Americans are spending more and more time at work, so naturally people, regardless of their marital status, will develop friendships with fellow co-workers, confiding in them and offering emotional support to one another. There’s nothing wrong with having a drink with someone you work with to celebrate closing a deal or inviting a group from the office to your summer cookout. But at what point does a friendship at the office cross the line into a more intimate desire?
Psychologist Dr. Ronald Frederick PhD, author of “Living Like You Mean It” says, “It’s normal to develop a crush while you’re in a committed relationship. It’s how you handle this crush that makes the difference. Emotional wandering is a sign that you need an adrenalin rush. You have to re-create the excitement in your long-term relationship.”
(Apparently married crushes are quite common, check out Momania and her list.)
So, fess up, have you ever had a crush on a co-worker? What did you do about it? If you were in a committed relationship at the time, did your emotional wandering have any impact on the relationship?