Defense attorney: Dirty dancing occurs all the time at high school

Representing a DeKalb chorus teacher who allegedly allowed male students to strip in front of their classmates and engage in sexual dance moves, the defense attorney offered a startling rationale: “That is customary and usual activity at Southwest DeKalb. This is what the kids do daily, weekly, monthly at Southwest DeKalb.”

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Former DeKalb chorus teacher Nathan Grigsby is on trial today for allowing the students to perform a “Chippendales style” revue in class.

Former chorus teacher Nathan Grigsby is on trial today for allowing the students to perform a “Chippendales style” revue in class.

The students removed their shirts and pants and performed lap dances and pulled female students by the ankles and then simulated sex acts, according to DeKalb Solicitor Robert James.

Grigsby is charged with five counts of contributing to the deprivation of a minor. Each count is punishable with up to a year in jail or a $1,000 fine.

I’ll be curious to hear when, where and how such dancing occurs at Southwest DeKalb.

While I’ve seen teens feigning sexy dance moves in schools, I have never seen anyone dance sans pants and never with the approval of a teacher in a class. I have seen teens playing around and dancing in the cafeteria or in the parking lot, but nothing that crossed a line or warranted criminal prosecution.

We’ll have to see how defense attorney Jackie Patterson substantiates his claims that dirty dancing is a common event in the school                                                                                             .

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LSH

March 29th, 2010
3:25 pm

I coached cheerleading at a high school several years back. Our school would play some south Dekalb schools. The cheerleaders and dance teams would do some seriously trashy dancing and cheers. My girls would look at them and want to do some of the same. My answer- as the ADULT in charge- NO!! I don’t care what the kids want to do- as the teacher- you are the adult and you need to make the right judgement call. In a school fraught with issues like Southwest Dekalb- the teachers have to hold the line harder than anyone. The kids can whine and complain and stamp their little feet all they want- the adult is in charge.

My two cents...

March 29th, 2010
3:27 pm

When I first read this article, I thought what a ridiculous defense. I still think his legal defense his ridiculous but not the point he is trying to make. Let me explain. It has been my observation that when predominantly African American bands perform at my school, the girls are usually dressed in some provocative way. The dance routine usually assimilate sex at some point. I am embarrassed for the girls. I question how can the parents and the school allow their little girls to be put on display like that.

Honestly, if this happens on a college campus (as it does at HCBUs), I have no complaints. The students at that point are adults and can decide to put themselves on display. I disagree when it is in a high school. When schools allow children to display themselves in sexual suggestive way, then I believe the school is endorsing such behavior.

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NO WAY

March 29th, 2010
3:38 pm

Why do you think they are mothers at 15? It’s the culture and it’s accepted, as evidenced by the defense attorney. Sadly, he speaks the truth.

@LSH

March 29th, 2010
3:46 pm

What issues at SWD are you referring too? Why is it that you said schools in South Dekalb county? There are school across the state that have people that dance in a provacative manner. These students were not even in that band. I am not saying that this type of thing does not happen, but to limit it to an “end” of a county is not right. I am tired of the south end of the county being put in the media when these things happen everywhere. No one heard about the two male students that were caught having sex at a high school in the “north end” of Dekalb or about the students that were having an orgy at the McDonalds on the “north end” of the county.
I do agree with you when we must look at the big picture: the ADULTS!! There was an adult in the room and he is trying to make it seem like he told these students to stop and they did this behind his back. I refuse to believe that he sat there oblivious to what was happening, but lets not make this a north, south thing because this type of thing happens everywhere. It is just unfortunate that they ended up on the news.

@No Way

March 29th, 2010
3:48 pm

Dancing is not making babies at 15. Teenagers having sex is making babies and society is aceepting it when they have shows like 16 & Pregnant which showcase teenagers having babies and becoming famous because of it.

Dunwoody Mom

March 29th, 2010
3:49 pm

Wow, I am rather speechless at this defense tactic – way throw the children at this school under the bus.

DeKalb Conservative

March 29th, 2010
3:53 pm

Where’s the story here? I just have written this behavior off as part of the culture.

Voice of Reason #1

March 29th, 2010
3:55 pm

This country is going to hell in a handbasket; it’s been doing so for the past 20+ years. We need decency laws; we just do.

DeKalb Conservative

March 29th, 2010
3:55 pm

Is it wrong that I’m just numb to this story? I feel like I should have more reaction and outrage.

Dunwoody Mom

March 29th, 2010
4:06 pm

I guess I’m old enough that when I hear “Dirty Dancing” Patrick Swayze and Jennifer Grey come to mind. What was described above is pornographic, disgusting and appalling. However, Mr. Grigsby is the teacher and, well, the buck stops with him. Would I fire him? Yes. Would I prosecute him? No.

whatever

March 29th, 2010
4:08 pm

Now that I have finished rolling my eyes in disgust. (And popped them back into their proper place) I just felt I had to comment. I don’t know who is the bigger IDIOT. the Teacher or his Defense Attorney.That defense won’t hold water. The teacher showed extremely poor judgement to allow this to happen in the first place. He was the Adult and in charge. If he wasn’t in charge then he had no business teaching in the first place. I think he was turned on by the whole idea. And that he SHOULD be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. .

The Truth

March 29th, 2010
4:12 pm

His defense is ridiculous and sad. Just because he’s caught up in this monstrosity, he wants to tear down the school that supported him; by saying that lewdness was common in the school climate. This is a joke. Nathan Grigsby is a sad sick man, and I hope he gets help. And to all the people supporting him, you haven’t seen the real video; not the one he doctored up and took himself out of, but the real video where he’s in the background laughing while the guys perform this “Chippendale” routine that looked quite well rehearsed.

SWD Graduate

March 29th, 2010
4:23 pm

I am a graduate of this high school and I am going on record as saying this is past ridiculous! No judgment was used by the teacher. No common sense was displayed by the teacher. And to top it all off their defense is, “It happens all the time at SWD?” How can this guy have the nerve to show his face in public, or for that matter, expect to teach CHILDREN ever in the future? Thank God my daughter does not attend my poor, disrupted alma-mater.

soulfinger

March 29th, 2010
4:25 pm

@Dunwoody Mom…Same exact thing came to my mind!!! RIP Patrick Swayze…

DB

March 29th, 2010
4:29 pm

Oh, GAG!! Honestly, is that the BEST defense he can come up with? When my kids were 8, they knew the defense, “But everyone else is doing it!” was NO excuse at all.

Why aren’t the parents screaming bloody murder over this? I thought responsible adults were supposed to guide kids into making good decisions, not train them as hoochie dancers! I hope they throw the book at this dirtball.

David S

March 29th, 2010
4:31 pm

Our neighbors had their girls (7 and 10) in dance classes. My wife went and saw one of their performances and thought she had accidentally walked into a strip club for youngsters (and she is no prude). For some reason today it seems like anything goes and the more sexually suggestive the better, no matter the age of the girls. You need only watch that disgusting show about the pagent kids to understand what I mean (and if you are reading this and don’t see what’s wrong with kids looking and acting like that then you are part of the problem).

Its high time for parents to start paying more attention to what their little girls are being taught, how they are dressing, how they are being instructed to dance, and the like. The defense attorney is likely right that this kind of dancing is not out of the ordinary. Before crucifying the instructor, maybe the parents should ask themselves what they have done to stop this from being common practise.

David S

March 29th, 2010
4:33 pm

When parents are paying good money to get folks to teach their kids to dance like this privately, then what example does that set for the schools when they design their programs??

Todd - Dacula

March 29th, 2010
4:37 pm

Why prosecute a Teacher for what our society allows ona daily basis for a lot of cultures. Obviously he shoudl have had better control of his class room setting, but this state is notorious for prosecuting [mostly minorities] for matters that non-monirioty cultures seem to getaway with. This state seem to come up with laws or create laws [sexting :) ] very quickly but fail tor espond to economic issues. You cant buy alcohol on a Sunday, except at perhaps a Braves game or some select dining establishments; and then drive home. Give me a break. Check most prosecutorsand you are almos certian to fine some type of freak video or DVD…

This holy attitude must stop or be hard lined on all matters.

Concerned Henry Co. Parent

March 29th, 2010
4:38 pm

Wow how things have changed since I graduated from SWD in 1978! And yes, it’s a culutral thing LSH! How many majority white schools (and white parents for that matter) do you think would tolerate this type of bahavior?

College Grad

March 29th, 2010
4:47 pm

In high school (15 years ago) I withdrew myself from the dance team/flag corps because I was uncomfortable with the “moves” we were doing. I trained in ballet, tap and ballroom dance as a child and felt that I had no place dancing in a provactive way at 15, 16, 17 years old.

As an adult I have taken an aerobics class where a vertical pole is used (a “stripper” pile) and it was a great workout, but I don’t think I’ll EVER do that again. I felt so trashy, like the only redeeming thing about me was my ability to twirl on a pole.

DeKalb Conservative

March 29th, 2010
4:48 pm

Which is more bigoted, seeing this story and assuming it involved minorities, OR after speculating it involved minorities, giving it a pass as just a cultural thing that can’t be changed.

Don’t suppose John Lewis, or anyone from the civil rights era would care to step in as a father figure and scold this type of behavior?

Country Mom

March 29th, 2010
5:02 pm

This is why I work two jobs to keep my kids in private school…
So vulgar, so ghetto, so totally absurd that this episode or any of the other supposedly common episodes to be tolerated…

Proud Black Man

March 29th, 2010
5:07 pm

Well well well. I see that “missy” Maureen seems to be throwing food to the white right to sop up. Darn those colored folk and their dirty dancing. Yeah its a cultural thang. Just like WWI, WWII, Vietnam, Imperialism, Jim Crow, Segregation, and Iraq are cultural thangs to you people.

Oh Please!!!!

March 29th, 2010
5:09 pm

Can we please get off the cultural thing!!! What about Brittany Spears, Pink flying from a big swing, Christinia AguIielra when she was dirty, Paris HIlton’s sex tape!!! Lets not even go there. The point is, this “teacher” is trying to cover his hide by saying this happens all the time there. It may happen in his class but not the whole school. Is it safe to say that all white kids in Rockdale county have an STD because of the PBS special??? No, it was informative and people learned from it and moved on. Is it safe to say that white teenage females are the ones that are leading in the percentage of teen pregnancy?? If I watched MTV only I would say yes, but I am smarter than that!! This is about the kids and we need to do something that will protect and educate them.

Proud Black Man

March 29th, 2010
5:09 pm

I see that my comment didn’t make it. Selective censoring anyone?

Save our children...

March 29th, 2010
5:12 pm

Schools (middle and high) need to understand that these are CHILDREN performing. The cheerleaders are CHILDREN! The dance team are CHILDREN! The band are CHILDREN! The step team are CHILDREN! The flag corp are CHILDREN! We need to make sure as adults we are protecting them. In some cases, we have to protect them from themselves. Yes, they want to recreate what they are seeing on TV, it is our job to not allow them to demean themselves.

This is not an Elvis Presley situation where about the adults were alarmed he was moving his hips. Elvis was a grown man. These are children that are dropping to the ground simulating sex. They are turning their behinds to the crowd and shaking. They are opening and closing their legs in a sexual manner. They are simulating pulling someone towards them and pumping their hips. I am just describing what I saw at a recent high school step show!

Maureen Downey

March 29th, 2010
5:14 pm

Proud, Nope. No selection. Run-of-the-mill filter problems. You and critical-care nurse are both now free.
Maureen

parenttoparent

March 29th, 2010
5:20 pm

@LSH, the ends don’t justify the means, unless you believe in child porn yourself. @No Way, stop letting society define who and what our children should be, saying well what about what others are doing is not and should not be a defense to lewd, perverted and down right devilish acts in our school. If you think this kind of nastiness won’t lead to teenage pregnancy you are wrong. Where do you think they get ideas about sex, doing sexual things, this dance was sexual. Where do you think babies come from doing sexual things. I pray to God that neither one of you have children because they will be as lost as you are. We need to start protecting our young women and men from this kind of thing. This teacher does need to be prosecuted because it was just his way of getting off on watching these young people do this, what do you think they do to people who watch child porn on the internet, prosecute them. Being a teacher at a school gives him a platform to act out his perverted aggresion on our children. Probably tape it and go home and watch it for his own nasty pleasure. “WAKE UP” stupid people, to many children on these child porn web sites as it is. If you think men don’t get off on watching children perform pornographic acts you better wake up. Reginald Baylon was right to report this, as a parent that’s exactly what I would have done. Voice Of reason, I know you meant well but we don’t need decency laws, we have laws against stealing, rape, murder, assault etc., people still commit these crimes. Laws stop nothing, read the posts above from people like “LSH” and “No Way”. If the parents think it’s okay, how do we tell the children it’s not.

HOLY MOLLY

March 29th, 2010
5:50 pm

My daughter is a high school teacher in south Georgia and this type of dance happens all the time.Culture is not the problem. It happens even in the pivate schools. Parents are the problem. When the student is caught doing this and other rude comments,and I mean really rude comments. The Parents are informed.8 out of 10 times it will be the teachers fault. The parents take no action toward the child(14yr.to 18 yr.old).It goes on and on!

parenttoparent

March 29th, 2010
6:01 pm

Oh Please!!!! Another one I pray to the heavens don’t have children. The difference between you and a good parent is this. You say well Pink, Christina, Paris Hilton and Brittany does it. The good parent says just because Pink, Paris Hilton and Brittany does it you don’t have to, and that your body is God’s temple and it should not be used for perverted, lewd and lascivious acts, just so others can be entertained. We all know that as a person thinketh, so he or she is. If our girls look on themselves as nothing but nasty sluts they will allow themselves to be treated that way their whole lives, by men in the streets, by the teachers and young men in their schools, even their boyfriends and husbands. . That’s why they get pregnant and can’t get ahead in life. For all the African Americans saying this is okay, think about it being black comes with enough baggage as it is. And i’m not just playing the race card. We really have it harder than whites. Sex and babies at an early age takes us down a peg. We need to stay focused and keep our minds off of a lot of sexual mess, ain’t no future in it. There was an ad that ran on TV a couple of years ago, it said “sex can ruin your life”. Most parents who don’t care about their children in the first place look at that as propoganda. But a good and caring parent look at it as being the gospel truth. Same way they see nothing wrong with the way these girls dance at these games. The one thing I have never in my life been able to understand, a women has a baby at 16,17,18 out of wedlock. Has a hard time all her life struggling to make it for her and her children, then won’t even try and coach her daughter into doing the right thing when it comes to sex. “SAVE OUR CHILDREN”

me2

March 29th, 2010
6:05 pm

thank you ‘Oh Please’ for pointing out what most seem to have forgot. This sort of behavior crosses all color lines.

SWD Dancing Diva

March 29th, 2010
7:17 pm

OKAY! so i think its pretty unfair and not cool for adults to go passing judgment on a subject which they know nothing about! I am on the dance team at swd and we do not dance provacatively, we dance to gospel I.E last years jamboree”never would have made it” and we also dance to hip hop and rap. I dont know what you know about SWD but we like to have a good time. Someone is always singing or dancing especially since our girls just won “3 PEAT” the bball championship. That dance was just a joke and it occurs alot in school. You guys go get so serious over stuff when its so simple, we are teenagers we dont think that far. Yeah, people have sex in the hallways, oral in the stairwell, weed in the back but many schools do. Yeah i have friends that attend marist and padeia and they say they do the same stuff and even worse at parties! so dont try to make it just a south dekalb thing because its a dunwoody, lakeside, chamblee, north springs and alpharetta thing to!

Dunwoody Mom

March 29th, 2010
7:21 pm

@Saveourchildren – the students involved were 18 years old. They are no longer children and are responsible for their own behavior.

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catlady

March 29th, 2010
7:58 pm

They may or may not have been 18, but they were in a PUBLIC school. Teacher should be prosecuted and fired, kids should be expelled. Put an end to anarchy! Some of these schools are out of control. And if this is normal behavior, put a stop to it immediately. You can’t tell me someone doesn’t know about this!

When we lived in Athens 20 years ago, the Cedar Shoals High School dancers pulled a stunt like this at a basketball game. I stormed up to the assistant principal, who told me it was a part of their culture and refused to put a stop to it. It was also common for the parents on either side to shout obscenities to each other, make vulgar motions, etc. And no one was escorted out!

I think at some points the taxpayers would demand better of their children and their schools!

James Johnson

March 29th, 2010
8:08 pm

You should also check Mr. Grisgby’s personnel file with Atlanta Public Schools. He had extensive problems as an employee. DeKalb should have done a better job checking his references before hiring him.

Dunwoody Mom

March 29th, 2010
8:46 pm

The teacher was fired and the students were seniors – was this incident discovered prior to graduation? Anyway, if this is the culture, as claimed by Mr. Grigsby at SWD, then there are some serious questions for the Principal of that school.

Save our children...

March 29th, 2010
9:05 pm

@Dunwoody mom: As long as the 18 year olds are on the class roll and not the pay roll, the adults in that school building should have authority over them.

Save our children...

March 29th, 2010
9:10 pm

SWD Dancing Diva wrote:
“That dance was just a joke and it occurs alot in school. You guys go get so serious over stuff when its so simple, we are teenagers we dont think that far. Yeah, people have sex in the hallways, oral in the stairwell, weed in the back but many schools do.”

SAVE OUR CHILDREN… SAVE OUR CHILDREN… SAVE OUR CHILDREN… SAVE OUR CHILDREN… SAVE OUR CHILDREN!!!!!

Private School Conservative

March 29th, 2010
9:13 pm

Another hit on teachers and the field of education in general. But people gotta wonder; are public schools that bad and out of control? That depends on the demographics of the school. Teachers know this, administrators know this. All of us know this but unfortunately this is the “truth that cannot be told.”

TLC

March 29th, 2010
10:58 pm

Because teachers that have over 50 children in a class can definitely watch every student at everytime, this is ridiculous right? anyone who has ever met Mr. Grigsby would know that he instilled a since of not only school pride but self pride in his students that no other teacher took the time to do. No one has brought up the fact the GA board of super intendants asked his choir to perform at their convention again and again, or that he brought the school as a whole together, for one second i urge you to think about the students he’s helped, it greatly out numbers the 3-6 that were involved in this. They’ve all left and moved on to higher education, why can’t they just let him be, now?

SWD Parent

March 29th, 2010
10:58 pm

The SWD Diva’s comments should remind all of us “holier than thou adults” that we were “those” teenagers at one time. Teenagers didn’t start having babies when this unfortunate incident occurred at SWD. How soon we forget that many of us were those unwed mothers, those weed smokers and yes those “anything else we could get away with” teenagers. I don’t feel Mr Grisby should be sentenced. He has been punished enough because he lives with this everyday and the love of his life, “directing the SWD chorus”, has been taken away from him.

As concerned parents, we do our best to teach our children not to do anything they will be sorry for forever. Unfortunately, the truth is, we go to church, we read the bible, we pray, we have family time but we can only hope our children will use better judgment when confronted with peer pressure.

TLC

March 29th, 2010
11:09 pm

I ama student at SWD and i believe that its really easy to comment on something you know nothing about. Here all ya’ll are passing judgement on a man you’ve never met and talking about everything you wouldn’t do or your kids wouldn’t do, well how about you stop commenting on a situation you’ve only read about and spend some time with your kids to ensure they don’t commit this “horribly lewd, chipanddales strip tease” get real! ya’ll had “the bump” and for crying out loud the song” do it in the butt” and i’m sure your parents weren’t happy. Its a new generation and a new time. Mr. Grigsby is the kindest man i’ve ever met, we had strict rules in his class, he turned his head, they got out of control, now if he’d popped them upside the head for doing it, then this would be a whole nother discussion. and as the smiling, anyone who knows him, knows that he was ALWAYS smiling! the demographics don’t matter this would have and could have happened anywhere, anyone who thinks other wise is living in a false reality. the vocal training Mr. grigsby has given me helped me receive a theatre scholarship for the fall. please just leave him alone and mind your own business!

DB

March 30th, 2010
12:23 am

@TLC: Sorry, but I cannot get past your excreble spelling, grammar and punctuation to take your post seriously, and if you’re really going to be going to college next semester, I predict you will be one of the hundreds of public school products who are stuck in remedial English. Between you and SWD Dancing Diva . . . we rest our case. Boys writhing on the floor and grabbing girls in sexually provocative ways while a teacher stands by and laughs is NOT the norm in most schools, no matter what you think you know, and do nothing to contribute to an atmosphere of learning.

Decatur Resident

March 30th, 2010
12:23 am

First I would like to SHAME! to the people who – without any knowledge of the kind of person he is- say reckless things like he is ’sick’. He is a great man and I know God will see him through this.
Now for all of you I wish you would use your analytical skills and read between the lines. When the teens who did this dance are willing to testify that Mr. Grigsby’s back was turned when they were doing this and to prevent their testimony they are charged with a crime what does this mean to you…….Please use all your analytical skills think hard! Clearly there is more to the story. Why suppress these boy’s testimonies by making their defense of Mr. Grigsby punishable by law and evidence in their own prosecution? Know that they were not charged with a crime until Monday when they would have testified in favor of Mr. Grisby. Does prosecuting these boys prevent young boys from dancing like this in the future? NO!!!! So why prosecute them? Is this politics or someone’s personal agenda?
As for all those saying it part of the culture etc…all our budding sociologist.. give me a break go watch Girls Gone Wild majority of them are young white college girls. Does this mean it is the white culture to do those things? NO!!!! Stop measuring the “other” in a way you do not measure your own community.

say what?

March 30th, 2010
2:02 am

@DB you are correct. SWD, SWD parent, Dancing Diva are the root of the problems that persist in society. It is acceptable as long as everyone else is doing it; then when do children become leaders? When do they begin to take responsibility for actions? NEVER, and what type of person do we get if they lack leadership skills? We get this teacher who is willing to sacrifice the students for his personal gain. This was a teacher who should not have been allowed a key to a room, if for 1 minute he turns away, yet he cannot hear the raucus and the whooping and hollering.

when my daughter was 7 and cheering at a local park where the cheerleaders always brought home the trophy at championships, I had to draw a line. At the end of the football games for the 7 y/o boys, the cheerleaders did a special dance for them if they won. Why do 7 y/o boys need to sit and watch a group of 7 y/o girls gyrate, shake, and shimmy for them winning a game. This indoctrination of young people leads them and their parents to believe that it is acceptable behavior, and it is NOT.
Chris rock once said that his main job in life is to keep his daughters off the pole, perhaps some of these single mothers need to have the same job.

Former Chorus Parent

March 30th, 2010
2:36 am

To all:

I had the good fortune of having worked with Mr. Grigsby when my daughter was involved in the chorus at SWD. I also served on the chorus booster’s committee along with several other dedicated parents. Although we did not always agree with everything that Mr. Grigsby said or did, I know enough about him to know that he is a very decent man, and does not deserve to have his life destroyed over this “foolishness” (one of his favorite words).

For those of you who are so quick to rush to judgment, have you ever had a classroom of 150+ teenagers that you were trying to control? Parents, I hope that you don’t have your head tucked so far down in the sand that you honestly believe that your son or daughter is on their best behavior at all times when they are out of your sight. Believe me, it is a very difficult job to work with that many teenagers at one time. I speak from experience, because I am also a former bus driver for DeKalb County. Fortunately for me, I had a route that was on the north end of the county. I am not saying that those children are better students, because other drivers on the north end and I all had our share of discipline problems, but there certainly were some better behaviors exhibited during the morning and evening rushes of transporting the north end students. There were many horror stories that came to life over the radio waves with a frequency that made them all too familiar. Many of these disruptions came from the south end of the county.

The point is that the provocative dancing did occur – I don’t think that is in dispute. What is in dispute is the catalyst for the children’s inappropriate behavior. Was that Mr. Grigsby’s fault? I think not! The blame for any child coming out in public and performing in such a derogatory way (both the male and the female students) rests squarely upon the shoulders of the parent of these undisciplined, unraised children. Rather than prosecuting Mr. Grigsby for this act, these students (who are legally considered adults) and their parents should be the focus of this witch-hunting DA. It seems that the DA’s Office would rather prosecute some ridiculous case such as this, than to properly prosecute true criminal cases that have a perpetrator and a victim!

The bottom line is that today’s parents need to get a handle on their children. Many children today would lie to you just as easily as they would look at you. Many of them have not been taught moral decency and respect, which was something that was drilled into my siblings and me when we were being raised. I have done my best to impart some of those same values onto my daughters, and I hope that they will do the same when they have children. I also hope that many of you will join me in doing the same with your offspring.

Former Chorus Parent

March 30th, 2010
3:34 am

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Former Chorus Parent

March 30th, 2010
3:35 am

To all:

I had the good fortune of having worked with Mr. Grigsby when my daughter was involved in the chorus at SWD. I also served on the chorus booster’s committee along with several other dedicated parents. Although we did not always agree with everything that Mr. Grigsby said or did, I know enough about him to know that he is a very decent man, and does not deserve to have his life destroyed over this “foolishness” (one of his favorite words).

For those of you who are so quick to rush to judgment, have you ever had a classroom of 150+ teenagers that you were trying to control? Parents, I hope that you don’t have your head tucked so far down in the sand that you honestly believe that your son or daughter is on their best behavior at all times when they are out of your sight. Believe me, it is a very difficult job to work with that many teenagers at one time. I speak from experience, because I am also a former bus driver for DeKalb County. Fortunately for me, I had a route that was on the north end of the county. I am not saying that those children are better students, because other drivers on the north end and I all had our share of discipline problems, but there certainly were some better behaviors exhibited during the morning and evening rushes of transporting the north end students. There were many horror stories that came to life over the radio waves with a frequency that made them all too familiar. Many of these disruptions came from the south end of the county.

The point is that the provocative dancing did occur – I don’t think that is in dispute. What is in dispute is the catalyst for the children’s’ inappropriate behavior. Was that Mr. Grigsby’s fault? I think not! The blame for any child coming out in public and performing in such a derogatory way (both the male and the female students) rests squarely upon the shoulders of the parent of these undisciplined, unraised children. Rather than prosecuting Mr. Grigsby for this act, these students (who are legally considered adults) and their parents should be the focus of this witch-hunting DA. It seems that the DA’s Office would rather prosecute some ridiculous case such as this, than to properly prosecute true criminal cases that have a perpetrator and a victim!

The bottom line is that today’s parents need to get a handle on their children. Many children today would lie to you just as easily as they would look at you. Many of them have not been taught moral decency and respect, which was something that was drilled into my siblings and me when we were being raised. I have done my best to impart some of those same values onto my daughters, and I hope that they will do the same when they have children. I also hope that many of you will join me in doing the same with your offspring.