If one in four women will experience some kind of domestic violence during her lifetime than according to numerous comprehensive studies that show women are at least as violent as men in intimate relations, one in four MEN will ALSO experience some kind of domestic violence during HIS lifetime as well!

I challenge, MELISSA KOTTKE, MD, MPH, the author of this piece to refute my assertion or anyone else for that matter. I also challenge the author to honestly and without any bias write to include men as victims of DV in any future material. I am utterly perplexed and in dismay that everyone talks about DV against women while men who are subject to the same amount of DV are conveniently ignored and allowed to silently suffer. Why? Are men not worthy of the same consideration as women?

Why does Malisa Kottke not write “One in four men and women will suffer some type of DV etc…?” That would be truthfully unbiassed. Why ignore the suffering men experience at the hands of women in DV situations just the same as women do?

This piece is cleverly written to make it seem that it is men who are the aggressors and women who are the sole victims, save one blurb to the mild contrary; “slapped or physically hurt on purpose by their boyfriend or girlfriend..” This kind of slant and skewed reporting is not limited to this piece. It is rampant!

Men not only suffer the same amount of DV abuse as women they also suffer an insurmountable false claims of DV and rape against men by unscrupulous women with an agenda to destroy their male partner or get a leg up on custody and equalisation matters in divorce proceedings. Some women will even make false claims of rape and DV simply out of spite. When they are caught they spend no time in jail or very little such as the recent case with Rebecca Vaughn who was sentenced to 20 days in jail for destroying her husband who spent TWELVE MONTHS IN JAIL after her malicious false allegation against him!!!

I am a victim and a survivor of severe DV, although I was never physically struck the tole on my body at the hands of my extremely vindictive ex-wife is horrific. I had called the police not less than 7 times and they NEVER took my situation seriously. On the contrary after being taunted by my ex-father-in-law who then attempted to remove our children from our home against my wishes, the police actually asked ME to leave the home??? I refused!

Here are some examples of what my ex-wife would say and do;
1. “I feel so empowered I could chew you up and spit you out!”
2. “If you mention anything about my drinking to CAS/CPS, I will have you out of this house the next day!”
3. “I am going to have you put in jail!” This was said over and over again.
4. A false allegation within a perjured affidavit that I sexually aroused my son was made against me.
5. Made to feel useless, worthless, stupid, unkind, uncaring no matter how I was to the contrary!

She has NEVER been held accountable for her actions!

Had I not had 35 years of martial arts training to condition my body and mind, I surely would have ended up insane or dead. Thankfully that never happened and I persevered, unlike a client of mine Stan Muir who took his life as his wife drove him out of his mind. That is just ONE example of DV against a man by a woman that ended in death which was never reported as such.

If DV is not dealt with equally for men and women than funding (in the hundreds of millions of dollars each year) is not warranted which is enjoyed by women exclusively. That is a travesty, a gross misappropriation of public funds and gender discrimination in the highest degree!

When I realized I needed help there was absolutely NOTHING for me a male, but pages for women to tap into in the phone book. Even the police who are there to serve and protect failed me miserably. This is simply unacceptable and I will see to it tirelessly that it is changed forthwith!!!

Respectfully,
Attila L. Vinczer
Supporter of: Canada Court Watch and
Glenn Sacks and Fathers & Families

Respectfully,
Attila L. Vinczer