Have you ever had a crush on a co-worker?

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Americans are spending more and more time at work, so naturally people, regardless of their marital status, will develop friendships with fellow co-workers, confiding in them and offering emotional support to one another. There’s nothing wrong with having a drink with someone you work with to celebrate closing a deal or inviting a group from the office to your summer cookout. But at what point does a friendship at the office cross the line into a more intimate desire?

Psychologist Dr. Ronald Frederick PhD, author of “Living Like You Mean It” says, “It’s normal to develop a crush while you’re in a committed relationship. It’s how you handle this crush that makes the difference. Emotional wandering is a sign that you need an adrenalin rush. You have to re-create the excitement in your long-term relationship.”

(Apparently married crushes are quite common, check out Momania and her list.)

So, fess up, have you ever had a crush on a co-worker? What did you do about it? If you were in a committed relationship at the time, did your emotional wandering have any impact on the relationship?

24 comments Add your comment

Becky

June 18th, 2009
3:00 pm

Does having sex on the pool table with the boss count as a crush?

Will

June 18th, 2009
3:03 pm

When I was married the first time, I had an affair with a co-worker. I divorced and the co-worker and I had a four-year relationship. Don’t regret it. Am about to mark the 11th anniversary of my second marriage. I’d be open to another relationship. What you up to tonight, Becky?

Too Easy

June 18th, 2009
3:07 pm

Twice. Married ‘em both. No cheating involved either time.

Too Easy

June 18th, 2009
3:08 pm

And, no. This isn’t Becky using another screen name.

Becky

June 18th, 2009
3:21 pm

Will, that my dear was in my wilder days, sorry..

Too Easy, what do you mean by that? I never said I was easy..Guess I should mention that this crush lasted for about 5 years..

Nora

June 18th, 2009
3:35 pm

I think “Too Easy” describes one of those co-workers you married (at least if you’re who I think you are).

Becky

June 18th, 2009
3:47 pm

Nora, I’m not who you think I am..I didn’t marry the boss..

Jim

June 18th, 2009
3:59 pm

I nail my secretary every night before we leave the office.

Nora

June 18th, 2009
4:03 pm

Becky, I was talking to “Too Easy”, not you. (Sorry!)

Becky

June 18th, 2009
4:04 pm

Jim, every night? WOW

HANNAH

June 18th, 2009
4:13 pm

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HANNAH

June 18th, 2009
4:13 pm

HAVING AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR RIGHT NOW WAITING TO SEE IF IT GOES ANY FURTHER…

Jim

June 18th, 2009
4:16 pm

Becky, except the weekends. She is just so hot:)

Becky

June 18th, 2009
4:40 pm

Nora, thats ok…Thanks..

Absolutely!!

June 18th, 2009
4:42 pm

Can I have Becky’s number?

Misse

June 18th, 2009
4:42 pm

I have never liked giving my number to strangers so it seems that work is one of the places I can feel confortable getting to know someone before actually “dating”. This has led to two relationships. One lasted for two years and I have been in the other since 2005. We are getting married this summer!

Absolutely!!

June 18th, 2009
4:47 pm

But really, I have had many. you can’t help it. You spend more time with co-workers than significant others and co-workers can sympathize with what you have to deal with all day, so it is easier to talk to co-workers. Bottomline is just keep it discreet and don’t let it get to involved. Co-workers should definately have extra-marital affairs it is good for business.

deezanutz

June 18th, 2009
5:49 pm

Jim that is hilarious. Does your company have any type of romantic relationship disclosure in its compliance program?

FCM

June 19th, 2009
4:50 pm

Yep but he’s married so that would be an absolutely will not go there.

jess

June 22nd, 2009
9:24 am

I’ve had several…and let me tell you–”working” under the desk..while he is on the phone/signing important docs…best situation ever!!!

Turd Ferguson

June 22nd, 2009
2:08 pm

Oh absolutely!! Some were married, most were not and all went “all the way.” 9 in 7 years to be exact or about one every 9 months…Im thinking that was a company record!!

LOL

June 23rd, 2009
12:34 pm

Excuse me but this post is getting a little too freaky.
So you all dated your co-worker. I do not want to go there. Yeah done it and hate it now. So there you got it out of me. Jezz.

Becky

June 26th, 2009
2:54 pm

No,didn’t date all of them, some of them were sex only..

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