I am not sure why schools add more to their plate by taking on such idiotic and unnecessary tasks as inspecting high school seniors’ prom dresses. Yet, here is another newspaper story about a school system getting itself overheated over a prom dress — and I would bet that the dress in question would have been allowed at most Atlanta schools.
(In fact, the dress would have been allowed at my Catholic high school where friends wore far more revealing ensembles. The nuns never said a word, figuring that we got to doff our uniforms once a year so why not let it go.)
I have no problem with reasonable restraints on what teens wear to school, but I would defer to parents on senior prom night, which is a four-hour event typically not even held on school property.
In addition, we are supposed to be treating high school seniors as adults, yet we want to tell them what formalwear is acceptable? I just think this is a waste of everyone’s time and a losing battle.
Let mom and dad duke it out with the girls. If the parents approve of the gown, the school should stay out of it unless the dress is made of clear plastic wrap, chain link or explosives. I went to a formal affair at a fancy prep school once and there was a mom whose gown was literally three scraps of materials. She showed more skin than all the teenage girls combined. Some people don’t have any sense at 17 or at 47.
The punishment at this Alabama school for a prom dress offense was either suspension or paddling. Another example of insanity. If we are paddling 18-year-olds for wearing revealing prom dresses, we need help. This story was sent to me by a regular Get Schooled poster, who included this note:
I thought I would share this news story about a girl punished fro a skimpy prom dress. The choice of the punishment was suspension or a paddling. I know you’ve covered similar stories.. As a parent if I lived in that community, I would be absolutely beside myself if my daughter had to choose between either of those choices for a punishment. But that is just one parent’s opinion. These are seniors in high school for crying out loud! I think a dress code is fine BUT draconian punishments are ridiculous.
Anyway, here is part of the story from the Anniston Star. Take a look at the whole thing, if you have time:
Erica Deramous was not trying to make a statement, disobey school policy or flaunt herself. She just wanted to enjoy her senior prom.
She was suspended all the same.
“I feel it’s stupid because I got suspended for nothing,” Deramous said.
As high school seniors in Calhoun County and across the country continue to board limousines and purchase corsages in the coming weeks for their proms, many will come under the scrutiny of school administrators with varying interpretations of what is and is not appropriate formal wear.
Deramous was one of about 25 Oxford High students who were disciplined for violating the dress code at her school’s prom Saturday. The students in violation were allowed to stay at the prom, but the following week, each was given the option of receiving corporal punishment or accepting a three-day suspension from school, Oxford principal Trey Holladay said.
“We’re using the same policy we’ve had for the last five years,” Holladay said. “Being a parent, I want to make sure girls and guys act accordingly. We’re a high school and our community has certain expectations of what is appropriate.”