Archive for March, 2009

What’s the best way to deal with senior incontinence?

My weekly call to my mother ended with quite a bang this past week. My mother concluded the conversation by saying, “I think your dad needs to start wearing adult diapers.” Her bluntness caught me off-guard, but I’ve been hearing from my mom for awhile now how my dad had been having more frequent “accidents” during the night. That, coupled with his diagnosis of an enlarged prostate, it’s no surprise to me that my father is experiencing incontinence.

It’s a subject that no on wants to talk about, but it is a condition that many seniors face: urinary and/or fecal incontinence. Please note that though some people think losing control of your bladder is just a sign of old age, any incontinence issues should be checked by a doctor, because they can be a symptom of an underlying condition. Of course, the first step is getting yourself and your senior loved one to admit that there is an issue. It’s no secret that our society tends to invoke shame or humor when discussing our …

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How to help seniors age-in-place

Thanks to Katey, a Caring & Sharing reader for letting us know that there will be an aging-in-place exhibit at the Atlanta Home Show called, “Home for the Ages.”

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Many baby boomers are now facing the important issue of their parents’ desire to “age-in-place.” Simply put, their elderly parents wish to continue living in their own home, or perhaps move into their adult children’s home, versus moving into an assisted living facility. These seniors may need little to moderate assistance with daily tasks. Still, the impact on the adult children’s lives can be significant. So what are the most important things to remember when helping your senior parents age-in-place?

Major issues include housing and transportation options, financial status and healthcare needs. Many baby boomers are either retrofitting their parent’s home or their own home for their elderly parents to reside in, complete with details designed to help seniors move around the home safely and …

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Eldercare can have its humorous moments

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On Caring & Sharing, we spend a good deal of time talking about serious issues on providing care for our aging loved ones. Many of your responses have been moving and poignant, a way for you to express the stress and heartache that often comes with being a caregiver. We are proud and honored to be able to provide our readers with a forum to express such emotions.

But as any caregiver knows, there can be lighthearted moments, whether intentional or otherwise, that crop up from time to time and those are to be cherished as well. As Patricia Grace indicates, this isn’t about making fun of a senior who may be in a compromised mental state. If you read her story about her mother, who came to visit with her “cherry red eyebrows” you’ll see what I mean. (Thanks to ElderCareRN on Twitter for finding and posting this gem.)

Do you have any memories of caring for a senior loved one that bring a smile to your face? Please share, as it might brighten up another caregiver’s …

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Is caregiving putting a strain on your marriage?

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If so, you’re not alone. According to a Caring.com study, eighty percent of baby boomers caring for an aging parent say that it has put a strain on their marriage. In some cases, the pressures of caregiving are so severe that it leads to the unfortunate demise of the relationship, with 25% of divorced baby boomers stating that caregiving played a major role in their divorce.

The reasons that caregiving can erode marital bliss are easily identifiable – the added financial burden, the stress of caring for an elderly parent, the time spent caring for aging parents reduces the amount of bonding time one has with their romantic partner, etc. Caring.com has consulted with “marriage doctors” who have offered their expert tips on coping with the challenges of caring for aging parents while maintaining and strengthening your marriage. Their advice includes:

  • Talk openly with each other about feelings, emotions, and stresses as they relate to your care of aging …

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