Leave Tiger Woods alone!

I’m not a golfer, although I have played a few times and I thoroughly enjoy an occasional golf outing with one or both of my sons at a public course in the Atlanta area.  At the same time, I find watching golf on TV to rank only slightly ahead of being mesmerized by watching members of Congress mill around while C-SPAN broadcasts their votes during a roll call. 

Yet, for all my lack of familiarity with the intricacies of the game, I do understand that Tiger Woods is an outstanding golfer; as good and perhaps even better than were Jack Nicklaus or Arnold Palmer two generations ago.  I also now know, from watching Tiger Woods’ televised mea culpa last Friday, that there’s a good reason he doesn’t do much of it.  He stinks as a public speaker.  But then again, maybe it was the subject matter about which he was speaking that made it so excruciating to watch.  He was, after all, addressing the nation on a topic about which he shouldn’t have been pressured into doing in the first place — his personal sex life.  Perhaps if he had been caught cheating on his score cards, or using a golf ball with a super-secret core that had not yet been approved by the PGA, it might have made sense for him to subject himself to this self-flagellation.  Maybe if the actions in which he lamented having been involved consituted a criminal offense, there might have been some legitimacy to his apologia.

But none of these arguably “public” factors presented themselves when Tiger stood uncomfortably in front of a bland blue curtain, behind a too-small podium and before an audience whose discomfort at being present was palpable.  He was there, and they were they, and the television cameras were there not because Tiger had committed a public offense or a professional infraction.  They were there because America’s  appetite for peering into the personal lives of public figures — especially their sex lives — truly is insatiable.

A decade ago, when I was pressing the House of Representatives to impeach then-President Clinton for obstruction of justice and perjury, and when I and the other House managers argued for his conviction in the Senate, we constantly were forced to fend off charges that the impeachment was “all about personal behavior; all about sex.”  Of course, it wasn’t about the former president’s personal behavior (I could care less then and I could care less now how he gets his kicks); it was about his public mis-behavior — perjury and obstruction of justice committed by a high government official.  But, the effort to paint the procedure as trivial and personal figured prominently in Clinton’s eventual “acquittal” by the Senate.

With Tiger Woods, the “case” against him is all about sex.  It is purely personal.  And he should be left alone.

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Connie

February 24th, 2010
10:39 pm

It is so sad that we spend so much time and energy in everyones business and we are such judgemental people. Tiger cheated and this is sad and bad for him, his wife, his family and his God. Tiger simply wanted to perfect golf and he did. Let’s talk about wrong..WHY DO WOMEN AND MEN THAT KNOW THAT PEOPLE ARE MARRIED THINK THAT IT IS OKAY TO SLEEP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN’S HUSBAND OR ANOTHER MAN’S WIFE AND THEN WHEN THEY ARE CAUGHT CRY ON NATIONAL TV ABOUT HOW THEY NEVER MEANT TO HURT THE PERSON’S FAMILY…EXCUSE ME THE MINUTE YOU COMMITED THE ACT OF HAVING AN AFFAIR YOU WERE JUST AS WRONG OR EVEN MORE SO THAN TIGER. YOU KNEW WHO HE WAS AND THE FALLOUT THAT WOULD COME FROM ALL THIS BUT THAT WAS NOT IMPORTANT TO YOU. HOW MANY TIMES DID YOU THINK OF HIS FAMILY WHILE YOU WERE TRYING TO SLEEP YOUR WAY INTO FORTUNE AND FAME, SO FORGIVE ME IF I HAVE A PROBLEM BELEIVING YOU ARE SORRY. YOU ENJOYED ALL THAT TIGER HAD TO OFFER INCLUDING DESTROYING HIS FAMILY, FALLING IN LUST FOR SOMEONE THAT WAS NOT YOUR’S TO LUST WITH ANYWAY, BECAUSE IT DEFINITELY IS NOT LOVE. WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE YOU DO EVEYTHING THAT YOU CAN NOT TO CAUSE THEM ANY HURT, HARM OR SHAME. YOU WOULD GIVE YOUR LIFE TO KEEP THEM SAFE.

I don’t remember seeing Tiger ask us to treat him like he was perfect and never makes mistakes. He made a horrible choice and got caught and now you say that he is less of a man because he did wrong. Let’s take the camera’s and the Media into the lives and homes of almost everyone in the world and let us see who you sleep with and what wrong you are doing. None of us are perfect and thank God that he does not judge us like we judge others. You put Tiger in a glass house and when it started to crack you took the Golf Club and shattered it all to peices…. When do we focus on issues that concern us? When do we stop looking down on people for making bad choices and start to help lift them up, be more supportive. I can see the Media now approaching Tigers children wanting to know “How did it make you feel when you found out that your daddy cheated on your mommy?” When does it all end. When do we stop harrasing his wife and family, they are in enough pain already but all we want is a story. Can we please let Tiger and his family heal. Tiger does not need you for his marriage to heal, he needs his wife and his God. He is not perfect and the only one that he needs to apologize to for his decisions is his wife, his God and his family. If they can forgive him and go on who are you to judge. Tiger you do not owe the public, the media or the world an apology so stop apologizing to people who are simply just nosey. The more information you give the more they want. They only want a story, don’t give them the satisfaction any longer. You play golf and keep your vows to those that Love you for you and not for what you can give them or because you name is Tiger Woods but because you are the man that they love, trust and depend on. Trust God and not man as you can see man will let you down when you need him most.

CJ

February 24th, 2010
10:44 pm

I will say this again, Tiger should have had affairs with women that had just as much to lose as him. If you must Cheat….Cheat Up and not Down, which is tiger downfall in my book. Other than that, what a grown man or woman do is their sin and not mines. I do not have to go before God and confess for anyone but myself, He owe me no apology, that goes to his wife! Everyone that have not sin cast the first stone without hiding your hands behind your back. As for a “roll model”..If you had half way decent parents, THEY should have been it not Tiger. TIGER DO NOT OWE ANY ONE A THING..PERIOD!

fair and Balanced

February 24th, 2010
10:54 pm

If the criteria for being the greatest of all time is the winner of the most majors (and I think that it is) then for me, I hope that Jack Nicklaus remains as the greatest of all time until the next super star comes along. The integrity of the game of golf deserves Jack much more than Tiger.

The game of golf is about humility and honesty. Tiger does not meet these requirements.

Not Going To Use My Usual Name

February 24th, 2010
11:43 pm

Connie? Why are you putting the blame on the women and not on Tiger?

1) Those women didn’t make any promises to Tiger’s wife. Tiger, on the other hand, did.
2) Each one of Tiger’s affairs had one thing in common: Tiger.

I get really annoyed when I hear people blaming the “other” man or woman in an affair. That other person didn’t wrong you. That other person didn’t owe you jack. The person who ought to be the target of your ire is the one who wronged you–the one who lied to you, broke promises to you, etc.

So y’all, I’d like to hear why you think Tiger deserves privacy when he accepted money to promote products. That makes him a public figure (just like acting/singing/running for office). It’s the rule of our culture: if you’re a public figure, if you accept endorsement deals… there’s an associated price with all that money and fame. It’s called fame.

Houston's Folly

February 25th, 2010
8:37 am

Tiger’s apology! Sex and Golf! I wonder if his caddy accompanies him on his trysts, and then suggests, “I’d use the ribbed Trojans for this one.” or “This one has a little distance, I’d go with the lambskin.” or “You’re going to need a five bead, here”. or “Some melted wax will smooth out some of her hazards and rough spots.” or “the greens are wet so use a moon ball.”

Tigerswoody

February 25th, 2010
9:30 am

I am so mad at that Tiger that I am just going to go out this weekend and ride my bike for 100 miles!!!

Karen L. Wilson-Maye

February 25th, 2010
10:20 am

I agree with you … I wished they would leave him alone. Tiger is a good guy but made mistakes as all humankind do. Now, he is having to share his personal life with everyone when it truly is none of our business. It should be between his wife and himself as well as other family members if they desire to share it with them. I still love Tiger, and I love his wife. LEAVE TIGER ALONE PEOPLE!!

Borat

February 25th, 2010
10:48 am

Meeeestur Bahb …. Where have you bean. My wife has some more cheese for you. You kin share it with yur buddy Tiger cuz you no it is sooo good.

She said/She said

February 25th, 2010
9:05 pm

I SLEPT WITH TIGER WHEN HE WASNT A TIGER, NO BIGGIE

Honi

February 27th, 2010
10:45 am

Aw I don’t want to leave him alone. He looked like such a, well such a DICK before the “public apology” last week….now he looks like a bigger one.

Chuck(les)

March 3rd, 2010
7:57 pm

Tiger’s willingness to risk his wife, family, image and fortune for a few moments of pleasure says volumes about the man’s character. A big part of Tiger’s popularity was his aura: a black athlete succeeding in a predominantly white man’s sport, who plays by the rules, works hard, is a good family man, etc., etc. His image earned him millions of dollars in endorsements and the adoration of fans who really need some solid heroes. Then we learn he’s a jerk, a cheater, a liar and a scam.

tiger

March 7th, 2010
6:37 pm

there is a lot of jealous people in america, it i did not cheat you guys would find something else to hate about me …… as if you already did not hate my skin color….. i don’t know if winning cure everything , but i know i am coming back and WIN BABY…

phil

March 18th, 2010
1:33 pm

I support Tiger. He’s human, he made some mistakes. In his position most ANYONE would give in to the temptations pressed on him. For him and his family’s sake he should change his ways, but society should lay off him and let him recover.