The standard college rejection letter announces, “While you are a qualified applicant, we regret to inform you that we are unable to offer you admission.”
However, the rejected student often reads a subtext into the letter: “You are not good enough. You are not getting into this amazing college that would have changed your life.”
Allison Singh, 37, understands that reaction. That is how she felt when Princeton rejected her 20 years ago. She nursed her wounds until she realized that she ultimately benefited from the loss.
So, when a high school friend asked her to help her boss’ daughter deal with a rejection by her dream college, Singh composed a long email that began, “I was crushed when I wasn’t accepted to my first-choice college. I felt like a failure and was angry that all of my hard work hadn’t been enough for admission.”
But Singh ended the email with, “But slowly, I gave my school and my classmates a chance, and gave myself a break…I came out of