most heterosexuals looking for relationships are having to go outside the city.

Bill

October 19th, 2009
3:08 pm

Hi CC,

are you ever in the Roswell or Alpharetta area.

Ashley

October 19th, 2009
3:08 pm

Best city to be robbed or murdered, then yes.

Dwight

October 19th, 2009
3:13 pm

“Not that there’s anything wrong with that”…. from Seinfeld.

Jodi

October 19th, 2009
3:13 pm

LMAO….this is the worst city to meet eligible “treat you right” men.

Jodi

October 19th, 2009
3:18 pm

I just noticed what JT said….all men talking to each other in that photo.

AMBER

October 19th, 2009
3:22 pm

This is the absolute worst city to meet down-to-earth, hard-working, straight men. I moved down here one year ago thinking it was a vibrant city with many young professionals, and I have yet to find a descent guy to even “get to know” … this city is just not for all my single ladies!

Reign

October 19th, 2009
3:25 pm

Atlanta is NO PLACE for single, intelligent, successful women! There are plenty of men, but they’re not looking for these types of women. There’s a HUGE gay population and then you have men who are non committal because they know they outnumber the females. I’m sure there are straight men who are looking for good relationships with women, but all of the other “stuff” is in the way so the men and women can’t find each other. I wish I had enough space here to tell you about the men I’ve met, they’ve been freaks or married. I hadn’t dated in a looooong time and decided to get out and the guy I met that looked nice, dressed nice, and seemed nice turned out to be the biggest freak I’ve ever encountered. Our first conversation, the introduction conversation, was lewd and inappropriate and I told him so. I was extremely disappointed. He had to be at least 45 years old. He apologized but he was way out of line and I did nothing to warrant such ugly behavior. My friend recently met a guy, found out a month later through “his” friend who called the guys’ “wife” who called my friend to let her know, he’s married!!! She thought he was so nice. I can run down many incidents of b/s with men and women. I think women need to travel outside the country and outside their states. But Atlanta shouldn’t be on this list as a good place for women to meet men because it isn’t by no stretch of the imagination. It’s a cesspool of sick and lewd behavior (men and women). I like the energy here and I like the geographical location, but it’s definitely not for finding love…

Dude

October 19th, 2009
3:26 pm

LOL!! Best piece of fiction I’ve seen in a while. Next thing you know, they’ll say there are two single straight men for every woman here. And the water in Lake Lanier is ours for the taking.

Jamie Gumbrecht

October 19th, 2009
3:26 pm

Jodi & JT, I giggled to myself, too, when I looked for images in our archive. All the Glenn Hotel images and Graveyard images had only men in them.

ATLshirt.com

October 19th, 2009
3:28 pm

Glad I am not apart of any demographics explained in this article LOL

jayhorn5

October 19th, 2009
3:40 pm

I suppose I’m one of those elusive single males. If you can’t find one, you need to be introduced to my crowd. And whether I’m in Buckhead, Midtown, Virginia-Highland, East Atlanta, every bar I go to has an over-proportionally male ratio. Good thing I don’t go to bars to meet girls. I totally agree with this ranking.

Em

October 19th, 2009
3:55 pm

Atlanta, is a bad place to meet straight men, or real men. It seems like almost everywhere I look they are all gay! or married. and most of them want someone to take care of them! I have been here for 30 yrs, and still haven’t run into a nice decent working men. I am about to give up and move.

Nad

October 19th, 2009
3:56 pm

They are all single, but have 4 0r 5 baby mamas.

Wiffeymaterial

October 19th, 2009
4:03 pm

I actually agree with this article some what. When I was single and in the dating pool here in Atlanta, I always had more offers and dates than I had time for. Quantity is plentiful here in Atlanta, the quality is what I found to be lacking. Luckily I am in a happy,commited relationship now for a year and I don’t miss being single at all. But I sure did have ALOT of fun the 4 years I was single in the ATL!

Not Disappointed

October 19th, 2009
4:06 pm

I never married until 3 years ago. At 44 I know what I want and wouldn’t lower my standards. (No, I didn’t have kids!!!!)

They are some good women & men in the Atlanta. “Good luck to all of you in the future.” Don’t lower your standards & Love yourself.

“Good week to all!”

Not Disappointed

October 19th, 2009
4:08 pm

Wow wifeymaterial. Sorry about your past, but keep going forward. Press on sweetie!

GLW

October 19th, 2009
4:11 pm

Honestly, I’m literally afraid to seriously date a women in ATL. It’s so hard to tell who’s who and what’s what in these parts.

soulfinger

October 19th, 2009
4:13 pm

Where are all the “regular” men???

Keith

October 19th, 2009
4:15 pm

The best place to meet a great man is Target. The great educated young men who are looking for a great woman shop at Target. I will be there this weekend keep your eyes open ladies.

Dwight

October 19th, 2009
4:19 pm

Target? I buy paper towels and tube sox at Target.

GLW

October 19th, 2009
4:20 pm

@ Keith..thanks for that tip hommie….gotta ask my lady to start going to walmart instead

what

October 19th, 2009
4:22 pm

…so if all these women on here know that EVERY man in ATL is gaye….well just f—in leave the state and move to where all the straight men are if its SO BAD here…half the chicks that are complaining are the main ones alone and bitter..

Dude

October 19th, 2009
4:23 pm

Keith, stock boys & cashiers don’t count! LOL I could see if you said Whole Foods or Publix.

MsTee

October 19th, 2009
4:24 pm

Jayhorn, perhaps you should give CC and some of the other ladies who posted your number or at least the names of your and your friends’ hangouts. I hope you all can get together!

Keith

October 19th, 2009
4:26 pm

There are some pretty girls at Target…Please don’t knock it until you try it. Target is a great place for men to pick up women.

EJ the Diva

October 19th, 2009
4:27 pm

I think the best places to meet single men in Atlanta are the Home Depot, at your job or at school. You can always try the dating websites too. I always got dates that way.

Steve

October 19th, 2009
4:27 pm

Even if you are a gay man, this city is full of players and “men” who want to have fun, but finding gay partners to settle down with is a nightmare here.

Dwight

October 19th, 2009
4:27 pm

I knew a lady co-worker that hung out at the Cheetah strip club. I asked her why she would go to a bar where women took of their clothes. “Because that’s where all the guys are at night.” Pretzel logic.

MsTee

October 19th, 2009
4:28 pm

What about church? Would you say that’s a good place to meet prospects?

Jennifer

October 19th, 2009
4:35 pm

I agree with the above comments that Atlanta is not a good city to meet nice, single, straight men. I lived in Atlanta for a couple of years and had terrible luck with meeting and dating men. They just didn’t seem interested in spending any time at all getting to know you. It’s like they’re a kid in a candy store and there’s just too many choices for them to focus on just one person. Or, they were so in love with themselves, what was the point of you being around? And then there were a few that I went out with that I’m pretty sure were gay. I don’t mean to be a hater, as I’m sure there are some guys in Atlanta that are great, but my experiences with men and dating have drastically improved since moving back to Alabama. Don’t get me wrong, I loved living and working in Atlanta, just the dating part really sucked.

tipster trying to help out the ladies

October 19th, 2009
4:35 pm

ladies complaining about meeting single men have not done at least 2 of these:

1. join an ALTA or other tennis team, or just get out and hit with a girl buddy, watch what happens
2. get a couple golf lessons and get out with friends on Bobby Jones or Charlie Yates
3. grab a drink at The Tavern at Phipps on a Thurs/Fri or at a W bar on a Sat, and get to a place where you like the music and can dance once and a while
4. go early to an Atlanta Falcons / Hawks / Braves game, say hi alot and walk around a little during the game
5. go to the in-town park festivals (like Stomp – Cabbagetown folk fest etc), be sure to hit the beer tents, even if you’re just getting water

and certainly not last (but I’ve got other stuff to do) and certainly not least:

6. church it up & be sure wear your good looking stuff, don’t worry God’s got your back, He obviously understands and is looking forward to your future happy unions

no matter where you are, smile and say hello to everyone, gay, straight, young, old, other women, good things happen to people who spread the love

Eastcobb

October 19th, 2009
4:36 pm

This article is sure to get a lot of negative responses from women. I am a newly wed male but vividly remember how hard it was to meet single women. Everywhere I went there were always more men than women. Bars? More men. Run the Peachtree? More men. Place an online ad for dates? LOTS more men. Perhaps if the women in this city got off their butts and actually tried to meet more men, they wouldn’t complain about how supposedly few single men there are.

GG

October 19th, 2009
4:39 pm

I am fat so that may be my problem. Oh well, any dudes looking for a big girl hit me up! LOL!

MG

October 19th, 2009
4:43 pm

My heart goes out to the poor women who read this article and head this way! Someone should sue them!

MsTee

October 19th, 2009
4:46 pm

Honey, I’ve found that being fat doesn’t matter. If you have a pleasant and happy disposition with men and keep up your appearance, they’ll still be drawn to you. Though if a skinnier + pleasant + happy girl comes around you might have competition. :-)

GG

October 19th, 2009
4:49 pm

Thanks Ms Tee

That is the truth!

Samantha

October 19th, 2009
4:51 pm

I’m a straight female, my bestfriend is a gay man. I haven’t been in a relationship in years and neither has he if you exclude the users in his past. Gay men in Atlanta can meet 10 one-nighters within an hour. But don’t get it twisted, that’s ALL it is. They don’t meet long-term boyfriends EITHER. Plus, since I didn’t finish college that’s a huge leperous no-no in Atlanta. The first thing everyone says is “so where’d you go to school? Well, I didn’t but I make more money than most grads and I own my own home, which is not really good enough. You HAVE to have a degree or you’re not wifey material. If you want a long-term relationship you will not find it in Atlanta, unless you have the right resume, don’t ask questions, and put out.

They need to stop

October 19th, 2009
4:56 pm

Wow…this article has to be kidding…I’ve been here a little over 2 years and it took forever to find a decent guy who actually wanted to be in a relationship. I agree with most of what is said here…they are either gay, married, have girlfriend(s), or simply don’t want to be in a relationship.

Ol Girl

October 19th, 2009
4:58 pm

The problem is too many folks are LOOKING FOR RELATIONSHIP, LET IT FIND YOU MY PASTOR TOLD ME THAT. GET YOURSELF TOGETHER SO YOU CAN BE A MR. OR MS. RIGHT FOR SOMEONE. ALSO CHECK OUT PLENTYOFFISH.COM A FREE DATING SITE.

ATL Female

October 19th, 2009
4:58 pm

Another publicity stunt?!!!!! Straight single men in ATL?!!! Where?!!!

What your motivation?!! Get straight, single males to move to Atlanta?!!

I’m NOT falling for this one. I haven’t seen a straight single MALE in Atlanta since the 80s!!!

Article MUST be a joke!!! It’s NOT funny Jamie!!!!!

Your columns are boring as [fill in the blank] … I don’t know where you get your facts from!!!

Signed,

Single, STRAIGHT female

ATLshirt.com

October 19th, 2009
4:59 pm

Nice Single Straight men who are independant, will not approach you in Atlanta, its so difficult for us to walk up to a strange woman whom we feel attracted to and begin a conversation.. we feel like the creeps that you are describing in this thread.. Besides, we constantly see you with those bad boy types, so we have all begun feeling that we are not wanted, we do not bring enough excitement for you, so, we just let you be… good luck with the deadbeats who show extremely large amounts of confidence, who has had sex with every woman that fell for his B.S. if you are so blinded by his sexual appeal, then maybe you deserve to be played, but if you are smart enough to see right through him, and not give him the chance to even know your name, then maybe there maybe some hope for a guy like me afterall!!

California transplant

October 19th, 2009
5:18 pm

HEARTY LAUGH from the comments in this in thread. Whew! Kudos to Reign, tipster, and Samantha. It seems the consensus amongst the group is that this is no place to look for a spouse, orientation notwithstanding. When everyone is constantly reinventing themselves in this city, it’s hard to tell the real from the fake, and this is from someone who is FROM the real deal Hollywood. It’s amusing, and yet sad all the same. Godspeed to everyone looking to settle down, He will give you what you need when you need it.

MsTee

October 19th, 2009
5:23 pm

This is off-topic, but Steve, describe “thug”. I hear that term thrown around on this board so much. I’m starting to think it is simply code for “black man” as opposed to “criminal”–which is the traditional definition of thug. It seems that so many people on these boards see “thugs” everywhere. How can you know if someone is a criminal (the traditional meaning of “thug” merely by seeing them? If your definition of thug is “casually dressed (big shirt, baggy pants) young black men”, and you assume that all of these guys are criminal as a result, you could be mistaken. Some of them simply like to dress that way b/c its popular but they are actually decent kids. Just a thought…

Ol Girl

October 19th, 2009
5:30 pm

Dwight

October 19th, 2009
5:32 pm

@MsTee. Witness the new dress code instituted by Morehouse college. Maybe these young men can lead by example.Droopy pants and exposing one undershorts does not look good no matter the what color your skin.

Stop all the BS

October 19th, 2009
5:38 pm

The ATL is a great place to be a single man should be the article if your straight you have an unbelievable range of women to choose from if your gay you have an unbelieveable range of men to choose from. So the article should be Atlanta is a great place to be a single man!!!

ATLshirt.com

October 19th, 2009
5:54 pm

Dwight, they dont want a clean cut dressed man, they like for thier guy to look like young jeezy, hip hop gear, sagging pants and doo rags..

bosseswife

October 19th, 2009
6:10 pm

The headline is right “BEAST” place to meet men!

MsAmazing

October 19th, 2009
6:56 pm

Tipster u are so, just be open minded ladies. I’m single n beautiful myself but everytime l leave the house l always make sure l look good, and say hello to every guy that speaks. Alot of guys try to holla, but just waiting on the right one to holla….The other thing is to take care of ur bodies ladies special when u are on the market l mean come it’s hard enough in Atl to find a great guy but look good and love ursel first. No man wants a lady with no confidence! Come on Ladies step up ur game……..

joe

October 19th, 2009
6:57 pm

The key word here is “meet”. Ladies, if you are just going to sit there and act all coy and disinterested, playing the game and waiting for a man to approach you then you get what you deserve. If, on the other hand, you spot someone who is not playing the field then go up and “meet” him. It just might be me! Decent guys are out there. We are just not hitting on everything on two legs. Learn to spot us and your luck will change.

Stacey

October 19th, 2009
7:26 pm

I’ll probably be bashed for this BUT, I disagree with a lot of comments on Atlanta not being a good place to meet single straight men. I am 27 and earn a decent living. I don’t compromise on my standards and meet very good guys here in Atlanta. I believe a lot of us women are drawn to, and settle for the irresponsible men who want a woman to take care of them, and/or are…well…dogs. Let’s face it, they are the ones that are bolder and know what we want to hear.
Our instincts are so strong and we ALWAYS can sense the red flags with undeserving men but we choose to brush them off hoping things change later.
I have found that the best way to meet men is simply by doing the things you love. You don’t have to go to the museum to find a guy if visiting a museum bores you. You don’t have to go to home depot if you don’t need anything from there. Neither do you have to go sit in front of a bar if you don’t even like that scene, or drinking. Just remain prayerful, genuinely get out there to pursue your interests, and try HARD to do things because you want to NOT JUST because you want to meet a guy. You may succeed in landing a guy at a museum or bar but end up not being compatible at all
I haven’t inquired but actually believe a man can tell when a woman is at a venue for the sole purpose of meeting a guy. And I’m sure it’s a turn off to the “good men” and an attraction to the “wrong men”
It’s definitely harder finding a good guy now because a lot of men have become lazy and some given up on finding a good woman BUT, there are still good men out there, even in Atlanta.

SwimtrunkDawg

October 19th, 2009
7:31 pm

Boston.. The best city to meet a girl with a beard.

orion5

October 19th, 2009
7:43 pm

I was a single, in shape, affluent, reasonably attractive male for several years in Atlanta, and I had a horribly difficult time meeting women, so, yeah, gay or not, this is apparently a great place for a woman to be extremely picky. Any woman here that complains about meeting men either needs to hit the gym or the psych couch.
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Dude, you hit the nail on the head. I’m in the same boat because I don’t live ITP (inside the perimeter). I’m an attractive, educated, well-spoken male and find that most women won’t even make eye contact. If you go virtually anywhere in public in Atlanta (particularly to socialize), and take a true head count, you’ll find many more men that women.

EagleNationRising

October 19th, 2009
7:50 pm

Stacey, you are correct. Most of these earlier comments obviously come from women who fall into the Mary J. Blige category. They make horrid decisions in men and blame the men for their wild lifestyles and decisions. The numbers speak for themselves. Atlanta has been on top singles lists for years. I moved here from Washington DC almost two and a half years ago. I believe the singles’ scene is amazing. I am single and about to be engaged.

However, I have NEVER been in a city where women complain and cry so often. They make bad choices in men and then blame everyone except themselves. Many of the posters on this board should put their Mary J. Blige “I Made Bad Decisions in Men” card.

ChainofFools

October 19th, 2009
7:52 pm

This is a joke! I agree with most of the female posters on here today. The quality of men in Altanta is very poor (sorry 2% good men). I have been divorced over 2 years and all I keep meeting are fakers, liers, other women’s bored husbands and men looking for someone to take them in and feed them like strays. What would help if men would date in their league and if you do not have yourself together stay out of the dating pool until you do. Don’t seek out a dime when you are a penny. And whatever happened to chilvary and manners?

Uncle Tom

October 19th, 2009
8:06 pm

Why do you need a college degree to be a good guy?

mellowfella1

October 19th, 2009
8:13 pm

I believe their are undoubtably a large group of straight men in Atlanta. The problem is, women here are too picky to recognized a honest, hardworking man who does have morals and integrity to treat a women with respect and dignity. I agree with a previous post, who says that unless you have a thug mentality and walk around looking like young jeezy, then you’re left out of the loop. Also, if you don’t drive a particular car or your fashion is subpar, then you’re simply not good enough. I understand there are a large population of gay men in Atlanta, but there are also men who are overlooked simply because they are the good guys who never get a chance to prove their worthy for the ladies attention and affection.

Uncle Tom

October 19th, 2009
8:29 pm

I’ll tell ya a goooood place you can meet a decent guy… Oklahoma or Kansas. See, all you do is move out there and you’ll be getting away from this city where you claim you can’t find “a good man.” It’s probably a good idea though to do the online dating thing. This way, you can do your searching from the comfort of your home or office. Then, you can move out there where he is (you know, once y’all get all the living arrangements established). When that’s done, you can start your new life with him…on the farm. Besides, doesn’t every woman wish they could be a housewife?

Gman

October 19th, 2009
8:36 pm

Atlanta turned into cheesy niteclubs, tight black shirts, gold chains and fake body parts some time ago – there are less and less places to just go get a drink, turn up the jukebox and just get drunk and have a good time. The women I used to meet seemd to be looking for the fattest wallet they could find and someone to get them into “VIP” spots where they could get their picture taken. Actual conversation hovered somewhere around nonexistant.

I grew up in Atlanta and lived downtown for 11 years, from midtown to the Highlands, downtown to Inman Park and L5P; I gave up, got out and headed to Alabama. I live on the Gulf Coast and its a whole different ballgame and I could be more pleased. If you are fed up, get out and find a town with some heart and soul left in it – the ATL lost that luster in the mid 90’s.

Bri

October 19th, 2009
8:42 pm

I’m sorry, I simply do not agree with this. Maybe it’s the best city for Gay men to meet but not if you’re straight!

Uncle Tom

October 19th, 2009
8:47 pm

ATLShirt.com:

I’m so glad you didn’t say Lil Wayne.. You say these women want their guy to look like Young Jeezy. Let’s even the playing field a bit shall we? You mean to tell me they don’t want their guy to look like Bubba Sparxxx?

Reading from Ohio

October 19th, 2009
8:50 pm

I hear stories from my college friends that moved atl about the fellas on the dl. There is a shortage of eligible single men all over the country. Lord knows Dayton is no exception. We have to deal with drug dealers and mama’s boys here.

Good luck to the women down there, please stay safe. A percentage of men today have no morals or respect for us. Don’t lower your standards.

Jan

October 19th, 2009
8:57 pm

Yes, these numbers are greatly skewed, most of the men are gay, on the DL/BI or married. Try another city, but not DC….same thing!!!

Ms Debra

October 19th, 2009
9:27 pm

Yes…Its 13 women to one man in Atlanta. The men are aware of this so that’s the reason for the doggish attitudes and actions. The women really hate each other too, and the only time there is unity, is when there is a black an white issue.

Atlanta is NO PLACE for anyone really. Lots of crime, especially robbery and murder that’s usually black on black. Numerous down low brothers spreading HIV

Get out while you still can.

chelse

October 19th, 2009
9:28 pm

Yeah..then your next question is “Sooo..are you a MAN or a ‘GIRLY MAN’?”

Godiva1908

October 19th, 2009
9:37 pm

I would like to know who conducted the survey… It is so many leases in Atlanta…..from breasts to Bentleys

ATLshirt.com

October 19th, 2009
9:47 pm

Come On Uncle Tom, You know darn well that they do not want a bubba sparxx, why would they want a fat white guy with a grill ??? LOL

MarriedGuyHere

October 19th, 2009
10:05 pm

Yep..I am one of the “good” ones. 30 something, tall, attractive, clean cut, 6 figure household income, intellectual, but married.

I only wish I had a “do over” so I could exist in this space and enjoy some of the “fun”, with all these seemingly emotionally frustrated, fine, accomplished, single WOMEN in Atlanta. (LOL)

S.O.L IN DA ATL

October 19th, 2009
10:10 pm

AJC This is not cool! lol This is absolutely the MOST DREADFUL place for dating. I’ve been here for 3 yrs and I’ve experienced terrible encounters with the most slimiest, conniving, egotistical , overly dramatic males of ALL races. There’s too many weirdos and FREAKS here. Everyone tries to get in ya pants, dont want to get to know you for yourself. I’m a straight chick and I’ve gotten hit on by chicks!! What the hell?Then you got the DL/bi men here trying to camouflage themselves to pass for straight. it is terrible. Alot of people here are putting on a huge phony front. Hell, im scared to go to superwalmart..so clubbin/bars is definintely out of the picture for me…you just never know what kind of lunatic you will meet.

Chief Wiggum

October 19th, 2009
10:49 pm

I’m a divorced man in my 40s outside the Perimeter. We’re a dime a dozen out here. The women don’t want us, then whine that they can’t find any “decent” men in Atlanta. If we all have to be over 6′ tall, metrosexual, and make $100k+, well, good luck with that.

You know, if I said that a lady had to be 5′10″ or taller, have huge ta-tas, a tiny waist, and a graduate degree, think I’d be frustrated? Actually, wait…I’m frustrated, and my standards are nowhere near that.

Dating sites seem to indicate that the male to female ratio around here is like 10 men for every woman (at least on dating sites). If a woman can’t find a man among the many on there, she’s setting unattainable goals, often in an attempt to avoid commitment. Of COURSE he has to be perfect…what would your friends say if he was average? I mean…OMG.

calgarypuck

October 19th, 2009
10:56 pm

Honestly this is a terrible city for decent normal middle income single men. I wouldn’t even bother going out to bars or nightclubs. Its a total waste of time.

Matt B.

October 19th, 2009
10:57 pm

I was a single, in shape, affluent, reasonably attractive male for several years in Atlanta, and I had a horribly difficult time meeting women, so, yeah, gay or not, this is apparently a great place for a woman to be extremely picky. Any woman here that complains about meeting men either needs to hit the gym or the psych couch.
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Dude, you hit the nail on the head. I’m in the same boat because I don’t live ITP (inside the perimeter). I’m an attractive, educated, well-spoken male and find that most women won’t even make eye contact. If you go virtually anywhere in public in Atlanta (particularly to socialize), and take a true head count, you’ll find many more men that women.
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Third. I’m 26, good-looking, athletic, great job. However, what seems to be my downfall is that I’m also a decent guy who doesn’t act like a narcissistic d-bag. I’ve taken several girls out on dates that have gone well; even one where we hit it off. It never ends up working out though; I get excuses like “the date was a bit overwhelming”. Women reap what they sew in this town.

Trill

October 19th, 2009
11:13 pm

As a single,good looking ,34years young,bs degree ,no children with a 65000 salary black male in the atl i find it very difficult to meet Quality women without a lot of drama and baggage. i get so tired of rehabbing women from their last relationship and dealing with all these rules.

Single in Henry County

October 19th, 2009
11:18 pm

Dating in Atlanta – lots of great places to go if you know the area and roads. ITP people don’t add up to the population of eligible single males. Atlanta is a nice place to visit for those of us OTP. Guys that visit the places women like to go, ie. meat market bump and hump dance bars, are either gay,married, or sleazy. Clearly, there are plenty of women attracted to the “bad boy” image, but not much to sustain a meaningful relationship. Single straight guys like regular places such as sports bars or pool halls, usually with other guys, and are always open to the opportunity to meeting women in such places, if women make the appearance there. Single men with careers don’t live in Atlanta, but they play in ATL if you know where to look for for them. There is also plenty to say about expectations and intentions in regards to dating, on the part of both genders, but that is another article, post, or blog for another time. . . .

Uncle Tom

October 19th, 2009
11:37 pm

Perhaps the reason why so many people seem to be single is:

I. They are tired of…
a) people that say they can’t find a decent ___;
b) some guys are freaks;
c) no one worthwhile is to be found at bars or clubs;
d) the undercover guys outnumber the straight ones;
e) the women seem to be too harsh or picky;
f) he/she doesn’t make as much as the other so we can’t be together; and,
g) he/she doesn’t have my level of education so we won’t fit.

vuduchld

October 19th, 2009
11:48 pm

I lived in Atlanta for 22 years before I moved to Memphis in July and I never went to any of those places listed and I lived right down the street from the Glenn Hotel! I’m single and if women wanted to meet me they could have done so at the GA Aquarium, Centennial Park, the High,CNN Center, etc. In other words, don’t waste your time on this article because the folks who wrote this article don’t have a clue!

jhk

October 20th, 2009
1:10 am

Used to live in ATL – now live in another major city. I am a 31yr old CPA with Masters Degree, clean cut, 5′10, work out, well traveled, work for top 10 Firm, yada yada.
The problem w/ ATL women and most women is that they think Sex and the City is real. It’s not ladies! Quit looking for the 6′+, clean cut, model looking, dark, 200K salaried, guy, who is also super nice. They don’t exist! Also need to know that once you start hitting the 30s its a whole different ballgame.

The older I get, the more money I make and the more established I become in my career and personal life, the higher my stock goes.

The older a women gets the lower her stock (yes there are exceptions, if you look like Heidi Klum or Halle Berry you won’t have problems at 40 but most of you don’t look near those two)

Also – I’m not trying to be mean or rude here. These are just market facts. And make no mistake it is a market.

I personally would not even look at a woman above 27 unles she was extraordinary!

Gentleman – As Chris Rock said, get your money straight and remember you can lose a lot of money chasing women but you will NEVER lost women chasing money.

I’m out.

Dude

October 20th, 2009
10:07 am

jhk, man you are telling the TRUTH!

Also, I wanna add that I am starting to see what women really want. I used to be a “nice” guy, wondering why I was not respected for my qualities. But once you start becoming a “dog,” and doing things the way YOU want to do them, not giving a damn about women or what they say they want on the surface, you have MUCH better results.

It is SOOO weird why this works! When you pick up a girl, take her out, treat her nice, etc, you are “too easy” or “too accommodating” and the like. Start by not answering questions, kicking women to the curb, not calling them back, etc, they will be all on your jock. Women HATE to be ignored or made to feel that something is wrong with them, and they are constantly looking for validation. Give them this validation, and they run from you like the plague. Treat them like they are a number, you’ll need to hire help to handle all the ones who will throw themselves at you.

Dudes, I kid you not, whatever u do, DON’T do what is “logical,” but use your frustrations to fuel your desire to change. When in Rome, do what the Romans do. Same applies for the ATL. The “look” + the “attitude” + a bit of “disregard” = plethora of women to choose from here. Please make all checks and money orders payable to the ATL Dude.

CollegeGuy09

October 20th, 2009
12:37 pm

This article was a good read, but is very misleading. I’m 22 years of age, college educated, straight, employed, no baby mama’s, home and all the rest and a minority. Being a single man in Atlanta is harder than most people especially women think. Yes there are plenty of women here, but being a young black man, I always dated black women around my age and it’s always the same stuff, cheater’s, their bi, have kids, content with not doing nor having anything in life, who wants to date anyone like that? The young adult scene here is a joke and any young man in his right mind would look elsewhere to find a young woman attempting to do something remotely positive with her life.

CollegeGuy09

October 20th, 2009
12:43 pm

All the men that have written comments about this article have hit the nail on the head. It’s not the men that are the issue, it’s the picky women in this town. Ladies you can’t have your cake and eat it to!

HappyWomanInAtlanta

October 20th, 2009
1:54 pm

I am in my mid-forties. I met my sweetie at work and we became best friends. However, at that time, he was married but his wife did not appreciate having a good man and tried to control him as so many Black women do in their relationships. He divorced her. We are both college educated, successful, athletic and have similar backgrounds and interests. We support each other. We now have a family and are very happy. It is hard sometimes balancing time with both sets of children.

Before you judge us, we were friends until he separated from his wife and I didn’t encourage him to leave her. Do I worry about him leaving me? No, because he is very happy and taken care of at home.

I didn’t have a problem dating in Atlanta. However, I knew on the first date if I was compatible with someone. Women in Atlanta tend to rush relationships. Take your time when you meet someone new. There isn’t a rush to get serious, have sex and move to the next level. The key is finding someone compatible with you and not what you think others will be impressed with in your choice of a partner.

Dreamer

October 20th, 2009
9:44 pm

To jayhorn, atlshirt, joe and matt,
Now, seriously if you are the “decent”, “respectable” guys, where do you guys usually hang out? Perhaps, I could swing by this weekend and see for myself… ??

and, before you guys or others make judgments, I do NOT belong to the whiny group of women about not meeting single men etc.. I only moved here a few months ago.. I am beginning to get to know the city… and really hoping to meet people and make friends..

I am just a little curious.. most of you “decent” men said bars/clubs are not your thing.. mine neither.. I don’t go to bars or clubs.. neither do I put a ton of makeup or wear designer clothes… I am simple and nice and I prefer men who are that way too…
so where do you guys ACTUALLY go? movies? games? theater? park? coffee shops? restaurants? mountains???

or perhaps if you drive a BMW or some other luxury vehicle, you don’t bother to notice a woman who drives a Corolla/Civic or some other non-luxury car, even she is good looking, works at a top firm, is 27 and single??? And what is the dating scene like?? Is sex so important before you get to know someone?? I mean I can’t imagine someone I don’t know yet or like, touching me!!!

And to jhk:
I have NEVER watched sex and the city.. and I am not looking for a six-pack, six figure salary guy, who drives a fancy car… just someone simple and down-to-earth.. now, is that too much to expect??

I don’t know what to expect.. all the comments here are making me re-think my relocation choice.. oh btw, I did NOT move here for men, my job brought me here… and if it is as bad as what the comments say, perhaps I should get out ASAP. ..

Otherwise, I find Atlanta to be a nice place.. and most people are courteous..

Oh BTW, I have been approached by “thug” like men at Home Depot and Target… and I don’t mean black men.. so, not my place to “find” someone…

perhaps I should just go on that solo backpacking trip again, just to get away from it all…

Matt B.

October 22nd, 2009
12:23 am

Dreamer,

First of all, Atlanta is a great place to live and socialize. I’m 26 and a native, which is rare these days, and I can’t see myself living in too many other places, save for Nashville or Charleston.

I’m not against going to bars; I still go out to Buckhead and the Highlands with friends. Besides bars, I’ll go to Chastain to run, out to eat dinner with friends, hit the golf course, etc.

My problem is after you’ve been at the office all day and your done working out or whatever I end up doing after work, where’s the time to meet cool girls during the week?

I find coffee shops are a nice starter place for conversation with women. Backpacking sounds fun. Ya, and seriously, I don’t think too many cool guys would be hanging out at the Home Depot anyway…

JB

July 14th, 2010
6:21 am

Its my Opinion that most like 99.9% of the women in the United States do not realize how good they have it. They take for granted all the liberties that women have in the United States. Then when it comes to dating they want to play the I am better than you role. Or I can do better.
I wish all these uptown women could travel to the Middle East or at least overseas and see the other 90% of the female population. 90 % of them wish they had a day off or the time to have a date. I am so tired of women that profess. Do not do this ! Do not that ! Jeez now wonder the male population is going gay !! I will continue to travel over seas until I meet Mrs. Right!! American Women I will not play your Games.

jb

August 26th, 2010
9:34 pm

I know this is an old article, but ran into this today and its been awhile to be soooo entertained on the internet! Even though this “poll” is totally Meaningless, thanks to many of you posters here, I’ve been laughing all day. BTW, I’ve lived in the great ATL for 28 years minus being displaced the last 3, married for 20, but had already started ‘dating’ someone, so never had to immediately get into dating. When that relationship, already been a back/forth thing ended after 2 1/2 yrs, I did start to ‘date’ and it was one nightmare after another! My ‘degree’ would be Wisdom, and ya can’t get that at no college, nor can you attain common sense there as well. I have never been ‘picky’ unless you want to call picky wanting a man who not only is honest but wise, in shape, not necessarily ‘rich’ but financially solid and yes, GOOdlooking! Everything except the financially solid part would be my match! So, that is the Complete picture of the Real problem with any availble single men(Anywhere) – the ones you do find that are decent are ugly as a mud fence! Yes I’ll be once again heading to the ‘dating’ online sites only this time, just posting pics and if ya aint got any or any good ones don’t call!

jb

August 26th, 2010
9:43 pm

Oh yeah, almost forgot, that most bewildering issue of ‘where the boys are’. Hey – GO TO THE PARKS GUYS!!!! I went there many times, the suburb parks, where you can ride bikes, take a walk, just a general good time outdoors. All I ever saw were a bunch of either old ugly people or kids. Quit going to the gym and go to your local park! Having your dog with you is probably your best bet!

jb

August 26th, 2010
10:18 pm

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