Are you celebrating Administrative Professionals Day?

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Today is Administrative Professionals Day, which is one of the most popular workplace-related holidays. This year’s theme, according to the International Association of Administrative Professionals is Excellence in action.

Is your office recognizing the administrative staff this year? If you are an administrative professional, do you feel that you are appreciated by other staff members?

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Beverly

April 22nd, 2009
11:22 am

No one seems to care. I have to remind them every year. Not appreciated

Rene

April 22nd, 2009
11:28 am

I feel appreciated by other staff members; however, my boss is another story. This is my first experience working with a non-profit and trust me when I tell you that I’ve never experienced such a lack of direction and structure before in my 30 years or work history. I know the economy is bad and jobs are hard to come by but sometimes I wonder if this is worth jeopardizing my physical and mental stability to hang on to a job where the top person (who you’re suppose to be their right hand) has a jekyll/hyde personality on a daily basis.

Janet

April 22nd, 2009
11:30 am

No one seems to care at it’s administrative professionals day; and I work at a place where admin’s do not get the respect that they deserve. So yeahhhhh! Happy Administrative Professionals Day to Me!

Kristin

April 22nd, 2009
11:35 am

What a made up holiday! Are we nothing but a bunch of children that have to be constantly rewarded or praised to feel validated? I guess I really do not feel the need to be appreciated – just want to do my job to the best of my ability everyday, learn new skills, and either move on or up when the time is right. I really do not care if my boss gives me a crappy card or flowers.

Nenah

April 22nd, 2009
11:45 am

I’m the Front Desk/Purchasing Admin for a medium sizes company of 150 people. I have not received any acknowledgment for my staff I work directly with. I had someone from accounting give me a card & candy, when I said “Thank you”, she stated “even though you aren’t really an Admin well you sort of are, anyway I thought you should be acknowledged.” I thought it was very nice of her to acknowledge me for what I do, being that technically I’m not her department admin, even though I do help them when they need it. A customer calls in and says “Happy Admin Day” I was shocked! How nice of a customer to acknowledge what I do. I admit I would not be unhappy if I never received acknowledge for what I do, however having this as a holiday and then having the expectation I should receive an acknowledgment sucks! I told my husband to acknowledge his receptionist, I went and bought the gift for him. He takes it to work and no one else in the office even realized what today was. In fact I was surprised about how low-key the advertisement was for this holiday. I think Earth Day took more acknowledgment today. I noticed on a website there is a Receptionist Day in May, well that’s not even on my calendar. So how or why would anyone remember it? I admit I’m feeling a little bitter about this Holiday. It’s like any other one out there Xmas, Valentines Day, just a way for people to make money. I think Bosses day had more coverage then Admin Day.

VC

April 22nd, 2009
11:49 am

I agree with Kristin. I do a good job and my boss is appreciative of everything I do. I view myself as a professional and don’t need a plant or a card to know that. I always take this week off because I dislike it being such a big deal and a special holiday where my boss will feel like he has to “buy” me something. I’m sure the other assistants are getting flowers, cards and candy. I’m happy that I chose not to be part of all that today.

linny ,,,=^..^=,,,

April 22nd, 2009
11:50 am

Kristin, it seems we do, because so many executives fail on a regular basis to show their appreciation for what the staff does…daily. It used to be that we’d get flowers, a card from the boss or firm, and a gift that was not just a gift card or generic thing — nowadays, it’s a gift card in a rubber-stamped thank you card… at least the bosses sign them with real ink…

however, i’m fortunate that my boss tells me no less than every few days that he appreciates what i do and how hard i work — not in so many words, usually, but the “thank you” attitude IS there. For the first time truly there in nearly 40 years of working. So i’ll take the gift card to a store i rarely shop at and be thankful that the firm is willing to fork out a few bucks to each of the staff members.

the “crappy card or flowers” are at least a token of appreciation, kristin, from people who frequently forget to say anything at all — i’m with you, i’d just as soon work, learn, and advance.

but being genuinely shown appreciation, as i am with this boss, is priceless, to me.

Penny

April 22nd, 2009
11:58 am

Until this year, we were always recognized. This year apparently they forgot! It would be nice to feel appreciated. We are so short-staffed and stressed out all the time that the only time we hear anything is bad news. It really would be nice for all of us to be recognized!

Dawn :)

April 22nd, 2009
12:13 pm

I have read some of these comments and they certainly reflect some jobs that I have held in the past. I am very happy to say that I AM appreciated where I work by ALL of my coworkers. I work for a hospital and I am the only administrative professional on our unit. I did not even know that it was Administrative Professionals’ Day and I was met with greetings, flowers, cake, and a card too. YES we ARE all children that need validation, recognition, love and care on a DAILY basis. It is a human thing that nobody should be without.

I have suffered without it in the past and I am really super grateful to have such wonderful loving, caring co-workers and bosses. I am not getting rich in money here, but I am rich in spirit!

Afterall, our relationships are the most valuable and important things we have.

Becky

April 22nd, 2009
12:14 pm

No, I don’t need anything given to me to make me feel validated at my job..BUT, it would be nice once in a while to hear them say, thanks for everything that you do..Like driving across town to pick up the owner because he left one of his three cars in the shop, or because I got your lunch while I was out getting mine, or I called all over town trying to find something for one of your granddaughters…

Kristin

April 22nd, 2009
12:31 pm

My point is why “Administrative Professionals”? Why not Nurse’s day or Teacher’s day? I could go on and on with the list of professionals who are in a role that assists higher up the food chain. Even bosses have bosses that they answer too. It is a silly made up holiday just like Valentine’s Day.

Dawn,

I have my family, hobbys, and own self esteem that provides me with love and care, I am not looking for love from my workplace.

Melissa

April 22nd, 2009
12:48 pm

I too am the only admin in my division who supports the director, manager, and a 40 person team. I do not get any recognition today, and I also received nothing for Christmas. I did get a card and candies for both of my boss’s for Boss’s Day. I feel the need for acknowledgment and praise for doing a good job but because I am not one of the technical IT employees, my work is often overlooked and taken for granted. :( Happy Administrative Professionals Day to You and Me!

Tammy

April 22nd, 2009
12:50 pm

My manager is very pro-active when it comes to recognizing the work we do. Each year we (there are 3 of us) have carte-blanche to go anywhere we want for lunch on him plus the company rewards us with a gift certificate. Some of you are right – we don’t need recognition to feel validated but is sure is nice when it happens. Happy Admin Day to all!

Carla

April 22nd, 2009
12:56 pm

I work for a large organization. While most of the assistants around me are lauded by their bosses, mine chooses to totally ignore the day. I’m not sentimental about such things, but a simply “Happy ——” would do. Relatively new here, last year was the same. My Christmas gift also went unacknowledged. Like any other of the number of relationships we manage, time spent in work relationships almost equals personal ones, so why not make it fun? Like Becky said: it’s encouraging to hear that you’e doing a good job, even if it’s obvious. Someone, tell my boss, please!

Sam

April 22nd, 2009
1:12 pm

Its disappointing but my department is not very good at acknowledging things like today which I find odd seeing that I am the only staff person for the entire department. Congrats to those of you who are shown appreciation on this, our day.

Kerry

April 22nd, 2009
1:22 pm

If my workplace really wanted to “appreciate” me, the middle managers would put the kibosh on the bickering, nagging and malicious behavior by other women in the office. (Oh, whoops! The middle managers participate in that, too.)

It totally offends me. And that’s something donuts for the office don’t solve.

Becky

April 22nd, 2009
1:25 pm

There are alot of people that don’t get the aknowledgement(sp) that they deserve & that doesn’t mean that we don’t appreciate them..I would bet though that if you google it, you will find that there is a date that you don’t know about for lots of people..

To all that fit into the category of Adminstrative Asst. or Professionals or whatever you want to call it, I hope that you have a great day & please know that you are cared about by someone..

Shickey

April 22nd, 2009
1:34 pm

Do you people not get a paycheck every week? Employment – an exchange of money for performance. Call your mother if you need a pat on the head.

Loretta

April 22nd, 2009
1:58 pm

Our boss is too consumed with buying a boat, so the last thing on his mind is appreciating what his employees do…he wont’ even make a speech of appreciation at the company christmas party, so admin professionals day has definitely gone unnoticed.

Becky

April 22nd, 2009
2:13 pm

Shickey, I would love to call my Mother, but she passed away 19 years ago..

Nay

April 22nd, 2009
2:15 pm

Got flowers, a card and breakfast! It is good to know that all your hard work is recognized. They did not have to do anything for me. Our organization is freezing our merit increases, so I thought this was a nice gesture. Count your blessings everyday. There are 100 people or more waiting for your job!

Monique

April 22nd, 2009
2:21 pm

My boss just left for the day and I thought maybe a Happy…day. No nothing. The other people in our building are receiving gifts. I have been receiving ecards from other Admin staff, that’s nice.

J

April 22nd, 2009
2:31 pm

My boss went out of the country and forgot before leaving, my supervisor forget, and my coworkers forgot. A graduate student actually wished me a happy Admin day. Given I’ve been putting in 11.5 hour days lately I feel because we’re short handed and doing a lot of grants I guess my feelings are quite hurt. Maybe I shouldn’t have expected anything, but an acknowledgement would have been nice.

LS

April 22nd, 2009
2:34 pm

I had no idea it was Administrative Professionals Day until I got a bouquet of flowers at the office – they were not from my workplace, though – they were from my family! (My bosses have no idea)

I think this day is overshadowed by Earth Day which has so much more publicity.

Arthur

April 22nd, 2009
2:36 pm

Today has been an amazing day! The senior management staff purchased flowers for the administrative assistant’s in our group and We are going to lunch at a great restaurant.

Jessica

April 22nd, 2009
2:41 pm

This is the second year that I’ve been forgotten… I dont feel appreciated at all despite all of the hoops that I jump through to make my mangement shine. It’s discouraging – too bad it’s not the right time to look for another position….

Tasha

April 22nd, 2009
2:58 pm

Ok ladies 1st we need to stop being picky. You will never please everyone. I thought you guys were admins. You should know that already. LOL
For those who like the day, enjoy it. For those who don’t, then don’t. If someone gives you a gift, politely tell them that you dont acknowledge the day.
This day was to acknowledge those who have the biggest job in the world, doing what no one else wants to do. So why not have a week to appreciate us. We are the ones who really make decisions that matter, coffee selections, reservations, supplies.

In my current role I support 150 employees 12 of whom are VP’s so I am very busy, but they always appreciate me on a daily basis which is cool. Do I need the thank you’s? No because I am doing my job and this is it. Do I like the thank you’s? YES.

This year, I have to rub this in, I received a weekend trip to Las Vegas from my team. Round Trip, first class. Best gift I every receieved for doing something I love.

Debra

April 22nd, 2009
3:11 pm

Wow, that Kristin is a real tool, huh?

:)

Deb

April 22nd, 2009
3:12 pm

I am the Dean of a Graduate School at a State University. I have 5 staff with different positions that work in the office. I try to let them each know how much I appreciate all their hard work more often than once a year and I let them each take one day of “free” vacation during the year. If I want to buy something for them for this one day it comes out of my own pocket – there is no “firm” to foot the bill. I am not paid a large salary and we haven’t had raises last year or this year. Last year I spent $20 each to buy a hanging plant for each of my office workers. This year, I can’t really afford it. Any thoughts on this from administrative professionals? I don’t want to seem like a jerk.

Debra

April 22nd, 2009
3:25 pm

Oh, dear, what a great DAY! As I stumbled into work this morning, still half drunk from the night before, I was greeted with a large bouquet of lilies, lots of donughts, and a small parade! There was glitter and confetti everywhere!! I was so excited! And my boss was standing on a chair singing “Only You”. I just couldn’t stop smiling, my cheeks still hurt!! And I hadn’t even finished off my donught platter when a caterer came in with Lamb and Filet Minion and little dancing frogs that fed every bite to me while stroking my head and whispering sweet nothings into my ear…..oh, such a nice gesture. I just kept waving my arm around, “What, all this for…ME?” “No, no! You SHOULDN’T HAVE”. But they did, and they were all, OF COURSE!! And then…the great FINALE!!! Wow, a pony ride through the office!

Debra

April 22nd, 2009
3:27 pm

thats quick censorship

Kristin

April 22nd, 2009
3:31 pm

Debra,
I wouldn’t describe myself as a tool – but I bet your last dollar that those who are bent out of shape about not receiving some sort of trinket for a made up Hallmark holiday are also the biggest martyr types out there.

Debra

April 22nd, 2009
3:33 pm

I have not been acknowledged for my hard work today either.

tom

April 22nd, 2009
3:35 pm

Shouldn’t you be working and not blogging?

Becky

April 22nd, 2009
3:37 pm

Deb, do you have any plants at home that you could break off & give to them in a small pot? This is what a coworker did for us at Christmas..
Maybe bring them a small bouqet (sp) of flowers from Kroger…Do any of them read? Maybe a book of some kind? To me, it’s sometimes the small things that mean the most..Me, I would be just as happy with a card & a “thanks” for being dependable & doing good job..

Petunia

April 22nd, 2009
3:40 pm

I love Earth, but why is Earth Day overshadowing my Admin Prof day? what gives?

Becky

April 22nd, 2009
3:42 pm

Why does everyone always say a made up holiday by Hallmark? Please do some reserch before you start spouting off..Real people make up these days & Hallmark does what they do..Make money off of it..If you don’t want to be a part of it, then don’t..No, I’m not a martyr..

Christina

April 22nd, 2009
3:46 pm

The CFO got all four of us a potted flower plant and the President got us all a large arrangement each. It was nice because I have never had anything before. To each their own on here, but sometimes I think it’s nice to have a little gesture of gratitued. My previous employer was so cheap and he never even said thank you, to which I got laid off right before Christmas. So, I think just to know you are doing a good job, especially in these tough economic times, is not enough.

Debra

April 22nd, 2009
3:52 pm

i love blogging.

tom

April 22nd, 2009
3:55 pm

I love working

Irie

April 22nd, 2009
4:02 pm

I felt truly appreciated today! I am a temporary employee (working for a temp agency), but my employer still recognized me! I have a dozen roses and carnations and we were treated to a continental breakfast this morning. I hope I am hired on a permanent basis.

Jennifer

April 22nd, 2009
4:03 pm

If I look back to two years ago I was unemployed on Admin. Professionals Day. It was a really difficult time for me. A year ago I worked for a boss who took advantage of his staff but he remembered admin. professionals day and gave me and his assistant $50 gift cards to Red Lobster. I would have rather heard him say thank you sincerely instead of getting a gift card. This year I am at a new company, its small. There is only the boss and I in the office 90% of the time. I didn’t think he would remember Admin. Professionals day and he didn’t. But I don’t mind because he is the most understanding and caring boss I’ve ever had. If I am out sick, its not the end of the world. He is family oriented and sincerely cares about his employees. I bet his wife will say something to him about Admin. professionals day when he gets home. He will be embarassed that he forgot because he does care about his staff. But he has nothing to be embarassed about because he shows he cares about me each day.

Debra

April 22nd, 2009
4:19 pm

Oh, Tom.. Tom, Tom, Tom, Tom, Toooommm. Let me tell you a story Tom. Let me tell you a story. You see Tom, once a long long time ago there was this little boy, lets call him, oh, I don’t know, Tom. And he was all angry and small and stuff. He was sad. But he didn’t want anyone to know so he was very curt with everyone. Butting in and whatnot. You know, pretty common. But, nobody noticed because you had to squint really hard to even notice him. He was so small!! Aww, but he was the cutest thing. And the girls at the office just went gaga over him, dressing him up in little sweaters they’d knit and letting him borrow thier lip gloss and stuff. He was just the darndest thing! So cute! Like a little schnoodle or something! So, don’t worry, You will get to work SOME day!! Just embrace who you are!!

Mary

April 22nd, 2009
4:21 pm

If I don’t expect anything, I won’t be disapointed. It IS nice though when someone remembers. It doesn’t always happen so if it does, I feel as if everything I’ve done is worth it. The boss is a Dr. Jeckle Mr. Hyde so I never know if what I say is the wrong thing or not. Kind of walking on eggshells.

Admin

April 22nd, 2009
4:29 pm

I remember our support staff. However, I am only the assistant to the Director and he and the rest of the staff forget every year. I even send an email to remind them to at least thank everyone but most times they do not.

Larry

April 22nd, 2009
4:35 pm

Just to let you all know I care and I gave our office – Administrative Professional flowers today. And I am not even the boss but a co-worker who appreciates everything she does for us….

Kristin

April 22nd, 2009
4:50 pm

Becky,

An ampersand is not an abbreviation for the word and. Please do some research before you begin typing.

Debra

April 22nd, 2009
5:43 pm

That was a zinger!! ;) ;) ;)

Sandy

April 22nd, 2009
5:50 pm

It looks like the majority of people would prefer to end Professional Admin’s Day and I agree. This started out as Secretary’s Day back in the 1940’s. It accomplished its mission, now it is time to move on. Contact the organization that started this day and week, and let them know enough is enough.

ungrateful B's

April 22nd, 2009
6:50 pm

This looks like an administrative bitching column more than anything else. Really?!

Kristin

April 22nd, 2009
6:56 pm

I apparently have the greatest boss in the whole wide world! Every year we receive a letter that let’s us know how much we are appreciated and in that letter is $100. I’ve worked for this company for 5 years and it’s happened every year. Other girl’s have been there 20+ years and they’ve always received $100 (I guess no inflation!). This year he went a little beyond – and bought lunch for all of us and our spouse’s if we so chose. He’s the greatest boss I’ve ever had and I look forward to this time every year!!

Kristin

April 22nd, 2009
7:01 pm

Oh, and I forgot to mention I’m a different Kristin!! Irony!

Becky

April 23rd, 2009
8:39 am

It might not be correct, but it is used AND accepted..Some people just always want to be nit picky..

Jane

April 23rd, 2009
12:20 pm

I work for two departments totaling about thirty professionals. One department always remembered me; the other department has never done anything. This year, however, our Dept. Chair retired and the new Chair hasn’t done anything at all. Call me a child if you want although I am a mature women of 52 and have been in this line of work for over 35 years (but, NEVER a MARTYR, Kristen!) but it does feel good to be acknowledged, especially in this day and age when one person is the support person for so many people (boy, do I miss the days when I was Administrative Secretary to just the top dog!). All is takes is a THANK YOU! And, no, Kristin, these folks DO NOT remember on a regular basis to express any thanks what so ever. So different from other places I’ve worked where I did feel appreciated. Anyway, Happy Administrative Professionals Day to me and to all those other ladies (and the occasional gent) who don’t get acknowledged or thanked!

Greta

April 23rd, 2009
2:45 pm

I was looking for a blog on this and I am so grateful to have found this thread. I have always hated this made up holiday. I have been an Executive Assistant for 10 years and this stupid day always grated on me. I agree with Kristin, why do we have Administrative Professionals Day or Week? There is no “Project Manager Day” or “Accountant Day”. Why is there an Administrative Professionals Day? It has a tone to it, like “pat the idiot on the back” day. We are respected and paid professionals just like anybody else. It’s offensive. Plus, there are a ton of subjective job titles that may or may not fall into an Administrative Professional category. How do you know who to include and who not to include? What’s the deal- it’s treating anyone who works in an adminstrative capacity as children.

Katrina

April 23rd, 2009
3:02 pm

I do feel very appreciated. I work at a church, and the other staff has been just terrific. Admin. Professionals Day was even another staff member’s birthday, and they chose to take primarily ME out to lunch. Of course, I brought the gentleman’s birthday present and we celebrated that too. My boss paid for my lunch at Cosi, and the rest of the staff got me a beautiful plant. Not only do they tell me once a year that I’m appreciated, but I they do tell me constantly. (Must be because I’m great at finding the bit of paper that’s jamming the printer.) :) We are a non-profit organization, and a struggling church (especially with the current economic situation). But we are a tight-knit group and I feel very blessed to be in this position with these thoughtful coworkers. I wish everyone could experience the appreciation and thoughtfulness I’ve been blessed to be around. And my husband sent me a card at work! He’s taking me out to dinner this weekend, and I’m taking him out as it’s his birthday. Yay for gift cards! ;)

Debra

April 23rd, 2009
7:11 pm

Dear God, Knit me a Sweater and I will wear it everyday!

Melissa

April 23rd, 2009
7:54 pm

Dawn, I LOVED your comments. Well said!

Tasha

April 24th, 2009
12:24 pm

I agree with ungrateful B’s comment. Just do your job whether you are thanked or not. Because if you dont there will be another admin out there who will do it without complaining.

This is our job. If you get thanked Wonderful, if you dont it shouldnt matter. Do you tell your boss that they are wonderful and you can’t make it without them? NO, so u want to receive compliments but cant give them.

Im tired of hearing ya’ll want to cancel this day because its offensive. How can acknowleding someone for all their work be offensive. Ya’ll complain entirely too much. The ones who get aknowledged love it and the sorry hags who dont complain.

Maybe your not doing your job as well as you think you are.

Get a life. If you dont love your job and cant do it regardless of the acknowledgement then your in the wrong business.

Admins are special thats why they acknowledge us for a whole week and no other profession, so if you dont feel special maybe your not going above and beyond your call of duty to be acknowledged. You ever thought of that? That gives you something to think about.

Greta

April 24th, 2009
3:12 pm

Actually, my boss told me that he didn’t acknowledge it because I was more than just an admin. So does that mean that he over values me or under values the position. That was my point- there is a tone to Admin. Day that causes some people feel like they are insulting someone for acknoledging them. Do we work harder than other positions and deserve a holiday? Or do they have it to make up for treating some admins like crap all the other days of the year?

Scrooge

April 24th, 2009
3:19 pm

I sent the following message to all my girls here at work:

Happy Administrative Professionals Day.
Please take a moment to contemplate my thoughtfulness and then get you butt back to work.

Becky

April 24th, 2009
4:20 pm

I think that we all enjoy being told thank you and that you are appreciated regardless if it’s at work or home..No one has ever died from being nice to others..

shashi

April 28th, 2009
7:51 am

For Admin Prof Day last year my super gave me a card and took me out to my favorite venue. I felt great. Keeping up the good work.

Then the Nepotism started. It went downhill from there.

I watched a Day Care provider turn into a Administrative Officer in 8 months of being here. WOW!

She was really smelling herself now. Being rude and nasty. I complained. Should never have done that.”How dare I demand respect”. Downhill from there.

At this point we were not fully staffed, leaving me to cover 4 branches and 6 when the other MA was on leave. When I say cover, I mean…Travel,Travel Vouchers,Timesheets,Credit Card Purchases,Training and more!

Admin Prof Day came, and I just knew I was going to be recognized being as though I had busted my butt all this time. Oboy was I wrong!

I watched everyone around get taken out to lunch and more. I sat at my desk doing other branch tasks, and not one person said a word to me.

At the end of the week(Admin Day) my super comes to me acting like she forgot about the special day and hands me a pack of old a$$ sample craft cards she made when I fist got here two years ago(I think she forgot I saw them already)they were hideous. Then she says, “I would take you somewhere but I dont know what you eat”.WTF, are you serious! You took me to my favorite venue last year you fat..<>. Anyhoo,I was/am pissed.

shashi

April 28th, 2009
8:08 am

Im not trying to be rude or anything to the folks telling others to get over it are more than likely the folks that got a simple “Thank You”. However, There is a such thing as respect in the workplace as it is at home This builds morale at home and work.

You expect your husband to show you how much he appreciates you every once in a while right? What happens when you don’t award your child for good behavior, they tend not to do good in the future, especially when your constantly awarding the bad behavior. Although we are not children, everyone knows that we tend to act that way when we feel as though we are not appreciated. Everyone needs love and appreciation, regardless of your age. It keeps you strong.

Teaches people not to be ignorant towards good deeds. Regardless if it’s your job or not(we all need some sort of reassurance, in the workplace and home).

We all know what results in not being appreciated EX:

Horrible customer service(you ever called a business and end up with a rude lady on the phone?) where do you think that results from. NOT BEING APPRECIATED FOR HER GOOD WORK AT SOME TIME.
Psychos: Where do you think the term “Going Postal” comes from.

That being said, I know who I am, and what I am capable of…but i will not be disrepected in no way!

Savvy

April 28th, 2009
9:23 am

Hey Scrooge,

On your smug comment that ends with ‘…get you butt back to work…’ it would be one your Admins that would correct your spelling.

CobbBlogger

April 28th, 2009
2:23 pm

Well, my manager and the entire staff purchased the administrative staff gifts. And it was very thoughtful of them. With all the work we do, hell we basically run the office. So I was very appreciative of my gift, it was worth it and I wasn’t expecting it, hell they even sanged to us!

LG

May 2nd, 2010
2:02 pm

I gave all my girls a gift card to Starbucks. I am their supervisor and although it wasn’t much, I wanted them to know they were appreciated. One of them doesn’t like me as her supervisor and told my manager I was being rude to her. I reminded her about the gift I gave her because I do appreciate her, and she said “I haven’t used it and I don’t even want it”. So how do you deal with that other than I won’t be giving that employee anymore gifts if they don’t want them, right?